1. I am terrified that I will forget about the new baby. Whether a hot car, or forgetting to bring he/she with me. I'm terrified about the transition and remembering.
2. DD's birthday party is tomorrow. I am still pinning random crap for her party. So far I know its a swim party, and fish/ocean themed. I think I'm going to buy cupcakes from walmart. Not sure what else I'm going to do.
3. We teach VBS at our church Sunday night. I have literally done nothing to prepare. I dreamed about it once though.
DD's school is closed today so that they can transition the rooms from school to summer camp. I only have 6 working days left at work and actually do need to get work done. So my mom offered to watch DD this morning/early afternoon, and she met me at my office to pick DD up since it's sort of half way between our houses. Well I've been at work since about 9am and it's now 10:30 and I don't think I've done an ounce of actual work. I feel guilty because I could be spending this time with DD and not burdening my mom (she doesn't think it's a burden), but at the same time when would I get all my important bumping and facebooking done?????
We took a breastfeeding class last night and one of the biggest pieces of advice the instructor gave us that people don't think about is to limit the hospital visits, especially in the first 24 hours, because it can seriously interfere with developing the breastfeeding relationship. Although it's a totally legitimate excuse I'm going to be totally milking that (HA) and using it as a constant excuse to keep lots of people (including my super annoying BIL) out!!
@texasmama2014 I have not forgotten a baby yet (knock on wood) and I have had 3. What I have forgotten was everything I needed for the baby. The very first time I left for an appointment for our first dd, I brought only the baby, no diaper bag or anything. Luckily I noticed before we got too far from the house.
We took a breastfeeding class last night and one of the biggest pieces of advice the instructor gave us that people don't think about is to limit the hospital visits, especially in the first 24 hours, because it can seriously interfere with developing the breastfeeding relationship. Although it's a totally legitimate excuse I'm going to be totally milking that (HA) and using it as a constant excuse to keep lots of people (including my super annoying BIL) out!!
I wish I had taken this advice with DD - it's soooo true. I'm limiting hospital visits this time.
My confession is that I'm a little freaked out about the immense responsibility that is coming my way. There have been so many stories in the news lately about kids having terrible accidents -- the Cincinnati Zoo one, the alligator, and where I live, a child that was attacked by a mountain lion, and another who fell out of a 6th story window. Then of course the ones left in hot cars. As a 7 month pregnant FTM, it's been terrifying to see all of these stories, plus the way everyone blames the parents and says they should all go to jail. I don't know if there are more than the usual amount of these stories lately, or if I'm just more tuned into them because I'm about to be a FTM. I've been freaking out about it a bit. It's scary to think I won't be able to turn my back on this little guy even for a minute once he's mobile -- but then, I am going to have to turn my back on him from time to time just to function. I can't help but wonder sometimes, "am I going to be good enough?"
And not only is it terrifying to think that something terrible could happen to your child, but then on top of that, you could be shunned by your community (and the whole country/world thanks to social media). When I was growing up, a family we knew lost their toddler daughter because she somehow got out in the driveway, and the dad backed over her in the car. It was terrible, tragic, everyone's worst nightmare. But I don't remember anyone heaping blame on the dad or the family. I do remember the community surrounding them with love and support. Things are so different now. It's a scary time to become a parent.
@Snaps816 I think about the time I finally got fairly confident about my momming skills was when I decided to go all crazy and have another... And the fears have returned, because now if its just me I'm playing zone defense. But the perfect parents on social media (those with and without kids) are out full force I'm so sick of it.
@snaps816 It definitely is a scary, different world. The thought of all the "what ifs" and horrible situations out there can really be terrifying. I know not everyone is religious, but my family is, and something my friend said the other day really stood out to me. I am the queen of playing out all sorts of worst case scenarios in my head and convincing myself these things could happen to us. Her words were: "That is Satan's favorite form of torture... Making you scared of something that isn't actually happening." It robs you of joy.
It's true we live in a world that can be absolutely terrifying, but there is also SO much joy and good. And so much of our joy is from our children. I try to consciously remind myself to stop thinking worst case and live the life we've been given in the absolute best way we can. You are absolutely, 100%, good enough. Don't doubt that.
