Jumping on the bump train. I call BS on anyone (FTM or otherwise) who isn't excited to have "something" going on there. If you've ever dreamed of having kids, you've dreamed of having a bump! The people I know IRL, "most" ooooo and ahhhh over bumps because regardless, bumps, blumps, whatever associate with teeny, squishy babies. It's exciting and it's ok to be excited.
MY FFFC I'm super excited for second tri because I will be having an odouls before summer is over!
No one said anything about not being excited of having a bump. Of course we're all excited. My point is, we're all going to get there so the frequent "do you have a bump yet? when will I show?" threads are annoying.
I wasn't referring to your comment, I agree with what you said. Although, without the continuous posts about the same things, I'm not sure what else would go on on this board.... There isn't a whole lot happening at this point. I look at it like any social media outlet, don't like the topic, just scroll on by!
Here's the thing, though. If the board gets cluttered with the same questions over and over, 1) we can miss threads where a user may really need support and 2) it starts to feel a little like Google and not a community.
Would you approach a person IRL and ask them the same questions over and over, after they had already given you answers/advice? No. It works the same way here.
Thats why I try to make GTKY posts, so we have other things to discuss. The board will get busier as we get further along.
These boards are all about opinions. If you are going to post something, be prepared for an opinion you may not agree with or like. Just because you are excited about your bloated stomach, doesn't mean someone else can't be realistic and point out that it's not an actual baby bump. FFS. If you want smoke blown up your crack then go somewhere else. Yes we are all pregnant. No, we are NOT all friends singing Kumbaya.
You should most definitely take your own advice on this one.
Have I ever stated anywhere that someone shouldn't post their opinion? No. Have I asked someone to blow smoke up my ass? No. So what advice should I be taking?
None. You're a peach!
Oh, we are name calling now? How mature of you. I asked you a simple question, no?
Not name calling at all. Trust me, if I wanted to call you a name, it wouldn't be a "peach". Lol! I'd rather not spend my day(S) hiding behind a Internet forum trying to be queen bee or argue, or be passive aggressive on posts.
You stated that everyone is entitled to having their opinion on a board such as this. However, you've made it blatantly obvious on NUMEROUS posts, that if that opinion doesn't align with yours, you will have something to say about it. So let's call a spade a spade here and all abide by the "rules" that are being setting forth.
I would much rather "blow smoke up someone's crack" then damn them for asking multiple questions on a board, but that's just my opinion.
@GlitterDragon before deodorants came out with the clinical strength antiperspirants, I wore men's as well. It just worked better because I tend to overheat easily and get sweaty. Nothing like having pit sweat show.
The clinical strengths do a much better job of keeping me smelling nice and not excessively sweating.
I don't see a problem with starting different threads for different questions that haven't been discussed recently, if at all (ex. @Jab3's posts). It allows you to only open the ones you have interest or insight for. I agree with you, @BumpasaurusRex, that one should search the board first so we don't have daily posts about when there will be a FB group, but for a couple of unique and discrete questions/topics? Make a couple of posts.
I love the smell of the cheap stuff... I always buy my husband speed stick ocean surf, and musk because they smell awesome to me, and it doesn't leave a white gross residue
@angeltennis3 yeah women's brands always left white marks and ruined all my shirts (even if I used the gel kind, what the hell). I switched over maybe 5 years ago and all my shirts are fine now.
My eyes are rolling out of my head. I'm not trying to be "a queen bee". I'm not in HS. I responded to a statement that "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything." I totally disagree. I love a good debate, and I think I am anything BUT passive aggressive. So yeah, I'm going to have an opinion and I'm going to state it. If you disagree, I will argue my point. Ive never said I didn't want anyone to disagree with me, but if you are going to then prepare for me to defend my opinion.
I just popped a lady-boner for @gingersnap... again.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
@MonaLisaRalphio I haven't been nervous at all about you. I feel like you give generally good advice and have been very helpful to me. Maybe scarry to others, but not me so far. Well... not until that post haha Honestly I just thought it might be rude, or asking for a flaming by putting specific examples... I had told 1 person directly they scare me though, no big deal, we all have different backgrounds, personalities, opinions, beliefs. I appreciate hearing other perspectives it expands my knowledge or lack of.
I wear men's deodorant too, @GlitterDragon. It usually works better for cheaper. Stupid pink tax.
And I sometimes pee in the shower. And I have drank straight from the carton on occasion. Basically, I need a frat to pledge.
Also, are we really arguing over the puffiness of our guts? Sigh.
