IVF - BFP when will you tell family?

kfras

Our beta is tomorrow but HPT gave me a BFP today so I told DH. When is everyone planning to tell their family/friends? I know a lot expecting couples wait until they are past the first trimester to announce. If positive, we will definitely wait until 3 months to make any official announcement. But what about close family and friends? Our parents know about our struggle with infertility and journey with ivf. DH had a testicular biopsy the day before my ER and his parents were both at the hospital that day and then my mom drove me to ER because DH was not allowed to drive. So yes, they know that we are smack in the middle of ivf and that it is 2ww right now. We want to tell them first before any other family. I have one sister and DH has two sisters. I don't want to tell everyone and have everyone get excited since I am terrified something could go wrong. Are you planning to wait a while or will you tell right away?? We will probably wait a few weeks to tell our closest friends. 

tripledaggerWed95976

We told only the people that knew we were doing IVF (because of course after we did our cycle people wanted to know if we got pregnant or not) but everyone else we waited until 12 weeks

msirni0

We are telling immediate family this weekend (I'm 5 weeks today). I am going to a bachelorette party in Florida in a few weeks so I will be telling the bride (she is one of my best friends). We were pretty open with family and friends about our journey so a lot of people are asking. We will probably tell close friends around 8 weeks but won't be making any Facebook announcements till September.

milanjayla

With our ectopic i told lots of people and with our fresh cycle I only told a few people and hated having to tell people it didn't work. Only three people know this time and I'll tell them. Everyone else  hoping I can hold off until after first trimester.

UnicornsPlease

It's a tough one, isn't it? I've operated under the "Who would I want to console me if something went wrong?" rule... Last time, when it ended up being a chemical/suspected ectopic, my immediate family knew, but we had never told my husband's parents. This time around, I've told my husband and one of my sisters about the hpt BFP, but won't be telling my mom, dad, and other sister until after some good beta numbers. I'm leaving to my husband when to tell his parents, and I suspect he'll wait to hear a heartbeat. 

Everyone else? 12 weeks, god willing. 

AandDM2014

I personally choose to blog about our infertility trek in real time, so everyone knows everything either the day or day after something happens. It does make it a bit harder when you have to deliver bad news, but would you rather be alone in your sadness, or have people to console you? I don't do hpts, but this last time as soon as I got the call I called DH to let him know. Then I called my mom, then DHs mom. Then I called our siblings. Everyone else found out when I wrote a blog post about it later that day. I don't regret telling anyone, because a LOT of people experience miscarriage, and no one really talks about it.

ale9687

I will be doing my first IVF in a couple weeks. I told my parents and sisters that my er/et will be mid to late August. if I get a bfp (fx) I'll wait until we see/hear a heart beat to tell my parents and sisters. Hopefully they won't be expecting an update till Sept since they think everything is pushed out a month. Dh's family is in the dark and we won't tell them until close to 12 weeks. We don't see them every day like we do my family so it'll be easy to keep it from them. The only person besides Dh who knows how close we are to er is my sisters friend and that's only because she's gone through ivf successfully with my Re so I have been asking her questions every step of the way. She waited till 20 weeks to tell anyone so I know she won't be asking me for any updates. 

LynnNJ

We told our parents and my brother the day after we got the official positive results. We let them know that we were not telling others for a while. I happened to let 3 close friends know shortly afterwards since they knew I had the transfer.  My dh doesn't even officially know I told 2 of them. I also let my personal trainer know since I had to wait a few weeks before continuing.  I also wanted to make sure she found appropriate exercises for me.

Once I start the 2 trimester (at 10 w 5 d now), we slowly tell the rest of the family and friends. We will likely wait a while until we do a FB announcement.

dragonfaerie

My two friends that I consider sisters were told the day after we found out (May 26th.) I think we told my parents and DH's mom that weekend, and then waited until Father's Day to tell DH's dad. I was about 6 weeks along when all the main family members knew. I gradually started letting other friends know around 9 weeks. We'll do a FB announcement in another week or so. We were so open about our journey with everyone that it was going to be impossible to get through the first trimester before telling people