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August 2016 Moms
Fremdschamen
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PGAL Check-in 6/13
Fremdschamen
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Sorry for the delay! Things have been crazy for me lately.
Weeks:
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
BFP #3: 12/16/2015 DD2 born 8/27/2016
Re: PGAL Check-in 6/13
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Looking forward to 30 weeks, just because it seems like the home stretch! Next midwife appointment isn't till June 23.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Positive vibes to all. So thankful for lots of movement lately, but I could do without my DD being obsessively clingy.
Questions? Anyone else experiencing increased exhaustion these days?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I'm in Canada, so entitled to a year of maternity leave (at reduced salary), but since I'm the breadwinner, I will be going back to work when my company's top-up runs out, so in early January. I'm thankful to get more leave than most Americans, but wish I could take a bit more time off. We're planning to nanny-share with BFF when I go back to work.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
What's next? Appointment this Friday. I'm really liking having them every two weeks now but wish they were every week! Appointments keep me calm.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Just had my first baby shower this weekend! The second one is in a couple weeks. I had a lot of fun. But DH's job screwed us over again and forced him to work that morning when we had a four hour drive. So we ended up having to drive separately and he showed up halfway through. I'm worried they're going to do that to him again for the next shower when we have an even further drive. They love making sure he never gets any requested days off.
Questions: @Fremdschamen I've been absolutely exhausted lately! I get major dizzy spells at work I'm so tired.
GTKY: I have to go back to work after 9 weeks of leave with most of it paid at half my salary. We're planning to move closer to family where we have the opportunity to get higher paying jobs in November. But I'm not allowed to quit until 30 days after I come back from leave and during those 30 days we can't afford child care whatsoever. DH lost his job in a hotel merger, but they kept him on in a different position at a huge paycut. So all child care options went out the window. We're planning for him to switch to the morning shift while I continue the night shift so we won't need a babysitter. If his job forces him to work afternoons though I guess he'll have to quit.
We've been having a tough time lately with all this stuff happening just in time for LO!
@JournoGrl23 Boo to all of the work crap going on for you both!
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Baby shower Saturday. So excited to see everyone and celebrate this little boy!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: feeling excited and anxious!
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I will go back to work after 6 weeks and our sitter/daycare for my daughter will begin to watch him them. It will be hard but I love my job and I love the woman who watches DD. So it will be a good thing all around.
@JournoGrl23 I second the boo! I am sorry you are going through all of this.
Weeks: 29w4d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I am looking forward to a vacation with my family during the 4th of July holiday. It will be the last one with just the three of us which is sort of bitter sweet.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I am loving the baby movement and my doctors apps are going well. I agree that my appointments are keeping me sane.
Questions? None at this time
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I work fulltime and I love my job. I will be going back after our DD is born. We have a wonderful sitter for our 1st DD and it much easier to think about going back with the arrangements already settled. The company I work for increased their Mat. leave to 16 weeks paid. This was the best news and gift! Last time it was only 6 weeks paid and 6 weeks of FMLA
31w5d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Next appt on Thursday, baby shower on Sunday. I'm also happy to have the more frequent appointments.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
drinking more water generally seemed to perhaps get baby to move more last week so hoping for a repeat since it was great feeling him more.
Had like the 8th person ask me when I'm due and then exclaim "oh quite a while to go still".....ha yes, I am not about to go at any moment people, this belly will be huge!
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
This is my super busy season so just looking forward to getting through it and then being able to focus on baby stuff more. Nervous of running out of time to train and prep coworkers. I'm hoping to take about 3 months off (available for consult when needed). Still trying to figure out childcare--very stressful!
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I had a good 30 week check up so I dont have to go back until 34 weeks and I will have a growth ultrasound (currently measuring about 2 weeks ahead according to fundal measurement but thats about normal for me in third tri.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Exhaustion again for sure. Also really thirsty and hungry but nothing sounds good. Invested in a costco size bottle of Tums and thats helping. I really need to start stretching/walking more to keep things loose for delivery.
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
Thankfully I can use my leave time and take about 12 weeks paid. I would like baby to stay home though until January. So we will need to figure out what we do for those last 3-5 weeks. My husband may take some time and maybe relatives. Worst case I can take leave without pay but during the holidays that wont be easy. Since I make about $2k more than DH in a month, I think it would make more sense for him to take leave without pay.
Weeks: 30. Feels good to have the week start with a 3 for once! Emmett will be one month old on Saturday. It's surreal because it's actually gone by fast, though I also feel like we've been here forever.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
They think he may get to try breastfeeding in a couple weeks. As of now he's eating via tube and I'm pumping around the clock. Exclusive pumping sucks!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
We graduated to a high-flow nasal cannula today for breathing support. It's a huge step and so far he seems to be tolerating it well. FX things keep going well.
