Monday Bitchfest

cait5413

Ok, so this isn't even a bitch that affects me personally, but it still made me mad. 

So, a girl I know from high school posted on Facebook yesterday she had her 3rd child--all boys. When she posted they were headed to the hospital, I saw several "Hope it's a girl this time!" sort of posts. When she posted it was a third boy, someone posted, "Congrats! One more try for a girl!" 

Now, I don't know if she's close with that person and told them she'd like to have a daughter but they are definitely not having more than 4 kids, or something like that, but I was so mad on her behalf! What is wrong with people, that they can't just congratulate her on having a healthy baby, but have to focus on the fact that there is something inferior about the baby because it's not a certain gender, so their family can't be "complete"?

I understand the impulse, because I'd love to have a son and a daughter some day, but if we are blessed with a second and we end up with 2 boys or 2 girls, I really don't want people expressing their disappointment to me on the day they are born! 

ginger819

My bitch is at people who think I just sit around all day. I'm so tired of my MIL assuming I'm not doing anything. If the house is clean when she comes over she assumes someone else has done it. I stained our deck and she assumed my mom did it. She calls and gets mad I don't drop everything and answer it. She told DH she doesn't understand what I'm doing that I can't answer. I'm a SAHM  with a 14 month old and babysit a 7 month old. I have almost 0 time to myself and when I do I'm busy trying to make it so DH can just come home and not worry about projects or cleaning. She also is always calling when I'm feeding one of the other or one is having a meltdown, so no, I'm not going to walk away from them so I can talk to her about coming over for dinner. 

Also a mini bitch at DH for saying things like I don't have a job or I don't have to worry about maternity leave. He doesn't mean it in a bad way, but it is starting to feel demeaning. I'm taking 3 weeks off of babysitting and then my mom is coming to help for two more weeks after that, but by week 6 it'll be just me and 3 kids under 2 and 2 of those will be under 1. I would consider that some kind of work. 

Snaps816

This is just my general bitch about not wanting to be at work! I am sleeping so poorly these days that the mornings are really rough. By the time I shower and get dressed I want to lie down again. And I think I must have been clenching or grinding my teeth last night during the times I was asleep, because I have jaw pain today (time to break out the mouth guard!). I am so over my job -- I just do not care any more! Business has been so slow I'm bringing home pretty pathetic paychecks. But my boss is one of those annoyingly perky people so I really feel like I have to put on a bubbly front when she's around. I am so sick of faking it. I have five more weeks, I just have to keep telling myself I can handle anything for five weeks. 

bearsandbeets7

@ginger819 my FIL always makes comments to my DH about me not having a job. DH always responds with "she does have a job and it's 24/7."

My bitch goes to DHs grandma. She is so annoying. When DH and I got married 2 years ago she came to the ceremony but she didn't stay for our reception because she didn't want what we were serving, you know because a wedding reception is all about the freaking food anyway. Then we had 2 baby showers for DD, one for both sides of the family. She was "sick" for both showers and didn't come. Then she was "sick" when DD was born so she didn't come to the hospital to meet her and didn't meet her until she was a month old at thanksgiving. DD was also her first great grandchild.

Now with this baby my sprinkle is this coming Sunday and guess who isn't coming?! DHs freaking grandma. My grandma passed away last year so it makes me even more angry that she just doesn't care or come to things because my grandma would love to be here for this stuff and she can't. And then to top everything off, she's always making comments about how she never sees us and we never come see her. Old bitty. I'm so pissed off about this today. 

allishally13

My bitch is I'm 36w2d pregnant with a baby that is full term size already, and both my boss and another coworker who is kind of like a second boss for me took this week off. Somehow today I am getting all of their work when I'm already trying to train someone before I'm out on leave and handle my own work. And of course, somehow everyone has a problem today they never reported before today, but is suddenly critical.

It's not even my job or in my field of knowledge to handle all of this, and my boss's boss is in today as well as the backup for the other guy that took PTO, yet no one else is stepping up to help. I'm about ready to say f@$# this and take some PTO myself this week, but I want to save my PTO for baby of course. I've been pushing myself for the past few weeks to help get things in order before I'm out, but no one seems to care how stressed out I've been.

