Ok so I hated being pregnant. Totally hated it. I had a horrible labour too. I said we would stop at one baby because I couldn't stand the thought of being pregnant again.
Now just 6 weeks PP and I've managed to convince my husband that we need to have another one because I need to do this again and our girl needs a sibling. Total opposite of what I was saying 6 weeks ago!
Anyone else changed their mind about another baby and already talking about it with their partner??
Re: Who wants another one?
This house is going to be "fun" enough in 8 years or so without potentially added a 4th girl in the mix since there is no guarantee the next one would be a boy.
That being said, I'm always a bit rattled after labor and delivery. It faded fast last time and I suspect it will again, but we will wait until DD is at least 2 I think!
Eta: No, I do not want anymore.
I would love to give DS a sibling because all of his cousins live out of state. That being said, I had really severe pre-e resulting in a 2 week NICU stay. That was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. My Dr said that because my pre-e was so bad (worst case she has seen in 20 years) that she would estimate me having about a 40% chance of getting it again. That scares the crap out of DH (I can deal). What scares me is the thought of another NICU baby. We will really discuss things once DS turns 2.
Married: Oct 20, 2013
BFP 1: Aug 31, 2015
EDD 1: May 12, 2016
DD1 Emma born May 12, 2016
An Honest Account of New Motherhood (with Postpartum Anxiety, Depression, and OCD)
BFP 2: October 07, 2019
EDD 2: June 20, 2020
I do love being pregnant and having kids, but man, I'm getting too old for this s***. Yesterday had a long talk about sex with the older kid (GROSS!) and then got pooped on by the little one. Just shat right on my shoe as I was getting her weight at the doc. And three girls? Did I mention that DH is a saint? The hormones in this apartment sometimes. . .
Speaking of which, I found is article yesterday. Banking on the amnesia hitting in 2 years.
https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/04/before-i-forget-what-nobody-remembers-about-new-motherhood/274981/
Then we had one and thought hey, one is good, people who have more than 1 are crazy. When the first started to let us get regular sleep that was when we were like hey maybe another isn't a bad idea...
Now we have 2. And now we aren't sleeping again.
Could it be the no sleep severe sleep deprivation kills brain cells and people forget how hard it is and go ahead and have another? Case in point the article posted above by missnc77.
After having our first daughter I honestly wasn't sure about having more kids and it took me until about 1.5 years pp until I was ready to even talk about having another.
I I can't believe this time, at only 2 weeks pp, I'm feeling like I want another! But who knows if we really will try for another. Won't talk about that for awhile.
DS: Born 5-17-16
Afterwards, DH said to DS, "well, looks like it's going to be another year before we can give you a little sister" oy!! I always said I wanted 2, at least, because being an only child myself was lonely.
Somedays when he's looking super cute all snuggled up to me, then yesss I totally want more! But when he's screaming in my face, it's like NOPE JUST ONE!
DH and I are done with kids by 30 (I'm 26 this year) or very early 30s. We'll retire at 51-52 so all kiddos must be out of the house by then!!
If I'm being honest though, I want a third even on the challenging days. I love being a Mom, and I think I'll have that complete feeling when the time is right.