Over the past two years, my husband and I have been thinking more and more that where we live may not be for us. I'm from here (just outside of Washington, DC) and my husband is from another part of the state. Moving here was the safe choice after grad school because of the job opportunities and because our parents would be within driving distance (mine about 20 mins away, his about 2hrs). Eight years later, we own a home and have a three year old and a new baby. We both have stable (although not terribly lucrative) jobs as public school teachers. Our parents are very involved in our kids' lives and help out whenever we ask.
Despite the pros, there are many cons that seem to be carrying more and more weight lately. It's expensive to live here, it's fast-paced and competitive, and although we have friends and great neighbors, in general people here are not very friendly and it's easy to get lost in the shuffle. Although there are many opportunities here, we're concerned about the effect of this environment on our kids as they grow up. Ideally, we would like to be in a much smaller, slower-paced and more friendly community. We're drawn to the idea of moving to a completely different part of the country but realize that comes with more risks than a shorter-distance move.
I'm curious - has anyone else made the decision to move for these reasons? Or maybe just some validation that we're not totally crazy to consider it.
Re: Considering a big move
We have been fantasizing about moving South for years, before we had our first child. We live in a HCOL area and we aren't fans of the prolonged winters (NJ). But the guilt of moving our kids away from their family makes me feel so guilty and I often wonder if that would be something I'd come to regret. I never lived close to my own family growing up and while I have relationships with my cousins, I imagine it might have been different had we lived closer.
As far as advice, I don't really have any. My gut tells me that the possibilities of having a better quality of life would be paramount in another area but that's mainly financial (which is huge, of course). But does that outweigh a better quality of life in terms of being close to family? We haven't determined that yet.
I'm glad I'm not the only one!
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Good luck. I know living here can be rough and I hope you're able to find a way to be happy here or somewhere else.
I would consider this because you're a family living strictly on two teacher incomes. Teacher salaries and the working conditions/expectations are much different in other areas of the country. I would advise you do some serious research on schools, school culture, teacher culture/expectation/evaluation systems and salaries before making any decisions. I was in shock at how different the education system was when I moved and I had difficult time adjusting at first.