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Bre&Aaron

Hi ladies!! I just got my positive. I'm wondering if there's any Facebook groups yet that have been started as that's my best way of keeping up.

This is my fourth child (plus two miscarriages). Hoping for stickiness!!

nursemama-2

Way too soon IMO. I would be very weary of a FB group this early on. 

mrsstuessy

Yeah, I personally don't have a need for a Facebook group for a very long time, if ever. Let's just hang out here. 

Bre&Aaron

I like Facebook because it's a secret group versus public here. Just me though!

Scarlett830

Way too soon for Facebook IMO. This may be a public forum, but we can all shield our identities pretty easily. Unless you're willing to create a fake Facebook profile, which I'm personally not, this is actually more private. Secret Facebook group doesn't equal safe, and I'm definitely not willing to put my information out there to anyone that I've only known for a hot minute and never interacted with.

Also, TB app is pretty user-friendly as far as I'm concerned, and just as easy to access as Facebook.

ETA more stuff (fat fingers hit save accidentally)

Gobruins0430

I may be in the minority here, but my October 2012 FB group was started around this time and I'm still very active on it and close with a lot of the girls. I'd be down for one anytime

mrsstuessy

Facebook seems much less private to me. I get that it is a secret group, but it is still my real Facebook page with my name and all my info and stuff. I was very, very active in the October 2013 birth month group and I was never a part of a Facebook group. It worked well for me. 

meq124

I am active on my July '15 group, but there really wasn't a need for it until after the babies were born, which is when everyone joined. I agree that it's too early, I'm personally not ready for people to have access to my person info like full name and city and whatnot.

rinaroo11

My may 2016 group is incredible, they were a huge help when i lost my pregnancy at 9.5 weeks. I think the end of July would be a good time for anyone who wants to join it, that way we have most of the people who will be joining us.  

nursemama-2

Don't get my wrong, I am in 2 Facebook spin off groups for my other babies. It is very active and they are some of my closest friends. I wouldn't recommend making one until closer to third tri. There is always some kind of drama. It's just how those things go.

KellyT22

My Sept 2015 group started when I was about 5 weeks. We are super close and the drama weeded itself out along the way. I am all for a group!

rinaroo11

Honestly on this app my May 2016 group had A LOT of super mean people, lots of drama. I stopped using this apps group once we made the Facebook group. The admins had no tolerance for drama or being rude on the fb group. It was a hell of a lot less stressful. 

MollyandD

I also agree that if there were a Facebook group, I wouldn't join it this soon. I'm just not ready to take it to Facebook yet, secret group or not. 

klz0330

I would like to be in a Facebook group at some point. I'm still in one for Feb 13 and I love it! It might be too early now, but hopefully we can arrange one sometime. 

vino831

I'd love to join a fb group at some point. I never knew that was done. (I just just a mild board lurker with my last lo haha) While this app is user friendly I find it to def be a slight pain getting to the community etc.

MrsNap_515

I LOVE my June 2012 board, we are mostly still together on fb, they are some of my best friends, and if it weren't for fb, I feel that I wouldn't have gotten to know them so well.  It's just so much more user friendly too.  We had lots of drama llamas over the past few years, and the group has dwindled down to around 100+, but I can name them all, their hubbies, kiddos, etc.  We started it as we really started getting more active on the boards, not right away, because there may be some that don't stick around, or some that have to leave us, so we waiting a long time getting to know each other here first.  I would love a fb group looking forward as we all get to know each other better here first.

AverageAsh

We need to get a few months of UOs and FFFCs out of the way to know where people really stand on the important issues before we snuggle up with them on FB:)  Just wait until the leggings as pants conversation comes up and then things can get real:) 

Luckycharm1068

AverageAsh said:

We need to get a few months of UOs and FFFCs out of the way to know where people really stand on the important issues before we snuggle up with them on FB:)  Just wait until the leggings as pants conversation comes up and then things can get real:) 

Hahahahaha love it! Don't forget he circumcision posts!!

Schumerator

My thoughts on a Facebook group at this point in the game....



I actually have had mine deactivated for a few months due to the fact that there's so much complaining/oversharing and I just found myself getting so annoyed at people's posts, and I honestly don't miss it! I will probably bring it back here in like two months to do our reveal though. Also I don't want to be left behind on the BMB if everyone goes to Facebook! 

Eta: grammar errors

JDMRS

Schumerator said:

My thoughts on a Facebook group at this point in the game....



I actually have had mine deactivated for a few months due to the fact that there's so much complaining/oversharing and I just found myself get so annoyed at people's posts, and I honestly don't miss it! I will probably bring it back here in like two months to do our reveal though. Also I don't want to be left behind on the BMB if everyone goes to Facebook! 

Eta: grammar errors

@Schumerator I quit facebook in 2009 after my SIL got mad at me for making fun of NJ- she actually called my MIL to tell her to tell DH to tell me to stop making fun of NJ- SORRY NOT SORRY NJ!

dubcompanion

@JDMRS Couldn't resist:


ETA: sorry, mobile bump was being a little NJ.

dubcompanion

My opinion on a FB group is to wait a while. I'm fine with oversharing about sex and poop and stuff under a SN, but it's going to take a while longer before I feel comfortable sharing my actual name, location, etc. If we get close enough, personal details will come out in time. I, for one, joined TB for a sincere and caring but also a safe support network. Eventually, FB in regard to a bmb may be viewed the same way. Just not yet.

Schumerator

@JDMRS ummm like the state NJ?? She sounds like a fun time! That would be enough to make me get off of Facebook too!

JDMRS

@Schumerator yes, apparently I have the power to make an entire state feel bad... 2 kids later she has mellowed out a bit but not enough for me to get back on that ride again.

bansel92813

My Dec '15 group started this early and was amazing support! I loved it.

kjd291

I definitely prefer my aug 15 Facebook crew. 

AverageAsh

If you're really craving that Facebook flavor why don't you search for 3/17 groups on fb and start there? 

kjd291

@AverageAsh. I guess because I really enjoyed my experience of meeting moms on here last time.  Just didn't feel as sketchy of a process. More trustworthy.  Maybe I'm just not tech savvy--but my phone hates the bump app and shuts down all the time, and doesn't update, so I feel like I miss out on the community and am forced to stalk more than participate 

nursemama-2

Jumping to a Facebook group right now is no different then going to Facebook and searching for groups.

KellyT22

Any searchable FB groups are public which means your friends and family can see that you're in them. Personally I'm not ready to tell my IRL people that I'm pregnant. 

AverageAsh

That's fair, @KellyT22

ihateusernames*

I would be pro-fb group around 5 or 6 months. 

PattersRN

I'm in a secret FB group with a bunch of women from TTGP wayyyy back in 2009ish (back when I was trying to get pregnant with my ex husband, thankfully that never happened).  I'd be down for a FB group, but not for several months until I get to know you psychos

librarymom917

I was in a group for my Feb'11 daughter not on the Bump but another forum, which is now not very active at all, we all moved to Facebook after our babies were born, and we're all super close so eventually I'd love to be on facebook but I agree, I'm not big on sharing all my personal info with everyone just yet.

Marissaleee

If anyone is interested... I do have a due date group going on Facebook. Check it out. No one on your news feed will know you are a member.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1716507415279716/

Scarlett830

@Marissaleee have you intro'ed here?

AverageAsh

A generic avatar is like a windowless van. 

Scarlett830

AverageAsh said:

A generic avatar is like a windowless van. 

But guise, maybe she has candy! Or -- ooo! -- a puppy!!!

AverageAsh

Totally.

meq124

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