I'm out - Wishing all F17 Mamas a H&H Pregnancy! (*possible trigger*)

PinkPrincessPiper

Turns out a medication I had to take in May more than likely caused me not to ovulate last cycle, resulting in a menstrual cycle 2 weeks late instead of Baby #4. Therefore I'm leaving you F17 mamas, but wishing all of you a happy & healthy pregnancy! 

Peace!

mjsommer

I hope a baby is in your future!  Good luck and I'll be praying for you. 

mrslittlemac

I'm sorry. Take care of yourself, fingers crossed for a little one in your very near future! *hug*

BumpasaurusRex

Im sorry.

poofwok

I'm so sorry.

blush64

I am sorry.

ChaoticWolf

Lurking from J17

Wait... So did you not take an hpt test? Were you just assuming you were pregnant based on your lmp? I'm confused.

MamaCoffin

PaukMeKiande said:

Lurking from J17

Wait... So did you not take an hpt test? Were you just assuming you were pregnant based on your lmp? I'm confused.

I didn't want to be rude but I was wondering the same thing....

angeltennis3

MamaCoffin said:

PaukMeKiande said:

Lurking from J17

Wait... So did you not take an hpt test? Were you just assuming you were pregnant based on your lmp? I'm confused.

I didn't want to be rude but I was wondering the same thing....

As was I.....

MamaCoffin

PinkPrincessPiper said:

Turns out a medication I had to take in May more than likely caused me not to ovulate last cycle, resulting in a menstrual cycle 2 weeks late instead of Baby #4. Therefore I'm leaving you F17 mamas, but wishing all of you a happy & healthy pregnancy! 

Peace!

Qfp 


I mean really... I'm not trying to be inconsiderate. But it seems nuts to assume you're pregnant by a "late" period alone. Because unless you were temping you have no idea when your period is actually due. No matter how "regular" you've always been. It seems so silly to join a birth month board without having actual confirmation. 


ETA: and it seems pretty inconsiderate to make an exit post when women here are experiencing actual loss after medically confirmed pregnancies. I think just bowing out silently and gracefully would have been a better idea. 

SenoraKahlo

MamaCoffin said:

PinkPrincessPiper said:

Turns out a medication I had to take in May more than likely caused me not to ovulate last cycle, resulting in a menstrual cycle 2 weeks late instead of Baby #4. Therefore I'm leaving you F17 mamas, but wishing all of you a happy & healthy pregnancy! 

Peace!

Qfp 


I mean really... I'm not trying to be inconsiderate. But it seems nuts to assume you're pregnant by a "late" period alone. Because unless you were temping you have no idea when your period is actually due. No matter how "regular" you've always been. It seems so silly to join a birth month board without having actual confirmation. 


ETA: and it seems pretty inconsiderate to make an exit post when women here are experiencing actual loss after medically confirmed pregnancies. I think just bowing out silently and gracefully would have been a better idea. 

All of this.

joyful08

PaukMeKiande said:

Lurking from J17

Wait... So did you not take an hpt test? Were you just assuming you were pregnant based on your lmp? I'm confused.

This is 100% what I was thinking. 

Gingersnap

Uhhhh......this is weird. 
I'm confused. 

MagicMikki

I am also confused... you posted many times in the Feb. '17 threads.  Why did you think you were pregnant without having taken a HPT??  You even posted about your symptoms and cravings.  WTH!?  This is quite disrespectful to those actually experiencing a loss to post an exit thread with a *TW*, just to tell everyone that your period was late, you (obviously) never bothered to take a HPT (or you got a bunch of BFPs and the spechul snowflayke in you just *knew* that you were totez KTFU), and you were never actually pregnant to begin with.

MamaCoffin

OP 

A lot of us here in February have been actively trying to conceive for quite some time. If I joined the BMB every time I had a "symptom" I would have joined every month for the last 6 months.  Every single 2 week wait was exhausting... And every single BFN was devastating. That doesn't mean it was a loss. And to approach it as such with a TW and its own thread without even ever seeing 2 lines on a pregnancy test is, quite frankly, selfish and self absorbed. 

If your desire truly is to have another baby then I wish you nothing but the best.... But please... In an environment like this please think of everyone here. Not just yourself. 

mrslittlemac

Please go easy on her everyone. I get that in the absence of an hpt it seems presumptive to join a board but as a person who was stuck ttc, I can say from experience your brain can play awful tricks because you want to be pregnant *so* bad. She's at a low place right now, dragging her down and calling her names (spechul snowflayke) is lower than what we should aspire to as human beings, let alone hormonal pregnant people here to support each other. Let her have her moment. OP, please take care of yourself. 

MonaLisaRalphio

@MrsLittleMac I can personally attest that every single person who has commented on this has had "low" moments during TTC - because I went though a lot of those moments with them, over on the TTGP board and elsewhere. We've experienced first-hand the way the mind can mess with you, the way the eyes can play tricks, the way the heart can learn to rip open in new ways, week after month after year. We've seen so many women suffer loss, infertility, and so many other kinds of heartbreak that it would make your head spin. And every single one of them handled her struggle with grace and and poise and dignity. 