They actually said two or three weeks ago that they might need me in the office MORE now than before, which I had to tell them I would try but I'm struggling with the stress. I was going to ask to start working from home full time next week, but I think I will be more telling them I need to be home than asking at this point   

Is it August yet?   

sbelle474

@allishally13 Here's praying you get some relief soon!

My gripe is not as bad as others, but for some reason, Target is not allowing me to change my registry... I can't add a few items that I need to add.  And I received a changing pad from my registry and oops!  Doesn't fit my crib changing space.  I have been searching for one around 27" by 16" with little luck.... Guess we will have to cut the other one, which is annoying!!!

Stephanie7693

@sbelle474.. have you tried going to the store and adding what you want there? I just added everything I put in my cart when I was closing out my registry at the store. That way I made sure I had the right size or whatever. And I added a few things. Also, have you looked on amazon for a changing pad? That's where I got ours and it was half of what target charged. It is a little snug for our changing table, but it works.

Car0liiine

My bitch is trivial. But I sat down to brush my hair and I can't even manage to part it it is so tangled. Definitely chopping it today or tomorrow!

TCUFrog08

@allishally13  I am sorry work is doing that to you. Hopefully they will realize all your hard work when you are gone. Take a few days of PTO if you need to.

 I had a similar situation and now that I am on bed rest, my manager texts me once a day about how stressed she is or how horrible the week has been. While I appreciate it when she says "no-one works hard like you do", there are 6-8 times the amount of her whining to me about it. 

This morning she texted me asking for some passwords and then proceeded to tell me she worked 6 hours yesterday, so that she wouldn't be so stressed today and could focus on getting HER job done.  

I guess this counts as my bitchfest for Monday!! 

Car0liiine

@allishally13 That's crap! One person can only do so much, so if I were you I would just do what I can without killing myself and if someone asks why something isn't getting done, I would just explain that it simply isn't practical for you to do the jobs of several people. There's a reason they hired more than one person to do all this, right? And that you are doing the best you can. I've found that in situations like this, employers will continue to try to squeeze out every last drop they can from you, they are going to wait for you to say when it's too much.  

charmedlifex3

@car0liiine I cut mine off a few weeks ago, I've been so much happier with it. Everyone says not to do that, but mine was as long as yours and I was going crazy.

tinkerbell11210

@Car0liiine I just cut 6 inches off of my hair last Saturday. It is way lighter and it feels a lot better. It is still long (just above the middle of my back) 

charmedlifex3

My bitch is to the doctors - they decided to change my due date, based on my dating ultrasound which they hadn't reviewed until now. It was done at another practice, so they just kinda accepted the due date I transferred in with on my records, but ... hmph. I am now due August 18th instead of 15th.

I get why they did it, we are waiting on a test to determine if we are inducing at 37 weeks, so they want to make sure I am actually 37 weeks, not 36 + 4, since that could be a big difference, but mentally after how hard this has been health wise.. boo to three more days. I know it had no real bearing on anything except a potential induction date (which hopefully won't need to happen) ...

All things considered, if that is what I am whining about, pretty good for a Monday  

Car0liiine

68 minutes. That is how long it just took to detangle my hair, with no bathroom breaks or anything. I had to change my grip on the brush because I started to get a blister and I'm not even exaggerating. Yeah. Over it.

emmeline714

well let's just say my day has already been so hectic and i am just ready to go home and curl up in a ball...... i been in minor aches today but manage to just stay at work then going home, and to top it off my DH annoyed me because he calls me to see if my dad already called to put a word for him as a recommendation for a job, but my dad is a minister plus he has his full time job and works 12 hour days and he forgets things also when he sleeps he enjoys his sleep while he can get some and won't answer the phone while he sleeps and he wanted me to call him and i refused to do it and he was like he was suppose to do it last week and still has not done it and he can at least leave a message because they just want to hear that he gives the recommendation, he just irritated me instead of asking how my day is doing and how i feel, I FEEL SO OVERWHELMED I JUST WISH IT WAS AUGUST already!!!!! PLUS ITS NASTY HUMID HOT OUTSIDE TO TOP MY CAKE OFF!!!!! 

