I don't know where to put this so here goes. I've been trying to be positive and sunshiney about my body image, but I loathe my body right now and it's making me feel awful (read:depressed). I'm tired and when I'm tired I like to eat all of the carbs. And since I'm tired all of the time, it's been bad. I'm trying you guys, but I feel so unlike myself and not healthy at all. Tell me I'm not alone.
Eta: I'm also feeling anxiety when I have to be around family or friends. I'm 6 weeks PP and I know people are understanding that I recently had a baby but I feel like all eyes are on my flab. Nothing fits and my wardrobe is so limited by nursing friendly clothing. Gah.
You read my mind! I had this exact post all written out but never posted it. I'm so depressed about my body. Nothing fits. I'm working out, trying to do a little dieting but then I worry about my milk supply. At this point I don't know what to do. On top of it all I'm reading everyone on here talking about how they are already back to their pre pregnancy weight, and my mom saying it only took her two weeks to get back in her jeans. I'm 7 weeks pp today and I cried while looking in the mirror this morning. Sorry this isn't an encouraging response, just glad I'm not the only one going through this self image hate.
@AuntieCre5 after I weaned DD I started to lose the baby weight. I think I'm one of the rare people that hangs onto weight while nursing. It doesn't make me feel good now, but knowing that I will likely lose the weight once I'm done nursing gives me hope. For now though, I'm just trying to stay as positive as possible.
Speaking of weight... I've been walking/running with LO and started back at the gym last week. And somehow, I've gained two pounds since last week even though I've been working out and eating pretty good. Le sigh... The goal was to loose ten by 8/8. Looks like that's not happening
I don't know where to put this so here goes. I've been trying to be positive and sunshiney about my body image, but I loathe my body right now and it's making me feel awful (read:depressed). I'm tired and when I'm tired I like to eat all of the carbs. And since I'm tired all of the time, it's been bad. I'm trying you guys, but I feel so unlike myself and not healthy at all. Tell me I'm not alone.
Eta: I'm also feeling anxiety when I have to be around family or friends. I'm 6 weeks PP and I know people are understanding that I recently had a baby but I feel like all eyes are on my flab. Nothing fits and my wardrobe is so limited by nursing friendly clothing. Gah.
You read my mind! I had this exact post all written out but never posted it. I'm so depressed about my body. Nothing fits. I'm working out, trying to do a little dieting but then I worry about my milk supply. At this point I don't know what to do. On top of it all I'm reading everyone on here talking about how they are already back to their pre pregnancy weight, and my mom saying it only took her two weeks to get back in her jeans. I'm 7 weeks pp today and I cried while looking in the mirror this morning. Sorry this isn't an encouraging response, just glad I'm not the only one going through this self image hate.
@AuntieCre5 after I weaned DD I started to lose the baby weight. I think I'm one of the rare people that hangs onto weight while nursing. It doesn't make me feel good now, but knowing that I will likely lose the weight once I'm done nursing gives me hope. For now though, I'm just trying to stay as positive as possible.
I would love to nurse for as long as Abby wants to. But now that I know I'm not one of those people who loses weight breastfeeding, I'm kinda looking forward to that six month cut off. How long did you breastfed for?
Sale PSA! I think someone posted about the Target gift card promotion - spend $150 and get a $25 gift card but also buy two diapers and get a $10 gift card. I just got $35 back for stuff we actually need, I'm usually really terrible at bargains so I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself. Also, I was just browsing Buy Buy Baby for a travel double stroller and they have select Baby Jogger City Select single models on sale.
I don't know where to put this so here goes. I've been trying to be positive and sunshiney about my body image, but I loathe my body right now and it's making me feel awful (read:depressed). I'm tired and when I'm tired I like to eat all of the carbs. And since I'm tired all of the time, it's been bad. I'm trying you guys, but I feel so unlike myself and not healthy at all. Tell me I'm not alone.
Eta: I'm also feeling anxiety when I have to be around family or friends. I'm 6 weeks PP and I know people are understanding that I recently had a baby but I feel like all eyes are on my flab. Nothing fits and my wardrobe is so limited by nursing friendly clothing. Gah.
