Hello everyone, this is my first post. I have been spending a lot of time on this site since I've become pregnant, but just recently signed up. This specific thing is the main reason I was inspired to begin participating on the forums instead of just lurking. Who knew it would take a few days before I could actually post!
I am a first time mother and I never ever would have thought I'd consider natural birth. Closer to the beginning of my pregnancy there were a couple panic attacks after random realizations that I was going to actually have to give birth! I've always wanted to have children, but I am 35 and have been unable to conceive up until this point. I had come to terms with the fact that I would never have children years ago, and this was a big surprise.
Anyway I have been reading a lot of birth stories both natural and medicated and I am really feeling like natural is the way that I want to go. I am no longer afraid of giving birth like I was. I'm kind of excited actually. I am worried because I haven't done anything to prepare besides read things on the internet, and I'm already at 30w5d. I had my most recent OB appt last week, and it was the first time I tried to talk to my Dr. about wanting to go natural. She was completely discouraging!! She said she doesn't know why anyone would go through that pain when they don't have to because it's "better". She said it's not better for the baby or the mother, and that birth goes more smoothly for both mother and child with an epi. Almost every person I've talked about this with has been discouraging, but I thought my OB would at least talk about it with me and guide me in the right direction
My main reasons for wanting to go natural is because I am so amazed at the fact that I am actually going to be a mother after all, and I want to experience my daughters entrance into the world. I also want to experience her right after and be able to function as normally as possible as quickly as possible. I have read that in most cases the healing process is also much quicker with a natural birth.
I don't even know if it's too late in the pregnancy to take the necessary steps to have a smooth natural birth. I haven't taken any birth classes, and I thought my OB would be the one to give me resources but apparently not. Even my boyfriend thought that a natural birth is putting myself though unnecessary pain. He has 3 children from a previous marriage, and when I asked him about their births he said he slept through most of it. 2 of them were c sections. So I am kinda concerned about his ability to be what I need as far as support and encouragement go. But I haven't had a proper discussion with him about what I think I'd need, and plus if we still have time for birth classes he will be attending them with me.
I would appreciate your thoughts/advice! Thanks.