I'll start. The judgement I get from people when I tell them that we formula fed DD and plan on the same thing with this LO is ridiculous. It's a decision that I made with DH that I don't need to explain or justify to anyone. It's best for us. I don't need you telling me how much better it is to breast feed, ect.
I also don't get why people judge formula fed versus breastfeeding. None of their damn business. Same with unmedicated birth versus medicated. Not your body, not your decision and keep your opinion to yourself.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My UO is I have a delivery gown I am debating on purchasing. I know it's ridiculous, but I just want one and the matching pillowcase. I've seen our hospital gowns and they are ok. Someone talk me off this third trimester nesting ledge.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@midwestbaby just buy the special gown for goodness sake!! You're worth it!
I like you.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@Katienu I love being pregnant also. Not that I don't have pregnancy symptoms like everyone else, but they seem to be over shadowed by the end result, the Baby! I like that I don't get a period, I love the feel of baby kicking and squirming around inside, people are so much nicer to pregnant women, bumps are super cute, I feel so feminine and love sporting my ever changing body. I could go on but you know what I mean.
My UO is I have a delivery gown I am debating on purchasing. I know it's ridiculous, but I just want one and the matching pillowcase. I've seen our hospital gowns and they are ok. Someone talk me off this third trimester nesting ledge.
So glad you said this! I will be purchasing one too. And for anyone who thinks its a waste of money can keep that to themselves too. I hated the hospital gown, they lift it constantly to adjust monitors and I want one made that has openings on the tummy area so they can be adjusted without showing my goods to the entire room. I don't know what your plan is in delivery but I had an epidural and didn't push for hours when it was time. So I didn't have any issues with the gown I wore and never changed it once. I'd like something a bit more comfortable this time around. Sue me.
My UO...I think it is gross when women don't shave their armpits. Furry legs are not a big deal to me but I cannot deal with seeing long armpit hair on a female. Doesn't it get itchy? Doesn't your deodorant get stuck and make little yucky balls? Doesn't it hold odor worse? If I didn't have dh, I could go almost all winter without shaving my legs, but I shave my armpits every time I shower!
@Lynnlove28 Anyone who keeps a baby alive, healthy and loved deserves mad props, no matter how they make it happen. If BF doesn't work for someone, it's not going to be good for the baby in the long run either. Also, I think the judge-y ones have some deep rooted insecurities they're overcompensating for.
My (random NBR) UO: I'm anti-Oxford comma. I cringe every time I see one.
My UO...I think it is gross when women don't shave their armpits. Furry legs are not a big deal to me but I cannot deal with seeing long armpit hair on a female. Doesn't it get itchy? Doesn't your deodorant get stuck and make little yucky balls? Doesn't it hold odor worse? If I didn't have dh, I could go almost all winter without shaving my legs, but I shave my armpits every time I shower!
I'm loling at this whole thing. I'm totally guilty of the hairy armpits thing. I mean they aren't like Madonna or Miley Cyrus length or anything but sometimes it's longer than it ever should be. DH calls me out for it sometimes at night when I'm wearing a cami and I will immediately go shave. I don't wear a lot of tank tops or if I do, I wear a sweater or jacket so I don't notice it that often. It's not itchy, doesn't make odor worse and I don't have any issues with deodorant. It is totally gross and ugly though.
My UO is I have a delivery gown I am debating on purchasing. I know it's ridiculous, but I just want one and the matching pillowcase. I've seen our hospital gowns and they are ok. Someone talk me off this third trimester nesting ledge.
Get it, but don't use it for your actual delivery - use it after so you can get cute pics
Katienu I love being pregnant, too. Both of my pregnancies have been relatively tame (getting there was the hard part). If we had the time and money were no concern, I would keep doing it. I get jealous when I see pregnant women...it used to be because I couldn't get pregnant, but now it's because I love being pregnant. I'm HOPING that we go for #3 at some point, but we're going to see how life is with two and then decide later.
My UO is that if you park like an a-hole, you'd sure as heck better expect that I'm going to hit your car with my car door (and I secretly hope I leave a mark). Especially if it's on the side where I have to put DD into the car because I need all the space to fit her to get buckled in plus my big belly, and if you're on or over that line, well you must have known that you had it coming.
@Lynnlove28 Anyone who keeps a baby alive, healthy and loved deserves mad props, no matter how they make it happen. If BF doesn't work for someone, it's not going to be good for the baby in the long run either. Also, I think the judge-y ones have some deep rooted insecurities they're overcompensating for.
My (random NBR) UO: I'm anti-Oxford comma. I cringe every time I see one.
My UO...I think it is gross when women don't shave their armpits. Furry legs are not a big deal to me but I cannot deal with seeing long armpit hair on a female. Doesn't it get itchy? Doesn't your deodorant get stuck and make little yucky balls? Doesn't it hold odor worse? If I didn't have dh, I could go almost all winter without shaving my legs, but I shave my armpits every time I shower!
