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Charla1224

Lets see whatcha got ladies...

Charla1224

I've folded. We are a bed sharing/co-sleeping/ family bed family. I never thought we would be but having LO in bed allows us to sleep and her to relax. Plus is just feels right.... For us

missnc77

Just booked my mom a plane ticket home. I've enjoyed having her here to meet her granddaughter, but outside of helping with the dog, she hasn't been a huge help. It makes me wonder how my brother and I ever made it out of infancy alive. My grandmother/grandfather stayed with my mom and dad when my brother and I were born, and instead of her still getting up in the middle of the night to bottle feed, my grandparents apparently took the night shift (she didn't breastfeed). My mom didn't have to deal with the sleep deprivation. My dad apparently changed all of our diapers. So when she's sitting here trying to relate, it's difficult to listen. The best though is when LO is having a meltdown, spraying pee everywhere mid-diaper change as she also poops, and everything is going to hell, she'll come by with the most random comments. "What sort of flowers are those on the tree?" Really? REALLY? I'm pretty sure she's using this as a vacation. Sorry mom, but this isn't Club Med. Time to go, Nana!

yogahh

I post waaayyyyyyy too many pics of LO on fb. Annoying? Maybe. But how can I not show off her adorableness?

sillyfox

@yogahh I made a FB Group and just invited close family and a few good friends and that's where I PW most of DD's pics! That way the majority of FB isn't getting all my spaghetti faced baby spam, and I control who sees it! I would post way fewer pics if I didn't have that- but she has still taken over my FB & Insta for sure. I'm sure it will be doubly bad when DS arrives!

That1didntcount

@yogahh no such thing as too much baby!

my Fffc: I made my husband check out the hemorrhoid and stitches situation to make sure things were looking safe. He said "you've got a lot going on down there"

and_peggy

sillyfox said:

@yogahh I made a FB Group and just invited close family and a few good friends and that's where I PW most of DD's pics! That way the majority of FB isn't getting all my spaghetti faced baby spam, and I control who sees it! I would post way fewer pics if I didn't have that- but she has still taken over my FB & Insta for sure. I'm sure it will be doubly bad when DS arrives!

You guys should get an app called "Tiny Beans". You can post pictures and baby info there but you nobody can see it unless you've invited them. They don't have to have the app, it'll just send them an email when something is updated. It's great for me because my family is all over the world and most don't use social media. I just post whatever and know they will all get it at once and only the people I want to see it will. Plus it's near because it uses a calendar feature so you can see the difference in your LO everyday.

sillyfox

@aehogan90 I loved the TinyBeans emails but they quit doing them! I don't think they have an app for Android, only iPhone

Pascal86

At my appointment last week my midwife told me I didn’t need to come in this week since everything was looking good and it’s kind of just a waiting game now. She said I could come if I wanted though, so I did. I felt kind of silly the whole time when she and the nurse kept asking if I had any concerns or questions, I was like, “nope, just like checking in with you guys!” Also the one time in my life I feel like I have a valid excuse to get to work late, so I’m going to take advantage while I can!

vinerie

My ILs drove 10 hours uninvited and are now here on our first day home, along with my own mom. I want more than anything for some quiet time!! They were supposed to come after my mom left, but they decided to come now bc they couldn't wait. Sigh...a house full of people. My fffc is I want my ILs to gtfo. 

swflJD

missnc77 said:

Just booked my mom a plane ticket home. I've enjoyed having her here to meet her granddaughter, but outside of helping with the dog, she hasn't been a huge help. It makes me wonder how my brother and I ever made it out of infancy alive. My grandmother/grandfather stayed with my mom and dad when my brother and I were born, and instead of her still getting up in the middle of the night to bottle feed, my grandparents apparently took the night shift (she didn't breastfeed). My mom didn't have to deal with the sleep deprivation. My dad apparently changed all of our diapers. So when she's sitting here trying to relate, it's difficult to listen. The best though is when LO is having a meltdown, spraying pee everywhere mid-diaper change as she also poops, and everything is going to hell, she'll come by with the most random comments. "What sort of flowers are those on the tree?" Really? REALLY? I'm pretty sure she's using this as a vacation. Sorry mom, but this isn't Club Med. Time to go, Nana!

OMG!  Do we have the same mother!?  This is EXACTLY what I'm dreading!  My parents will be coming in from out of state and staying with us right after LO is born.  While I'm sure my dad will be great (i.e., he will just stay out of the way completely), I'm pretty sure I'm going to be writing a nearly identical post about my mom in about a week or two!

jenashawn

vinerie said:

My ILs drove 10 hours uninvited and are now here on our first day home, along with my own mom. I want more than anything for some quiet time!! They were supposed to come after my mom left, but they decided to come now bc they couldn't wait. Sigh...a house full of people. My fffc is I want my ILs to gtfo. 