You read my mind! I had this exact post all written out but never posted it. I'm so depressed about my body. Nothing fits. I'm working out, trying to do a little dieting but then I worry about my milk supply. At this point I don't know what to do. On top of it all I'm reading everyone on here talking about how they are already back to their pre pregnancy weight, and my mom saying it only took her two weeks to get back in her jeans. I'm 7 weeks pp today and I cried while looking in the mirror this morning. Sorry this isn't an encouraging response, just glad I'm not the only one going through this self image hate.
@AuntieCre5 after I weaned DD I started to lose the baby weight. I think I'm one of the rare people that hangs onto weight while nursing. It doesn't make me feel good now, but knowing that I will likely lose the weight once I'm done nursing gives me hope. For now though, I'm just trying to stay as positive as possible.
I would love to nurse for as long as Abby wants to. But now that I know I'm not one of those people who loses weight breastfeeding, I'm kinda looking forward to that six month cut off. How long did you breastfed for?
I lasted for 9 mos which was a small miracle bc of my low supply issues.
Speaking of weight... I've been walking/running with LO and started back at the gym last week. And somehow, I've gained two pounds since last week even though I've been working out and eating pretty good. Le sigh... The goal was to loose ten by 8/8. Looks like that's not happening
This happened to me last week. I think I'll skip a weigh in this week.
Totally with you ladies on being down about my body. I almost got into my "fat" shorts, but my biggest issue are these knockers and the flabby stomach. None of my old shirts look good to me or feel comfortable. I'm so glad I work from home and don't have to worry about nice clothes. But for social events, I tried on 20 different things for the July 4th bbq I went to. Lots of moms and new moms, and I fell into the comparison trap. It motivates me, but I have a history of an eating disorder, so it's a slippery slope for me and trying to diet. Plus, I'm breastfeeding. I'm trying to practice patience with my body. As my husband reminds me, "you just had a baby 2 months ago!" I also try to think of DD and how I never want her to worry about her body, so I'm trying to not go down the negative body thoughts road. It's so hard right now!
I wonder how many times the Target website has driven someone to drink.
Edited: I finally got the app to work after a gazillion times trying the website. In case anyone hasn't seen it, it's a good time to stock up on diapers-- there are 2 gift cards offers that stack: $10 for every 2 Pampers superpacks and $25 for a $150 baby purchase, plus the red card discount if you have one. It makes them cheaper per diaper than Amazon S&S.
You guys. I'm OBSESSED with the first season of Serial and the Adnan Sayed case. I'm pretty sure it's because podcasts are all I do now and I have nothing but time to think. im sure Ezra appreciated listening to an episode of undisclosed about Hae Min Lee's autopsy during bath time
I'm struggling with body image as well. Still up 15 lbs so clothes are a struggle. I am trying to tell myself I've lost it before. I'm also focusing on the fact some of it has to be going towards breastfeeding and remind myself that this precious little baby's weight is much more important than my own. It's hard though, because I want to have work clothes.
Leaving this positivity here: "comparison is the thief of joy" / I never liked you anyway Chrissy Teigan.
I'm struggling with body image as well. Still up 15 lbs so clothes are a struggle. I am trying to tell myself I've lost it before. I'm also focusing on the fact some of it has to be going towards breastfeeding and remind myself that this precious little baby's weight is much more important than my own. It's hard though, because I want to have work clothes.
Leaving this positivity here: "comparison is the thief of joy" / I never liked you anyway Chrissy Teigan.
Perfectly said. I've done it before and can do it again. This too shall pass!
So many people commented to me when I was pregnant that May was the perfect time to have a baby because I will have the whole summer to spend with him and the weather will be perfect! And I agreed and was looking forward to it! Well, I feel like summer is the opposite but still exactly the same as winter. I feel like I'm constantly stuck indoors with nothing to do because it's 85-90+ degrees everyday and that's just too hot for LO! And then July 4th was somehow cloudy, rainy and in the 60s! It rained all day here :-( we were able to go downtown for the 4th of July 5k MH ran, but 30 min after it was over it rained and it rained all day. No parade for us. No festival for us. No fireworks for us. The weather is just not my friend lately !!! I can only walk around the mall so much in one summer before being indoors drives me bonkers. Stupid heat.
