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August 2016 Moms
Fremdschamen
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PGAL Check-in May 30
Fremdschamen
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ETA: ** This thread is for those who are pregnant after a loss (PGAL). If that is not you, support is welcome, but please check-in elsewhere.**
Weeks:
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy?
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
BFP #3: 12/16/2015 DD2 born 8/27/2016
Re: PGAL Check-in May 30
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): No appointment till June 10, but I'm less than a week till third tri!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Thinking of you all! I'm still having a hard time around paranoia after bananers' early delivery. I'm overanalyzing every twinge and symptom. Thankfully, baby is still very active.
We're heading out on a family trip at the end of this week and I'm irrationally scared that something will happen while I'm away. I haven't said anything to DH because he will think I'm being crazy.
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? Both of our families are very supportive! I'm so grateful that even though they live far away, we have emotionally supportive families.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
29w1d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to):
Appointment next Monday. I'm waiting on a call to schedule my c-section. I found out my doctor will be out of town on the date we decided but I'm ok with the doctor she suggested. I had the new doctor assist when they tried to flip DS. Trying to think positive thoughts about it.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
Like @Fremdschamen said, I'm terrified after bananers' early delivery. Everything scares me.
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy?
Everyone has kind of forgotten about our losses. After we hit the first ultrasound (when they found out) they stopped mentioning it. If I mention any fears, you can usually see them getting uncomfortable. I'm the first to experience a loss on DH's side; they don't know what to do/say. My side has never been supportive so that's expected. DH and I talk about the fears and worries a lot. He's good at that!
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I have a check up this Wednesay for cervix check. I'm thinking about having them check my dilation- last time they did I was at 1.5. I feel like I'm still having all the same symptoms I was having before even with bed rest minus the BH. I can't help worrying and I feel like it helps me to know where everything stands.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Feeling thankful to have made it to 31 weeks only 3 weeks away from being what they call "gold level" for preemies. With Bananers and my newly found issue the panic of having this little man early is causing a lot of anxiety for me as well as y'all. Every week I feel like it's a huge achievement at this point. On a really positive note I am so happy for everyone! We are so close to having our new additions and considering back in November/December when we all met how afraid we were being this far along feels so good! I can honestly say even if we have never directly spoken each of you helped me mentally along the way, which isn't something I expected to get out of this app.
Questions? Anyone here have issues with their cervix/early dilation? I know everyone's body is different but it's nice to hear others say they understand!
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? Family is very supportive. My mom is very close to me, but she's weird because she hardly ever asks how I'm feeling. She's not very nurturing in that way. My MIL asks constantly how I am and how baby is. I guess I have both so I shouldn't complain. I do wish my mom would stop and say how are you feeling but she's not that kind of person I suppose.
@jacmkelley One of the girls I know from my DD's birth month board was on bed rest for several weeks for early dilation. I don't remember when she delivered, but it wasn't overly early. Her son was born healthy and is developing normally now as a three-year old. Hope that gives you a bit of peace of mind!
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
What's next: This week is finally my appointment that they kept pushing back. It's been so long since I've been to the doctor and it has me worried. This Thursday I'll get the glucose test, a regular checkup and a follow up ultrasound to check LO's kidneys.
Rant/Rave/Positove Vibes: I'm also really paranoid after what happened to Bananers. But I'm just trying to take it one day at a time week by week. It's really hard to relax though. It also feels like she's moving less in the past week, but that could be because she's running out of room! I'm really short and small so maybe she's run out of space early. Like all of you have said, I've really appreciated the support from this thread. I never knew going into it it would help me so much and I'm really thankful.
Questions? Anyone else feeling slightly less movement as their LO gets bigger? I am mentioning this to my doctor on Thursday but am hoping this is normal at this stage.
GTKY: My family is supportive in the fact that they can't wait for us to have a baby and are really excited about that. But as far as the loss I just get eye rolls and am told to stop being so paranoid. I actually told my mom about this group and she asked me why in the world would I join something like that. She said my loss shouldn't count as a loss because it was just a miscarriage. (That sounds cold, but she had a miscarriage too before she had me and around the same number of weeks that I lost mine and she always felt it was no big deal. I'm glad she's strong about it but it really affected me.) Other than our parents, no one else knows about our loss so they just think we're perfectly happy first time parents on our first pregnancy.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
Weeks: 29w3d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I have my 3 hr glucose test on Thursday. I'm feeling really worried about it, and having a hard time being optimistic that I'll pass. My doctor said that there's no reason to think I'll fail, but I just can't seem to think positively!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: just a rant about the above. After the recent contraction scares, I just want things to go smoothly for the next couple of months!
Questions? Nope
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? My mom is wonderful. She always asks how I'm doing and is incredibly supportive. My MIL is not really a supportive type of person, so I don't really seek any type of emotional support from her - with anything.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): appt on Thursday
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: as a FTM this pregnancy has been a breeze, I've been one of the few that are enjoying every minute of it
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? My husband had been wonderful, other family doesn't really bother
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I have a Midwife appointment this afternoon, so there's that!
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I was having a pretty tough time with PGAL brain the other day after reading this beautiful, tragic, and candid article about a couple's struggle with TTC and loss (you can read it here if you're in the mood for a well-written tear jerker: https://www.littlethings.com/dan-leah-pregnancy-journey/). It just reminded me of the pain and struggle of loss, and my stupid brain keeps thinking about the possibility of loss even at this late stage, or really at any stage. There has been a lot of death around me lately (husband's grandpa, dad's mentor) which probably helps nothing - I just keep getting reminders of how short life can be. Sorry to be such a Debby Downer...