My confession is that i still have nothing put together for the baby as far as nursery, hospital bag, etc. I had my first session of going into labor and having baby without no medication and it was scary and to top it off the lady giving the class tells us the story of a couple that had to go to give birth to there baby after her class at 7weeks and i am there so i kept thinking about it and sleeping last night was not too good, scare to fail as a parent just like all of you, i just want to keep her safe and do all i can for her, sometimes i feel like i am going to over protect her but just for mommy to have peace of mind.
my husband wont get home till monday from Africa. my oldest is at overnight camp until tomorrow. my youngest is going to spend the night at my moms. sorta wish I could send MIL away too so I can have the house to myself for the first time in years. maybe i will go out to a movie or something by myself...
Married - 4/7/07 Son #1- 2/15/08 Son #2- 8/18/10 Baby 3 due 8/8/16
@SkiChic626 There is no one in the office today except for me... and I have done zero work... I mean I've helped students when they come in... but I spent most of today shopping and watching youtube... there is nothing to do... i even set up my maternity leave folder for my coworkers yesterday....
@Katm89 same here and my boss came for an hour and all i did was do two checks send a few emails and while he was here back to nextflix to watch drop dead diva and i am going home early today my body is just sore today idk why
@emmeline714 I'm leaving at 3:30pm today and then I have to set up for hosting my neighbors baby shower tomorrow. i have to clean my whole house and buy some food for appetizers and cupcakes( I'm getting the main dish catered)... and I have to make 2 more favors because 2 people rsvp'd yesterday lol... but I will be so happy when its over... below is the diaper cake I made for her
We took a breastfeeding class last night and one of the biggest pieces of advice the instructor gave us that people don't think about is to limit the hospital visits, especially in the first 24 hours, because it can seriously interfere with developing the breastfeeding relationship. Although it's a totally legitimate excuse I'm going to be totally milking that (HA) and using it as a constant excuse to keep lots of people (including my super annoying BIL) out!!
I wish I had taken this advice with DD - it's soooo true. I'm limiting hospital visits this time.
Yup! Unless you really are just totally ok with being topless around visitors, keep them out!
We took a breastfeeding class last night and one of the biggest pieces of advice the instructor gave us that people don't think about is to limit the hospital visits, especially in the first 24 hours, because it can seriously interfere with developing the breastfeeding relationship. Although it's a totally legitimate excuse I'm going to be totally milking that (HA) and using it as a constant excuse to keep lots of people (including my super annoying BIL) out!!
I wish I had taken this advice with DD - it's soooo true. I'm limiting hospital visits this time.
Yup! Unless you really are just totally ok with being topless around visitors, keep them out!
Oh I already warned all of my male family members and friends that there will be boobs whipped out with little to no warning. I didn't even bother saying that to the ladies I just assume adult women can handle that sort of thing. That's probably a bad assumption though haha.
@lucypod and @ThisisNumber3 I packed my nursing cover in case people visit... only people we are inviting to meet the baby at the hospital are our parents... my mother will help with delivery... and my dad will most likely pick her up from the hospital, so he will want to meet the baby... my inlaws are going to be invited but they will most likely decline and just wait til we're home
We took a breastfeeding class last night and one of the biggest pieces of advice the instructor gave us that people don't think about is to limit the hospital visits, especially in the first 24 hours, because it can seriously interfere with developing the breastfeeding relationship. Although it's a totally legitimate excuse I'm going to be totally milking that (HA) and using it as a constant excuse to keep lots of people (including my super annoying BIL) out!!
I'm so grateful I don't have a ton of family where we live for this very reason. DH does, but they are very respectful of personal space. And our friends will wait until we get home. The only person I see wanting to hang out at the hospital is my mom and she helped deliver DS. So, her seeing my boobs is not an issue.
I come from a large family with tons of kids so they all want to come meet baby. Some come to the hospital and the rest after we get home. I make sure to have a nursing cover handy out of respect for the men and the little ones.
My confession is that I lurk here a couple times per week just because I want to keep up with how you all are doing. I feel weird participating though.
