If you drop the paper you dried your hands on on the floor when you tried to throw it away--pick it up. (Seriously I work with grown women-why does this need to be said?) If the copier says "needs toner" and will not print your document--don't walk away and wait until someone else fixes it. If the copier needs paper and the paper is in the cupboard above the machine--fill it. Do not change the size of your copy.
The idiot order-taker at my bagel store gave me a bacon egg and cheese instead of taylor ham egg and cheese that I wanted for breakfast today. Don't you know you should NEVER mess with a pregnant woman's food?!?!?
Our shower glass installer just called to let me know he's placing the order for our shower door today and they'll have it in 10-12 business days. We were supposed to have final inspection in 8 business days and we can't move in until we pass. So that sets us back by another week. Thanks dude... You could've given us the heads up on lead time *last month* when you were measuring and we told you we were in a time crunch because it's almost baby time.
My doctors office left me sitting in the room waiting on the doctor for an hour and 20 minutes. I didn't get a chance to eat breakfast before I went so I was starving by the time the appointment was over. Then the doctor kept trying to tell me I have chronic high blood pressure, um no, I got a few high readings in my first trimester but it's been fine since then and it wasn't high before I got pregnant. And, he kept trying to tell me I was taking insulin, no my numbers have been fine, not even one over where it's supposed to be. Plus I just went to the diabetes center on Friday.
I havent even been watching my diet. I've been eating exactly how I was eating before I got the diagnosis. I don't trust this doctors office at all, if I hadn't already switched to them when I was about 16 weeks I would switch to a better office.
My bitchfest is at my body. Over the weekend a major shift happened in my belly... I don't know if it was the baby turning head down or my pelvis expanding, or what. Maybe my pelvis widened a bit and this allowed the baby to reposition himself. But I am in so much more discomfort now. I feel a lot more pressure sort of pressing down on my pelvic floor/cervix. It's not sharp or throbbing pains, not contractions, and I don't have any other symptoms, so I don't think it's something I need to call the doc about. But holy crap, I feel a whole lot more pregnant than I did before. In addition to the pressure, I am having a much harder time rolling over in bed, getting out of bed, getting out of the car, etc.The upside is, I've been feeling the baby move a lot more, and that is a reassuring and also kind of fun. Maybe he has more room to move in his new position. But his has been yet another "sh*t just got real" moment of my pregnancy.
My husband snored SO loud last night the baby was complaining about it. It was "SNOOOOORE" *kickkickkick* "SNOOOOOOOORE" *kick*
Sigh.
Then today started out with an early am appointment to try to address the gall stones they found a week and a half ago, and there are no right answers. Surgery prior to delivery is dicey since I am already so far along, they would want me to go to a major hospital (at least 4 hours from home) in case the doctors needed to suddenly deliver little guy, and planning on him being in the NICU (again, at least 4 hours from home.) OR I can continue taking painkillers, which may cause him to have withdrawal upon birth. OR I can not take the pain killers, but they have already shown in l&d that me being in so much pain triggers distress in him (his heart rate and activity levels spiked, which is better than dropping, but still not great long term... poor stressed out little baby!.) And if I wait to do the surgery, and end up with a c section it could be 8-10 weeks after he's here before they allow me to have the gallbladder surgery... so waiting it out doesn't just mean another 9 weeks, it means quite possibly another 4 months. The gastro suggested a very restricted *no* fat diet, to try and control it, but my OBGYN said "you can't eat like that right now. The baby needs healthy fats in the third tri..."
Just feeling frustrated.
