Intro - TTC#1 age 40

jennh75b

Hello, I'm new to this board and usually post in TTC>35.  We've been TTC #1 since right before we got married back in the fall of 2014.  We were not consistent due to some medical issues/procedures I was having for back pain, and his poor understanding/believing of what it actually takes to TTC.  We are now consistent and on the same page, and started with an RE several months ago.  Our results were all good, there are no identified issues/barriers other than age of course.  So we tried a couple of months without any interventions, but this month I got so upset that AF arrived and told H that I wanted to try Clomid.  So I took that CD 3-7 and now today is O day - confirmed by the RE.  We had a minor breakdown last night when H was having some difficulties in the BD department, and both of us threatened that this would be our last month of TTC.  But I think we are out of that mode of thinking and he apologized for overreacting.  Some days I do want to give up because I'm tired of feeling like my whole future is so up in the air - are we going to be a childless couple, or are we going to be parents?  I feel like I'm dangling by a string.  Not to mention the toll it's taking on an intimate level.  Anyway, I haven't known too many in my life that had difficulty TTC, so it's nice to have this venue to find support and understanding.

Ducks&Cats

Hello and welcome! Honestly you never know who is experiencing infertility or trouble ttc. When people ask when we are going to have kids I just say "someday", only two friends really know what I am going through.  You are not alone in trouble ttc! Many women in their 40s go on to have successful pregnancies.  Good luck and join the weekly check ins. 

hoffmanr7

Hi.  I am sorry you have to be here but also glad you joined us.  This board is a great source of comfort and support from a great group of ladies who understand what you are going through.  It has been a big help.

I am sorry you are feeling down right now.  All of us here can understand the frustration and the strain it can put on you and your DH.  My own DH and I ended up taking a break from actively trying for a couple of months at one point just because of the strain it put on our intimate time.

*hugs*

Plainjanie

Welcome to the board. I'm sorry you are having such a rough go but this board is full of so many supportive people!

ReesaAnne16

Welcome, I'm sorry you find yourself here. I can relate in some ways; ttc has definitely taken the fun out of the bedroom.
i hope you have success on clomid! 

jennh75b

Thank you all for the supportive words and warm welcome!!

harleyquinn0621

Welcome! I absolutely agree with ducks&cats - we are VERY private about our struggles and when friends and family ask about plans for the children i tell them we are not ready yet.. or "maybe in a year or so".....  so you never know how many people you have known that have struggled and just not said anything about it

i'm so glad you're here and hope that with some additional support it helps get you through