Visiting family-to tell or not?

Eveinshock

I am so torn over this.  We are leaving in less than two weeks to have our wedding in Europe. My extended family is there but my husbands ENTIRE family lives there (mom, siblings, friends, etc).  We really would love to tell his family in person but it's going to be so early at only 8 weeks.  

I would normally say lets just do it, but I'm extra cautious bc I had a mmc on New Year's Eve. 11 weeks, measured 7, and was my second ultrasound.  I think dr is going to get me in for an early US at 6.5 but that's exactly when I had the last one too. Baby measured 6 days small.  Maybe if it's measuring perfect I'll feel more comfortable?

Just curious what you guys would do?

Jamiemitchell85

We told hubbys family at 5 weeks. I had a MC New Years weekend... @6/7 weeks... No heartbeat. It's up to you. But we did it anyway.

rissa06

We are going to a wedding in two weeks as well.

For us , we aren't telling just on the off chance something happens.  I don't want to tell the entire family that I have lost the baby.  

blush64

I waited to tell people each time for various reasons. Had the situations been different I probably have told sooner. 

If you are comfortable with everyone knowing if something happens then I would go ahead and tell them. 

BumpasaurusRex

For me, I would tell them.  

But really, it's up to you and your husband to decide what you're comfortable with.

kswiger06

It would be so exciting to share the news in person! I've never experienced a loss in pregnancy, and can't imagine what it would be like to have to let people know things went bad. But maybe it would be a good idea to appoint a friend or relative to be a possible bad news sharer. You could share your great news but if things don't work out you would only have to tell 1 person to relay the message and ask for some privacy, support, and consideration. I'm sure the family would be extra thrilled to be told face to face!! Wishing you the best!

Eveinshock

Thanks for all your thoughts.  I'm leaning towards telling assuming all looks good next week.  Praying it does...

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

I tell the people I would tell if I had a loss (parents, BFF). I'm going to tell my two other close friends and DH will tell his parents after our scan next Tuesday. 

MagicMikki

Of course, it's ultimately up to you!   We are telling our immediate families really early (within next couple of weeks).  We are just so excited, and if we were to have a loss, we'd want them to know that, as well.  Good luck!