I'm also struggling with weight loss and body image and glad that I'm not alone. I think I'm one of those people whose body holds on to weight while BFing because while I gained ~25ish lbs while pregnant, the first 10 came off in the hospital and the next 5ish has been sloooowllyyy dropping off and then plateuing now almost 8 weeks pp. most of my pre pregnancy clothes don't fit and those that do definitely don't look the same and make me really self-conscious. I know I need to work on my eating and to work out more, but as PPs have said, it's so hard with sleep deprivation. Plus I do worry about milk supply if I try to "diet", even if it's just cutting back some cals.
Grr.. I'm so pissed. MH's alarm goes off at 5am for work and it's an old school alarm clock that buzzes so effing loud and annoying and he snoozes through it 3 times everyday! I had just put LO back down in the bassinet at 3:30 and it woke him up. Turn your stupid alarm off or use a less obnoxious one on your phone!
I don't know where to put this so here goes. I've been trying to be positive and sunshiney about my body image, but I loathe my body right now and it's making me feel awful (read:depressed). I'm tired and when I'm tired I like to eat all of the carbs. And since I'm tired all of the time, it's been bad. I'm trying you guys, but I feel so unlike myself and not healthy at all. Tell me I'm not alone.
Eta: I'm also feeling anxiety when I have to be around family or friends. I'm 6 weeks PP and I know people are understanding that I recently had a baby but I feel like all eyes are on my flab. Nothing fits and my wardrobe is so limited by nursing friendly clothing. Gah.
Sigh...I completely relate. I hate saying this as I know I should be proud of what my body has done to create and nourish a child, but I feel depressed about my body. My hips are wider and my stomach is sooooo squishy. Like everything is just rolling around. It's depressing and I am with you on the eating. For me, when I get stressed I want comfort food and so I'm battling this cycle of not liking my body, being tired, turning to comfort food only to have this not help with my body issues. Rinse and repeat. It's almost like I don't have the mental energy to diet and I feel like I may just be stuck here
So many people commented to me when I was pregnant that May was the perfect time to have a baby because I will have the whole summer to spend with him and the weather will be perfect! And I agreed and was looking forward to it! Well, I feel like summer is the opposite but still exactly the same as winter. I feel like I'm constantly stuck indoors with nothing to do because it's 85-90+ degrees everyday and that's just too hot for LO! And then July 4th was somehow cloudy, rainy and in the 60s! It rained all day here :-( we were able to go downtown for the 4th of July 5k MH ran, but 30 min after it was over it rained and it rained all day. No parade for us. No festival for us. No fireworks for us. The weather is just not my friend lately !!! I can only walk around the mall so much in one summer before being indoors drives me bonkers. Stupid heat.
THIS!!! It's wayyyyy too hot to have LO outdoors during the day, so im pretty much stuck inside. I had these visions of gardening outside with him next to me on a blanket or something. Um, no.
I really love this board for feeling like I'm not alone these days. First, yes to the heat. I thought summer was the ideal time, but now I'm thinking we should aim for spring with the next one.
And TB ate the rest of my post. Second, I am hating my body as well. Can't say it out loud because people automatically say "you just had a baby! " Yup, no shit. I remember, I was there. Does not help when I look in the mirror. I exercise every day & my weight is stagnant.
And I might actually hit the next person who says to "sleep when the baby sleeps! " For real. A, my baby does not sleep. Except for when his dad takes him in the morning, then he sleeps like a dream after being up every hour the night before. B, it's not realistic to assume that any time he does fall asleep I will be able to just lay right dowb next to him and pass out on command.
The only nap of the day my baby takes that I actually feel like I can take a nap during is when she naps around 3:30/4pm. Before then, I'm always trying to squeeze in other things like breakfast, shower, lunch, laundry, and a workout if possible. I'm exhausted, but I'm usually no where near relaxed enough to take a nap. I have to accomplish some things before my body will relax, and I think by that time of the afternoon, my body just stops anyway. It's weird - I need some me time during the day away from baby, and I can't get that if I'm sleeping.
Guys. Usually Ezra and I wake up at 7:30-8am and he'll eat and need a change and then be super happy and chatty. It's my favorite part of the day. today I had to wake up and be at the hospital at 6am because my mom was having surgery. I came home at 8:30 and saw a bottle had been heated up so I was excited to hear about DH getting the chatty time. They're both sacked out right now... How did this happen?
