Spoiled Baby?

nerdymama15

I've read online and me pediatrician seconds the notion that you cannot spoil an infant. My DD is 11 weeks 3days old. I've read that at this age when they want to be held it is a need not a want. My parents tell me that we're spoiling our baby. At first I balked at the idea of being able to spoil and infant, but now I'm not so sure. We started off with a co sleeper bassinet that sat in the bed with us. DD slept very restless in that. One night I took her out to comfort snuggle her and fell asleep. From that point on she refuses to sleep in that thing. I kid you not, she can be in a deep sleep and I can put her in that. Almost as soon as she lays down she wakes up and screams. I then lay her beside me and viola she is calm. Up until recently her sleeping beside me (safely no blankets pillows around her. I have a blanket covering my legs and that is it and it is far away from her) has been fine. I'm starting to get worried because she can turn her head and has started burying her face in my shirt. It's the burying her face thing that worries me.   I start her in her back and she turns her head and puts her face in my shirt.  As long as I'm awake I'll reposition her. But she won't sleep anywhere else. She screams and she is too young for cry it out.  Could she be spoiled or just a high needs baby?

kbrands7

It's not possible to spoil this early because they don't have the necessary understanding to manipulate yet. It's more likely that now that she has more awareness, she just really wants to be close to you since that's most comfortable. It's also possible that she's going through a bit of a rough patch with sleeping. Is there room to put a little more space between you and LO in bed for now since you're worried about her burying her face?

lalala2004

Ignore your parents. Or tell them to explain to your 11 week old that being held is a want, not a need. What is a need is for her to feel loved and cared for, so do what you need to do. They won't be babies forever and there will come a time when they won't want to cuddle at all.

Bltbear82

As PPs have said, it's not possible to spoil a baby this young but for some reason older generations love to say it. I've had to take DS1 out solo a few times and I've left a tank top I wore so it could be swaddled for DS2. It really did the trick in a pinch for me, so maybe an alternate sleep position with a mommy smelling swaddle would work?