@bananers we'd love to have you participate! Even if it's only once in a blue moon!
@Katm89 just a note about the nursing cover... When I was at the hospital with DS, they had me trying so many different breastfeeding positions, with rolled up blankets, etc., so it may not really work to have a cover. Even after I knew what I was doing, the cover was a PITA and always made it more difficult. You may just want to kick people out
My confession is that I lurk here a couple times per week just because I want to keep up with how you all are doing. I feel weird participating though.
Don't feel weird!!! But I'm glad you're still checking in with us. The August babies have started coming (twins were just born) so soon enough posts will be more about babies and not pregnancy so it will feel more natural to participate. . I know you're a STM but you can always feel free to ask questions here if you have any.
I've also been following your blog. I love reading your updates!
I am DEFINITELY not using a nursing cover in the hospital. I guess I have a stubborn attitude about it but modesty is definitely not going to be something I'm going to want to have to think about. My opinion about visitors is that people should be respectful and if they're not, then they can deal with seeing something they don't want to see, or be asked to leave. I don't feel like I should have to have that added distraction during those first couple of days and important first BF moments. Maybe that makes me sound like a b**** and unappreciative but I think the whole visitation entitlement has gotten out of control.
With DS1 we found that our visitors kept things respectfully brief, and I tried to just nurse in between visitors. But if he started fussing while someone was there I'd say, "well, I'd better feed him now..." and they would usually get the hint and leave. I was someone who always preferred to nurse with a cover, but you don't need that in the early days when you're concerned about latch or position or keeping baby awake at the breast (DS1 would take like two sucks and be out like a light).
My confession is that I lurk here a couple times per week just because I want to keep up with how you all are doing. I feel weird participating though.
Don't feel weird!!! But I'm glad you're still checking in with us. The August babies have started coming (twins were just born) so soon enough posts will be more about babies and not pregnancy so it will feel more natural to participate. . I know you're a STM but you can always feel free to ask questions here if you have any.
I've also been following your blog. I love reading your updates!
OMG, I just saw @tmk0325 had her twins in the birth announcements thread. Did she post an individual announcement? I didn't see one. Congrats, @tmk0325! I hope things are well with your boys and that your NICU stay is brief and uneventful!
@Lynnlove28 Granny Panty Butt Buddy rightchere! Also only shave to the knee (my thigh hair is dark but so fine it can't even be waxed) and finally put my foot down about a year ago that I will never again shave my bikini area. The pain and bumps are not worth the 8 hrs of smoothness even if it does feel lovely. Oh and I only shave my lower legs if they're going to be showing.
@bananers Like everyone else is saying, please don't feel weird about participating. We'd love to see you back on here more! Also, I saw your comparison pics and can't believe how much Emmett had grown already. From your blog it sounds like he really is a little rock star... And so are you for balancing everything and maintaining such a good attitude.!
I have preferences to the fruit or vegetable TB tells me based on the week of pregnancy.
This week is my fave in that they compared baby's size to a pineapple. I LOVE PINEAPPLES and envisioning baby as the size of a pineapple just makes me think that she's cuter this week than the weeks where they compared baby to endive or butternut squash. I am so weird. x)
My FFFC: I've been cheating on my GD diet. My one daily Coke was my last remaining vice; I've really been struggling with giving it up and having random bouts of nausea all week make it harder. So in the mornings I've been drinking a fountain drink with breakfast. I get the smallest cup (which is still pretty big), fill it 2/3 with Coke Zero and the other third with cherry Coke... Just enough to overpower the diet-y taste. I know it's not a ton of sugar and my post-breakfast numbers are always in range but I still feel really guilty.
My FFFC is that I hate fruit. Like seriously freaking hate it. I can handle the occasional grapefruit, raspberries, or a kiwi but everything else is disgusting to me.
I am DEFINITELY not using a nursing cover in the hospital. I guess I have a stubborn attitude about it but modesty is definitely not going to be something I'm going to want to have to think about. My opinion about visitors is that people should be respectful and if they're not, then they can deal with seeing something they don't want to see, or be asked to leave. I don't feel like I should have to have that added distraction during those first couple of days and important first BF moments. Maybe that makes me sound like a b**** and unappreciative but I think the whole visitation entitlement has gotten out of control.
