Just curious..

Jamiemitchell85

Obviously all of us are new and due right around the same time. Who have you told so far?

blush64

I have only told my husband. I won't tell anyone because it isn't exactly my news. If the Intended parents weren't family I would be more open with my family for support but as it is I want them to be the ones in control of the information.

I will tell the IP I got a positive test just before my beta test.

With my daughter I told my immediate family at about 12 weeks and extended family later. My sons were another story. I prefer to tell a bit later only because I like the privacy.

Vastra

I have only told H and my best friend, because she's been through this (and has had some struggles) and I really need to have someone I can talk to in person about all this. 
I really wanted to wait until 3 months before telling my family, but they live on the opposite coast and I really want to do it in person. I'm seeing them in September, but by then I'll be four months and that seems too long. My other option is to go home at the end of June for some family celebrations, but that seems too soon. 

Jamiemitchell85

I got a big mouth I just blabbed to EVERYONE. This is my rainbow baby. Although I'm nervous, I'm super excited... 

Hillmama86

Only my husband knows. I am 5 weeks Thursday, so I sent an email to my midwife to set up my first prenatal.
I think I will keep it under wraps for a few more weeks.

allysondunn2

My mom and MIL know. I am planning on telling my best friend tomorrow. Our first appointment is in 2 weeks so we may tell siblings after that.

BumpasaurusRex

We've told both sets of parents and siblings.  

As for the rest of the world, we'll probably tell friends right around 12 weeks.  We did the same with DS so we'll probably follow suit with this one.

turtlemobile2

I told my mom, my MiL, my 2 sisters, my 2 best friends and my entire J15 mommy group, so like 74 of us. So basically everyone.

Xstatic3333

I told my BFF over the weekend since she was visiting and the next two times I'll see her in person will be at events related to her wedding. I'll need to tell my boss at my part-time scuba instructor job tonight, since diving while PG is counterindicated. She knew we were trying so hopefully it'll go okay. I'd like to wait until we see the heartbeat for everyone else. All future grandparents are big worriers, and I don't want to need to worry about consoling them if anything happens. 

I am am running into small suspicions based on the fact that I normally don't decline a drink. A distant friend at the wedding I went to flat out guessed it based on my ginger ale. There's going to be lots of carrying around empty beer cans in my future. 

Yailani23

I told my DH and my parents with a cute Big Sister sticker on DD's shirt. 

I decided to tell two of my closest coworkers because I have a very difficult child in my classroom this year and they've agreed to help me with him until the end of the school year. 

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

Right now my Mom, DH, and my best friend know. Given our history, I probably won't tell anyone else, except maybe MIL until much later on. 

txjrog

Right now only DH, my best friend and my teaching partner know. We want to tell family but want to tell them in person so it's going to have to wait. I wish I could scream it from the rooftops but with our history we are guarding our hearts for now. 

jbuck909

I've told DH and my coworkers. That's going to be it until 12 weeks or so. 

PerraSucia

Ive been really open about doing ivf and was on bedrest for most of last week for my transfer so I've told anyone who has asked 

Jelly Bean 001

I told DH, my Mom, my MIL, and 2 girl friends. everyone else will wait until I hear the heart beat. we aren't telling DD until about 5-6 months I think, cause she won't understand.

skiingstark

I have told a lot of people already because I waited last time and then had MC and everyone was asking me why I was so sad. So I ended up telling everyone I had a MC. My DH, my parents, quite a few coworkers, my trainer and boot camp girlfriends and a few closer friends. So yeah a lot of people already know, basically so this time if I MC they understand why I am sad. 

kami2277

Lots of people close to us know. We did ivf so they all knew what was going on. 

rmcj88

I just found out this morning and haven't even told my DH, LOL!  Waiting until I see him later today.  Trying to think of a cute way to do it!

Bebe13lue

I told my fiancé right after I saw the positive. Told my soon to be MIL and this weekend will be telling my FIL. I have also told 3 of my best girlfriends as we are all attending a bachelorette party where the first item on the itinerary is a wine tasting, followed by sushi... So that should be interesting. Everyone else, including my immediate family will know after my 12 week appointment. I'm 5 weeks today! 

pennylucille-2

DH has told his good friend that he talks to every day. Other than that we haven't told anyone. I honestly don't know if I can act normal around certain people keeping this a secret, so we will probably end up telling my parents, MIL, and our best friends that live down the street very soon. We will probably wait until at least after we've seen the doc to tell everyone else.

rissa06

I told MH/One of my closest friends from
home and a friend here just in case I need support.  We will tell
the kids when im in the second trimester and don't know about the family.  My parents don't think we should have anymore kids so it is going to be hard for me to tell them.

antarctica

Just my husband. We plan to tell family right after ohr first ultrasound. it's been weird going to events and not drinking, so I think people have an idea, but we aren't revealing until we get that little photo!

kswiger06

Just got my BFP! only a couple hours ago. This is our 3rd, and I don't really think our families are expecting this news from us though we talked about the idea of expanding our family many times. I decided shortly after starting prenatals in February that I want to keep it between husband and I for a while. Then tell our children ( 9 and 7 ). Once they know they will blab I'm sure haha. So I woke my husband up to tell him the news but other than that it will be a secret until we can't hold it any longer! 

yogadevil

DH knows, my parents, MIL, and my best friend. Oh and DH's commanding officer (army) since he's gone for several weeks at training with zero contact- if something were to happen they're giving in to special circumstances where I'd be able to contact him.