And the two women I work with are both wanting to take a bunch of time off, and I am frustrated because I *can't* come to work sometimes. It's not like "oh, I think I want to go to the beach" it's like - I spent the night in the hospital. So no, I can't say I will cover your work in addition to my own on such and such a day... I can't promise to be here. And some of the days they have asked me to cover are in the end of July, start of August - seriously? Oh yeah, I am absolutely positive that at 39 weeks I can cover your work - I'll just let the kiddo know he's not allowed out until *after* I do your work... So you can go to the beach. *eye roll*
Allisun85 Oy, sorry about the gallbladder issues....I hope it all works out as best it can. *FX* As of the *explitive* work-mates. Screw them. I would honestly say, I can tentatively cover for you, but if the day comes and I can't be here for one reason or another there's nothing I'll be able to do about it on the actual day. I'm happy to take it, but I'm not sure you want to rely on a 39+ week pregnant woman teehee. And btw, at 39, girlfriend shouldn't be working at all!
OK...another bitchfest for today. DD probably has coxackie. Seriously, shoot me! We have no clue how she could have gotten this. No one else in her class at school had or has it, and she's really not in contact with any other kids. She had a fever on Friday, but we attributed it to her 2 year molars, which are also coming in right now. Yesterday she woke up with some bumps on her chin, but she's had this before and it's just from teething drool and the pacifier, so we didn't think anything of it. Well, apparently since we dropped her off this morning she has developed more on her hands and feet....seriously shoot me again...and we've learned that there was one confirmed case of it in the school, but in an older classroom that she doesn't ever have any contact with. We got a pedi appt for tonight at 5:45 to confirm or debunk whether or not she actually has it. Of course she's been a total mommy's girl lately, and we moved her into her big girl room this weekend, so her sleep has been crap. I just hope that I don't get it. I know it's rare for adults to get it, but with how much I've gotten sick this pregnancy I wouldn't be shocked if I somehow ended up getting it. Is it time to crawl back into bed yet???
OK...another bitchfest for today. DD probably has coxackie. Seriously, shoot me! We have no clue how she could have gotten this. No one else in her class at school had or has it, and she's really not in contact with any other kids. She had a fever on Friday, but we attributed it to her 2 year molars, which are also coming in right now. Yesterday she woke up with some bumps on her chin, but she's had this before and it's just from teething drool and the pacifier, so we didn't think anything of it. Well, apparently since we dropped her off this morning she has developed more on her hands and feet....seriously shoot me again...and we've learned that there was one confirmed case of it in the school, but in an older classroom that she doesn't ever have any contact with. We got a pedi appt for tonight at 5:45 to confirm or debunk whether or not she actually has it. Of course she's been a total mommy's girl lately, and we moved her into her big girl room this weekend, so her sleep has been crap. I just hope that I don't get it. I know it's rare for adults to get it, but with how much I've gotten sick this pregnancy I wouldn't be shocked if I somehow ended up getting it. Is it time to crawl back into bed yet???
Please be very careful. Sitting in doc office now with HFM disease and it's one of the most painful things. My daughter wasn't nearly as uncomfortable with it...it hit me hard. I'm covered and it's very painful. No one else got it except me, I have caught every bug and virus with this pregnancy and know that's why I got it. PLEASE be careful, u don't want to get this
My mom didn't put an "RSVP by such date" on the shower invites. She put RSVP info but no deadline. Now she wants me to call 15 people to see if they are coming or not even though the shower is a month away. I told her I'd do it in two weeks and she was annoyed with ME!
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
OK...another bitchfest for today. DD probably has coxackie. Seriously, shoot me! We have no clue how she could have gotten this. No one else in her class at school had or has it, and she's really not in contact with any other kids. She had a fever on Friday, but we attributed it to her 2 year molars, which are also coming in right now. Yesterday she woke up with some bumps on her chin, but she's had this before and it's just from teething drool and the pacifier, so we didn't think anything of it. Well, apparently since we dropped her off this morning she has developed more on her hands and feet....seriously shoot me again...and we've learned that there was one confirmed case of it in the school, but in an older classroom that she doesn't ever have any contact with. We got a pedi appt for tonight at 5:45 to confirm or debunk whether or not she actually has it. Of course she's been a total mommy's girl lately, and we moved her into her big girl room this weekend, so her sleep has been crap. I just hope that I don't get it. I know it's rare for adults to get it, but with how much I've gotten sick this pregnancy I wouldn't be shocked if I somehow ended up getting it. Is it time to crawl back into bed yet???
