Pregnant after a Loss

Bad PGAL brain day

Sorry for the rant but I really do not fell like I can share these feelings anywhere else.
I MCed at 11 weeks back in December, well my edd was this past week. I am so happy for my current pregnancy but as you all know that does not erase the pain from the previous loss.
To make things more painful my sil was due 10 days behind us and just had their baby yesterday. I am so happy for them and for the new addition to the family but I am also heart broken. I want my baby so bad. I see their happy pictures and cannot help but see exactly what we lost. 
Anyway, I had to get that out somewhere and I know you ladies would understand. Thanks for reading. 

  
"Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil." -Gandalf 
m/c #1 01/10/12
BFP #2 01/18/13. EDD 09/10/13. Missed m/c 02/18/13. 
BFP #3 5/1/13 My rainbow DS born 1/13/14
BFP #4 11/11/15 spontaneous m/c 12/28/15
BFP#5  Praying for another rainbow in February!

 

Re: Bad PGAL brain day

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  • I absolutely understand! I have a friend who was 2 weeks behind my last pregnancy and she is due in the next few weeks...it doesn't seem fair and you will always remember the child you lost but remember, you're pregnant today!

    I'm sorry you just experienced your due date, my DH and I are getting out of town to be together on our lost due date (also anniversary week). Honor the child you lost, but don't rob this child of joy.

    *Hugs*
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  • Other people due when I was can be so hard for me. My sister was due 6 weeks before me and is having a baby right now. Our kids were supposed to be cousins, it was supposed to be a wonderful, joyous summer of babies. My BFF was due 4 days before me. I was relieved when I found out she was having a boy (I had a girl who died), it felt like at least it'd be that much less of a reminder. 

    Lots of love. Be gentle with yourself. 

    A

    2010: son born 9/1 

    2013: 2 miscarriages + d&cs, both at 10 weeks: April & July

    2014: son #2 born 6/29

    2016: Baby girl stillborn at 21w6d 4/29 and baby boy stillborn at 20w 3d 11/16

  • I know exactly how you feel, my sil had her baby girl 6 weeks after I lost my DD in 2014.  It's just hard all round, be patient with yourself and know that you will still find joy in this child's life even if he/she reminds you of your loss.  As @amwangel says above, be gentle with yourself - so true.
    DS born 06/20/2012
    DD born sleeping 12/17/2014
    Pregnant with EDD of 09/28/2016



  • I'm sorry for your loss andyou are struggling today - big hugs to you. 
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

  • Thank you all so much for your kind words! 

      
    "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil." -Gandalf 
    m/c #1 01/10/12
    BFP #2 01/18/13. EDD 09/10/13. Missed m/c 02/18/13. 
    BFP #3 5/1/13 My rainbow DS born 1/13/14
    BFP #4 11/11/15 spontaneous m/c 12/28/15
    BFP#5  Praying for another rainbow in February!

     
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