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To discipline or not?

edited May 2016 in Babies: 9 - 12 Months
My LO will be 1 on Friday and his tantrums are becoming so bad. He has a temper where he fists his hands and yells really loud. He has started to bite and hit if he doesn't get his way. I am just so confused on what to do? Does he even understand when we say no? He listens a lot more to my husband, I don't know if it's because of his tone? Or if it's just me. Dinner has become a nightmare he yells when we put him in his highchair he throws the food too. I am just at a loss I don't like to yell in general so I usually just say "no, we don't do that with the food" but he doesn't seem to understand? 

Re: To discipline or not?

  • With my children I like to take the no punishment approach to teaching personal discipline. That's ot to say there aren't consequences for poor behaviour, but I like it to be logical.

    So I aim not to smack my children as punishment for aggressive behaviour, but rather remove them from me. So I'll say, "I won't allow you to hit me, you'll need to be away from me." and remove either them or me. Sometimes they might need to be removed to calm down.

    With the food throwing, I'd say, "don't throw the food, that's not allowed." and then if he continued to throw the food, simply lift him down out of his high chair and put the food away. 

    At the same time I try and prevent problems. If he hates his highchair,then perhaps he's ready to sit at a low chair and table. That way you don't have to fight him over it.

    Best wishes, I know it's hard.
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