FFFC 6/3

yogahh

I know we are all busy with babies and stuff, but you got to still have some juicy confessions!

yogahh

Since DH and I had been up for over 48 hours after my CS, and it was 2am, I didn't want him driving home so we splurged on a private room in the hospital that one night so he could sleep. It was $500 and obviously not covered by insurance. We slept for 3 hours before the nurse woke me up to check vitals and get me up and walking, so it was NOT worth the money. We just found out that the hospital is closing, so we are going to try to get away without paying the bill. I know, I know...that's HORRIBLE. But seriously, charged us $500 for 3 hours of sleep?? I am secretly hoping they just forget to send us a bill!

dsmith211

yogahh said:

Since DH and I had been up for over 48 hours after my CS, and it was 2am, I didn't want him driving home so we splurged on a private room in the hospital that one night so he could sleep. It was $500 and obviously not covered by insurance. We slept for 3 hours before the nurse woke me up to check vitals and get me up and walking, so it was NOT worth the money. We just found out that the hospital is closing, so we are going to try to get away without paying the bill. I know, I know...that's HORRIBLE. But seriously, charged us $500 for 3 hours of sleep?? I am secretly hoping they just forget to send us a bill!

That really doesn't surprise me. We just got the itemized bill from the hospital the other day. We're not responsible for any of it thankfully bc we met our deductible already, but for a 5 day stay it would have cost us just over $50k without insurance. Ridiculous.

LadySamLady

I pretend I'm uncomfortable nursing around my FIL so
that I can get away during visits and reduce the amount of visits. I feel bad but my ILs are overbearing and want to come over to see the baby constantly. In reality I don't care at all about nursing in front of family. 

yogahh

dsmith211 said:

yogahh said:

Since DH and I had been up for over 48 hours after my CS, and it was 2am, I didn't want him driving home so we splurged on a private room in the hospital that one night so he could sleep. It was $500 and obviously not covered by insurance. We slept for 3 hours before the nurse woke me up to check vitals and get me up and walking, so it was NOT worth the money. We just found out that the hospital is closing, so we are going to try to get away without paying the bill. I know, I know...that's HORRIBLE. But seriously, charged us $500 for 3 hours of sleep?? I am secretly hoping they just forget to send us a bill!

That really doesn't surprise me. We just got the itemized bill from the hospital the other day. We're not responsible for any of it thankfully bc we met our deductible already, but for a 5 day stay it would have cost us just over $50k without insurance. Ridiculous.

Ours was 33k. Haven't got notifications on what we owe yet, but nervous! How do people without insurance pay these bills?

missnc77

It makes me sad when I get a friend request from someone I'm really excited to connect with only to see they're using their FB to sell thing/do those ridiculous team challenges. You only friended me to sell and market to me. What a let down. 

TXmamatobe

I'm dumb. I am so confused about the private room conversations that have come up. What is the alternative? Why do you have to pay more for a private room? I've never heard of or seen a non-private room for L&D or pp recovery.  Is it a regional thing? I feel like I've missed something. 

LadySamLady

TXmamatobe said:

I'm dumb. I am so confused about the private room conversations that have come up. What is the alternative? Why do you have to pay more for a private room? I've never heard of or seen a non-private room for L&D or pp recovery.  Is it a regional thing? I feel like I've missed something. 

@yogahh and I live in NYC where the hospitals have thousands of deliveries every year. The delivery rooms are private but recovery rooms are shared, unless you pay for a private room (if one happens to be available) which isn't covered by insurance. I shared my recovery room and it really wasn't bad at all, the room is divided by a curtain so you don't see each other but you definitely hear everything. I'm nosy so I enjoyed eavesdropping and I actually became friendly with my neighbor. My husband was allowed to stay with me in the shared room so that wasn't an issue for us either, although the recliner wasn't very comfortable for him. I would do it the same way next time if I'm still in NYC!

yogahh

LadySamLady said:

TXmamatobe said:

I'm dumb. I am so confused about the private room conversations that have come up. What is the alternative? Why do you have to pay more for a private room? I've never heard of or seen a non-private room for L&D or pp recovery.  Is it a regional thing? I feel like I've missed something. 

@yogahh and I live in NYC where the hospitals have thousands of deliveries every year. The delivery rooms are private but recovery rooms are shared, unless you pay for a private room (if one happens to be available) which isn't covered by insurance. I shared my recovery room and it really wasn't bad at all, the room is divided by a curtain so you don't see each other but you definitely hear everything. I'm nosy so I enjoyed eavesdropping and I actually became friendly with my neighbor. My husband was allowed to stay with me in the shared room so that wasn't an issue for us either, although the recliner wasn't very comfortable for him. I would do it the same way next time if I'm still in NYC!

The only difference for me was dh wasn't allowed to stay in the shared room. Which is why we got the private for that one night. I lucked out for the last two nights though as the shared room I was moved too turned into a private room since I never had a roommate. 

jenl1681

I live in upstate NY- delivery room is private but recovery rooms are shared. It was dead for most of my stay, on the final morning though I got a roomie at 6 am, I checked out around 11am though. They had a swarm of births, and try to pair it so you aren't sharing or only have to share a short time. 

Charla1224

My original plan was to stay home with Elizabeth for at least 6 months. Listen... I love my girl but 3 weeks home with her all day and I'm hoping I can return to work. I want to miss her. Similar to @LadySamLady, Elizabeth won't let other people hold her most of the time and nursing makes me feel like I'm constantly on call. I'm not made to be a SAHM.

