UO

rnyland1

what are your unpopular opinions today ladies??

rnyland1

ktomorrow

Haha fine I'll go. I am hoping, praying to join the overdue club. DH doesn't come home until 40+4. Ideally we'll get some cliche time to sit around drumming our fingers and wondering when LO will make an appearance. I tell my LO daily to hold steady and that 41 weeks would be lovely.

rnyland1

@ktomorrow how much longer do you have? Hoping your LO stays put.

KASG

@ktomorrow I was hoping so too, but these last few weeks have been so bad, I almost hopes she comes tomorrow!! Lol

I don't think I have a UO today so I'll resort to this: if cheerleading is a sport, so is marching band!

LDSJM123

I'm going to ask for a membrane sweep tomorrow (39+3) in hopes that it puts me into labor like it did with my daughter. Purely so that we can have the 10 days my husband gets off work just to ourselves before his mom comes to visit for a week and stays with us. She's arriving 10 days after my EDD. 

sboston06

I don't really have an unpopular opinion today either but apparently, I have an unpopular feeling. I actually feel great right now, physically. My last scheduled workday was last Friday because we all thought I'd go early, but I'm still here wasting vacation time waiting for baby to arrive. It would be easier if I was miserable and felt justified in being out of work. The only reason I'm happy to be out of work right now is that there have been a lot of abusive patients lately and many nurses and aides have gotten hurt on my floor. So I'm grateful to not have to worry about this so close to the end of my pregnancy.

setosh

My UO is that since my SO has been switched to 3rd shift I've been sleeping a lot better. I feel like this shouldn't be the case, but I'm lying beside him in bed right now and he's snoring SOOO loud. Sorry babe. 

sboston06

@LDSJM123 - I hope the membrane sweep is successful for you! My doc tried to do one on Tuesday but I was only a fingertip dilated (less than 1 cm) so she wasn't able to do anything  

LDSJM123

sboston06 said:

@LDSJM123 - I hope the membrane sweep is successful for you! My doc tried to do one on Tuesday but I was only a fingertip dilated (less than 1 cm) so she wasn't able to do anything  

I was 1.5 cm at my last appt so we'll see. I was 2 or 3 cm when they did it with my daughter and within 36 hours, she was born. I'm praying for the same result but mentally prepared for it not to happen. I have a feeling this nugget is comfy cozy in there. And like you, I genuinely feel good. So this is as invasive as I'm willing to go. 

ktomorrow

@rnyland1 Thanks! I'm 38+4. So far holding stable. @KASG ugh sorry I'm not suffering the bad symptoms some of our ladies have been dealing with so I'm lucky so far. @sboston06 @LDSJM123 y'all give me hope that I can hold out for 41 weeks  without feeling like a martyr to my pain. Glad to hear there is a potential for feeling good!

LF93

I don't know if this is a UO or more of a Sh!t just got real post. Last night BF and I were chatting about what the plan was the day we left the hospital (my hospital doesn't allow visitors) and who was going to come visit and such. He started naming all these people who I know of but not greatly coming to the house to meet the baby. It started to make me feel really uncomfortable and anxious knowing all these people would be coming to my home and holding my son. This applies to my family too. I don't know if it's the fact I've grown this baby for the last 9 months and have this special bond or what. Really the only person who I want to meet the baby now is BF, I suppose it's probably last minute anxiety but I want to be selfish and keep baby for just us. The thoughts of all these people coming to the house and fussing over baby is not something I want. Yes, I know both families are very excited and can't wait to meet baby too but I just feel like this is my son. I want to keep him to myself! I'm feeling very selfish- I better not say this out loud to anyone, they wouldn't be to happy.

babycakesday

@LF93 I am the same way. I don't want too many visitors the first few weeks, just close family, but my DH has already invited so many people to come to the hospital. My FIL even invited his sisters and such. I know I have to allow our parents and our sibilings, but I think everyone else can wait a few weeks until we have some routine going on. Plus I'm always scared someone will bring some sickness or germ into my baby's safe haven. I totally understand and I think you should have some boundaries (and I think that it is okay.) You'll be tired and the last thing you'll want to do is host. 