t218

Hello everyone.  My complaint today is silly, but sometimes it's the principle of it.  While talking to a coworker in the kitchen/break area at work this morning, he opened the community fridge, grabbed a tub of butter out and used it on his toast.  What peeves me about it is that the container clearly has my name written across the top of it in giant capital letters.   Now i don't really care about the 2 cents of butter he used, but it really pisses me off that he would use something that is not his and not even ask (or say thanks)!!  Especially while i was standing right there in front of him having a conversation.  

sbelle474  I noticed that target changed their website.  It's not a easy to add stuff to your registry as it used to be.  Instead of clicking to add the item right near the "add to cart" button, you have to scroll down the page and under the "highlights"/item description, you will see "list/registry share".  Click on that add you will be able to add the item to your registry.  I hope this helps!  

kristynmac

Snaps816 said:

This is just my general bitch about not wanting to be at work! I am sleeping so poorly these days that the mornings are really rough. By the time I shower and get dressed I want to lie down again. And I think I must have been clenching or grinding my teeth last night during the times I was asleep, because I have jaw pain today (time to break out the mouth guard!). I am so over my job -- I just do not care any more! Business has been so slow I'm bringing home pretty pathetic paychecks. But my boss is one of those annoyingly perky people so I really feel like I have to put on a bubbly front when she's around. I am so sick of faking it. I have five more weeks, I just have to keep telling myself I can handle anything for five weeks. 

Did you grind your teeth before pregnancy? I never did and twice now I have woke myself up from doing it and my jaw hurts. I was kind of hoping to wait out the next 5 weeks and hope it stops once baby is here, but this pain is making me rethink it.

SkiChic626

msdidonato said:

@allishally13  I am sorry work is doing that to you. Hopefully they will realize all your hard work when you are gone. Take a few days of PTO if you need to.

 I had a similar situation and now that I am on bed rest, my manager texts me once a day about how stressed she is or how horrible the week has been. While I appreciate it when she says "no-one works hard like you do", there are 6-8 times the amount of her whining to me about it. 

This morning she texted me asking for some passwords and then proceeded to tell me she worked 6 hours yesterday, so that she wouldn't be so stressed today and could focus on getting HER job done.  

I guess this counts as my bitchfest for Monday!! 

Are you on disability because of your bedrest?  If so, no one at work should be contacting you at all.

squishy0511

@sbelle474 I have major issues with trying to login to my registry with target! it seems to only work when I use a regular desk computer and not my laptop.. And even then it's hit or miss!

cal031686

kristynmac said:

Snaps816 said:

This is just my general bitch about not wanting to be at work! I am sleeping so poorly these days that the mornings are really rough. By the time I shower and get dressed I want to lie down again. And I think I must have been clenching or grinding my teeth last night during the times I was asleep, because I have jaw pain today (time to break out the mouth guard!). I am so over my job -- I just do not care any more! Business has been so slow I'm bringing home pretty pathetic paychecks. But my boss is one of those annoyingly perky people so I really feel like I have to put on a bubbly front when she's around. I am so sick of faking it. I have five more weeks, I just have to keep telling myself I can handle anything for five weeks. 

Did you grind your teeth before pregnancy? I never did and twice now I have woke myself up from doing it and my jaw hurts. I was kind of hoping to wait out the next 5 weeks and hope it stops once baby

Even before baby I noticed I grind/ clench my teeth if I'm overly tired or not getting enough rest. For me,   a cheapy moldable mouth guard for a few nights helped to relieve the pain and train me not to clench.  

charmedlifex3

@t218 Isn't "Don't steal the pregnant lady's food" kinda up there in the rule book of how not to be a douche?

Curls919

My bitch is to my husband. He's working from home today due to a business meeting out of town tonight. After I dropped DS off at camp I went grocery shopping then got a mani/pedi. When I got back he had a whole long list of things he thinks I should do today/this week. Basically everything that's on my to do list already. I'm also on modified bedrest so I'm trying to balance being productive with resting. I do fine on my own every other day. But when he's home it's like he thinks I won't do anything if he doesn't tell me to do it. It's so annoying!

