Naming the Baby....

lleigh1231

Good morning everyone!  I hope all enjoyed their Father's Day weekend.
My husband and I have been having a hard time figuring out a name for our little one... I've gotten my parents opinion and the in-laws' opinions...but we feel the complete opposite of them. 
Name WE LOVE but they dislike: Piper Leigh
Names THEY LIKE but my husband is leaning towards one and I the other:  Brooke Leigh   Or   Leann Elizabeth (Leann Brooke/haven't decided on a middle for this one)

part of of us wants to say "forget it" and name her Piper since we both really like the name.
We are stuck.... Is Piper really that awful of a name for a girl?  
This was so much easier when we picked Wyatt for our son......

ugggggg ... I'm a planner so not having her name ready to go is driving me up a wall.  
Thank you in advance for your opinions!  I hope you all are having an easier time than we are picking out a name for your cutie!
have a great rest of your day.

Mintz1982

I feel your pain I basically told my own mother she has no say in the naming and she continues to suggest things. Maybe don't tell them just say we picked a name in a few days but we want it to be a surprise. They will be sonic love with the tiny person who was just born they won't care about her name till it's to late. 

NicholeL16

It's you baby. Name her what you want. The grandparents will get over it. 

Sprinkels28

I agree with PP--- this is your child. You should name your child what you want! I have quickly learned to not involve others

von1976

Why would you take any input on your child's name at all? It's your child, name her what you want.

mothernorth

I love Piper. And the only little girl I personally know named piper is 8 or 9, and I adore her and her personality so I may be a bit biased to to sentiment

Piperella

I named my one of my dogs Piper, but if a girl, her name would be Piper or Poppy.  I completely agree that it's totally up to you and your DH as to what you name her.

queen_frostine

I love the name Piper. I don't know why you care what they think. Even if they don't like the name now, when they have a beautiful granddaughter with that name they will start to like it. Just curious, are you a Charmed fan? Piper and Wyatt are two characters from the show... but I doubt most people would notice anymore since it's been off the air so long!

LauraPCOS

I like Piper, isn't that Iron Man's girlfriend's name (Gwenth Paltro?).  I like the name for our boy Jace, and my whole family went "oh..." And yet I'm sticking to my guns because at the end of the day it's my (and hubby's) little boy and we have our reasons for naming him Jace and if they don't like it they can go have their own baby and name it!

duckmay

Yeah, grandparents don't get a say, and if you think about it, they're likely to have different taste than you and your husband because they're from a different generation when different names were popular. My mom would love for us to name this baby Stephanie, which is a perfectly fine name but sounds to me and my husband like it's for someone our age, you know?

Piper's not really my style, but there's nothing wrong with it. Stand firm in your choice!

kathleenkat

This is why my husband and I don't discuss name ideas with anyone. Everybody has to have a goddamn opinion. Pick a name and don't share it until she gets here.

CopperBoom86

I fail to see a problem. You and your husband like the name Piper. Your child's name is Piper. End of story. 

LMNOBaby

We're not sharing our names with anyone!  Everyone asks and we just keep lips zipped. We're team green so we have a couple for boy, a couple for girl - we're going to pick the day we meet the little one.  And everyone can find out then!  This way we don't have to watch people's faces go "huh, really?" if they don't agree...or listen to them make "better" suggestions...

Also, I say it's no one's decision but you and your husband's - are the grandparents growing baby for 9 months, watching their body make unspeakable changes?  Are they going through labor?  Are they going to be doing middle of the night feedings several times a night? I say you win on name choice and they'll have to live with the result... Trust me, they'll get over it once they're snuggling their grandchild!

waterfall213

This is why we don't discuss names with anyone else. Our baby's name will be announced after we meet her and make a final decision, just like we did with her 2 big sisters. 

simcal18

LMNOBaby said:

We're not sharing our names with anyone!  Everyone asks and we just keep lips zipped. We're team green so we have a couple for boy, a couple for girl - we're going to pick the day we meet the little one.  And everyone can find out then!  This way we don't have to watch people's faces go "huh, really?" if they don't agree...or listen to them make "better" suggestions...