I've been contemplating getting laser hair removal on my arm pits, and this UO convo has convinced me to bite the bullet after baby is born. I currently shave them everyday, but my hair is dark, so even if I shave in the morning you can see the dark shadow again by the time the workday is over....it's not cute.
@katienu I loved being pregnant with my first and I am still liking it this time around. I feel weird saying it too. We aren't sure if this is our last baby, so I also think about how this could be the last time I feel this and have this special bond ever again. That thought makes me cry.
I just can't get on board with people who say they don't celebrate their spouse on mothers/fathers day because "they're not my mother/father" but will make sure their kids get them cards/gifts. I didn't give birth to you but I can still wish you a happy birthday.
I'm really over people telling me it's hot, it must be hard to be pregnant in a Texas summer, and even comments implying it was poor planning to be due in August. No shit Sherlock, I'm hot and miserable and not sure how I'm going to step outdoors in August, but to the planning... do they want to hear that we started trying and thought it'd take longer? Or are they thinking I'll say I didn't plan it? Or should I say first trimester in the summer would have equally sucked because I barely felt like getting off the couch then and might have passed out if it were summer? I mean... not sure what the right response is, but I'm tired of hearing it. Only an unpopular opinion for those not pregnant, I'm sure.
A more truly UO... I'm hoping the hospital we're delivering at has a nursery where I can send baby at night and have him brought to me to be fed. I love my baby, but can it be 2 decades ago where the night-nursery was the norm??
A more truly UO... I'm hoping the hospital we're delivering at has a nursery where I can send baby at night and have him brought to me to be fed. I love my baby, but can it be 2 decades ago where the night-nursery was the norm??
@Curls919 - Our hospital's website doesn't say (but they also aren't one of the certified baby-friendly hospitals where I understand they don't really even have nurseries), I've tried googling, and am frankly too chicken and aware its an UO to ask the OB. We do our tour 7/9, so I'm sure I'll be able to figure it out then. It's not a dealbreaker. We're delivering at Seton-Central, in case there are any Austin-ites here that randomly know the answer! Meanwhile, I just cross my fingers!
I don't get why people make up stories on why they didn't BF/do something someone feels they should. My good friend told people her milk never came in and that's why she didn't, when really she just didn't want too. There is NO shame in not wanting to breastfeed/co-sleep/attachment parents or to do those things as long as they are done safely. Maybe it people just told others to bug off people would stop making dumb comments. Why make up a story or lie to make other people more comfortable with your answer? I didn't want too, or that's really not any of your business is more then enough of an answer.
I EP for 11 months and brought my preemie daughter to a baby massage class when she was 8 weeks old (but the size of a newborn) and someone made a comment about how they wouldn't bring their child that small out--I answered she meets the age requirements and why do they care? Then another time I had someone ask me if I formula fed with a snotty look on her face when I was feeing my child ebm, I told her, why do you care what I feed my kid? and she got all flustered and made up some excuse about not knowing anyone that actually formula fed. I just ignored her. None of your damn business what is in the bottle.
Amen @kwilliams3402 re the heat! I'm so tired of people feeling pity for me because I'm due in August. Guess what? I love this Georgia heat! DD was born in September, so this ain't my first scorching rodeo, thankyouverymuch. While I haven't been pregnant in winter, the thought of layering on a maternity coat over a maternity turtleneck and maternity wool pants sounds miserable. I'd much rather wear my loose maxi dress and lay in the pool (not at the same time, haha). Also, our hospital took DD to the nursery during the night and even encouraged it so DH and I could rest... however, they promptly brought her back as she was quite the screamer.
@kwilliams3402 Totally agree about the heat/summer comments. My response is always something to the effect of "it doesn't bother me." And quite frankly, we planned for an August baby because I didn't want a newborn when we're up in Lake George, and I didn't want a Fall baby because of the red shirt issues, a Christmas baby um nope, and anything after that I just didn't want to wait that much longer to get pregnant again. Regardless, does it even matter? I think summer babies are the best - it's totally the best time of year to have a birthday IMO!
@PeachGal23 and @SkiChic626 - My husband loves this heat, and I hate it, and I do feel a little bad that I am dampening all his attempts to be outdoors with me. So I totally agree with everyone who comments to me about the heat, but I am just tired of hearing what I already think to myself 500 times a day!
Amen @kwilliams3402 re the heat! I'm so tired of people feeling pity for me because I'm due in August. Guess what? I love this Georgia heat! DD was born in September, so this ain't my first scorching rodeo, thankyouverymuch. While I haven't been pregnant in winter, the thought of layering on a maternity coat over a maternity turtleneck and maternity wool pants sounds miserable. I'd much rather wear my loose maxi dress and lay in the pool (not at the same time, haha). Also, our hospital took DD to the nursery during the night and even encouraged it so DH and I could rest... however, they promptly brought her back as she was quite the screamer.