Snaps816

@kristynmac Yeah, unfortunately I've been an off and on teeth grinder/clencher for my whole adult life. Sometimes it happens kind of randomly, sometimes it's when I'm going through a stressful time. One time I gave myself a really painful case of TMJ (when the joint between your jawbone and your skull gets inflamed). I use a mouth guard when I need one, and I highly recommend the disposable mouth guards. They come in a box of 10 or so, and each is individually wrapped. You can open one and use it for a night or several and then toss it when you're done. Much better than the more expensive ones that you have to clean and store between uses. The first time using a mouth guard you're going to think it's really weird feeling or uncomfortable, but it's so worth it not to have that pain (and the damage to your teeth). Also these disposable kinds are the least bulky that I've found, and therefore the least noticeable when you have one in. 

https://www.amazon.com/Plackers-Mouth-Guard-Grind-Night/dp/B00PFZEMN6/ref=pd_sim_194_2?ie=UTF8&dpID=51xqwpEdV-L&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR120,160_&refRID=VCA4JJCW1YMN6Y1CB5H1

MamaKSquared

Mine isn't serious, but I'll bitch about it anyway. My current obsession is roasted red pepper hummus. I eat it almost daily. Well, I've been really looking forward to trying the Chobani meze dips, but I haven't been able to find them. Well, I finally found them. I grabbed all 3 flavors and I was REALLY looking forward to Roasted Red Pepper. I tried that one today and I'm very disappointed. It definitely doesn't taste nearly as good as roasted red pepper hummus. It actually kind of tastes like salsa, so I'm curious to see what the salsa flavor tastes like. I can see using it as a topping on tacos or something, but I won't be using this to dip my veggies in.

Also - work. I'm just so over it. I had such a productive day on Friday. I got to a great stopping point, I just needed other people to pick up where I left off and do their part so I could come in Monday with a clean start. Nope. That's too much to ask. So I've spent half of today contacting people to remind them to do their freaking jobs so I can do mine. Such fun. 

Curls919

Well, now I'm the bitch. As DH was leaving for his meeting he came over, gave me a kiss and thanked me for everything I do. 

bearsandbeets7

My first world bitch is every time it rains harder than a drizzle our cable stops working. We just switched a few months ago to direct tv and this is the only issue we've had. 

TCUFrog08

@SkiChic626. Nope. Not disability technically. Just bedrest using PTO right now. 

gingersnap-mama

My bitch today is my sister who is a year older than me had her 2nd baby yesterday. That's not the bitchfest part obviously, but what is is that I'm due in 4 weeks and asked her last week if I could come see her and my niece in like a weeks once they're home and settled. I want to see my cute little niece before I have my little girl! She said she felt like they had visitors too soon with my nephew and that they aren't planning on having visitors for a few weeks. I'm just so annoyed. I have helped to take care of her son so much over the last 2 years. Watching him in a hotel at 6 weeks old so they could go to a wedding all weekend to have me close. Watching him while they went on their honeymoon. Etc .. I've accepted the fact that she will never be able to help me with my LO like I've helped her, I just feel like the least she could do is let me stop by for an hour before I join the motherhood club. She says her and her husband need to "bond" as a family of 4. Ugh so annoyed..... end rant. I guess I just need to let it go. I'm thankful my niece is healthy and that's really all that matters. 

SkiChic626

My bitch....I got a pre vacation pedi today.  I always put my own top coat on when I get home, it's shinier and lasts longer, but of course as I did it today I managed to mess up my big toe on the foot I have a harder time reaching.  I had to redo that toe from scratch otherwise it was going to bother me, but now I can't help but feel like I need a whole new pedicure. Am I crazy?? Lol

SkiChic626

jkershaw2013 said:

My bitch today is my sister who is a year older than me had her 2nd baby yesterday. That's not the bitchfest part obviously, but what is is that I'm due in 4 weeks and asked her last week if I could come see her and my niece in like a weeks once they're home and settled. I want to see my cute little niece before I have my little girl! She said she felt like they had visitors too soon with my nephew and that they aren't planning on having visitors for a few weeks. I'm just so annoyed. I have helped to take care of her son so much over the last 2 years. Watching him in a hotel at 6 weeks old so they could go to a wedding all weekend to have me close. Watching him while they went on their honeymoon. Etc .. I've accepted the fact that she will never be able to help me with my LO like I've helped her, I just feel like the least she could do is let me stop by for an hour before I join the motherhood club. She says her and her husband need to "bond" as a family of 4. Ugh so annoyed..... end rant. I guess I just need to let it go. I'm thankful my niece is healthy and that's really all that matters. 