If you wanna cradle your constipation-food babies, more power to you. Something is definitely brewing. I say let's save the pics and posts til second trimester. Which is (!!!) pretty much here for some lucky ducks.
Jumping on the bump train. I call BS on anyone (FTM or otherwise) who isn't excited to have "something" going on there. If you've ever dreamed of having kids, you've dreamed of having a bump! The people I know IRL, "most" ooooo and ahhhh over bumps because regardless, bumps, blumps, whatever associate with teeny, squishy babies. It's exciting and it's ok to be excited.
MY FFFC I'm super excited for second tri because I will be having an odouls before summer is over!
No one said anything about not being excited of having a bump. Of course we're all excited. My point is, we're all going to get there so the frequent "do you have a bump yet? when will I show?" threads are annoying.
I wasn't referring to your comment, I agree with what you said. Although, without the continuous posts about the same things, I'm not sure what else would go on on this board.... There isn't a whole lot happening at this point. I look at it like any social media outlet, don't like the topic, just scroll on by!
Here's the thing, though. If the board gets cluttered with the same questions over and over, 1) we can miss threads where a user may really need support and 2) it starts to feel a little like Google and not a community.
Would you approach a person IRL and ask them the same questions over and over, after they had already given you answers/advice? No. It works the same way here.
Thats why I try to make GTKY posts, so we have other things to discuss. The board will get busier as we get further along.
Agree. So strongly. I think the clutter thing has been slowly building and driving many of us more and more crazy and now it has come to head. I often take the scroll on by or gentle redirect approach but since it's a discussion now, count me in the pro-organization camp.
I've also really enjoyed getting to know people through the Randoms and daily discussion posts, but it seems like it's the same chunk of us that participate in those again and again. Which is fine, but doesn't mean there's not a lot going on. A lot of the repeat question people are new and then never really come back or try to get involved. If anyone is unsure what it is we're fighting against, log into a month board on any other platform. They're all completely unmanageable between the "Ramzi Me!" posts and 17 threads about feeling nauseous. A little bit of board culture is what makes this a good community.
@kswiger06 I think you're definitely right that you would be asking for drama if you made specific examples. You have a good attitude about different perspectives - that will take you far; not just here but in life in general.
I have been told on TB that I am scary, and I've been told PLENTY of times IRL that I'm scary. It's fine with me. I embrace it. I'm a New Yorker living in the south, so pretty much everyone here thinks I'm scary. One person's "scary" is another person's "forthright," yknow? It takes all kinds
So yes, the constant questions of "who's got a bump? I don't!" Can be irritating, but honestly I don't see why we can't do a HDBD from the get go as a solution to stop all the random ones. again, even if it's hump day bloat day for awhile. That eliminates the clutter but also gives those who are excited a venue for their joy even if it's a little premature. That being said, I find it ridiculous for people to go out of their way to post the "it's not a bump!" Why? Why take the effort? Why do you feel the need? If the parade is annoying for you, walk down a different street... You don't need to ruin it. I find that mean and unnecessary. You wouldn't go up to someone who was like "hey look I lost 10 pounds!" And say "oh it doesn't look like it!" Would you? That's equal in my mind. Okay, I'm done with this rant.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
@MonaLisaRalphio most definitely takes all kinds... it doesn't help that we are reading typed words, kinda hard to tell if someone is being sarcastic or asking an honest question. Makes it rough
So yes, the constant questions of "who's got a bump? I don't!" Can be irritating, but honestly I don't see why we can't do a HDBD from the get go as a solution to stop all the random ones. again, even if it's hump day bloat day for awhile. That eliminates the clutter but also gives those who are excited a venue for their joy even if it's a little premature. That being said, I find it ridiculous for people to go out of their way to post the "it's not a bump!" Why? Why take the effort? Why do you feel the need? If the parade is annoying for you, walk down a different street... You don't need to ruin it. I find that mean and unnecessary. You wouldn't go up to someone who was like "hey look I lost 10 pounds!" And say "oh it doesn't look like it!" Would you? That's equal in my mind. Okay, I'm done with this rant.
Do we really need a set thread to stop every single persons random whims? And honestly when someone's wrong I tell them their wrong. If someone came up to me and said "The Sky is such a nice shade of green today." I wouldn't walk away or say "sure is," I'd ask if they're colorblind.
