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November 2016 Moms
mell94
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TW: Loss Mentioned
mell94
member
I know I wasn't exactly the most active member of the bump community however i lurked this board so much i practically felt like this was my second home.
I have had the craziest past 10 weeks since finding out I was pregnant and being diagnosed with a large subchorionic hematoma.
My world was turned upside down on June 3rd after i unknowingly went into labour and delivered our little man who was born asleep.
I had been bleeding for 10 weeks straight yet at every scan we had (and we had a lot...6 to be exact) he was measuring on point and was active and wriggling around, even moving enough for me to feel occasionaly. I had been in and out of hospital for nasty bleeding and large hand sized clots however they seemed extremely optimistic considering my bleed was near my cervix and not my placenta.
I had been bleeding for 10 weeks straight yet at every scan we had (and we had a lot...6 to be exact) he was measuring on point and was active and wriggling around, even moving enough for me to feel occasionaly. I had been in and out of hospital for nasty bleeding and large hand sized clots however they seemed extremely optimistic considering my bleed was near my cervix and not my placenta.
The day before my loss i had noticed i was not able to find our baby's heartbeat on my home doppler which i was usually able to do straight away, but i put it down to him just being small and more active so probably harder to find.
It was 8:30pm when i started to cramp and contract however all my big bleeds had been accompanied by cramping and contractions (much like labour) before so i thought nothing of it.
I decided to download a contraction app to time my contractions which had now become stronger...i was induced with my first so i wasn't sure what natural labour was actually like, plus my contractions were still bearable and only slightly uncomfortable. Warning after warning popped up to call an ambulance or make my way to hospital on my app but i still believed i was just over reacting, after all, i was 15 weeks pregnant and people just don't go into labour at 15 weeks...so i told myself.
At 10:10pm i decided to ring our state health advice number to talk to a registered nurse before I began the 25min drive incase i really was overreacting; to reassure me that everything was okay and that what i was experiencing was "completely normal".
While on the phone at 10:15pm, i had one massive contraction and felt what i thought to be a large clot pass before another contraction caused my water to break and more to pass. I was in hysterics. My partner was out playing poker and i had adamantly told him i was fine and he could stay and now i may have to ring him to say we had lost our baby. I couldn't bring myself to see if i really did or if i was overreacting. I sobbed on the floor for 5 minutes before i looked to confirm my worst fears. We hadn't found out what we were having yet so i wanted to make sure we knew - a beautiful little boy we have named Reid Asher.
The next 12hrs are like a blur to me.
I know i couldn't have changed anything but there's always a part of me that says i shouldn't have been so naive and i should have gone to the hospital sooner.
We were told my placenta appeared to have a bleed which wasn't detected and part of it had lost it's blood supply which in turn may have caused our loss. We were offered an autopsy however opted out as we couldn't bare the thought of waiting 6-12 months for potentially no answers. Instead we have chose to except that things happen for a reason and no matter what, we couldn't have prevented this from happening.
I am so sorry for rambling and perhaps going into too much unnecessary detail but talking about this seems to help me to accept it all. We're still completely broken but we're slowly trying to piece ourselves together again.
I want to wish everyone the best of luck in their pregnancies. I will probably continue on with my lurking and can not wait to see everyone's little humans.
Xx
Re: TW: Loss Mentioned
DD: 8/20/14; DS: 11/13/16; DD: 5/3/19; DD: 8/31/21; Baby #5 (team green) due 3/24/24
BFP: 2/25/16; DD: 11/6/16
Nov16 Siggy Challenge:
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019DS1: 12/17/2014
DS2: born sleeping at 26 weeks on 8/8/2016 due to chromosomal deletion
Pregnant with baby 3 - EDD 9/14/2017
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Beautiful rainbow DS born Jan. 2015
BFP #3: March 2016! EDD 11/17/16
Sweet DD born at 41 weeks Feb 2015
*Diagnosed with lean PCOS*
TWINS due 11/22/2016
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
Please take care of yourself and try to see the light at the end of the tunnel, so sorry you had to experience this.
TTC #2 since Mar 2017
DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility)
IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN
IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts!
FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN
FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
Mom to P (12/7/10) Step-Mom-to-be to H (05/29/13)
BFP 10/13/14 TWINS! 20 week loss of both twins, Scott Feivel and Miles Conrad
BFP 06/19/2015 16 week loss, Penny June
2015 Working with RI; Diagnosed with thrombopheiia and celiacs
BFP 03/12/16 TWINS AGAIN! PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOWS
BFP 01/01/2015, EDD 09/07/2015, CP
BFP 10/09/2015, EDD 06/01/2016, MC @ 7 weeks
BFP 03/12/2016, DD#2 born 11/15/2016
BFP 01/28/2019, EDD 09/29/2019