I'd be annoyed.  It's not like you're a random friend who just wants to hold the baby, you're immediate family.  

jamiesc58

Today sucks all around and I want to go to bed. Dh hurt his back yesterday. He thought maybe he just pulled a muscle. I applied a pain patch and he took pain meds and laid on a heating pad. We did everything we could think of before going to bed last night. We wake up and he can barely walk. I get up, get all the kids up and get them ready, and take him to the ER. On the way (luckily) we stopped and got pig in the blankets and drinks for breakfast just in case. Thank God because we were there for almost 5 hours (with 3 kids). Our 1 year old was over it before the end of the first hour. It is so hard to run and chase her around being this pregnant. The older kids tried to help but then dd would just scream and fight with them. So, I had a pig for breakfast, a crazy long hospital stay, and didn't get to eat again until 4:45pm because it was so busy when I came into work. I am over it and I still have 45 more minutes at work. The up side? A co-worker had brought in homemade chicken and dumplings today and saved some for me! 

Mfuller76

The Express Lane at the grocery store with is not the appropriate place to try to return your light bulbs. Screw you, dude in front of me. I'm pregnant and hungry and you are keeping me from dinner.

Bookhousegirl

@SkiChic626 This always happens to me! At the salon I go to, they'll do a polish change for $10. They don't do any of the normal pedicure stuff, just remove and redo the polish. I've done it a couple times when I chip/smudge my pedicure/manicure, and it's totally worth it!

lotsofsunshine

My bitch is that my narcissistic mother showed up to my sons game today. She has spent the past 2 weeks bouncing between giving us the silent treatment and sending me hateful emails (which I ignore). While I'm glad she was there to "show her support", I was really hoping to have a drama free hour watching my son do what he loves. No such luck. As we were walking to the parking lot, she made sure to tell the kids that she'd be around more if I'd let her. After walking on eggshells my entire life, I have finally stopped taking her crap. Now I'm the bad guy.  Ugh!

Car0liiine

Bye, Felicia!

Stephanie7693

I just realized today I've gotten less back rubs out of my dh this pregnancy than ever! My back has held up pretty good this time, so I don't ask often. But when I do, he either completely ignores me or does a really shitty job for a few minutes. I'm carrying a human in my body all day every day and going about life as usual, and he can't suck it up for 10 minutes once in a while and just rub me. Ugh super annoying

Car0liiine

For those of you with jaw pain/clenching/grinding, don't ignore it! DH had a click in his jaw when he opened his mouth wide but didn't think anything of it. One morning he woke up, yawned, jaw clicked, and then he was in awful pain and couldn't open his mouth more than a centimeter or two. He went to his dentist and to an oral surgeon but even with their suggestions, including being on a liquid diet for weeks,  it was months before he could open his mouth all the way again!
 It did eventually just get better but the past couple weeks he's been complaining of it hurting again and I just know it's gonna get stuck. I've never heard him grind but we think he must be clenching his teeth so I just ordered those mouth guards

Katienu

My bitch is that I got back from vacation and I am so overwhelmed with work and trying to get things wrapped up before my leave.  I am also sick of people that cannot run meetings and prepare for projects and end up wasting my time.   Now it feels like I never even HAD a vacation.  Ahhhhh!!!!!!

Nikkoli98

@katienu, I feel your pain! Hang in there.

Katienu

Nikkoli98 said:

@katienu, I feel your pain! Hang in there.

@nikkoli98 Thank you so much!

sbelle474

Vacation, what's that LOL   I too feel your pain with trying to wrap up loose ends and get frustrated at people piling more stuff on top of me.  Here's hoping your stress levels start decreasing!!