Amen @kwilliams3402 re the heat! I'm so tired of people feeling pity for me because I'm due in August. Guess what? I love this Georgia heat! DD was born in September, so this ain't my first scorching rodeo, thankyouverymuch. While I haven't been pregnant in winter, the thought of layering on a maternity coat over a maternity turtleneck and maternity wool pants sounds miserable. I'd much rather wear my loose maxi dress and lay in the pool (not at the same time, haha). Also, our hospital took DD to the nursery during the night and even encouraged it so DH and I could rest... however, they promptly brought her back as she was quite the screamer.
The ones I have been looking at with the matching pillow cases are from baby be mine maternity. If you google it, it will come up. Also if you use the code "pn2016" it is another ten percent off your total order.
I haven't pulled the trigger yet. I want to though because I know the more I feel like myself during delivery, the less anxiety I will have.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I woman-ed up and just called the hospital I'm delivering at to ask about the night nursery v. rooming-in. I thought it was high time I stop hiding from my unpopular opinion and just ask!
I don't like having Facebook messenger app on my phone (limits my storage space) so I get annoyed when people message me. Stop it. If I'm not by my laptop, that red "1" notification will not go away every time I check my FB on my phone. Stop messaging me on FB. I miss the days when you could directly access messages on your FB app. Why create two separate apps when messenger is on FB? Help me, logic gods because I am lost.
@kwilliams3402 Totally agree about the heat/summer comments. My response is always something to the effect of "it doesn't bother me." And quite frankly, we planned for an August baby because I didn't want a newborn when we're up in Lake George, and I didn't want a Fall baby because of the red shirt issues, a Christmas baby um nope, and anything after that I just didn't want to wait that much longer to get pregnant again. Regardless, does it even matter? I think summer babies are the best - it's totally the best time of year to have a birthday IMO!
Totally agree!! My DD was born on 12/23 in the middle of a polar vortex. I will take a few weeks of heat bc it will be infinitely easier to have birthday parties in August than 2 days over Christmas!
@kwilliams3402 I'm delivering at Seton Central too and yes, they have two nurseries. One is the transition nursery where I think they can take them right after they are born, and the second is for when you move to your "Mom and Baby Room". We did the tour last month and they said that they can take them to the nursery if/when you want... I can't remember if she specified overnight but I'm pretty that's an option.
@Mfuller76 - I finally worked up the nerve to just call today and ask, and the nurse told me yes, they can go to the nursery at night, or they can room-in. Now we know!
@Lynnlove28 Anyone who keeps a baby alive, healthy and loved deserves mad props, no matter how they make it happen. If BF doesn't work for someone, it's not going to be good for the baby in the long run either. Also, I think the judge-y ones have some deep rooted insecurities they're overcompensating for.
My (random NBR) UO: I'm anti-Oxford comma. I cringe every time I see one.
I hate the Oxford comma too!
Totally the opposite! I can't stand when it's not used.
I don't like having Facebook messenger app on my phone (limits my storage space) so I get annoyed when people message me. Stop it. If I'm not by my laptop, that red "1" notification will not go away every time I check my FB on my phone. Stop messaging me on FB. I miss the days when you could directly access messages on your FB app. Why create two separate apps when messenger is on FB? Help me, logic gods because I am lost.
I also hate the facebook messenger app. Especially when someone messages me on it and they have my phone number to text. ugh.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Re: UO 6.16.16
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I really love being pregnant. I am going to miss it when I am done. Sometimes, I feel like I can't share that b/c look at me like I'm crazy.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My (random NBR) UO: I'm anti-Oxford comma. I cringe every time I see one.
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Katienu I love being pregnant, too. Both of my pregnancies have been relatively tame (getting there was the hard part). If we had the time and money were no concern, I would keep doing it. I get jealous when I see pregnant women...it used to be because I couldn't get pregnant, but now it's because I love being pregnant. I'm HOPING that we go for #3 at some point, but we're going to see how life is with two and then decide later.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
I don't get why people make up stories on why they didn't BF/do something someone feels they should. My good friend told people her milk never came in and that's why she didn't, when really she just didn't want too. There is NO shame in not wanting to breastfeed/co-sleep/attachment parents or to do those things as long as they are done safely. Maybe it people just told others to bug off people would stop making dumb comments. Why make up a story or lie to make other people more comfortable with your answer? I didn't want too, or that's really not any of your business is more then enough of an answer.
I EP for 11 months and brought my preemie daughter to a baby massage class when she was 8 weeks old (but the size of a newborn) and someone made a comment about how they wouldn't bring their child that small out--I answered she meets the age requirements and why do they care? Then another time I had someone ask me if I formula fed with a snotty look on her face when I was feeing my child ebm, I told her, why do you care what I feed my kid? and she got all flustered and made up some excuse about not knowing anyone that actually formula fed. I just ignored her. None of your damn business what is in the bottle.
@jacmkelley and @midwestbaby: please post links to these delivery gowns -- I'm intrigued!
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
https://www.etsy.com/shop/silkandmore?ref=s2-header-shopname§ion_id=13475609
I haven't pulled the trigger yet. I want to though because I know the more I feel like myself during delivery, the less anxiety I will have.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
And yeah, eff this heat. I'm already over it.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18