@MRSCORKER I decided not to tell anyone our names after a while because I would say them, and people would just fall silent, then in two octaves higher than their normal voice say, "Ohhhhh neeeeeattt." It made me feel sad. The name you chose was great, and no one will notice or care once the babe is born and it is attached to them.
@annabenanna... no worries! You'll get them done. You're not alone here. I wrote mine the night before our wedding and so did DH... we made each other and the guests both laugh and cry. They were perfect and yours will be too!
I was so mad at DH last night I went out and got an ugly hair cut just to get out of the house by myself. DH said it was hideous the moment I got home and I defended it mercilessly because I just wanted to be contrary and piss him off.
Edit to clarify: I didn't intend to get an ugly cut, it just kind of happened. I got overzealous with how short I wanted my hair and, well, oops.
@TurtleMomma I have done something similar. But I did it on purpose. My ex H used to be a super jerk and make fun of my younger punk rock years and my style and blah blah blah. So one day I went out and shaved all of my hair off that I had been growing out for a year to appease him into a mohawk. Like, sides shaved down to a 1, 10" standing mohawk.
The name you picked is perfect @MRSCORKER because the only opinion that matters is yours. A lot of family and friends don't really like our name either, but that's ok. They don't have to. The've all named their kids as they wanted, even if it's not my favorite.
@annabenanna you are very brave for writing your own vows! I never could, I was already too much of a nervous wreck. I hope everything goes well today!
I am taking my baby to a Bone Thugs-N-Harmony concert tonight - eek! My H got tickets months ago and is sooo excited. Me...not so much - sober & pregnant & Thuggish Ruggish Bone don't seem like they're gonna mix well, haha! My only saving grace is that it's a poolside concert at a casino, so hopefully it won't be quite so loud and maybe there will be a breeze? *Wishful thinking!*
@LauraPCOS speaking of that...I was on a walk in my neighborhood yesterday, and THERE WAS A COMPLETELY NAKED MAN WALKING AROUND. Like....not one piece of clothing. He sauntered into another neighborhood but holy moly it made for a lively Thursday
@bnsmith85 Yea an older couple was keeping a lookout on where he went and such, so I'm assuming they called someone. Hopefully. I had crazy pregnant dreams that he was knocking on our door too hahahahah so gross.
As a former history teacher, I did make the connection to a president, but otherwise I stopped thinking too deeply into the name as those two names are both very traditional type of names, so it could just be coincidence. It's one thing to honestly and respectfully ask how someone came up with that name, but that didn't happen in this situation. At the end of the day, I hope that the parents are truly happy with the name choice as it should only matters to the parents and LO.
My name we picked out for our LO is not as traditional, but when researching it I found out it's based on a fictional character that was a pirate and killed six of his own men.. Now, if we avoided the name of every "bad" girl or boy, we'd have a very short list of names, and might have to resort to the name blending idea that that horrid app suggested (I read about that in another thread that suggested combining two names and creating something totally unique).
My FFFC is that we have now visited five or six day care facilities in our area and I'm totally at a loss as to which to choose. I have made spreadsheets, interviewed friends,read reviews, and the Dept of Social Services info pages on each and I feel like I am no better off than having my cat pick a place for the LO. It bothers me I don't have one clear cut "winner" where I will be investing 13-15K a year on my child's care, safety, and learning.
@Piperella ... one thing that helped me narrow things down was seeing how the teachers were with the kids. The schools that made it to the top of the list were ones where I walked in the room and felt like they were more than just babysitters because, to your point, I'm paying an arm and a leg for this. I want you to be engaged with my child so that she is not only safe but constantly learning. I'm sure you've thought of that or even got that feeling when walking in the door at some places. But I figured I'd share just in case because I know I was overwhelmed with looking at everything so little things were easy to miss.
ETA: that wasn't the only thing I looked at... but it's something that's harder to pinpoint and not an easy yes they do or no they don't answer... more of a feeling.