Please be very careful. Sitting in doc office now with HFM disease and it's one of the most painful things. My daughter wasn't nearly as uncomfortable with it...it hit me hard. I'm covered and it's very painful. No one else got it except me, I have caught every bug and virus with this pregnancy and know that's why I got it. PLEASE be careful, u don't want to get this
Oh I know, but I think at this point trying not to get it is moot. She had a fever on Friday, and got the first outbreak of blisters yesterday by her mouth - I thought it was just from her pacifier and all the teething drool. I had no idea that it even could be coxackie until daycare called me today. DD has been super attached to me lately, and we just transitioned her to her big girl room and I've been laying with her a lot, so unless I get lucky, I'm pretty sure I'm screwed. I have also gotten every bug and virus with this pregnancy, too, even sometimes when DD didn't even get sick somehow I'd get it from someone at work or something. And I typically get one minor cold a year and that's it....not this year, ugh!
That really does sound miserable. I'm sorry @SkiChic626 and @LacieMac Hope everyone gets well soon.
Our A/C isn't working right in our office so it is just still hot air. Not fun. Our office manager lady came around to see if the men wanted her to order them fans and seemed annoyed when I asked if I could have one too. The women in my office are beyond ridiculous.
That really does sound miserable. I'm sorry @SkiChic626 and @LacieMac Hope everyone gets well soon.
Our A/C isn't working right in our office so it is just still hot air. Not fun. Our office manage lady came around to see if the men wanted her to order them fans and seemed annoyed when I asked if I could have one too. The women in my office are beyond ridiculous.
Ummmmm why wouldn't EVERYONE be offered a fan???? WTF....that doesn't sound ridiculous, that sounds sexist!
So, I rarely have a reason to bitch, but I went to make a payment on my credit card today... I thought my balance was supposed to be like 410$ but my balance was like 1500$.... um... so I looked at previous transactions and looks like instead of being charged 130.56 for my cat food from the vet I was charged 1035.60.... but my invoice via email says 130.56 so I had no idea and I have built up interest....
so I called the vet but some person I don't know answered the phone( normally the receptionist that answers is my neighbor and we go way back) and explained the situation... and this person said they would have to check tonight and call me back tomorrow... so my DH made me call the CC company and they told me if I don't officially dispute it I may be liable for the charge even if it is incorrect because if they can't find in their records the charge was wrong then I will be accountable for the charge and interest. So awkward because I literally live at the vet and next week I need to go buy more cat food. Plus this charge went through on May 31st and I paid 910$ June 1st to try and keep our balance at 330$ for baby preparation and now its all screwed up.
@Allisun85 that's so stressful! I hope you are able to find some relief!
@SkiChic626 so sorry about your DD! I think you're right on it being too late to prevent your catching it. DS had it in the fall and the doctor said they are actually contagious up until the blisters pop up, so if you're going it get it, it's already happened. Hopefully you won't catch it! My husband and I didn't get it from my son, and he's a stage 5 clinger, so there's hope
My bitch is at my 2 clients who cancelled last minute today. I would normally reschedule them for Wednesday, but I'm trying to take the day off. Whenever I attempt a day off I always end up coming in for this exact reason, so I'm putting my foot down... they'll just have to wait until Friday.
@Allisun85 that's really hard, I'm sorry to hear you're having to deal with such difficult decisions. I hope a way forward that's best becomes obvious.
katm89 I think your invoice showing the $130 should be proof enough for the bank that the charge was wrong and they'll handle it. I would dispute it ASAP since the vet doesn't seem to have a sense of urgency about it.