Also, I say it's no one's decision but you and your husband's - are the grandparents growing baby for 9 months, watching their body make unspeakable changes?  Are they going through labor?  Are they going to be doing middle of the night feedings several times a night? I say you win on name choice and they'll have to live with the result... Trust me, they'll get over it once they're snuggling their grandchild!

This.  We're working on putting together a list of 2-3 names each for a boy and a girl.  We are discussing the names with NO ONE beforehand.  Not because we're embarrassed by our choices, or because they're weird or unpopular, but because people have wildly different tastes and preferences when it comes to names, and discussing the topic with people gives them free reign to offer their opinions on what is ultimately a personal decision.

Picking out a name is hard.  Getting two people to agree on a name is harder.  I can't imagine trying to get 6 people (2 parents + 4 grandparents) to come to a consensus.  That's insane.

samkins

We are purposely not telling anyone the name. It's our kid and we will name her what we like, I don't want my parents' opinion or anyone else's. They'll just have to love her no matter what when she's born. 

So I obviously vote for Piper if that's what you both really love.  

Mintz1982

LauraPCOS said:

I like Piper, isn't that Iron Man's girlfriend's name (Gwenth Paltro?).  I like the name for our boy Jace, and my whole family went "oh..." And yet I'm sticking to my guns because at the end of the day it's my (and hubby's) little boy and we have our reasons for naming him Jace and if they don't like it they can go have their own baby and name it!

Pepper is iron man's girlfriend kids are marvel freaks. 

sportiegrl1213

My MIL kills me sometimes... We are naming our son Thomas, he will the 5th. I had no choice for the boys name, DH wanted to keep tradition going. So I said we will be calling him Tommy and my DH mom goes "I don't like Tommy." Really?!? Your HUSBAND and SON are both Tommy as well! I pretty much laughed in her face and said too bad, my kid. 


PS LOVE the name Piper, that was one of my girls names we picked out.

von1976

Huh. We aren't being secretive. We'll tell other people what names we've chosen. I honestly don't give a flying-you-know-what if they don't like it, and I'll politely tell them so. But maybe I'm a biatch.

scostel2

I've been telling people because I honestly don't care what anyone else thinks about the names. If someone else's opinion would affect me, I probably wouldn't tell them because I wouldn't want to be disappointed but I'm pretty firmly in the DGAF camp when it comes to other people's opinions on potential baby names.

UponAStar16

We made the mistake of telling (which some people apparently think is the same as asking for their vote??) some people about the first name we were thinking of. I learned then that it's best to not tell anyone, and ever since I just tell people we have ideas but haven't decided. People suggesting other names is just ridiculous, and I would not even consider those names unless they were already names you had thought of, and only if you consider them because of your own reasons for liking them.

kathleenkat

I don't give a flying fuck what people think, the only thing I care about is that it's none of their business. They are asking because they want something to talk about. My daughter's name is not a topic of discussion. So , I don't discuss the name ideas (even when they press and press and press).

LauraPCOS

Mintz1982 said:

LauraPCOS said:

I like Piper, isn't that Iron Man's girlfriend's name (Gwenth Paltro?).  I like the name for our boy Jace, and my whole family went "oh..." And yet I'm sticking to my guns because at the end of the day it's my (and hubby's) little boy and we have our reasons for naming him Jace and if they don't like it they can go have their own baby and name it!

Pepper is iron man's girlfriend kids are marvel freaks. 

I was trying to remember if it was Pepper or Piper.  I was leaning towards Pepper, but then baby brain kicked in and was all "is it?? Is it Piper and I'm just hearing Pepper?"

klv

There are 2 people who get a say when it comes to naming a child. The one that carries it for 9ish months, and the one who put it there. 

Grandparents will have to get over it. It's not like they will never talk to you again because they don't like the name you picked. 

klv

Also, I love Piper

BabySunshine4

I love the name Piper! I think if you and your husband like  the name than who cares what other think. 

Schell2013

My husband and I cannot agree. He loves it, I hate it. I love it he hates it. Poor kid will probably be names less for a week! 

babyblues3

DD2 her name is Piper Elizabeth. Everyone that hears her name loves it. So my vote is for Piper. We did keep her name a secret until she was born from everyone just because we wanted a surprise after she was born. It doesn't bother me to get other peoples opinions on a name but the decision is up to DH and me. 