@MrsDramaK the thing is, it's not a random thread to amuse people's whims. It's a pretty common thread that will eventually pop up. And when it does, when we have 2tm who are 16 weeks with bumps posting and the. A FTM with a 12 week blump, is someone going to say oh honey your cray? Again, it just seems hateful to not just give them their moment. And again, why go through the effort? Why is your happiness/lack of annoyance more important than their premature joy about something when you can avoid it with one click?
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
My eyes are rolling out of my head. I'm not trying to be "a queen bee". I'm not in HS. I responded to a statement that "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything." I totally disagree. I love a good debate, and I think I am anything BUT passive aggressive. So yeah, I'm going to have an opinion and I'm going to state it. If you disagree, I will argue my point. Ive never said I didn't want anyone to disagree with me, but if you are going to then prepare for me to defend my opinion.
I don't always agree with your opinions, but I respect the hell out of you for expressing them. I think it is very important in life to be able to develop an individual opinion and support it.
I just popped a lady-boner for @gingersnap... again.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
This scares me. We had a crazy make it all the way to our fb group. She constantly asked for details about people's kids but never shared any info. I didn't notice it until it got pointed out and she started blocking people that questioned her.
I just popped a lady-boner for @gingersnap... again.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
This scares me. We had a crazy make it all the way to our fb group. She constantly asked for details about people's kids but never shared any info. I didn't notice it until it got pointed out and she started blocking people that questioned her.
I don't think that's what either of them meant....
I just popped a lady-boner for @gingersnap... again.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
This scares me. We had a crazy make it all the way to our fb group. She constantly asked for details about people's kids but never shared any info. I didn't notice it until it got pointed out and she started blocking people that questioned her.
I don't think that's what either of them meant....
I'm still a newbie and haven't figured out what group or type are considered the "crazies" I was referring to the fact that I'm a sissy about getting flamed or having snark thrown at me. @MonaLisaRalphio thought I was referring to her but I wasn't.
@MrsDramaK the thing is, it's not a random thread to amuse people's whims. It's a pretty common thread that will eventually pop up. And when it does, when we have 2tm who are 16 weeks with bumps posting and the. A FTM with a 12 week blump, is someone going to say oh honey your cray? Again, it just seems hateful to not just give them their moment. And again, why go through the effort? Why is your happiness/lack of annoyance more important than their premature joy about something when you can avoid it with one click?
I think you answered it in your post, there is a time when it will come up and now isn't the time. I say we wait until at least early Feb due dates are in the second trimester. If you're a late Feb due date and want to show off your blump then well I guess that's up to the person.
Plus I really don't like the attitude of people who are saying they aren't bumps yet aren't excited to have something. No one said that, so it isn't an opinion it's just wrong. Also sorry I'm not excited that it clearly looks like I need to take a dump today congrats to you if that's what makes you happy. I am excited that I have a baby growing and that in a month or so I will start to have a bump...
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I'm excited to have a bump but I'll be pleased as punch if I don't show for awhile because that will let me better control who knows when - which is important regardless of life situation, but for me it feels important because I'm starting a new job soon.
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IDK- I see a thread on the board that doesn't interest me, I don't click it. I don't go in for the purpose of telling someone they are delusional (exaggeration intended).
Here's a confession: I didn't know whether to say sole or soul purpose. Pretty sure its sole...
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
IDK- I see a thread on the board that doesn't interest me, I don't click it. I don't go in for the purpose of telling someone they are delusional (exaggeration intended).
Here's a confession: I didn't know whether to say sole or soul purpose. Pretty sure its sole...
Sometimes I don't, but then when I see a ton of responses I go in and realize I've missed some gems. Plus, I'm nosy AF. Eta: I've always thought it was sole i.e. "My only purpose"
IDK- I see a thread on the board that doesn't interest me, I don't click it. I don't go in for the purpose of telling someone they are delusional (exaggeration intended).
Here's a confession: I didn't know whether to say sole or soul purpose. Pretty sure its sole...
Love your confession. Sometimes the brain farts win so I just rearrange my sentences to avoid the word I'm struggling with. (Example I wanted to put reword/Re-word instead of rearrarange but it didn't look right so I decided maybe it's not a real word at all)
I just popped a lady-boner for @gingersnap... again.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
This scares me. We had a crazy make it all the way to our fb group. She constantly asked for details about people's kids but never shared any info. I didn't notice it until it got pointed out and she started blocking people that questioned her.
I don't think that's what either of them meant....
That makes me feel better. I'm a little paranoid after my past bmb. That's why the fb post drive me nuts so early on
I just popped a lady-boner for @gingersnap... again.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
This scares me. We had a crazy make it all the way to our fb group. She constantly asked for details about people's kids but never shared any info. I didn't notice it until it got pointed out and she started blocking people that questioned her.
