Odd Position

mothernorth · May 2016

My little cousin and I are due 3 days apart, she is a FTM and I am a TTM. She is 19-years-old, her parents are the family weirdos (won't further elaborate), and long story short she is more like a little sister/daughter almost to me than cousin, as I helped raise her when she was young, and we got much closer as she grew older.
Nobody has offered to throw her a baby shower or brought it up yet and I want to SO bad!
It's kind of an awkward situation though, both of us being pregnant, and being due so close, how do I keep everything focused on her? I had my FTM moment of glory, I want her to feel that joy the way I did. I could just straight up say "This is about OLIVIA", but I don't know how well it would work out. Should I maybe put a bug in somebody else's ear to do it? Or plan it and have somebody else take credit? I just really want this for her.

kmvisioli · May 2016

If you can find a cohost, even just someone who puts their name on the invitation with yours, that might help balance it out a bit. If you are close and want to throw her a shower, by all means go for it! I don't really think it's odd, especially since it's not like you would be the only other person there.

westcoastfoodie · May 2016

I don't think it's odd to throw her a shower and I think it's sweet of you to want to have that for her. I think if you just make sure the invitation has her as the guest of honor, it'll be fine. I see what you're saying though, last year I threw a shower for a friend while pregnant (and we had only told a handful of people at the time) and I personally felt a little weird, but I think it was just my own insecurities about wanting it to be all about her.

JamieK1882 · May 2016

I agree with @julia70286. It's super nice of you to do that and if anything people will commend you for being so generous when it's close to your own due date.

mothernorth · May 2016

My twin sister is going to step in and help out now too

we will make very specific invitations as soon as she let's us know the sex next week!

mkc3888 · May 2016

I don't have much to add other than I think it's awesome that you want to throw her a shower and I say go for it!

NoraAurora · May 2016

A pregnant friend of mine threw me a shower. It was NBD. I think you're making it a bigger issue than it is. If you want to do it then just do it- people won't be focused on you if your focus is on her. And it's OK to talk about your pregnancy too when people ask.

mothernorth · May 2016

You're probably right, I tend to over analyze certain situations. I just really want it to be a special moment for her, and it most likely will be regardless.

ashleyp625 · May 2016

I think it is sweet of you to do this for her, and I think just being aware of wanting it to be about her will help to ensure that it happens. But- if people ask, it's totally okay to answer questions about yourself, too!

NoraAurora · May 2016

Your heart is in the right place! That's the important thing.

katlarissa · May 2016

I agree with previous posters. I'm giving a shower in August for a friend. She's a FTM, I'm a STM.
Love that your sister is co-hosting though! It's always nice to have help!