FFFC

mandyjulie

Confessions anyone?

mamafox14

I confess, I only agreed to let my inlaws come over with dinner tonight because I'm hoping they bring wine. 

mandyjulie

Man it's dead in here. Ok here's one. I can't wait for baby's next nap so I can make brownies...and eat brownie batter.

Still eating like I am pregnant, apparently.

setosh

My mom just called to let me know that something is wrong with my nana but she doesn't know what. Apparently she tried to call her on Wednesday and Thursday with no answer so she tried to contact her brother. He wouldn't tell her anything so now we're in the dark. They all live 800+ miles away outside of Boston. It's not like we can just drive over to their house and see what's happening for ourselves. So frustrating. Now my mom is waiting for my nana to call her to see what's wrong. 

PootsDragon

Mine is that I let the baby sleep on my chest last night from 3am-7am while I slept and he's been napping on me for about 2 hours now. He sleeps better on me and he's growing too fast! I don't care what anyone says- if he can or can't be spoiled- I love him too much and want every moment of him being so small!

brandiK

@PootsDragon I was against the co-sleeping in general but guess who sleeps on my chest/in our bed for a few hours each night? From what I've read, you can't spoil a newborn baby by holding them too much. I'm sure it causes issues down the road, but at this stage, I don't see the harm! I'm like you, I'm soaking up all of the cuddles. Plus, she sleeps so much better on me than fighting it in the rock and play. 

My confession is that my shower was 2 months ago and LO is now 3 weeks old, and I just finished my thank you's yesterday and am finally mailing them out today. If I hadn't had so many already filled out, I would've just said eff it and threw them in the trash lol. 

DarkCat

brandiK said:

@PootsDragon I was against the co-sleeping in general but guess who sleeps on my chest/in our bed for a few hours each night? From what I've read, you can't spoil a newborn baby by holding them too much. I'm sure it causes issues down the road, but at this stage, I don't see the harm! I'm like you, I'm soaking up all of the cuddles. Plus, she sleeps so much better on me than fighting it in the rock and play. 

My confession is that my shower was 2 months ago and LO is now 3 weeks old, and I just finished my thank you's yesterday and am finally mailing them out today. If I hadn't had so many already filled out, I would've just said eff it and threw them in the trash lol. 

Lol my baby shower was in May and I just mailed out my thank you cards. Better late than never! 

nikkimarie159

Omg Im so glad I'm not the only one who has been slacking with the thank you cards! They've been finished for weeks... just need mailed out. I'm being induced tomorrow, so what's a few more weeks? 

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I haven't left the apartment in 2 days. I also haven't put a shirt on in 2 days. I don't know which one is cause and which one is effect.

arhodes6

My H is so strict about not letting Q sleep on us because he doesn't want him to get spoiled.  If I'm holding him and he starts to fall asleep on me, my H whisks him away and puts him in his crib/PnP. Buuuuutttt H went back to work on Wednesday and I have been soaking up the baby snuggles. Between the hours of 7 and 4 I only put Q down when I have to pee

mandyjulie

I am of the opinion that before 4 months you can "spoil" them all you want.

At or after 4 months you can sleep train in some fashion, which can be as simple as trying to put them down awake and not picking them up immediately when they start to cry, or more structured sleep training if you wish.

They are too young to grasp sleep training concepts before then, so just enjoy all the snuggles and better sleep for both of you! No shame at all.

whataboutscience

This baby's not here yet, but my confession is I hate having a baby sleep on me. Maybe because DD had colic, but I felt like a slave to her and if she did fall asleep, I was terrified to move and was usually dying to pee or had limbs falling asleep. She basically never slept more than 15-20 minutes during the day until 6 months old and I still put her down almost every single time I was home alone with her for my sanity.

AAAG13

My confession: idk how my life existed without this baby. I have been waiting to be a mom for so long and DH has been waiting to be a dad too. I know it's going to be hard and difficult especially when I'm home alone but I'm so ready for all of it. Also I can't wait to drink wine.

mamafox14

@PootsDragon M sleeps with us every night! I love snuggling him and we all sleep so well. I don't think you can spoil a baby by loving and snuggling them too much. And if you can, well too bad! 