Oh that would piss me off so much! My husband and I told everyone we want the first week to ourselves at home. Everyone better listen!

VS2016

jenbkc said:

vinerie said:

My ILs drove 10 hours uninvited and are now here on our first day home, along with my own mom. I want more than anything for some quiet time!! They were supposed to come after my mom left, but they decided to come now bc they couldn't wait. Sigh...a house full of people. My fffc is I want my ILs to gtfo. 

Oh that would piss me off so much! My husband and I told everyone we want the first week to ourselves at home. Everyone better listen!

Speaking from experience, mine didn't listen and we were too polite to kick people out.  I wish I would have. Their "help" was not help.  Pick one of you to be the bad guy and nicely ask them to hit the road!

Sunshinebins

jenbkc said:

vinerie said:

My ILs drove 10 hours uninvited and are now here on our first day home, along with my own mom. I want more than anything for some quiet time!! They were supposed to come after my mom left, but they decided to come now bc they couldn't wait. Sigh...a house full of people. My fffc is I want my ILs to gtfo. 

Oh that would piss me off so much! My husband and I told everyone we want the first week to ourselves at home. Everyone better listen!

We tried this and no one listened. I hope yours are better! 

vinerie

@VS2016 I am also too polite. I've been pretty upbeat so far, but I'm a little weary of being looked at and talked about. They brought us all a nice lunch, but we had to talk about my stitches, my energy, my restrictions on picking up things that weigh more than 10lb, the size of my belly at 41W, etc., etc. They mean well, but I really just want to rock with LO in a quiet room. Which is what I'm doing now. I feel kinda bad, but luckily my mom is pretty awesome and I can hear her doing the idle chit chat with them so I can recharge on my own. 

VS2016

@vinerie I don't think I would have been able to ask people to leave looking back, I just wish I could have.  I was way more drained trying to entertain people.  Being a new mom is hard enough! I also had the joy of everyone being there when my daughter slept and they left as soon as she woke up. They did this for several days.  Not helpful!

nerdymama15

I just dropped baby girl off at our neighbor's house (we trust them) for a few (think 3) hours so I can recharge.  Baby has baby acid reflux and is super duper clingy right now and I can't get anything done.  Like I can't even lay her down without her fussing.  I know I'm NOT spoiling her and at this age it is a need and NOT a want.  She is on meds prescribed by her doctor and we are doing all the other stuff to help her with that.  But at some point I need to wash bottles lol

tgortney

DH has been home with me for over 2 weeks since DS has arrived. He goes back to work part time next Wednesday and all day Thursday and Friday. I am scared shitless of being left alone with the baby. 

kbrands7

Two days in a row now, just as I got down DS2, and was going to try to take a short nap myself, DS1 woke up early from his nap. I wisked him into DH's and my bed with me and convinced him it would be nice to wake up with Mama cuddles. He fell asleep again next to me, so I got my 30 minutes in. A bit sneaky, but we both like the cuddles and that 30min of extra sleep is a necessity right now!

missnc77

@tgortney My husband goes back to work on Monday. I'm with you, but for selfish reasons. He is the primary diaper changer day and night, and he also watches her between feedings so I can do things like poop and shower. He also has 2 weeks of swaddle experience. I've put her in a swaddle maybe 2 times now. My poor LO is screwed when he goes back to work. The only thing I've mastered is feeding her and running through farm animal sounds to soothe her.

tgortney

missnc77 said:

@tgortney My husband goes back to work on Monday. I'm with you, but for selfish reasons. He is the primary diaper changer day and night, and he also watches her between feedings so I can do things like poop and shower. He also has 2 weeks of swaddle experience. I've put her in a swaddle maybe 2 times now. My poor LO is screwed when he goes back to work. The only thing I've mastered is feeding her and running through farm animal sounds to soothe her.

Lol this is basically us too. I changed my first diaper today while he was out and had to call to make sure that the diaper sometimes sticks to their butt and I wasn't hurting him I've also mastered providing milk and soothing for sleep time but that's pretty much it.

arj14

I ate two snack bags of BBQ potato chips in the last hour.  There is a third bag that I may or may not eat tonight as well.

camillaandcarson

My toddler doesn't nap and is very high energy all day, the baby has days and nights mixed up resulting in clustering and being awake from when the toddler went to bed last night to 6:30 am (how?!) and I am still physically recovering from a c-section.