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I'm taking my six weeks of short term disability now and go back two weeks from Wednesday.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Weeks: 30w3d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Next appointment not until the 27th, but he is a mover and shaker lately so that is very comforting.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: He is getting so strong, it almost hurts sometimes when he kicks and I am laying in the wrong position. Oh well.....not complaining about that too much
Questions? Nada
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
IDK, this topic has been keeping me up at night. I don't get paid a penny for my leave, and short term disability will only kick in after a 30 day waiting period, and then only for a total of 6 weeks ( I am told this is standard). So that means I will get 60% of my pay for a whopping two weeks. At this point, I am ready to throw in the towel with this place. I am the main bread winner right now as DH's company isn't doing well and have been really trying to save up for the time I need to take off. Like @JournoGrl23, all of this couldn't be happening at a better time! Might end up working nights so we don't have to pay for daycare.......
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): My next midwife appointment is the 21st. I appreciate the biweekly appointments so much. Half the time though, I feel like they're so frequent, and the rest of the time it's like, I have a million new questions and my appointment is so far away!! But 33 weeks is such a crazy number for me to wrap my head around. We're so close to having a full term pregnancy!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Relatively frequent acid reflux kicked in recently...personally it's mostly annoying, but definitely still painful.
Questions? Anyone have any advice for the acid reflux? What worked for you?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO? I stopped working last November when my dad had a major stroke right before we found out about the pregnancy. I haven't gone back to work since, but plan to after the baby. Honestly we don't have much of a game plan for that, but are hoping that my fiance and I will be able to work opposite schedules because I don't want to put her in daycare (we'd probably end up spending more on care than I'd be making anyway) and don't trust my mom to watch her while I'm at work.
@Katienu 16 weeks paid leave sounds amazing!!
@bananers so glad to see you back here! I can't imagine trying to coordinate maternity leave around all you're already having to deal with. FX they let you work remotely for a while!
@Knottie1442786653 I've started taking Zantac pretty regularly. It's the only thing that even touches my heartburn/reflux.
Weeks: 31w2d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Appt next week. I'll be getting another ultrasound to check my cervix length at that appt.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Last night I realized I hadn't felt a lot of movement all day, and have been a little freaked ever since. He's been pretty active this evening, but wasn't moving much all day. I know it's probably just that he has less space in there, but it's definitely triggering my PGAL mind. I also felt some pretty intense pressure this afternoon, so I may see if I can pop by my doctors tomorrow or Wednesday to just get confirmation that all is ok.
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I will start seeing clients again, only on Saturdays, after 4 weeks. Then I'll go back to my school job in mid-October. Since I'm part time I don't get any paid leave, but I'm using my accrued sick time to cover the first 6 weeks or so. Luckily I only work 3 days per week, so it isn't as hard to go back so early.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Breastfeeding class at the hospital tomorrow after work, and then my first nonstress test Wednesday afternoon. A little excited and nervous, especially with so many new symptoms as a ftm triggering my PGAL brain all the time now.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Happy to have lots of appts and classes the next few weeks to help the time go by quickly. Positive vibes to all!
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO? I just talked with my boss today about starting to work from home more as I'm struggling a little, and she was luckily very understanding. But I'm not sure how well it will actually go over once I start staying home more. After LO arrives, I'm taking 12 weeks and my dh might take a week or two after I go back (he also gets one paid week the week baby arrives). We found a daycare this past weekend that will allow either of us to drop in and feed the baby whenever we want, which really helps me relax about the idea of leaving my baby that I haven't even met yet with strangers.
Weeks: 33 weeks
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): next regular OB appointmentis the 22nd, nonstress tests starting soon (as soon as I get the paperwork sorted). And another growth scan week 36, currently baby is 2 weeks ahead with a huge noggin (takes after his/her Mum). It is a little strange to hope for a slow down in growth.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: getting my showers planned, so that is exciting. Baby is big and the movement feels different, I gave to press my hand on my abdomen to feel it, lots of rolls, less kicks and jabs. Between that and the persistence of my illness I am nervous and that is translating into nightmares. I could do without those!
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): DH starts his salary position today after graduating in May. We will also be ordering our last couple baby items on the 16th( when we are eligible for our completion discount) and then we have everything for baby.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I am having a very hard time looking forward and focusing on work right now. I will be working until I go into labor, but its slow during the summer so I spend most of my day on the bump and obsessing about my baby. Kind of makes time move slower.
Questions? none
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I will be taking 12 weeks... only 7 of those weeks will be paid and then we will live off DH's check which will be fine. Before I had this job I worked at a daycare/ preschool, so our baby will be going with my friends in November. It's nice knowing who will be looking after our little one. My check will mainly go to daycare and insurance... but my insurance is that good... and also I will be starting MBA for free in Spring 2017. So I think its worth it to keep working.
@bananers So glad to see you here! It sounds like little E is doing amazingly well, all things considered. I think about you and your family all the time.
Update on the exhaustion-- just got a call from my midwife and while my blood sugar numbers were good, my iron is low, which probably explains why I am so tired. Off to pick up some iron supplements from the pharmacy!