Jodi1980

@LF93 I don't think you are being selfish in the slightest. You want privacy for the first few days/weeks and that's something I wouldn't be afraid to voice to your BF. You need to get into your routine. Everyone will still be able to come see the baby but on your terms! Don't feel like you have to be obligated to answer the door! They can always come back!

LF93

@babycakesday Yeah I agree boundaries are going to have to be set. Close family already know not to stay past their welcome and I certainly won't be hosting anyone. They can all fend for themselves haha! The problem is the stragglers who have been known to just arrive without any warning and they tend to stay for houuuuurs wanting to be tended to the whole time. @jodi1980 I honestly think I'm just not going to answer the door if someone arrives without clearing it through us first! If I told people they had to wait a week or two to visit I'd probably be laughed at and they would turn up anyways. I'll try my best to put my foot down and if needs be BF can ask people to leave! 

austinjl

I highly recommend putting a sign on the door stating don't ring the doorbell, baby is sleeping.  Also not answering the door works.

ESchreinerWrites

My UO - I miss being pregnant. Which surprises me, because my pregnancy was SO stressful (at least 3 drs appointments a week and so forth) but as I go about my day I miss feeling the little guy in my tummy. Probably doesn't help that DH and I haven't really decided whether we are calling it done with two, so I don't even know if I'll experience that again.

TattoosandLace

LF93 said:

I don't know if this is a UO or more of a Sh!t just got real post. Last night BF and I were chatting about what the plan was the day we left the hospital (my hospital doesn't allow visitors) and who was going to come visit and such. He started naming all these people who I know of but not greatly coming to the house to meet the baby. It started to make me feel really uncomfortable and anxious knowing all these people would be coming to my home and holding my son. This applies to my family too. I don't know if it's the fact I've grown this baby for the last 9 months and have this special bond or what. Really the only person who I want to meet the baby now is BF, I suppose it's probably last minute anxiety but I want to be selfish and keep baby for just us. The thoughts of all these people coming to the house and fussing over baby is not something I want. Yes, I know both families are very excited and can't wait to meet baby too but I just feel like this is my son. I want to keep him to myself! I'm feeling very selfish- I better not say this out loud to anyone, they wouldn't be to happy.

Not selfish at all! I went really "momma bear" when this little one was born. My wishes got stepped on A LOT when our first was born and this time around I didn't want anyone messing with my "den". Having a child is a huge adjustment and for some reason babies make people throw normal respect for boundaries out the window. 
Put your foot down now about what you are/aren't comfortable with, or you'll get walked all over and won't be happy. Your feelings, your baby, and your SO are what's important right now...NOT everyone else and what they want. 

allthingscozy

I had the nurses take Lily to the nursery for a few hours every night we were there. Felt a little guilty but not anymore it was totally worth it and she was fine! 

simplymizzj

@Backbypopulardemand I do the same for both of my hospital stays - no guilt here! A coworker of mine suggested doing this - I thought it was one of the best advice ever - when are you ever going to get a chance to rest up and have someone else look after them while you are catching up on your much needed sleep, knowing that they are in good hands, once you are home?

Serpica

@ESchreinerWrites I feel the same way! Especially because I didn't get to experience the whole last month of pregnancy. Though I understand that if I had I'd probably be grateful that I delivered early hahaha! If anyone in the first trimester had told me I would one day miss being pregnant I would have laughed

afaddis89

This is a couple days late, but @LF93 I told my DH when we were pulling into the parking lot at our apartment that if anyone sees us and asks to hold LO I am not afraid to straight up tell them no. Honestly, other than myself, DH, my dad and the drs, no one will be snuggling my boy until he has at least the majority of his vaccines.