Long before we got pregnant, my husband and I discussed having children. I wanted a home birth, and he said absolutely not. He wanted it at a hospital in case something went wrong. I suggested a birthing center with easy access to a hospital. Nope, he wanted a hospital. Period, end of discussion.
So we got pregnant. Finally. After three years of TTC. I'm having a completely normal, low-risk pregnancy (although I am AMA). I talked my husband into Bradley classes because if I was going to have a hospital birth, I was going to do as much as I could to remain intervention-free. He was skeptical at first, but he has come around. We're 10 weeks into 12 weeks of classes, and he's done a complete 180. He now wants to hire a midwife and is considering a home birth or birthing center.
Is 28 weeks too late to switch? I switched from GYN to OB at 12 weeks, then from one OB to another at 24 weeks because my OB decided to change to GYN exclusively. I feel like I've switched so much I don't know who to really trust... and while I think we'll get more of what we want at home or at a birthing center with a MW, I'm now scared that maybe we should be at a hospital. We have a firehouse with an EMS unit about 3 minutes away, and the largest maternity hospital about 15 minutes away driving under normal circumstances (so maybe 10 minutes in an emergency).
I just don't know what to do now that I'm being offered what I initially wanted. Maybe after thinking this whole pregnancy that it would be a hospital, I'm having a hard time changing my frame of reference. I also know that a lot of birthing centers have gone out of business in our area, and while I'm sure I could talk to my Bradley instructor for a referral, I wonder if I'll find someone/somewhere I like in the next 12 weeks. My husband and I are totally NOT your typical Bradley couple. We both work in healthcare, and I'm worried we won't find someone we really click with.
Thoughts for a worried mama?
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d