working outside the home

rainbowminion

Hi guys,

If you go to work outside the home, how are you doing? 

I started James at daycare half days at 8 weeks and full time at 12. He's almost 5 months old and he seems to be doing fine with daycare but I'm not. I have the type of job where I really need not to just go through the motions but that's exactly what I feel like I'm doing most of the time. I spend at least some time almost every day annoyed and resentful that I'm at work instead of with my baby. I feel like it's getting worse rather than better with time. If I could quit and be a stay at home Mom at this point I would. But we depend on my salary. I used to consider this career a calling but now I'm only here because we have to pay the bills. Is this just normal new Mom stuff that most people go through before they adjust? Is anyone else dealing with this?

VitaLuna

I think it's normal, and yes, very difficult. I still love my job, but I just stopped caring about work stuff as much after my first DD was born. I still did my job, it just wasn't as important, you know? I really thought it would get easier, and it did after about 6 months back at work, but it never got completely better. With DD2, I've gone back to work part time. Even dropping that one day a week makes a huge difference! 

Kimbarbour08

I'm right there with you! I work full time and LO has had to do daycare 3 days a week since the beginning of May (Nana and DH watch him the other two days). It is sooooo hard being at work now! And I really enjoy my job, but I know I'd way rather be a SAHM if we could afford it. But seeing as we barely make ends meet as it is, that isn't happening any time soon. Also, I'm getting super jealous of the day DH gets to watch him, especially because DH is starting to get bored with it.

middy411

I thought there was no chance that I could be a SAHM as I was wondering how I would even make the portion of maternity leave with no pay work. But then when DD came, both DH and I started getting desperate and thinking outside the box. I approached a previous employer who owns a small business and asked if I could help her out with my favorite part of what I do (drawings/floor plans) from home. Everything truly came together as an answered prayer and now I will be working from home about 15 hours a week and making more money than if I returned to my corporate position. I felt like I was reaching for the stars but so glad I went out on a limb and asked for that flexible arrangement. Now I'm essentially my own boss and can take or leave projects as I need them. I know not everybody's career has avenues that allow for that kind of flexibility, but I encourage anyone who desperately wants to be home with their child to at least look into any options you may have available. It was so worth it for me even when I thought it was impossible.

mrsc12414

I feel this way too. I work nights . It's hard . My days off my exhausted and I feel like I can't enjoy them with my dd. I wish we could afford for me to stay home . I used to love my job now I hate everything about it 

sarahunderthesea

I am in the same boat. I changed jobs in the middle of my pregnancy for one I was very excited about. Now I am wishing I could be a SAHM ang looking for a job that excites me again. I have also have had some issues with my employer not respecting my new role as a mommy so I've blamed a lot of my lack of interest in my job on that too.

jarob747

I've been back now 6 weeks just 2 days a week. It's awful. I also used to like my job and coworkers and now I HATE my job and have little sympathy for even my patients. I have to pray about this every day on my way to work. I miss my DS SO much, it's not any easier. It's so hard, I miss him so much, my heart literally aches. I stress over not being with him, stress over milk production etc etc.   I'm still waiting for it to get easier. I wish I was I independently wealthy. Playing the Powerball and mega millions lotto... someone's gotta win it eventually lol 

beharrington

I'm with you.  DS is 21 weeks and I've been back at work since he was 6 weeks.  DH is a stay-at-home dad and I am so jealous (even while I appreciate what he does for our little guy).  I enjoy my job but there are days when I absolutely resent being here.  This was our plan all along though so I can't complain too much.  Luckily, my hours are 6am - 2pm so I'm home by 3 and get to actually spend time with DS during daylight.

jadkins2

I felt like that with my first born. It's hard but you get used to it.It took me at least 6 months. Before the second one came we talked about me staying home full time and we said we would try it out while I took my 12 week maternity leave. While at home I concluded I still wanted to work. I was excited to get up and get dressed and talk to adults about adult stuff. Everyday is not perfect but I so appreciate that we can keep our lifestyle we were used too. My firstborn was so bored at home and ready for friends. I feel like we made the right choice for us. We want one more so we will see if number 3 changes my mind back.

rainbowminion

The social aspect is definitely something to think about. My husband and I are both introverts, but our little guy seems to be quite the social butterfly! I think even if I were to win the lottery and be able to stay home with him, I would have to find a group of kids he could hang out with regularly. 

I think he actually enjoys day care, though I do also think he spends a little too much of his day there. The one having the biggest issue with it is me. It takes me until Wednesday to really get back into the work mindset after being with him all weekend. Monday and Tuesday are mostly spent missing him, instead of focusing on work. I may have the opportunity to work from home in the semi-near future. I'm going to have to think hard about how to balance our needs if I end up doing that.