KASG

Ooh I still haven't sent out thank you cards from our wedding (last 4th of July) aaaaaannnnnddd I don't even have anything ready for the baby shower thank yous... whoops.

samantha1206

My mom hasn't called and inquired about me at all since Finding out I had Lukas. The last time I spoke to her was the day after I had him and we were still in the hospital. I had to call her like 8 times to get her. My fffc: Part of it bothers me that she hasn't called but mostly, I'm glad bc I don't want her to come over.  She shows favoritism between my kids, I never know if she's going to be Sober or not and she's a know it all. 

jennyleigh16

KASG said:

Ooh I still haven't sent out thank you cards from our wedding (last 4th of July) aaaaaannnnnddd I don't even have anything ready for the baby shower thank yous... whoops.

I still haven't sent some of them from my wedding in Sept and I had 2 baby showers and have only sent cards for one of them. I've pretty much given up on the wedding cards but the shower ones are sitting on my coffee table mocking me while I'm stuck under a newborn 23hours a day. I don't have high hopes of getting them out anytime soon. 

AshGee18

Baby Nathalie also sleeps on me ..  she fusses if she's put down anywhere else. I don't want to form a bad habit but I absolutely love snuggles with her! 

Heathereaddy

FFFC: I totally yelled at DH earlier this week for wanting to wake the baby up after he came home from work to snuggle her. It's sweet that he wants to and I get that he misses her during the day but after I get her to take a nap I be damned if he comes and wakes her up just to pass her back to me when she gets fussy and wants to eat. When she's up, she eats and is attached to my boob for the foreseeable future so l'm savoring these naps. 

thepen15ismighty

@PootsDragon
started at 6pm and still going. We're both chillin in our undergarments too.

thepen15ismighty

My fffc, i wish DH would show a little more get up and go with giving me a break at night. His son is easy to please, he wants to be held, fed, or rocked. You can't screw it up right now. I'm thinking he'll have it down by the time I'm cleared to work out again, mommy wants 2 hour gym time at night again. 

erin7264

DH and I are having a date night sans baby. Aside from the fact that we can't have sex yet, I am greatly looking forward to this! Give me all the booze! I even straightened my hair and put on heels (SO glad my feet are no longer swollen!). 

I am having a little anxiety about being away from her for a couple hours, I've only left her with DH to go to the grocery store a couple times, but she is in capable hands with my mom. 

DarkCat

FFFC: DH and I have had two "date nights" where we have left E with my mom for a few hours. She isn't even a month old yet. I wouldn't leave her with anyone else though.

Kellyj103

Sometimes I wish the novelty of having a newborn in the family wore off. I feel terrible for saying that but everyone's excitement overwhelms me. I just want to be alone with our baby! Every day family comes to see him. On one hand, I know I can limit guests and tell people no but on the other hand, I feel like it's unfair to my son and I should be glad he has so many people who love him. Im eternally thankful for the people who got the tdap shot, came over with food and gifts and visited with the baby. I know we are incredibly blessed but I'm also tired! And I'm so selfish and want the baby snuggles just for myself.

arhodes6

@Kellyj103 I am selfish and want all the baby snuggles too. So much so that I broke down crying telling my mom I was jealous that she was holding him and I wasn't! Now when she comes over she asks if it's ok to hold him instead of just grabbing him from wherever he is, and she continuously asks me if I'm doing ok. It's kind of awesome even though I felt like an idiot because now I can freely tell her I'm ready to have him back. And my H is sensitive about it with other visitors and makes sure I'm doing ok. He has told his mom to hand the baby back to me twice now when he can tell I'm getting jealous! 

thepen15ismighty

@Kellyj103 I stopped answering my phone and people kind of got the hint. So much so that my dad actually called my mom to ask if I got rid of my phone. 

winnie1122

@Kellyj103 I feel the same way, it's exhausting! But it won't last forever..right?

shaylalr

Yes to wanting all the baby snuggles! One of the things I always thought about before we had a child was that if my baby was crying, I would be the one who would get them and no one would take them away from me. Yesterday she was fussy because she was tired, and someone took her from me to put her to sleep. I wanted to cry so badly. I didn't know what to do. 

PinkLady2015

It's completely normal and reasonable as a mother to be the one who soothes their crying baby---call it hormones or survival instincts. Don't feel bad taking your baby back when this happens... People need to be respectful of mother/baby relationship especially as a newborn.