I don't like telling so many people so early, but I would need support "in case" so it's whatever at this point

LinnyAnne10

We told my mil/fil the aunts and my parents. Thats it. We are waiting a little longer before

pennylucille-2

We've decided we're going to wait until after seeing the doctor at 8 weeks to tell anyone. It's going to be really hard to keep it from my parents, and I really don't think we can get away with not seeing them for that long, lol. I'm worried my mom will notice that my boobs are extra huge and guess it 
I told DH if that happens, I won't be able to keep a straight face, and the secret will be out.

hispenguin

We told almost everyone who knew we were doing fertility treatments. So my parents, sisters, and my closest of friends.

Patience7150

I have told DH and that's it. We got our BFP Sunday morning. We're pretty reserved since this will be a rainbow baby (and our first), and we're leaving on a three week vacation tomorrow so it'll be easy to avoid people. My bff is in town right after we get back so I might tell her then. Parents will know after 12 weeks...co-workers as appropriate. I just realized how much less enthused I am about sharing the news this time around!

annalxn

DH is the only one who knows right now. I really don't think I'll be able to hold it in around my best friend so I will tell her soon and DH is really bad with keeping the news a secret from his best friend (told him at 5-6 weeks last time lol). I will tell my mom soon, but the rest of the immediate family will wait until after 1st ultrasound. Everyone else after 12 weeks.

MelSanti

I've only told immediate family and a couple close friends. I'd like to announce it to the world, however I'm starting a teaching job in August and am worried about how the school will react!

MagicMikki

I told my BFF, but we will be telling my MIL tomorrow, and my mom in the next couple of weeks.  I will be waiting to tell my job until late/end of summer. 

ohstars

I've told DH, my 3 best friends and my sister. I want to tell my mom and DH wants to tell his mom because we rarely see her and she's in town now, so likely both will know in the next couple of days. 

adriennep7

I told my Hubby, his family, my immediate family, and 2 friends!! It's definitely hard to keep it in, but had MC 2 years. Trying to only tell the people that I would tell if I had another MC.

HarryPotterandCats

DH knows, he has told his best friend and one of his coworkers. I have told Hs cousin (who is married to his best), two of my close friends, and one coworker. Im tell my work tomorrow (as long as my betas come back good today). I have a pretty physical job and I need to limit my schedule so I dont over do myself. 

grapeskittles4lyfe

DH knows. A friend knows we've been trying for awhile, but she doesn't know it worked. Will wait until DD's birthday party/our going away party (we're moving) to tell more people. I will be 12 weeks by then, so hopefully the tests will be back and we will know more.

poofwok

Currently, only DH and my director at work (because I get put on preventative leave as a nurse) and so she has to know.

we will probably tell family and friends in a few weeks.

Jenndpierce

We have been going through IVF so of course my DF knows.   I've told my best friend.  Other than that we are keeping it low key until we are for sure.  We miscarried in December and my in laws were so distraught.  So we wanna make sure this pregnancy is viable before making an announcement.   I'd like to do something really special for them to tell them. My family isn't around so there won't be an announcement made official.  They can hear through the grapevine.  

tclayton53

For our close family, we are trying to have DH go up and tell them she's going to be a big sister. We realize the risk is that once she learns to tell them and see's the positive attention, she'll tell everyone. We'll be on a two week vacation when at the time and plan to make a larger announcement when we get back so I think it will work out.

For a more public announcement, we did a photo with our ultrasound the first time so are thinking of keeping it consistent but including DH. Something like this 

PerraSucia

@tclayton53 my son told every person at his preschool there was a tiny baby in my stomach. 

Julieuwlax

Only my husband knows right now. Last time we told our parents after our first doctor appointment at 8-9 weeks, then rest of the family a couple weeks later, and then made it "Facebook official" after my 2nd ultrasound around 12-13 weeks. That will probably be the plan this time as well although part of me wants to tell our parents now. We don't have our first doctor appointment until 7/6, so I have several weekends, including Father's Day and 4th of July weekend to try to get through without people catching on! It's hard because I would normally be drinking at those events. It hate having to keep it a secret! But it is nice to have that confirmation from the doctor first!

SnobunnieMel

Right now only DH and my acupuncturist know. If my second betas come back good tomorrow we will tell parents and my group of amazing girl friends since elementary school. They have been with me and amazing through both our losses this year and I don't want to discredit them by keeping it a secret. Plus we are all in a wedding together in 2 weeks so they will notice when I'm not enjoying all the beverages