I'm also hating my body and feeling totally depressed as a result. Nothing fits except yoga pants. I finally broke down and ordered a pair of jeans 2 sizes bigger than my pre-preg size and I'm still scared they won't fit.
I am totally failing tummy time. LO screams after 30 seconds and I can't stand to watch her cry with her face planted down like that. Her neck strength is awesome from tummy time on me and so much time in the Solly but I'm afraid she won't roll over like ever and then she won't ever crawl and then she won't ever walk and and and....
I really love this board for feeling like I'm not alone these days. First, yes to the heat. I thought summer was the ideal time, but now I'm thinking we should aim for spring with the next one.
Everyone kept saying "Thank goodness you won't be pregnant during the summer" but I almost would have rather been pregnant during this time. At least I could get in the pool. It's hard to get in the pool with a 2 month old since it's way too hot to be outside during the day. We're pretty much stuck inside for now.
I am totally failing tummy time. LO screams after 30 seconds and I can't stand to watch her cry with her face planted down like that. Her neck strength is awesome from tummy time on me and so much time in the Solly but I'm afraid she won't roll over like ever and then she won't ever crawl and then she won't ever walk and and and....
Being upright helps to develop abdominal muscles too! DS1 hated solo tummy time and would only tolerate short spurts until around 2 months, but he still hit benchmarks on time or early. His little abs helped him to be able to sit independently by the beginning of 4 months.
Our cat has been throwing up once a day for the last four days so took her to the vet this morning. She is running a fever and lost some weight. We have her on meds and if she keeps throwing up, we need to run bloodwork. But the vet said it might all just be stress from the baby. I acknowledge she has seemed depressed but I can only give her so much attention. I've asked "dh" to up his attention with her but he is too busy on the computer I guess- he thinks hanging his hand over the computer chair so she can run into him is "attention". He also thinks her following him around the house is "exercise". I need to try to carve out 30 minutes a day or so for her it seems and hope it helps! Makes me sad to know she might be sick because I can't give her the time I used to
I'm also hating my body and feeling totally depressed as a result. Nothing fits except yoga pants. I finally broke down and ordered a pair of jeans 2 sizes bigger than my pre-preg size and I'm still scared they won't fit.
I went to GAP about 2-3 weeks postpartum to get some shorts. Part of recovering from my eating disorder taught me that I'm much better mentally when I have clothes that fit no matter what the size rather than trying to squeeze into the size I want to be in. So, thinking I was putting years of therapy to good use, I went out to buy bigger sizes. The problem was my body is so weird. There was no size that fit all three of my hips, waist, and butt anymore. I was a size 6 to 8 pre-pregnancy depending on brand. I tried on two pairs of shorts from gap in a size 10. One was too small, one seemed to fit enough to make it. I went up a size in the too small one, and they were way too baggy. I bought the other pair and grabbed another of the same kind in a different color, not trying the additional pair on. Got home, and they were too small. I've bought bigger jeans in the same style and brand of my smaller jeans, and the smaller jeans fit better than the bigger since it's been a couple of years since I bought the others, and manufacturing standards changed. Boo to shitty overseas manufacturing making nothing consistent these days.
Long story short, if you go up sizes and it doesn't fit, don't blame yourself. Just like with baby clothes, it seems like the size doesn't mean anything these days. It's what fits you the best. Also, once I realized buying a bigger size made me feel better and more put together going out, it actually helped me get back on track and lose weight since I didn't feel that pressure. I think a lot of people assume if you buy a bigger size, you'll never lose the weight, so they keep trying to squeeze into something smaller and feel depressed about how uncomfortable they are.
I'm also hating my body and feeling totally depressed as a result. Nothing fits except yoga pants. I finally broke down and ordered a pair of jeans 2 sizes bigger than my pre-preg size and I'm still scared they won't fit.
I went to GAP about 2-3 weeks postpartum to get some shorts. Part of recovering from my eating disorder taught me that I'm much better mentally when I have clothes that fit no matter what the size rather than trying to squeeze into the size I want to be in. So, thinking I was putting years of therapy to good use, I went out to buy bigger sizes. The problem was my body is so weird. There was no size that fit all three of my hips, waist, and butt anymore. I was a size 6 to 8 pre-pregnancy depending on brand. I tried on two pairs of shorts from gap in a size 10. One was too small, one seemed to fit enough to make it. I went up a size in the too small one, and they were way too baggy. I bought the other pair and grabbed another of the same kind in a different color, not trying the additional pair on. Got home, and they were too small. I've bought bigger jeans in the same style and brand of my smaller jeans, and the smaller jeans fit better than the bigger since it's been a couple of years since I bought the others, and manufacturing standards changed. Boo to shitty overseas manufacturing making nothing consistent these days.