@LauraPCOS speaking of that...I was on a walk in my neighborhood yesterday, and THERE WAS A COMPLETELY NAKED MAN WALKING AROUND. Like....not one piece of clothing. He sauntered into another neighborhood but holy moly it made for a lively Thursday
I'd just like to say one thing... Of all of the offensive people that someone could name their child I would think that there are a lot more obvious ones than James Monroe. If someone makes the connection between him and the president and then automatically goes to the negative, that's their problem. They're both pretty tradition names. Even Robert Lee, I definitely made that connection, but figured it's a family name or something and left it at that. Like Piperella said, she made the connection, but didn't put that much thought into it.
I guess my confession then is: I think that whole thing is damn silly and just pot stirring. @MRSCORKER I like Jamie's name and the sentiment behind it and all that matters is that you like it!
My confession is that there are certain people on this board who I only seem to see when they want to pick a fight, get offended, or say something mean. So I avoid all their posts. They might be perfectly nice people, but I've only caught the rude posts so I wouldn't know.
@MRSCORKER I haven't caught up on the name thread but I LOVE James Monroe. James is our baby's middle name and everyone is begging us to let them call him James or Jamie instead of Enzo. I would've been fine with that except James is my husband's middle name too and getting that even as a middle name was a battle because he didn't want the baby named after him.
It's not like you're making our child Osama Bin Landen. JFC.
We were going to name the twins Jack and Ruby if they were B/G. My FIL immediately made the connection of Jack Ruby, the man who shot Lee Harvey Oswald. And then we moved on. It's 2016. There are millions of names associated with people who have done bad things. Maybe the new James Monroe will cure cancer.
TLDR: not giving your child a name you like because it's associated with a "terrible" historical figure is DUMB.
My confession is that there are certain people on this board who I only seem to see when they want to pick a fight, get offended, or say something mean. So I avoid all their posts. They might be perfectly nice people, but I've only caught the rude posts so I wouldn't know.
I've noticed a few board members who pop in from time to time, post some google-smart facts to show off how clever they are, or I'm-not-sayin'-just-sayin'-behold my-superiority opinions while raining on somebody else's parade, then run back off into the shadows until they see a new opportunity to do it again. I mean sure, they're "contributing information", but that's pretty much the extent of their involvement with the board. And I wouldn't pay much mind, because 9.5 times out of 10, they're being extremely over analytical and critical of the topic at hand anyway. That being said, occasionally they do have something useful to say. I would just like to point out that just dropping by to add your two cents, especially when it typically has more of a negative undertone, then bouncing out probably isn't the best way to "contribute" to a community, regardless of how relevant what you have to say may seem to you. That is all.
I've noticed a few board members who pop in from time to time, post some google-smart facts to show off how clever they are, or I'm-not-sayin'-just-sayin'-behold my-superiority opinions while raining on somebody else's parade, then run back off into the shadows until they see a new opportunity to do it again. I mean sure, they're "contributing information", but that's pretty much the extent of their involvement with the board. And I wouldn't pay much mind, because 9.5 times out of 10, they're being extremely over analytical and critical of the topic at hand anyway. That being said, occasionally they do have something useful to say. I would just like to point out that just dropping by to add your two cents, especially when it typically has more of a negative undertone, then bouncing out probably isn't the best way to "contribute" to a community, regardless of how relevant what you have to say may seem to you. That is all.
Edit: Spellz.
I agree so much with what you said there. Every time I read a post that I think wow that's a little too critical, judgmental, know-it-all, or mean spirited it always seems to be the same user names, but I never see those user names posting anything positive or even a general fun weekly post.
@sjo_thetwins Word. I'm with everything you said there, especially as a mom who named her daughter Dylan. Get the eff over it. Lindsey and Lauren started off as "masculine" names at one point, too. Dylan, my sweet little girl, freaking rocks her "boy" name.
@CopperBoom86 I thought the same thing: it get very aggressive and out of nowhere. I'm passive-aggressive as well.
My FFC: It's currently 5:22 pm and I have yet to shower nor brush my teeth. I know that's hideous, but shrug.
Edited: haven't been able to type well in three days!
