So yesterday was a rough day for all of us. I guess lack of sleep catches up and emotions run high. I've basically had my husband on diaper duty during the night so that I can sleep when not feeding him. In the middle of the night my husband brought him back to me to nurse him and he was teary eyed and said "He only cries for me." It broke my heart!

It makes sense that it's hard for Dads to bond with their babies, especially when the mom BFs. The one thing that can ultimately appease them, they can't do.
Does anyone have ideas to help with this? I've tried to let him hold DS more when he is sleepy and calm, and I think that helps, but as soon as he wakes up hungry, DH has to pass him back to me and I know its hard for him feeling like he can't really take care of our son because he doesn't have the boobs!
Re: Ideas for Helping Your SO Bond With Baby
I used to pump a few times in the day to start a little stash for when I had to go to work at night (just once a week). On the days I didn't, I would nurse at like 7 & then go to bed, DH would give him his next feed at 9 and put him down. I would then get up at 11 to feed. So, he got that time with DS alone and I got to sleeeeeep! Besssst thing we ever started doing.
I like the idea of the skin to skin on his chest like that, and he has tried some, but my DH has pectus excavatum (sunken chest) which makes it a bit challenging logistically for both him and baby to be comfortable.
I think it will really help, too, when he is able to respond to us better, making facial expressions and stuff. Right now is just kind of hard when this little person you love more than anything just kind of stares at your blankly. It's a little surreal.
I think the most important aspect of letting baby and SO bond is not playing the mommy card too much. Your SO needs to learn babies cues as well and have some tools for comforting and getting your baby what they need.
I know DH is really excited for when baby leaves the larva stage and becomes a lot more animated.
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MH has also already carried DD in our wrap a couple of times. They both really love it because it's so intimate. It calms DD down because she can hear his heartbeat/breathing etc., DH can feel close to her and it's super practical to boot. The other day he told me to go and take a nap and he and DD would take care of the dishes. So he just strapped her into our wrap and they did dishes 'together'. It was super cute.
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