Long story short, if you go up sizes and it doesn't fit, don't blame yourself. Just like with baby clothes, it seems like the size doesn't mean anything these days. It's what fits you the best. Also, once I realized buying a bigger size made me feel better and more put together going out, it actually helped me get back on track and lose weight since I didn't feel that pressure. I think a lot of people assume if you buy a bigger size, you'll never lose the weight, so they keep trying to squeeze into something smaller and feel depressed about how uncomfortable they are.
I've gained a lot of weight and lost a lot of weight over the course of my life but I haven't had an eating disorder so I don't want to over step. My best advice after two pregnancies (one of which I started at my lowest weight in years but not nearly at my goal weight), is exactly this - buy a few things you feel comfortable and confident in. I've found that dresses are really good for fluctuating sizes and body types. H&M and Old Navy are perfect because you don't have to spend a lot and you won't really care that much when they're too big.
They serve a purpose temporarily and I've always felt better about myself when I like what I'm wearing (vain but so true). But most of all, be kind to yourself. My body isn't anywhere close to perfect but no one knows the size of my jeans except me and the cashier so try not to beat yourself up!
I am totally failing tummy time. LO screams after 30 seconds and I can't stand to watch her cry with her face planted down like that. Her neck strength is awesome from tummy time on me and so much time in the Solly but I'm afraid she won't roll over like ever and then she won't ever crawl and then she won't ever walk and and and....
I'm over here hoping my LO doesn't roll over for awhile. Today he kind of acted like he was going to and went up on his side... And I put him back down. No sir... Stay in your swaddle
@bitbear82 Exactly! When you feel put together, you're more likely to get out of the house. And when you get out, you feel better. And when you feel good, you take better care of yourself. It's always been a chain reaction for me.
I am totally failing tummy time. LO screams after 30 seconds and I can't stand to watch her cry with her face planted down like that. Her neck strength is awesome from tummy time on me and so much time in the Solly but I'm afraid she won't roll over like ever and then she won't ever crawl and then she won't ever walk and and and....
There is NO evidence that tummy time helps with strengthening the neck/head control. Babies who did not do tummy time met all the same developmental milestones as babies who did tummy time. Don't do it if she hates it
Early May moms- tell me there's is a happier place on the other end of the 6 week growth spurt!
Yes! It seemed like my baby was constantly fussy but around 7 or 8 weeks she started becoming happier and we got smiles from her. She still has fussy moments but they are much less now. She will be 9 weeks on Saturday.
Just packed up Harper's 3 month size footie pjs. She never wore most of them because she doesn't wear pjs to bed, and it's been warm. So depressing packing these adorable lil things away
I'm so sad about going back to work. My first day back is 4 weeks from today and it makes me want to cry. Being a SAHM is not an option for me. I'm going to miss my LO so much.
@bitbear82 Exactly! When you feel put together, you're more likely to get out of the house. And when you get out, you feel better. And when you feel good, you take better care of yourself. It's always been a chain reaction for me.
THIS. When I start slacking with my diet, I start slacking with my workouts, my clothes, etc. DH agreed to track his food with me which has been SO helpful in keeping me from eating all of the donuts (he gained as much weight as I did with the pregnancy!). We have both made sure to give each other time to shower and work out every day. Doesn't sound like much, but I think it's been really helpful.
Sale PSA! I think someone posted about the Target gift card promotion - spend $150 and get a $25 gift card but also buy two diapers and get a $10 gift card. I just got $35 back for stuff we actually need, I'm usually really terrible at bargains so I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself. Also, I was just browsing Buy Buy Baby for a travel double stroller and they have select Baby Jogger City Select single models on sale.
is that listed on the website? I don't see it. Trying to do all the math along with using cartwheels
Sale PSA! I think someone posted about the Target gift card promotion - spend $150 and get a $25 gift card but also buy two diapers and get a $10 gift card. I just got $35 back for stuff we actually need, I'm usually really terrible at bargains so I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself. Also, I was just browsing Buy Buy Baby for a travel double stroller and they have select Baby Jogger City Select single models on sale.
is that listed on the website? I don't see it. Trying to do all the math along with using cartwheels
It came up when I was looking through the diapers yesterday under the baby sale. It didn't say an end date but maybe it was just a 4th of July promo?