Our shower glass installer just called to let me know he's placing the order for our shower door today and they'll have it in 10-12 business days. We were supposed to have final inspection in 8 business days and we can't move in until we pass. So that sets us back by another week. Thanks dude... You could've given us the heads up on lead time *last month* when you were measuring and we told you we were in a time crunch because it's almost baby time.
I feel you! Our contractors were supposed to be done May 2. Still not done. When they ordered the shower glass, they assured us it was no rush to measure because it should only take 1-2 days. Try 2 weeks.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
My bitch today is at my brain.... NOT sure wtf it was thinking making me dream my unborn child died, then at a group function my DH said she killed him, so I punched him in the face knocking him out and continued once he "woke" as he tried to fend me off him until our friends pulled me off. WOKE up from that horrible dream trying to make baby move/kick and of course of all mornings and days he decided to not move at ALL until 10 am this morning. I was in total freak out mode all morning. Not a good MONDAY for sure. Luckily he is back to his karate kid moves and summer-salts in my belly!! wheeww.
@Allisun85 ... I have had the gallbladder issues (prior to pregnancy) and had the surgery... You are in a very tough situation. But if you could do a little of both, laying off the pain meds and eating less fatty foods I would try it. I would stay away from fast food, anything fried, and cheese. Granted cheese is a healthy fat it still does wonders to the gallbladder. I would try and watch what you eat for a week and track the pain and when and tie it to what you might have consumed. I know its not going to be easy, wish there was something more I could say or do for you . It isn't easy for sure. And surgery after you are down for at least 3-7 days. Sometimes even longer. so wont help with a new born. Good luck. prayers for you.
DH is home today and driving me crazy. This past weekend everything I do with DD it's well maybe we should do it different. Like "maybe we should have gotten our juice first." No, just no. I spend all day every day with her so back off I know what I'm doing and it's the same as every other day. I'm so tired of the nit picking about stupid stuff. But when I just point out that he's only given her two ounces of water for snack time when she sometimes drinks a whole bottle especially in this heat I get freaked out on. Or when I point out that she might need a diaper change while he's playing with her I get ignored and I'm the one that gets pee all over me because it didn't get changed. (In all fairness he IS a great dad, I'm just super annoyed at him not taking responsibility for the hard parts.)
Then I just want to get the nursery and DDs room set up, but he just keeps coming up with new projects like cleaning out the garage and changing around the bathroom. We have 10 weeks buddy. Let's focus here and stop wasting time.
Thanks everyone, honestly I've been fighting tears about it all day - luckily my co-workers are used to crazy pregnant lady random tears. Your support means a lot... my family, including DH is trying to be supportive but I can tell they are worried / scared too.
We have an appointment with the OBGYN Thursday to discuss the options the surgeon gave us, and make a decision that is best for everyone.
Basically, the surgeon is on board with whatever, whenever. He said if I wasn't pregnant, we'd be talking about surgery within the next two weeks, and a 3 to 4 day recovery...
My husband and I talked about it, and we think what might be the best compromise is to do the painkillers for the next five weeks, and see if I can go off them for a couple weeks prior to my due date... even if it means not working for those last weeks, and being completely miserable. After he gets here, I can follow the super restrictive diet for a few weeks while I heal... I think we'll also bring up with my obgyn if the baby is showing signs of distress after 38 weeks from me being in pain without the painkillers- can we / should we induce? Not at all the path I want to travel, but if that is what is better for him than letting him struggle with withdrawals, I will happily burn my birth plan.
We're pretty much going to leave the final decision in the hands of the OBGYN. I think it will end up being a lot of taking it week by week, and trying to balance what I can handle against what he needs to grow... Every week is a small victory at this point!