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
@Fremdschamen I'm glad to see you got some resolution on the exhaustion!
Weeks:
31w2d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Appointment on the 20th. We aren't having a shower but it was exciting to get 3 big boxes of stuff from my mom with more things on the way!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
I think this little lady has flipped! DS was breech and I've been really curious to see if I could tell when she flipped or if she did atat all.(I know, very unlikely that she wouldn't. DH and I usually fall into weird statistics.) It's the little things.
Questions?
Has anyone else been having hot flashes? One minute I'm sweating and the next, I'm freezing! I feel like I'm going through menopause - hormones and all!
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
I "work" taking care of DH's grandmother during the day. She's next door to me so I can go back and forth easily. We haven't talked about how long I'll take off but when I do go back, I'll have LO and DS with me. DH is in law school and will be going back 2 weeks after she's born. After that, DS's grandparents will help entertain him until he starts preschool, for the first time, in September.
Can I vent that MIL wants us to go out to her house Saturday to see some relatives that are in town. They live in a very small single wide with one window AC unit. There will be at least 6-8 adults there and its been about 100* here not factoring the heat index.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Next midwife appointment is at 34 weeks. Other than that, counting down the days to our due date!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I'm freaking out a little right now, actually. I was diagnosed with BV about 2 weeks ago, which apparently puts me at risk for preterm labor, premature rupture of membranes, etc. Well, last night I had a few gushes of fluid come out, followed by hours of pretty intense contractions. I've been having a lot of more painful/intense contractions lately, but my Midwife has assured me that for STM+, that's pretty common. The contractions eventually subsided and I haven't had anymore gushes, but I'm still feeling pretty uneasy. I'm stopping by the store after work to get some pH test strips to put my mind at ease. My understanding is that, if it's an amniotic fluid leak, the pH level will be elevated. I'm just so terrified of something going wrong... you know, PGAL brain I guess. I'm sure I'm worrying for nothing; my Midwife didn't seem concerned at all.
Questions?
GTKY: What's the work situation looking like pre and post baby? If you're going back to work, who will take care of your LO?
My midwife has asked that I try to "take it easy" since my contractions have been pretty bad for the last few days, so I might end up going on a reduced work schedule/work from home schedule at some point before baby comes. After baby arrives, I'll be taking 7 weeks off, followed by a week of working from home, followed by two weeks of half days before returning full time. The plan for after I go back is still up in the air. DH might become a stay-at-home-dad as soon as I return, or our little one might go to daycare (we have a spot reserved already) for a while first. We're kind of waiting to figure out finances and how we can make him being a SAHD work.
I've got a pregnant family member who hates being pregnant and complains constantly. She misses family functions because she's miserable and what not. It really doesn't phase or bother me I usually just laugh it off. But yesterday she told me how this has been the absolute worst 9 months of her life and how she just needs her baby to be born already. And maybe it's the hormones in me but I wanted to say, "Really? The worst 9 months of your life? Can you just be grateful for being pregnant and having a healthy baby in there?".
I know having a miscarriage can change your way of thinking towards pregnancy. And I am probably being one sided on this. But it just really offended me that she's complaining to me about how miserable she is and how awful her pregnancy is.
some people don't ever get the opportunity to experience the pregnancy issues we all do. Be grateful.
Its ok to be miserable and hate it so bad, but let's not share how horrible it is with me. I get that she hates it and it's hard for her, this is her second time around. And she thinks it's been even harder. And she's had zero issues other than just doesn't like to be pregnant.
I love her, she can feel however she feels. It just annoys me to hear her sound so ungrateful and unappreciative. Which I think we can all attest to, we've each been on the other side of pregnancy where things don't work out how we thought they would.
I was at a book club meeting with some colleagues from work, none of whom know I've had a loss, and one of the people was talking very insensitively about a woman who had experienced a loss and called her for advice (she is a medical malpractice lawyer) about some of her experiences at the local hospital. It took everything I had not to ream her out.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
I have tried to forgive and forget, but I am definitely weary of sharing any intimate information with her going forward and keep a reasonable distance as this wasn't an isolated incident, but most definitely her worst.
I take responsibility for divulging any information about what had happened to her, but I also don't believe it when people who know you have suffered a loss can even think about complaining about their baby/pregnancy/birth. Is your child healthy? Did you survive the experience??? Then shut the hell up and be grateful.
I had a hard time holding back on that poster the other day who was complaining about just wanting to have the baby already and talking about inducing early.
I know my perspective is a bit skewed because of what we're going through right now, but jeez. Suck it up. Motherhood in general is about making sacrifices. It doesn't end when you have the baby.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
@lgem4 that's exciting to have everything bought! I have my target and Amazon completion waiting and I'm trying to figure out which I should use now and which I should save.
good luck at your appointments and keep us posted on how things go. I am sure your LO is just showing off her sense of humor!