No one has called the OP names. She's being asked to explain herself, and for good reason. She's played along here for weeks as if she's pregnant, and it's pretty damn jarring to find out that someone has been untruthful, whether to herself or to others. If OP has a good explanation, this crowd will open their arms to her. Trust me; I've seen unbelievable warmth and kindness and generosity from these women. But OP's original post does not look good for her, unless it was just dashed off and poorly worded to the point of senselessness. Right now, it looks a hell of a lot like someone trying to call something a loss when in reality nothing was ever there in the first place.  

ETA: OP, I and others would be eager to hear an explanation. I'm personally reserving judgment until you provide some clarity on the issue. If you are experiencing a loss, I hope you are able to do whatever you need in order to heal. In any case, when you are ready to TTC again, I suggest joining the TTGP or TTCAL boards. They are full of wonderful people and resources, and would be a better fit for you at this stage. I wish you good health and the best of luck. 

krzyriver

*Lurking from O16*

I really don't think anyone is out of line in their criticism. Considering how early you all are in your pregnancies, there are still many people here who may experience a loss soon. Possibly after years of infertility. Possibly after numerous losses. I'm sure she is disappointed and, if she was active on this board, perhaps she wanted to say goodbye. But she could have, and should have, quietly returned to the TTGP board. 

Gingersnap

If my period is even one day late I'm POAS. 
You didn't and assumed you were pregnant? Or you did and got a negative? And continued to post? 
I'm not trying to be rude, just trying to wrap my head around this. 
The thing that bothers me the most though, if you didn't get a positive, is the trigger warning. 
There is a loss thread right below, and many of us loss mamas in here. 
I really hope you come back to clear this up. 

Xstatic3333

At best, I think this could be a drastic misunderstanding about how the culture of TB works. I know on Babycenter people join their "hopeful" month board, which IMO makes things super annoying, but it is what it is. Now that I think of it, I remember seeing an intro from someone who didn't have a BFP yet. I'll see if I can go back and find it. At worst, well, PP have covered that very well. 

That said OP, I hope you come back and explain yourself and will reserve judgement until then as well. I really want to believe that nobody would use a TW for an unsuccessful cycle just posts away from those experiencing pregnancy loss. 

2014poppy

i have previously experienced a loss and believe that I'm experiencing a loss again but I don't feel the same way. I also POAS at the first possible time so I don't get it, but for whatever reason she felt confident to assume she was pregnant and later found out she is not. She is obviously very disappointed. Can you imagine feeling so confident that you are pregnant that you join a group like this only to find out that you never were? That is devastating. Believe me, I think it is strange not to test and I can't imagine where she is coming from on this. However I personally don't feel upset or disrespected by this post. 

L Jane

I think @MamaCoffin just said what we all were thinking...

This just doesn't make sense. I've had lots of "late" periods, and never once have I just assumed I was pregnant. 

Xstatic3333

I'm so sorry @2014poppy.  

MommaBean

I was wondering the same things and agree that this is a little weird, but ladies, put away your pitchforks. Good luck, OP. Lesson learned.  

poofwok

Don't think anyone took out the pitchforks. I think we're mostly all curious about OP and would appreciate an answer to our questions. It's just a little hard to believe is all.

fourPsinapod

This is all very bizarre... 

Gingersnap

TessAndRob said:

I was wondering the same things and agree that this is a little weird, but ladies, put away your pitchforks. Good luck, OP. Lesson learned.  

If you think this is pitchforks.... well. You must be new here. 

BumpasaurusRex

Just came back to this thread and I'm just....really confused.

kswiger06

@PinkPrincessPiper
I wish you happiness and health in your journey. Goodluck in your future weather ttc or not.

blush64

When I first read this post I assumed she was upset and didn't word things well, I just assumed she would have taken a test because how could you join a board talking about pregnancy symptoms when you aren't pregnant. (And you can buy a test for $1) 

This is just odd. 

FishyMom

This is odd...  and it is VERY apparent that the OP is not coming back to comment or explain. 

MommaBean

Lol technically been around for almost a decade, but back after a 7 year hiatus  

just saying: selfish, self absorbed, "spechul snowflayke"...

annewheeler2

I wish OP would come back and give an answer because I'm so confused 

poofwok

TessAndRob said:

Lol technically been around for almost a decade, but back after a 7 year hiatus  

just saying: selfish, self absorbed, "spechul snowflayke"...

I'm sorry, but they're not wrong. If you never took the time to pee on a stick and then got your period later then you thought, you weren't ever pregnant.
Meaning, you never lost what you didn't have. 

This post in itself is triggering and offensive to women who did test, got a bfp and then suffered a loss. 

As as a previous poster mentioned, OP should have bowed out quietly. Now that all is said and done, it would seem like that's exactly what they've done. However, if OP does come back and has a reasonable explanation then I'm sure everyone will gladly eat their humble pie.