Questions? I can't remember - when do they start checking for dilation at regular appointments? I will probably just ask the Midwife later but thought I'd see what everyone else experiences! I've been having some really intense contractions (braxton hicks) over the last couple of weeks and I'm curious to know if I've dilated or effaced at all. I was 2-3 cm dilated for weeks before my daughter was born.
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy?
It's so-so. I mean, I guess I can't really complain, but neither of our families have been talking much about the pregnancy. MIL was going to throw a baby shower but apparently decided not to, so we're not having one of those. My mom talked about wanting to buy him a couple of outfits like a month ago and hasn't really said anything since. I think DH and I are the only ones who are REALLY excited about this baby, but whatever. I think our families just figure we've got it covered and don't feel the need to offer any type of support.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
@ashleybaker712 - Even my mom this time around was like why aren't you excited, you should get excited, its for real etc. I dont know that I'll ever let me guard down again.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
I guess my FTM comment added to your confusion.
with Bannaners early delivery it's triggered my anxiety.
I'm not on much these days -- truthfully I'm experiencing a bit of pregnancy envy. Kind of like after a loss where it makes you sad to see other pregnant ladies, though not quite as bad, since my baby is alive. But I do still wish he were on the inside and it sometimes makes me sad or jealous to see other pregnant ladies. But I promise to check in with this group from time to time because I'm pulling for you all and can't wait to see your big, beautiful, full-term babies!
xo
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
The pregnancy envy is completely understandable. I remember you posting that you wanted to cherish every day of the pregnancy just a few days before E was born. I think it is totally legitimate to mourn the loss of those months of pregnancy you thought you would have, even though your baby is alive.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
@lgem4 I'm so glad your appointment went well! It's really good she didn't drop yet and that everything looks good. It's definitely good to get some peace of mind so you can relax and enjoy your shower.
Weeks: 27w5d
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): I can't wait until Thursday when I hit 28 weeks.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I am on a work trip with my husband in California. We are from Boston so it far and it the first time we are both away from our DD for more than a night. It was a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. We are having a great time and it feels a bit like a babymoon so I am trying not to worry too much. I just miss her so much.
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? My family is great. Like a lot of you we don't talk too much about the loss but my parents and in-laws always want to hear how my appointments go.
I love this group and I am always sending out positive vibes to all of you.
@thisisnumber3 I agree that PGAL brain never completely goes away, but it does seem to ebb and flow. For me the GD diagnosis set it off big time and it has taken a few weeks to get back to normal.
Weeks: 31
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): appointment monday and a growth check Ultra sound this Friday. It feels strange to be trying to restrict growth because of the GD, but they really scared me at the education.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: loving all the movement. I finally look undeniably pregnant, which is fun.
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? My Mom and sister are awesome. As is my pregnant SIL. DH's family seems excited but they don't know about the loss. Overall the support system is good.
What's next? (milestones, appointments, something you are looking forward to): Appt tomorrow with a growth ultrasound. I've been getting braxton hicks a lot, and with the gestational diabetes, I'm definitely wanting to check in with the doctor to see how things are progressing.
Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: My sister had her baby girl yesterday, and I felt bad because I think I didn't look as excited as my sister thought I should be when I came to meet her newest addition (she has 2 y.o. b/g twins already). It just made me a bit sad to think about how I would've had my own baby a month before, and now I'm so anxious to meet this baby boy that meeting my sister's baby just made me more impatient. Not that I want him to come early of course, I just want to finally meet him and have him in my arms.
Questions?
GTKY: How's the support from your family with this pregnancy? My family is pretty supportive. Everyone is very excited for is, but I do find certain people can get awkward when you talk about the loss and how it affects your thoughts and feelings with this pregnancy. But even my mil has stepped up during some hard moments and hugged me and acted like she understood. My dh of course has been the absolute best at supporting me through this, constantly reminding me we are almost there. And not rolling his eyes or complaining about my obsession with foxes in the baby room to symbolize the baby we lost.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
I'm sorry you feeling that stress, I know every time they tell me anything is out of the ordinary, my PGAL brain jumps right to worst case scenarios. I'm sure he's just a big and strong little boy! And it's great that they're going to check back in a few weeks. FWIW, they told me DS1 was going to be really big (they estimated over 9lbs) and he was only 7lbs 8oz. Ultrasound measurements can be pretty off, especially the further along you are.
That makes me feel so much better. I shouldn't be surprised he's big, I was 8lb9oz, and my mom and her brothers were 9 and 10 lbs (and both my mom and her mom had gd as well). All of the men in our family are tall (I'm talking 6'3", 6'5", and 6'7"), so maybe he will just be a big guy. I've actually lost 5 lbs on this gd diet, and my levels have been good, so I know it's out of my hands. I just have to remember he's doing great and we're almost there!
I get how much it all triggers the PGAL brain! I think it makes it harder to process the GD stuff. I feel strange about tomorrow, what to hope for. They want to see not too big, but I also found the above average measure at 20 weeks reassuring. My family has big babies too, we are tall people!
We just have to do our best and trust it will be ok. My LO is always showing us feet but no face.