Second Facebook Group

beenabee · May 2016

Some of you may already know this, some may not, but the first Facebook group created for our birth month was closed due to it getting too full. Something was said about a second one being created when everyone's further along for those who weren't able to join the first group. Now that a lot of us are in the third trimester, are about to be, or will soon be very soon, I thought it might be a good idea to see how everyone is feeling about creating the second Facebook group.

I know there's a lot of you who won't be joining due to wanting to keep your information private and because of internet strangers which is completely understandable but the ones who would like to join, what do you guys think? Would you be interested in a second Facebook group? If so, creating it somewhat soon or still waiting a few more weeks?

Thanks ladies!!

ballofmeat · May 2016

For me personally I am still on the fence of joining at all. I know I'd rather wait until it's closer to August or actually august.

I also would prefer that if one was started, that only regular posters are able to join.

And I mean absolutely no disrespect to what I'm about to say. If you have never posted here at all and the first post you make is about your child being born premature, it seriously makes me question things. I certainly would wish this user well because that's the right thing to do, but I'd rather these users not be part of the Facebook group if that's all they have contributed/will contribute. I'd like more time to weed these kind of instances out before joining. That is just how I feel personally and again I mean no disrespect to anyone who has to go through a scary premature delivery and NICU baby.

beenabee · May 2016

@midwestbaby I totally agree, I'd rather only regular posters and people we've been able to get to know over the months only be allowed in the Facebook group. Facebook groups scare me a little bit but my aunt absolutely loves her moms group she's been in for years and always talks about it and I would like to have a group like that to connect with other moms as I'm a young first time mom and would love the guidance and advice of other mommas!

nanner26 · May 2016

I'm in the same boat. I would feel a lot more comfortable if it is regulated and are only people that have been active on the board for awhile. I think waiting till August sounds good to me. I would like to join though whenever that happens as of right now.

Fremdschamen · May 2016

I'd be open to joining one in the next few months if it were mostly regular posters. I'm in a FB group for my DD and it has been one of my best supports and I am actually good friends with a number of women I've met there.

pelorunningmama · May 2016

I would like to join the second group when it becomes available.

tinkerbell11210 · May 2016

I would like to join a second group a little further down the road maybe July?

jamiesc58 · May 2016

I agree with pp's and would join a group with regs maybe a little further down the road.

allishally13 · May 2016

I agree, I would probably be interested if it was more regulated, and maybe in July.

JournoGrl23 · May 2016

I would love to join a second Facebook group as I'm a FTM and absolutely terrified of having a newborn. I'd love to be able to talk to other moms that I've gotten to know on this board for advice along the way. But I agree with PPs that I'd only be comfortable if only regulars on this board were allowed to join.

charmedlifex3 · May 2016

I'm on board with that. I honestly hadn't joined the prior group because it seemed like (based on the requests) it was mostly women who either joined early when we all got our BFP's and kinda fell off the bump, or women who were one post wonders - which as you said, always makes me questions their legitimacy.

Maybe some sort of threshold for joining? 100 comments or something? That way it doesn't completely exclude someone who finds the bump NOW, or joined back in winter but hasn't been very active, but they would likely have to be pretty active over the next three months (and thereby giving us a chance to get to know them) before the second facebook page is given out?

(And so it doesn't become a popularity contest - 100 comments is 100 comments not "the organizer doesn't remember you, so no link for you!)

michelle_shelle · May 2016

I can't agree more with what everyone has said. Im of a firm mind that to get advice and support you need to give it. It's one reason why I at times hate the hdmd...all these randos show up. Or if it's something they can easily aw about they do.

texasmama2014 · May 2016

I would rather wait until at least September to join any group.

pelorunningmama · May 2016

I agree with PP about it being more regulars and like @allisun85 idea of some kind of threshold. I know there are definitely people I converse with more on here than others so just because I don't necessarily recognize someone doesn't mean they aren't a regular.

ballofmeat · May 2016

And possibly a cap on how many join the Fb group. I couldn't possibly keep up with 100 users in a group.

Bookhousegirl · May 2016

I would also like to wait until August, and limit the number of members. I feel like our board is just now getting more consistently active, so by August we'll have a really good idea of active vs drive by posters.

tresamigos · May 2016

I agree with all PPs!

Curls919 · May 2016

I don't want to join one until after our babies are born (so, like, September?). That's how I did it with my previous BMB and it worked out well.

telicious2 · May 2016

I would like to join the next one. If one was made mid July then we could have time to get to know the moms before the hustle and bustle of a new baby.

Sekerambo · May 2016

I would prefer August or September and definitely keep it to the regulars and not just randoms. I really don't need crazy people in my life, especially when this baby comes around.

Car0liiine · May 2016

Agree w/pp - I think the 100 comments thing would be a good neutral way to weed out randos. My EDD is August 1st so I wouldn't mind if we opened it up mid-July, but I don't really know how these things go so I'll defer to those with experience. I'm also a FTM and the only woman with a baby I know IRL is my SIL who lives 8 hrs away, so I will be dying for a resource like this when babe gets here!