I'm not a fan of onesies. I don't get the need to have baby's shirt tucked in. We only have 3 regular shirts and I've repeated them several times unlike the rest of her wardrobe. I prefer to only take her pants off when we're out and I need to change her. The onesie just adds snaps and a bigger hassle. Plus my LO is long so she tends to out grow them length wise first.
@Charla1224 We don't do pants, so the onesies are nice. They're all she wears, unless it's colder or at night she gets footie pajamas. I guess we'll have to give her real outfits at some point, but for now I prefer onesies over anything dealing with pants.
Re: Weekly Randoms 7/4
Totally with you ladies on being down about my body. I almost got into my "fat" shorts, but my biggest issue are these knockers and the flabby stomach. None of my old shirts look good to me or feel comfortable. I'm so glad I work from home and don't have to worry about nice clothes. But for social events, I tried on 20 different things for the July 4th bbq I went to. Lots of moms and new moms, and I fell into the comparison trap. It motivates me, but I have a history of an eating disorder, so it's a slippery slope for me and trying to diet. Plus, I'm breastfeeding. I'm trying to practice patience with my body. As my husband reminds me, "you just had a baby 2 months ago!" I also try to think of DD and how I never want her to worry about her body, so I'm trying to not go down the negative body thoughts road. It's so hard right now!
Edited: I finally got the app to work after a gazillion times trying the website. In case anyone hasn't seen it, it's a good time to stock up on diapers-- there are 2 gift cards offers that stack: $10 for every 2 Pampers superpacks and $25 for a $150 baby purchase, plus the red card discount if you have one. It makes them cheaper per diaper than Amazon S&S.
im sure Ezra appreciated listening to an episode of undisclosed about Hae Min Lee's autopsy during bath time
Leaving this positivity here: "comparison is the thief of joy" / I never liked you anyway Chrissy Teigan.
DS: Born 5-17-16
pretty much stuck inside. I had these visions of gardening outside with him next to me on a blanket or something. Um, no.
DS: Born 5-17-16
First, yes to the heat. I thought summer was the ideal time, but now I'm thinking we should aim for spring with the next one.
Second, I am hating my body as well. Can't say it out loud because people automatically say "you just had a baby! " Yup, no shit. I remember, I was there. Does not help when I look in the mirror. I exercise every day & my weight is stagnant.
And I might actually hit the next person who says to "sleep when the baby sleeps! " For real. A, my baby does not sleep. Except for when his dad takes him in the morning, then he sleeps like a dream after being up every hour the night before. B, it's not realistic to assume that any time he does fall asleep I will be able to just lay right dowb next to him and pass out on command.
today I had to wake up and be at the hospital at 6am because my mom was having surgery. I came home at 8:30 and saw a bottle had been heated up so I was excited to hear about DH getting the chatty time. They're both sacked out right now... How did this happen?
I am totally failing tummy time. LO screams after 30 seconds and I can't stand to watch her cry with her face planted down like that. Her neck strength is awesome from tummy time on me and so much time in the Solly but I'm afraid she won't roll over like ever and then she won't ever crawl and then she won't ever walk and and and....
Long story short, if you go up sizes and it doesn't fit, don't blame yourself. Just like with baby clothes, it seems like the size doesn't mean anything these days. It's what fits you the best. Also, once I realized buying a bigger size made me feel better and more put together going out, it actually helped me get back on track and lose weight since I didn't feel that pressure. I think a lot of people assume if you buy a bigger size, you'll never lose the weight, so they keep trying to squeeze into something smaller and feel depressed about how uncomfortable they are.
They serve a purpose temporarily and I've always felt better about myself when I like what I'm wearing (vain but so true). But most of all, be kind to yourself. My body isn't anywhere close to perfect but no one knows the size of my jeans except me and the cashier so try not to beat yourself up!
Trying to not wake LO, keep the dog out of the bedroom. FUN!
DD: 05/14/16