@bbyt Being down and out isn't so much my worry as what it might do to our attempts to establish breast feeding. My mom is retired, and lives nearby, and has already offered to move in to our guest room whenever we need, for however long we need. And I've been avoiding "fatty" foods, but the gastro suggested eating completely nonfat. So far I have just been not eating really anything until I get home from work, then a reasonably healthy dinner, then taking a pain killer, then eating "second dinner" as my husband has dubbed it, and heading to bed before it wears off. So realistically, I am only taking one pill a day, and while I am not eating as well as I was - it's better than living off boiled broccoli and lean chicken breast. I was already being scolded for not eating enough red meats, and carbs, prior to all this happening, lol.
If you contact me at the last minute requesting an incomplete and I bend over backwards to get it set up for you, the least you can do is show up to sign the paperwork. Grr.
@Allisun85 I feel so bad for you! I was never able to prevent the attacks no matter what I ate but I really hope that works for you! I never had any pain meds because doctors didn't take me seriously, but it sounds like you're having attacks almost every day! I think I would have lost my mind. Ugh I really hope your doctors can figure out a good solution for you and baby! *Hugs*
@Allisun85 thoughts are with you while you decide the best course of action. It sounds like you are very well informed and your doctors have given you some good options. I can't imagine the pain that you must be in!
Rolling this over into today. Last night we had dinner with DHs grandma. A little backstory, DHs uncle died about 10 years ago due to an over dose on prescription pills.
DHs cousin, who is now 16, got kicked out of school back in October because he got caught with a pocket knife, it was his second time getting caught with it so the school just handed it over to the police. He is on unsupervised probation and has to go back to court in September to follow up but he is supposed to be going to school or working a job. If he doesn't follow the order he will probably do some jail time.
He got into a fight with his mom back in January and moved in with DHs grandma. She had planned on getting him in school and hopefully helping him get a job. Fast forward to today and he has no job and didn't go to school at all last semester. He goes out with friends and gets drunk and comes home trashed. He recently started doing prescription pills and god knows what else. Two weeks ago he stole $100 from DHs grandma and then he stole $20 more. This past weekend he stole $80 and all her credit cards.
We had dinner with her last night to talk about it and see if there was anything we could do to help. DHs uncle also lives with his grandma and we thought that he just wasn't doing anything to help. His grandma is convinced that she has a handle on things and refuses to do anything about what this cousin is doing because she doesn't want him to go to jail. He will probably end up going to jail in September anyway because he hasn't done anything the court ordered him to do.
It it was his cousins dad that OD'd all those years ago and this was the exact same path that he took so we don't see how, after having to bury a son, how she can be so naive to think that these problems will just go away. We are so beyond frustrated with his grandma because she refuses to do anything and then last night she asked DH why he cared, um because he doesn't want to see anyone take advantage of his grandma like his cousin is. Ugh, why do people think that there is no need for people to take responsibility for their actions.
Sorry its its so long but I am still fuming after the conversation we had last night.
@lynnlove28 I would be fuming as well. It is so difficult to take a back seat to these situations and watch other family members enable and actually make the situation worse. They think they are doing the right thing, but if fact they are doing the worst possible thing for the person. We always think that people have to hit 'rock bottom' before there are willing to get better and that is just not the case. He clearly needs help and guidance right now. I don't have any advice but I hope there is some resolution for you and your DH.
@Lynnlove28 That is terrible, I am sorry. We have an epidemic of prescription drug abuse in this country, and it's terrible to think of someone getting into that at such a young age.
Have you guys considered alerting the boy's probation officer to his drug use? I know that's the extreme tough-love approach, but if you think he's probably going to end up in jail in September, it could be better for him and for the grandma to get the process started now. A kid can do a lot of damage over one summer. And maybe a court would consider some kind of rehab program instead of jail.
It sounds like any way you go, you're going to run into a lot more family drama. I'm sorry for your situation.
Re: Monday Bitchfest
If the copier says "needs toner" and will not print your document--don't walk away and wait until someone else fixes it.