Kaessi

@Schell2013 Yep, same situation here. It's so frustrating!!

Schell2013

Kaessi said:

@Schell2013 Yep, same situation here. It's so frustrating!!

It is! First baby it didn't take us long, second was 4 days and this time we can't even agree on a single name so I have a slight feeling it will be worse this time! 

Chcaggie1

Of the names you listed I love Piper Leigh the most it is beautiful. However, my opinion and all others besides yours and your husbands is irrelevant in this conversation. This is your child, you will have to call her name 1 billion times, sign her name on infinite documents, explain to people how you chose the name etc. You should absolutely adore the name and be 1000% proud of it.

Hubby and I selected the names of our kiddos just the two of us and didn't share with anyone until we were both confident we loved the names. Once we were settled we shared the name and did NOT ask for opinions. Thankfully usually they responded with "oh that's really pretty". My grandmother didn't approve of the spelling but it wasn't her choice and the decision had already been made. So if you and your husband are in agreement on one name then that should be the name. Unfortunately, you did already ask your parents their opinion so they may be a little sad and will probably feel they have the right to weigh in (you basically gave them that right) but stand firm and let them know you appreciate their feedback but this is the name you all have settled on.

kmvisioli

People love to give opinions on names before baby is born, but generally will keep their judgements and comments to themselves once you introduce them to the actual baby. Don't ask for opinions if they make you feel upset or frustrated, and just go with what you love! 

maysmiles

@LMNOBaby
Could not agree more. With DS, we were team green. We took a list of names to the hospital and he didnt have a name until he was 24 hours old. No one knew the names on the list and by the time he had a name, he had a face too and everyone was just happy that he was healthy and adorable they really didnt care about the name. This time around, we plan to do the same thing. Everyone has an opinion and you have to be comfortable with the name- think about how many times you are going to say it!!!

Kc0825

We keep our name a secret until our baby comes out. It's kinda hard to do but I know my parents have swayed my decisions in the past and people have so many opinions it's hard to do what you want. When our baby comes ouy the first people to know the name are the people in the room. Which then it goes on a paper and it's settled. At that point in time everyone keeps their true opinions to themselves. 

lleigh1231

Thanks for all the support.  It just has been annoyingly difficult to listen to the opinions of the grandparents... It wasn't so much that we asked for their opinion but rather it was given to us once we shared the list of names we were considering... I guess it is our fault for sharing ... Lesson learned if we ever have a third.  I'll have to remember the way I feel right now once my little babes start having kids of their own.... 

kathleenkat

lleigh1231 said:

Thanks for all the support.  It just has been annoyingly difficult to listen to the opinions of the grandparents... It wasn't so much that we asked for their opinion but rather it was given to us once we shared the list of names we were considering... I guess it is our fault for sharing ... Lesson learned if we ever have a third.  I'll have to remember the way I feel right now once my little babes start having kids of their own.... 

You're not alone. I've never heard so many unsolicited opinions in my life as I do now while pregnant. And I thought my wedding planning was bad. 

queen_frostine

My policy is "Think twice before you give us your opinion, because you won't make us like the name less, but you might make us like you less."

maf9866

My 3 year old DD is named Piper Leigh! I have loved the name Piper since middle school (thanks to Charmed- I saw someone mention it and it's absolutely where I took DD's name from). We were team green with our first and it was the only name I brought to the table. My mom told me one day that if I name her Piper she would call her Pippi (as in Longstockings) and I simply said 'deal'. Months went by, I had the baby, named her Piper and my mom does call her Pippi (although Piper and Pippi are used about the same except by me). Everyone agreed from the beginning that there is no other name that would fit her. Now I'm pregnant with my second girl and every time my mom shoots down a name I like, I remind her that she didn't like Piper either!! 

Michi1382

I echo the sentiments of others. Your baby--your decision. The grandparents will get over it and if they don't, oh well. 

Mabry

Piper is a great name, if you love it go with it. I love it but we already know a Piper. A gorgeous 5 year old with beautiful dark curls and the biggest blue eyes.

My2016Love

Well I've always just thought I would be having a boy this time around! And I had a name picked out. But come to find out the baby is a girl.Well 70% lol whatever that means.The ultrasound tech said that cause she didn't see a turtle. I'm confused should I go with that answer?