NinnyJean

LadySamLady said:

I pretend I'm uncomfortable nursing around my FIL so
that I can get away during visits and reduce the amount of visits. I feel bad but my ILs are overbearing and want to come over to see the baby constantly. In reality I don't care at all about nursing in front of family. 

I do this same thing! My ILs aren't good about keeping visits short so I usually say I have to feed her and hope they get the hint. Sometimes though they still don't get it and I then end up going into my room to get away. It was fine when DH was home but now he's working and MIL visits during the day when it's just me home and we have nothing to talk about

TheThornBird

The day after LO was born, I was going stir-crazy in my hospital room so I asked if I could walk around the hospital. They said I could walk to the lobby and back, which would have been *maybe* a 2 minute walk. 

I got to the lobby and walked right out the front doors and had a lovely, long walk outside. Although the entire time I was terrified someone would see my wristbands and make me go back! 

wsgjmw1

I knew MIL was coming over today to "drop stuff off for us" which means come inside and hold DS for hours. I usually keep him down stairs in the PnP but today I kept him upstairs in the mama roo for his nap so she cannot barge in and grab him. I am getting tired of finally getting him down for a nap and she comes in ... picks him up/wakes him then I have to feed and calm him so she can hold him. Sorry not today I am dog tired and not in the mood .

bkjade

DH wanted to watch Jet so I could get out of the house for an hour, which I was going to use to go grocery shopping. I got a massage instead 

Also, the entire time I was gone I wanted to come home. I know that he's her father and is completely capable of taking care of her but I really had to resist the urge to text him every five minutes and ask if she was ok. 

missnc77

@bkjade - Did you lay on your stomach during the massage? I'm a stomach sleeper, but I have been terrified to actually put full weight on my chest. I'm afraid my boobs will pop like a water balloon and milk will spray everywhere. A massage sounds heavenly. 

@charla1224 I figured I wouldn't want to be a SAHM pre-birth, but I never said never since I didn't know what it would be like once she's here. Now that she's here, my intuition has been confirmed. I'm not meant to be a SAHM. I'm no where near a workaholic, but I do log onto my work computer once a week to see what's going on in the work world. It reminds me I'm more than a boob of milk, poop wiping, diaper changer. I know dropping her at daycare will be tough, but I think I will also feel some relief. The only thing I worry about is how to make the most of the time we do have together during the week while being able to get in some physical activity and not be completely brain dead from the work day. 

And on the work topic, for anyone who remembers me complaining about the person covering for me at work that will also become my employee when I am back, judging by the emails I'm cc:'ed on, he's still screwing up. You'd think he'd be better after 3 months of working in tandem with me, but nope. I think my boss didn't want to deal with him anymore, so she gave me a promotion so he'd be my problem. If I don't get a raise post leave, I'm going to be an unhappy camper.

Bltbear82

@yogahh my friend delivered at Lenox Hill and supposedly the private rooms there are $1k+ a night!  Ours was around $700 a night I think?

arj14

Baby is 1 week today, and I have to say, DH has been great.  He's had to go to work because he used his last PTO when I was in labor, but he'll be off for the summer after next Wednesday (thank god).  The biggest problem is that I need to adjust my mental stance about asking him to do things.  Before S, getting him to do anything was like pulling teeth.  Now he pretty much hops to it if I ask - I just need to keep reminding myself of the "new" DH response before I start to feel frustrated.

saltedcaramel518

DH's family just arrived (SIL, BIL, 3 kids, & grandma + his parents are coming tomorrow.. Arrrgh). Just as soon as they got here, it was time for DS to eat. So while DH is dealing with the toddlers going nuts (SIL doesn't really discipline her kids..), I'm just quietly nursing in the baby's room. Definitely staying in here longer than necessary. Also, I might severely maim DH for telling his family it was okay for all of them to visit at once. 

Update: baby's taking a boob nap. I'm so not moving for the next half hour. 

kami09

I don't click on the birth announcement thread until it's a name I recognize..

kami09

Thought of something else (while I'm up sick from the crazy amounts of Mexican I ate tonight...not because I'm feeding my baby) I used to be kind of an ass/BF nazi...now that I have my second, even though I'm EBF, I wouldn't mind to FF. & I saw someone say they needed to supplement & it makes baby much happier but they are disappointed... All I kept thinking was- it sounds like a win to me! Lol

JoMunson

These are my confessions...
1. I worked really hard to finish grad school and get a teaching job my first year out and now I really want to be a stay at home mom. I even used to be a daycare provider and I feel like other people will just mess Ezra up. 
2. I'm even thinking of trying to get a teaching gig in town so I don't have to drive an hour to school and back (so two hours travel time) and can maybe BF him during my lunch break/pick him up right after school and bring him back with me.
3. I feel bad every time I have to put Ez down so I can do something. The ergo is so hard to put on myself but I feel like he learns more and is content more if I wear him.
4. I had to buy bigger clothes today since my pre pregnancy clothes don't quite fit yet. Guess I'll start my workout tomorrow
...if I don't stop this will end up being a TTT post!

bkjade

@missnc77 - I did lay on my stomach and I BF right before I left the house. The pressure actually kept me from leaking while on my stomach, it was laying on my back that I actually leaked Next time I'll probably keep one of my more comfortable nursing bras on.  

gorgeousariel

@yogahh @dsmith211   I can't believe your hospital bills are so much! I just got mine and it is $12k. Granted I didn't have a CS but still that is ridiculous.