If the copier needs paper and the paper is in the cupboard above the machine--fill it. Do not change the size of your copy.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
I havent even been watching my diet. I've been eating exactly how I was eating before I got the diagnosis. I don't trust this doctors office at all, if I hadn't already switched to them when I was about 16 weeks I would switch to a better office.
My husband snored SO loud last night the baby was complaining about it. It was "SNOOOOORE" *kickkickkick* "SNOOOOOOOORE" *kick*
Sigh.
Then today started out with an early am appointment to try to address the gall stones they found a week and a half ago, and there are no right answers. Surgery prior to delivery is dicey since I am already so far along, they would want me to go to a major hospital (at least 4 hours from home) in case the doctors needed to suddenly deliver little guy, and planning on him being in the NICU (again, at least 4 hours from home.) OR I can continue taking painkillers, which may cause him to have withdrawal upon birth. OR I can not take the pain killers, but they have already shown in l&d that me being in so much pain triggers distress in him (his heart rate and activity levels spiked, which is better than dropping, but still not great long term... poor stressed out little baby!.) And if I wait to do the surgery, and end up with a c section it could be 8-10 weeks after he's here before they allow me to have the gallbladder surgery... so waiting it out doesn't just mean another 9 weeks, it means quite possibly another 4 months. The gastro suggested a very restricted *no* fat diet, to try and control it, but my OBGYN said "you can't eat like that right now. The baby needs healthy fats in the third tri..."
Just feeling frustrated.
And the two women I work with are both wanting to take a bunch of time off, and I am frustrated because I *can't* come to work sometimes. It's not like "oh, I think I want to go to the beach" it's like - I spent the night in the hospital. So no, I can't say I will cover your work in addition to my own on such and such a day... I can't promise to be here. And some of the days they have asked me to cover are in the end of July, start of August - seriously? Oh yeah, I am absolutely positive that at 39 weeks I can cover your work - I'll just let the kiddo know he's not allowed out until *after* I do your work... So you can go to the beach. *eye roll*
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@SkiChic626 and @LacieMac That sounds miserable. Fingers crossed everyone gets past it quickly!
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Our A/C isn't working right in our office so it is just still hot air. Not fun. Our office manager lady came around to see if the men wanted her to order them fans and seemed annoyed when I asked if I could have one too. The women in my office are beyond ridiculous.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
so I called the vet but some person I don't know answered the phone( normally the receptionist that answers is my neighbor and we go way back) and explained the situation... and this person said they would have to check tonight and call me back tomorrow... so my DH made me call the CC company and they told me if I don't officially dispute it I may be liable for the charge even if it is incorrect because if they can't find in their records the charge was wrong then I will be accountable for the charge and interest. So awkward because I literally live at the vet and next week I need to go buy more cat food. Plus this charge went through on May 31st and I paid 910$ June 1st to try and keep our balance at 330$ for baby preparation and now its all screwed up.
@SkiChic626 so sorry about your DD! I think you're right on it being too late to prevent your catching it. DS had it in the fall and the doctor said they are actually contagious up until the blisters pop up, so if you're going it get it, it's already happened. Hopefully you won't catch it! My husband and I didn't get it from my son, and he's a stage 5 clinger, so there's hope
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
NOT sure wtf it was thinking making me dream my unborn child died, then at a group function my DH said she killed him, so I punched him in the face knocking him out and continued once he "woke" as he tried to fend me off him until our friends pulled me off. WOKE up from that horrible dream trying to make baby move/kick and of course of all mornings and days he decided to not move at ALL until 10 am this morning. I was in total freak out mode all morning. Not a good MONDAY for sure. Luckily he is back to his karate kid moves and summer-salts in my belly!!
Then I just want to get the nursery and DDs room set up, but he just keeps coming up with new projects like cleaning out the garage and changing around the bathroom. We have 10 weeks buddy. Let's focus here and stop wasting time.
Thanks everyone, honestly I've been fighting tears about it all day - luckily my co-workers are used to crazy pregnant lady random tears. Your support means a lot... my family, including DH is trying to be supportive but I can tell they are worried / scared too.
