Pregnant after a Loss

Terrified preterm labor

After losing my son from coming way to early at 23 weeks. I've been very paranoid this pregnancy. I'm just 33 weeks. I went into my Dr and asked to be checked during my exam, she said I normally won't check for another three weeks. But I persisted and after she checked me she scent me straight to Labor and delivery. I am already 5 cm dilated and have been having contractions for two days. We're now doing everything we can to keep her in long enough for me to at least get a my second steroid shot.


 Even though I know I'm so much further along this time, I'm terrified I'll be leaving without my baby for a second time.  I think I'm looking for support and to see if any one else has been in this boat.

Re: Terrified preterm labor

  • I haven't been in your place before, but you'll be in my prayers. I can't even imagine the amount of stress you're feeling right now. I hope you have a positive outcome. 
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  • First off I'm so sorry about your loss, and that your at risk for preterm delivery now, it is deffinitely very stressful! 
    I lost my little girl at 28 weeks last year, and got pregnant soon after. Actually their birth dates are two days off from one another! Coincidentally, at 28 weeks with my DS just a couple months ago I went into preterm labor myself. I got the steroid shots for his lungs and a lot of medication to calm my uterus! I was hospitalized on bedrest for 10 days and was positive I would be leaving the hospital without a baby. But my little guy stayed in there and he arrived on my due date May 9th :) 
    I know how scared you are, and although it is very hard, try to stay positive! 33 weeks is early, but your LO has an excellent chance of survival! My doctor continuously told me to hang on until 32 weeks, everyday he would just keep saying make it to 32!!! And every single day after that is even better :) so you are doing excellent, and technology now is incredible. Your well taken care of at the hospital. Keep us posted and I'll be praying for your LO <3 
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  • So sorry you are going through this! I can't imagine how worried you must be. there is a huge difference in viability between 23 and 33 weeks, and little ones make it at 33 weeks all the time! Modern medicine is great now, so they'll probably be able to keep that baby in for longer, but even if they can't... You are in a good place this time around! Sending you so many warm thoughts and wishes!
  • MamaBishMamaBish member
    edited May 2016
    Hugs to you! 
    I'm in a similar situation. I lost my first dd last year at 28 weeks. I got pg again and was due July 22nd this year. We discovered I had preeclampsia at 29+5. I was given the steroid shots, magnesium sulfate, and brought to a bigger hospital. I was monitored and told I would be put on bedrest. Since she was measuring small, and they looked at my history, they decided to take her out at 30 weeks. It is now a little over two weeks later and she is in the NICU. It's super scary, but she is alive and amazing. We are trying to focus on that, it's not the same as last time.

    fx your LO stays in longer!
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  • Thank you all for the support. I know she's in a much better place then her brother was but I still feel like  I'm failing her by not keeping her in to full term. I've now gotten both steroid shots. And there goal is for me to make it to 34 weeks. And then I'll go in front of a fetal medicine specialist to see if it's safer to keep her in or for them to let her come.

    I'm now trying to get all the extra things I now might need. We'd put off buying things till after our baby shower, that wasn't happening till next weekend. So I've tried to get small enough clothes, bottles and diapers. But I'm stuck on the hospital bed rest. And finding it very overwhelming. 


  • MamaBish said:
    Hugs to you! 
    I'm in a similar situation. I lost my first dd last year at 28 weeks. I got pg again and was due July 22nd this year. We discovered I had preeclampsia at 29+5. I was given the steroid shots, magnesium sulfate, and brought to a bigger hospital. I was monitored and told I would be put on bedrest. Since she was measuring small, and they looked at my history, they decided to take her out at 30 weeks. It is now a little over two weeks later and she is in the NICU. It's super scary, but she is alive and amazing. We are trying to focus on that, it's not the same as last time.

    fx your LO stays in longer!
    I hope your little miss gets stronger every day and gets to come home and be with you soon. I'll keep her in my god thoughts and prayers. 
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