So if baby sleeps during the day and I can't due to toddlering and my toddler sleeps at night but I can't due to baby how does life work? Lol.
My husband goes back to work all the time (and doesn't get home until 10:30 pm at night) in about 48 hours.
We also have two indoor working dogs who require a lot of attention. 

Right now DH is trying to give our toddler a bath and our toddler ripped off his diaper and is running the halls. Baby wants to sleep, on me only. The dogs want a walk. 
About 48 hours...
I got this right?  

thismakes4

vinerie said:

My ILs drove 10 hours uninvited and are now here on our first day home, along with my own mom. I want more than anything for some quiet time!! They were supposed to come after my mom left, but they decided to come now bc they couldn't wait. Sigh...a house full of people. My fffc is I want my ILs to gtfo. 

I read this to my DH and he said his parents better not do that to us because they have and will! Now I'm worried. 

That1didntcount

Well. I've been in newborn bliss but we were so busy our toddler didn't nap so she was losing her shit at the same time baby was losing her shit bc she nurses constantly. My husband was holding Millie and was like I love this so much I want more of em and so I started laughing so hard then I explosively lost control of my bladder. Urine everywhere. 

So I officially have had the first family of four blowout. 

Friyay 

Sunshinebins

I don't read and "play" with my girls nearly as much as I should and I feel like I'm ruining them. It's just trying to keep up with them both leaves me pretty exhausted and without fail they don't nap at the same time and they do not just chill somewhere awake. So basically mind enriching activities rarely happen because if everyone is content and chilling or one is sleeping, I want to do things like eat or go to the bathroom. Definitely feel like a crappy mom 

Bltbear82

Our building had a gas leak so Con Ed turned off the gas and everyone else is all put out that they can't cook - meanwhile I'm over here like, I haven't cooked a meal that wasn't for my
toddler in at least a month. Ok fine, maybe even longer. Delivery for life. 

Bluejay3030

Sunshinebins said:

I don't read and "play" with my girls nearly as much as I should and I feel like I'm ruining them. It's just trying to keep up with them both leaves me pretty exhausted and without fail they don't nap at the same time and they do not just chill somewhere awake. So basically mind enriching activities rarely happen because if everyone is content and chilling or one is sleeping, I want to do things like eat or go to the bathroom. Definitely feel like a crappy mom 

@Sunshinebins A couple of years ago when DD was born I remember feeling this way in the first few months--and I only had one baby on my hands!  You're doing an amazing job keeping them fed, changed, and loved.  That's all they really need right now.  Playtime will get easier and come more naturally as they get older.

bookelf221

I've moved to exclusively pumping and supplementing with formula and I don't care if people disagree with the choice. It's the only way that I'm able to stay sane since Evie screams and has since day 1 when we try to put her on the boob. She sorta has gotten it, but the latch isn't right and quite honestly I like pumping because it means DH can be involved in the feeding too - which he also loves. 

Also pumping is not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. About the first 2 minutes are super uncomfortable and then it just fades to weird feeling. 

dsmith211

bookelf221 said:

I've moved to exclusively pumping and supplementing with formula and I don't care if people disagree with the choice. It's the only way that I'm able to stay sane since Evie screams and has since day 1 when we try to put her on the boob. She sorta has gotten it, but the latch isn't right and quite honestly I like pumping because it means DH can be involved in the feeding too - which he also loves. 

Also pumping is not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. About the first 2 minutes are super uncomfortable and then it just fades to weird feeling. 

So much this. I got some flack when I initially made my decision to switch to exclusively pumping but everyone in our house is happier and healthier bc of it. Other people can just deal... They're not feeding your baby.

bookelf221

dsmith211 said:

bookelf221 said:

I've moved to exclusively pumping and supplementing with formula and I don't care if people disagree with the choice. It's the only way that I'm able to stay sane since Evie screams and has since day 1 when we try to put her on the boob. She sorta has gotten it, but the latch isn't right and quite honestly I like pumping because it means DH can be involved in the feeding too - which he also loves. 

Also pumping is not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. About the first 2 minutes are super uncomfortable and then it just fades to weird feeling. 

So much this. I got some flack when I initially made my decision to switch to exclusively pumping but everyone in our house is happier and healthier bc of it. Other people can just deal... They're not feeding your baby.

Exactly! It's working for us and that is what matters. I emotionally couldn't handle the struggle of getting her to latch, after breaking down into tears 5 days in a row I called it quits. I will admit that I'm struggling, and failing, to keep up with her feeding