Manic Monday

lizChesnut

All if not most of us have had our babies,  right? Well how's everybody feeling. Hopefully mostly great, but what is everybody feeling manic about on this monday.

lizChesnut

Manic Monday,  my lo has been sleeping pretty good at night but during the day it's mr. Fussy butt non stop. I can't seem to tell when he's cluster feeding or comfort feeding. Until about an hour ago where he covered me in spit up  (guess he's full, or WAS full). Poor little guy, just needs so much love. Which I don't mind giving, I am however gonna switch my nipples out for a binkie and hope he doesn't notice/mind the difference.

BCFiggins

I was just about to post something similar! During the night we're getting 2-3 hr stretches of sleep, but the past 3 days or so LO has refused to take a nap during the day for longer than 5 mins. It is really draining me. She's changed, swaddled and fed anywhere from 20-45 mins depending on when she takes herself off so I'm really not sure what I'm missing here. I try to hold her to see if it's a comfort issue, but she doesn't just let me hold her and hang out. It's right back to trying to find that nipple. Pacis offend her something fierce too, but with enough coaxing I can get her to take one and she goes right to sleep so I know it's comfort suckling that she wants, but I'm growing weary of it. I hate to have her CIO as she's way too young for that, but at some point I do need to pee and eat and well generally function like a normal human to keep my sanity. So if you figure out something that works please let me know as I'm right there with you, girl! 

ETA: I'm going to try and find a simple sling for at home to baby wear more as maybe that'll help? I only have a Mei Tai and while I do love it (soooo comfortable) it's hard to get it on by myself.

bkjade

Same here @lizChesnut. Cluster feeding/comfort feeding/gas/crying/ I can't figure it out. Little girl is fine as long as I'm holding her or breastfeeding. Try and put her down or give her to DH and she is not a happy camper. So I just carry her around all day and try and get dressed and put deodorant on if I'm lucky. She was an angel until a couple of days ago around the three week mark, now she's decided to be a demanding little girl. Hoping that this passes soon. I HAVE to get more than a half hour of sleep sooner or later. 

On that note, does anyone else's DH try to console their LO but can't seem to do much? I feel terrible, DH looks so defeated and as soon as he hands LO to me she's happy again. DH was almost in tears last night after I got out of the shower because LO was crying so hard. I feel bad giving him pointers since he already clearly feels terrible.

BCFiggins

@bkjade we just hit 3 weeks too so maybe it's normally a fussy time then?

I get what you're saying about DH helping though. I feel the same way. I can never get enough time to pump and so he's unable to feed her to calm her down. Of course I feel at this point if she's crying that's the only way she'll stop for any length of time. He does what he can and can normally at least hold her off from being too upset until I can feed her again, but it is hard when I feel like I'm taking the ultimate comforting tool away from him. However, he is ok with CIO whereas I really am not which is another issue in itself. 

JoMunson

Yesterday was so hard! Ezra had his first bout with colic and it was terrible. After three hours I eventually gave him gripe water and he fell asleep instantly for half an hour, then I carried him for the next two. I felt so bad for him. 
But the gripe water must have reset him because he's a doll today! Of course I didn't sleep so I'm a walking zombie.

LadySamLady

bkjade said:

Same here @lizChesnut. Cluster feeding/comfort feeding/gas/crying/ I can't figure it out. Little girl is fine as long as I'm holding her or breastfeeding. Try and put her down or give her to DH and she is not a happy camper. So I just carry her around all day and try and get dressed and put deodorant on if I'm lucky. She was an angel until a couple of days ago around the three week mark, now she's decided to be a demanding little girl. Hoping that this passes soon. I HAVE to get more than a half hour of sleep sooner or later. 

On that note, does anyone else's DH try to console their LO but can't seem to do much? I feel terrible, DH looks so defeated and as soon as he hands LO to me she's happy again. DH was almost in tears last night after I got out of the shower because LO was crying so hard. I feel bad giving him pointers since he already clearly feels terrible.

I could have written this. If she's calm when I hand her to him, she starts crying and if she's already upset she gets hysterical. I feel so bad for my H and wish he could help more, my back is killing me from all the rocking and bouncing. Thank god for baby wearing. 

Bellodomani

Have any of your husbands tried wearing the baby? My son didn't really care who was holding him, but this baby definitely seems to calm faster for me than for my husband, so the one thing he's been able to do to get her to calm down is wear her in the pack. Yesterday I came home from running errands and he was grilling in the backyard while shooting hoops with our son and wearing the baby in the pack and I was very impressed

Charissadeats

3 weeks was horrible for us @bkjade. He was going through a growth spurt and became unpredictable, we are now on 4 weeks though and it seems it's getting better! I just had a 3 hour sleeping session and am going to try for another now! 

He is fine with DH but was more difficult the last week. Once again, it seems it's normalizing now.

lionstigersbears

Aw mamas, CIO is a very different thing than running to pee while your baby cries. You'll come back and they will still be crying and you'll meet their needs again I'm not sure how to make this sound less preachy so I'm just leaving it and hope everyone knows I mean well!!

BlueJuice

The wee one has been great lately, but today my 5-year-old DD was an unholy terror, to the point where I cancelled our plans to visit the children's museum and made her take an afternoon nap as well. There's some serious boundary-pushing going on, together with lots of argumentativeness and generally ignoring requests, and it would be great if I was less sleep-deprived while dealing with it. Ugh.

Bellodomani

lionstigersbears said:

Aw mamas, CIO is a very different thing than running to pee while your baby cries. You'll come back and they will still be crying and you'll meet their needs again I'm not sure how to make this sound less preachy so I'm just leaving it and hope everyone knows I mean well!!

I meant to say this same thing earlier but got distracted by... my baby crying. Go figure. Anyway, I had a hard time hearing my son cry even when I was doing something necessary like pooping or finishing my breakfast, so I rationalized it to myself that it was similar to him crying in the car seat- there's nothing I can do, we need to go somewhere, he'll be fine. If you need to brush your teeth or throw a load of laundry in and your baby fusses or cries or even screams while you do it, you're going to go to them and soothe them and respond to their needs as soon as you can and they will be just fine.