@MRSCORKER If you got this attention with James Monroe, where the average person that is not an American History Buff will even figure out there is a connection (because as hard as the person that commented something about weeping for the education system might believe, not everyone is from America, or been exposed to American history, or even truly cares!) - can you imagine what I would have gotten if I admitted that originally when I was planning for a family, if I had a girl I wanted to name her Marie Antoinette, and even my mother said "because she'll be a glutton that gets beheaded?" my response "Why yes, but she'll go down with attitude bitches!"
Is it a confession that the ladies saying how hard it must be to work full time are making me feel like a super hero after a week where I've felt like a failure of an employee? Thank you
Clearly anyone who would disrespect the nn Jamie has never read or watched the magnificence that is Outlander. And let's be real, you just don't need that kind of bullshit in your life.
You read my mind @NoraAurora. I'm late to this party, but Jamie will forever be masculine enough for me. If H didn't already have a sister named Jamie, it'd be on our list for our little boy. Photographic evidence:
@MRSCORKER I was late to that shit show because my phone has been acting like a bitter ex (side-eye my iPhone 5). Having said that, the name--and nickname--you have chosen is beautiful and has a nice flow and has a very touching meaning behind it because of your grandfather. Do it. Girl, please.
@MRSCORKER I like your name choice and I think Jamie is a perfectly acceptable NN for James. I went to school with a male Jamie and no on ever questioned it being feminine.
Re: FFFC 6.24.2016
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
@annabenanna I wrote mine on hotel stationary 5 hours prior. no worries
also my FFFC is that my mother still pays for random things for me, and I wont let her stop.
we are going to see my brother down in Maryland this weekend and shes paying for our hotel room. sorry not sorry.
Edit to clarify: I didn't intend to get an ugly cut, it just kind of happened. I got overzealous with how short I wanted my hair and, well, oops.
@annabenanna you are very brave for writing your own vows! I never could, I was already too much of a nervous wreck. I hope everything goes well today!
My name we picked out for our LO is not as traditional, but when researching it I found out it's based on a fictional character that was a pirate and killed six of his own men.. Now, if we avoided the name of every "bad" girl or boy, we'd have a very short list of names, and might have to resort to the name blending idea that that horrid app suggested (I read about that in another thread that suggested combining two names and creating something totally unique).
My FFFC is that we have now visited five or six day care facilities in our area and I'm totally at a loss as to which to choose. I have made spreadsheets, interviewed friends,read reviews, and the Dept of Social Services info pages on each and I feel like I am no better off than having my cat pick a place for the LO. It bothers me I don't have one clear cut "winner" where I will be investing 13-15K a year on my child's care, safety, and learning.
ETA: that wasn't the only thing I looked at... but it's something that's harder to pinpoint and not an easy yes they do or no they don't answer... more of a feeling.
I guess my confession then is: I think that whole thing is damn silly and just pot stirring. @MRSCORKER I like Jamie's name and the sentiment behind it and all that matters is that you like it!
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
We were going to name the twins Jack and Ruby if they were B/G. My FIL immediately made the connection of Jack Ruby, the man who shot Lee Harvey Oswald. And then we moved on. It's 2016. There are millions of names associated with people who have done bad things. Maybe the new James Monroe will cure cancer.
TLDR: not giving your child a name you like because it's associated with a "terrible" historical figure is DUMB.
Me: 28 DH: 27
Me: 28 DH: 27
That being said, occasionally they do have something useful to say. I would just like to point out that just dropping by to add your two cents, especially when it typically has more of a negative undertone, then bouncing out probably isn't the best way to "contribute" to a community, regardless of how relevant what you have to say may seem to you.
That is all.
Edit: Spellz.
@CopperBoom86 I thought the same thing: it get very aggressive and out of nowhere. I'm passive-aggressive as well.
My FFC: It's currently 5:22 pm and I have yet to shower nor brush my teeth. I know that's hideous, but shrug.
Edited: haven't been able to type well in three days!
edit: because ya that didn't make sense
also, YUM!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016