LOL. By "scary," I meant that I'm extremely straightforward and I'm pretty aggressive about expressing my opinion, that I won't be shut down by someone trying to talk over me, and I won't cower to being called a "bully." I didn't mean that I was a crazy stalker. Also, I seriously doubt that a stalker-type would admit it openly.
I work at a university and obviously I am aware that without the 60k students, or whatever number we are at for enrollment, I would not have a paycheck, but... Damn I hate when they come back to town! Just went to the Union for lunch and its flooded. All summer the lines have been so short. Now it has like 30 people in line at each restaurant. Boo.
Do you happen to be at uwm? Sorry that's where I'll be heading to school after baby and I just toured
IDK- I see a thread on the board that doesn't interest me, I don't click it. I don't go in for the purpose of telling someone they are delusional (exaggeration intended).
Here's a confession: I didn't know whether to say sole or soul purpose. Pretty sure its sole...
Sometimes I don't, but then when I see a ton of responses I go in and realize I've missed some gems. Plus, I'm nosy AF. Eta: I've always thought it was sole i.e. "My only purpose"
Re: FFFC 7/22
Would you approach a person IRL and ask them the same questions over and over, after they had already given you answers/advice? No. It works the same way here.
Thats why I try to make GTKY posts, so we have other things to discuss. The board will get busier as we get further along.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
You stated that everyone is entitled to having their opinion on a board such as this. However, you've made it blatantly obvious on NUMEROUS posts, that if that opinion doesn't align with yours, you will have something to say about it. So let's call a spade a spade here and all abide by the "rules" that are being setting forth.
I would much rather "blow smoke up someone's crack" then damn them for asking multiple questions on a board, but that's just my opinion.
My FFFC: I wear men's deodorant.
The clinical strengths do a much better job of keeping me smelling nice and not excessively sweating.
Also my FFFC is that I'm well aware that I'm one of the scaries that @kswiger06 was talking about, and I am not even a little bit sorry about it.
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
I'm not trying to be "a queen bee". I'm not in HS.
I responded to a statement that "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything." I totally disagree. I love a good debate, and I think I am anything BUT passive aggressive.
So yeah, I'm going to have an opinion and I'm going to state it. If you disagree, I will argue my point.
Ive never said I didn't want anyone to disagree with me, but if you are going to then prepare for me to defend my opinion.
If the shoes fits....
Honestly I just thought it might be rude, or asking for a flaming by putting specific examples... I had told 1 person directly they scare me though, no big deal, we all have different backgrounds, personalities, opinions, beliefs. I appreciate hearing other perspectives it expands my knowledge or lack of.
And I sometimes pee in the shower. And I have drank straight from the carton on occasion. Basically, I need a frat to pledge.
Also, are we really arguing over the puffiness of our guts? Sigh.
If you wanna cradle your constipation-food babies, more power to you. Something is definitely brewing. I say let's save the pics and posts til second trimester. Which is (!!!) pretty much here for some lucky ducks.
I've also really enjoyed getting to know people through the Randoms and daily discussion posts, but it seems like it's the same chunk of us that participate in those again and again. Which is fine, but doesn't mean there's not a lot going on. A lot of the repeat question people are new and then never really come back or try to get involved. If anyone is unsure what it is we're fighting against, log into a month board on any other platform. They're all completely unmanageable between the "Ramzi Me!" posts and 17 threads about feeling nauseous. A little bit of board culture is what makes this a good community.
I have been told on TB that I am scary, and I've been told PLENTY of times IRL that I'm scary. It's fine with me. I embrace it. I'm a New Yorker living in the south, so pretty much everyone here thinks I'm scary. One person's "scary" is another person's "forthright," yknow? It takes all kinds
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Plus I really don't like the attitude of people who are saying they aren't bumps yet aren't excited to have something. No one said that, so it isn't an opinion it's just wrong. Also sorry I'm not excited that it clearly looks like I need to take a dump today congrats to you if that's what makes you happy. I am excited that I have a baby growing and that in a month or so I will start to have a bump...
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
we should make a GTKY post.. "what's up your butt"
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
Here's a confession: I didn't know whether to say sole or soul purpose. Pretty sure its sole...
Plus, I'm nosy AF.
Eta: I've always thought it was sole i.e. "My only purpose"
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
It's "sole." Meaning "one." Same root as "solo."
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
@MonaLisaRalphio - thanks, the root helps. duh.