Desperate

kp90

I don't know where else to vent or seek advice so I'm reaching out to you ladies... As I've mentioned before I had a very hard time finding a day care I felt comfortable with and chose the one that was very expensive but worth it because Mila is my only child and she comes first and means the world to me. You other moms can relate to how I feel. With that being said I go back to work on July 18th. Next week I was planning to take Mila to her day care for a few hours a few days that week just so we can adjust before the full days begin... When I called the day care the lady on the phone explained what I needed to bring and do, etc etc. then all of a sudden she was mumbling something about already having the max number of infants... I said excuse me? You have already charged me over 200.00 to hold her place and now you don't have room? She told me to call back Monday when the director would be in bc she may "be over looking something" ... I have been crying hysterically and having a breakdown because I can't believe this is happening. I was not comfortable with any other day care around... I have no family here... And I do not feel comfortable with a stranger watching her. I feel helpless and I can't even describe all the feelings I'm having. I'm so afraid to bring this up with my SO because I feel it's going to become an argument.. I have no idea what to do. 

1mae2016

I'm going through something similar with my LO, except I haven't put any money into the care center yet, but I can tell you that although it is upsetting for things to not go as planned it will work out. Even if you have to change centers just remember that none of them would still be open if they were not safe and up to state standards. If you really are that uncomfortable with switching centers maybe it would be more practical for you to find a nanny and continuously check in with the center until they have an opening? 

KyleeWaller

I would call the daycare back, and ask to speak with the owner or manager. The amount of full and part-time attendees can shuffle availability around a bit, and perhaps who you spoke with on the phone is not aware of that. Get a second, more official opinion before you start thinking about switching daycares.

If you do discover the spot is full, that sounds like a mistake on their part and I would definitely ask for my 200.00 back, given that it was contingent on saving a spot!

LadySamLady

Try not to assume the worst and focus on staying positive and having faith until you know for sure. 

mmemartinez

My daycare can move kids up if they are close to different rooms. It could be that they are moving someone to the toddler room soon or something similar, and either the person you spoke with doesn't know or they are making the change when you start. DS1 is going to be in the pre-k room again this year because they bumped him and a couple older kids up to make room for younger ones in the 3s room. 

Bellodomani

This happened to me when I went back to work with my son. I was put onto a wait list at a center where I'd been assured there was a space, and it was the only one we could afford in the area. I ended up putting him in a much less expensive in-home daycare, thinking it would be for 3-4 months until a space opened at the center. I ended up really loving the individual care and consistency of caregivers that my son got from the in-home place and kept him there for 2 years. It definitely was not what I thought I wanted initially but it turned out to be a great situation for him. Maybe you can go with a place that you are less excited about for a month or two, see if a space opens up at the center or if the other options are as bad as you thought they'd be? Or like PP said, maybe get a nanny to fill the gap until a space opens in the center?