Yup, this. I was never able to get comfortable using a cover. Especially not in the hospital, and I don't even plan to bring one with me this time.
@Mfuller76 I cheat on my GD diet every day. I'm not quite convinced I even have GD to be honest. I've pretty much figured out how to keep my numbers in check.
Another GD related confession, I lied about a couple numbers on my log sheet the first week or two I had it. When I had my first appointment she took my meter and went through it which I had no idea they would do. I guess that's my karma though lol.
@texasmama2014 and @Snaps816 - I also suffer greatly from these fears. I hear these stories in the news and instead of thinking "what horrible parents", I think "that could be me". No parent is perfect. Accidents do happen, and I worry that something could happen to rip one of my beautiful children away from me too soon. My DH says I'm just a worrier (and I am), but I feel like it's such a huge responsibility to keep little ones safe when there is so much that can happen to them. In our family, we recently had a 2 1/2 year old boy that accidently shot and killed himself at a babysitter's house. Now I am super paranoid about asking everywhere I go if there are guns and if they are locked up. I'm just sick about the whole thing.
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I headed over to July to read the suggested thread. Thanks for the tip, it was amusing. While I was over there I thought I would read their most recent FFFC thread.
My FFFC: I couldn't even get past the first page of the thread because the signatures and GIF's they used really annoy me. Talk about overdone! Why would you need a signature that takes up nearly an entire computer screen for a 1 - 2 sentence style of forum? I'm glad we don't have any such clutter on our threads.
Re: FFFC 6/24/16
2. DD's birthday party is tomorrow. I am still pinning random crap for her party. So far I know its a swim party, and fish/ocean themed. I think I'm going to buy cupcakes from walmart. Not sure what else I'm going to do.
3. We teach VBS at our church Sunday night. I have literally done nothing to prepare. I dreamed about it once though.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
And not only is it terrifying to think that something terrible could happen to your child, but then on top of that, you could be shunned by your community (and the whole country/world thanks to social media). When I was growing up, a family we knew lost their toddler daughter because she somehow got out in the driveway, and the dad backed over her in the car. It was terrible, tragic, everyone's worst nightmare. But I don't remember anyone heaping blame on the dad or the family. I do remember the community surrounding them with love and support. Things are so different now. It's a scary time to become a parent.
You are good enough. By the way.
It's true we live in a world that can be absolutely terrifying, but there is also SO much joy and good. And so much of our joy is from our children. I try to consciously remind myself to stop thinking worst case and live the life we've been given in the absolute best way we can. You are absolutely, 100%, good enough. Don't doubt that.
maybe i will go out to a movie or something by myself...
Son #1- 2/15/08
Son #2- 8/18/10
Baby 3 due 8/8/16
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
@Katm89 just a note about the nursing cover... When I was at the hospital with DS, they had me trying so many different breastfeeding positions, with rolled up blankets, etc., so it may not really work to have a cover. Even after I knew what I was doing, the cover was a PITA and always made it more difficult. You may just want to kick people out
I've also been following your blog. I love reading your updates!
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Also only shave to the knee (my thigh hair is dark but so fine it can't even be waxed) and finally put my foot down about a year ago that I will never again shave my bikini area. The pain and bumps are not worth the 8 hrs of smoothness even if it does feel lovely. Oh and I only shave my lower legs if they're going to be showing.
This week is my fave in that they compared baby's size to a pineapple. I LOVE PINEAPPLES and envisioning baby as the size of a pineapple just makes me think that she's cuter this week than the weeks where they compared baby to endive or butternut squash. I am so weird. x)
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Another GD related confession, I lied about a couple numbers on my log sheet the first week or two I had it. When I had my first appointment she took my meter and went through it which I had no idea they would do. I guess that's my karma though lol.
My FFFC: I couldn't even get past the first page of the thread because the signatures and GIF's they used really annoy me. Talk about overdone! Why would you need a signature that takes up nearly an entire computer screen for a 1 - 2 sentence style of forum? I'm glad we don't have any such clutter on our threads.