We have an appointment with the OBGYN Thursday to discuss the options the surgeon gave us, and make a decision that is best for everyone.
Basically, the surgeon is on board with whatever, whenever. He said if I wasn't pregnant, we'd be talking about surgery within the next two weeks, and a 3 to 4 day recovery...
My husband and I talked about it, and we think what might be the best compromise is to do the painkillers for the next five weeks, and see if I can go off them for a couple weeks prior to my due date... even if it means not working for those last weeks, and being completely miserable. After he gets here, I can follow the super restrictive diet for a few weeks while I heal... I think we'll also bring up with my obgyn if the baby is showing signs of distress after 38 weeks from me being in pain without the painkillers- can we / should we induce? Not at all the path I want to travel, but if that is what is better for him than letting him struggle with withdrawals, I will happily burn my birth plan.
We're pretty much going to leave the final decision in the hands of the OBGYN. I think it will end up being a lot of taking it week by week, and trying to balance what I can handle against what he needs to grow... Every week is a small victory at this point!
@bbyt Being down and out isn't so much my worry as what it might do to our attempts to establish breast feeding. My mom is retired, and lives nearby, and has already offered to move in to our guest room whenever we need, for however long we need. And I've been avoiding "fatty" foods, but the gastro suggested eating completely nonfat. So far I have just been not eating really anything until I get home from work, then a reasonably healthy dinner, then taking a pain killer, then eating "second dinner" as my husband has dubbed it, and heading to bed before it wears off. So realistically, I am only taking one pill a day, and while I am not eating as well as I was - it's better than living off boiled broccoli and lean chicken breast. I was already being scolded for not eating enough red meats, and carbs, prior to all this happening, lol.
@allisun85 Keep your head up, it'll be ok! Thoughts go out to you!
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
@allisun85 thinking of you and your baby. Hope you find the best path forward for both of you!
@skichic626 That's wonderful!
DHs cousin, who is now 16, got kicked out of school back in October because he got caught with a pocket knife, it was his second time getting caught with it so the school just handed it over to the police. He is on unsupervised probation and has to go back to court in September to follow up but he is supposed to be going to school or working a job. If he doesn't follow the order he will probably do some jail time.
He got into a fight with his mom back in January and moved in with DHs grandma. She had planned on getting him in school and hopefully helping him get a job. Fast forward to today and he has no job and didn't go to school at all last semester. He goes out with friends and gets drunk and comes home trashed. He recently started doing prescription pills and god knows what else. Two weeks ago he stole $100 from DHs grandma and then he stole $20 more. This past weekend he stole $80 and all her credit cards.
We had dinner with her last night to talk about it and see if there was anything we could do to help. DHs uncle also lives with his grandma and we thought that he just wasn't doing anything to help. His grandma is convinced that she has a handle on things and refuses to do anything about what this cousin is doing because she doesn't want him to go to jail. He will probably end up going to jail in September anyway because he hasn't done anything the court ordered him to do.
It it was his cousins dad that OD'd all those years ago and this was the exact same path that he took so we don't see how, after having to bury a son, how she can be so naive to think that these problems will just go away. We are so beyond frustrated with his grandma because she refuses to do anything and then last night she asked DH why he cared, um because he doesn't want to see anyone take advantage of his grandma like his cousin is. Ugh, why do people think that there is no need for people to take responsibility for their actions.
Sorry its its so long but I am still fuming after the conversation we had last night.
Have you guys considered alerting the boy's probation officer to his drug use? I know that's the extreme tough-love approach, but if you think he's probably going to end up in jail in September, it could be better for him and for the grandma to get the process started now. A kid can do a lot of damage over one summer. And maybe a court would consider some kind of rehab program instead of jail.
It sounds like any way you go, you're going to run into a lot more family drama. I'm sorry for your situation.