Diaper Keg?

MamaMJ2

So my boyfriend told me that his best friend is planning on having a diaper keg for us but it probably won't happen until a few weeks after the baby is born. My question is do you think "people will talk" if I have my mom watch the baby for the night so I can join in the fun? I'm not even sure if I will want to but it has been quite some time since all of our friends got together and I just feel like its such a double standard because of course nobody will bat an eye of he drinks and stays the whole night but if I go and have a few drinks and even leave at a decent time some people might have things to say about it.....thoughts? Also, what would be a good host gift for this occasion? I was thinking just a bottle of his favorite liquor but any other more creative suggestions would be great

lolonvive

I have no idea what a diaper keg is, but if they are actually your friends and they are hosting something for you  aren't you kind of expected to be there and join in on the fun? Since I don't know what happens at a diaper keg I'm not quite sure what people will talk about... maybe you'll want to refrain from like snorting coke off of strippers. ;-)
But seriously, people hold us pregnant ladies to such high standards of what we should and shouldn't do, and if you can't now do those things sometimes and responsibly as an adult then, sheesh!
I like the favorite liquor as a gift, also if he's into scotch you can get some nice glasses or whiskey rocks or other paraphernalia, monogrammed if that's your thing? 

SoEnamored

People will want to meet the baby.  (Edit: but the time of the event will dictate whether they get all judgey - no one expects you to bring a baby out at 9:00 PM).  If baby is not there, and the event is at an earlier hour, some may be disappointed and yes, people will talk:  "oh, she must not be breastfeeding", "she's leaving the baby without a parent so early..."  It's all normal, whatever chatter.  The real issue is whether you care about what people have to say.  One of the best gifts that having kids can give you is that you no longer give an F about other people's opinions on how you live your life, let alone raise your kids.

MamaMJ2

Basically the idea is, the traditional way to throw a kegger is to have each person pay like $5 for a plastic cup and then you can refill the cup from the keg until it's gone, for a diaper keg rather than the standard $5 for a cup, a pack of diapers is the payment instead. so it's actually a really great way to stock up on a ton of diapers and get to hang out with all your friends in a less formal than baby shower type setting but at all the ones I've been to it's always before baby is born so mommy is usually huge pregnant and dragging drunk so away from the party or leaves early and returns later to collect "better half" lol but I think you're right, these are friends I shouldn't be worried about them talking crap. I know I'm a responsible mother so if I want to let loose one night after 10 months of barely leaving the house then damnit im doing it haha thank you!

SoEnamored

Just to keep expectations in check: you may not feel like letting loose.  You may feel like throwing on some yoga pants, a poncho and taking a nap.  But instead, you'll feel pressured to look cute, show up and be engaging.  It's totally okay and normal if, in the moment, you're not feeling the kegger vibe and instead feel like you have to rally to make this happen. 

RMLandy

People will definitely talk. If you go, if you don't go, if you bring baby, if you don't. Basing parenting decisions on what others will say/think is exhausting and probably not even best for your child. Consider all the circumstances and decide what's best for you and baby. Then do it and ignore and unsolicited advice/comments.

tan&web

this sounds like so much fun!  I have heard them called Huggies and Chuggies parties but the same concept, and like you, have heard it done before the baby is born but I like this way better.  PP are right, people are going to talk either way and you're not going to know quite how you feel about going, not going, until you have the precious babe.  I wouldn't care too much about what your friends will say/think they are throwing it for you and they are your friends.  

MamaMJ2

Ahh I love the name "Huggies and Chuggies"!!! Never heard that before!

meggyme

Beer is supposed to be good for your milk supply, right? Go for it if you feel up to it and F the haters!

GinnyJ2012

Depending on when the party is, I would go and wear baby. I'd have one or two drinks, and expect MH to be responsible with his consumption too.  Even if you leave baby with your mom for a few hours so you can relax with friends I'd limit the amount of alcohol drunk. If something were to happen and you needed to make an important decision for the baby then you need to be able to do that. Also a hangover with a new born sounds miserable. 

If you're nursing, and leave baby with your mom, then you need to consider how long you'll be gone for pumping/nursing reasons.  Engoirgement or leaking isn't comfortable. 

lolonvive

@MamaMJ2 I was just thinking something similar to PP -- But I was going to suggest bringing baby for like a half hour or whatever and then having your mom pick her up from the party. This way people see you with baby and then you get to have grown up time too.

scotten

A friend of ours had his first baby while still in college, and his roommates did something similar to this (instead of paying $5 for a cup at the house party, everyone had to bring diapers). I swear, he and his {now} wife didn't have to buy diapers for over a year. 

You do what you feel comfortable with, momma. Who cares if people talk, right? Have fun!

ashhobbs15

My husbands mom and sister are actually having a diaper party for my husband. Which technically could be called a diaper keg except there won't be a keg just bottles and bottles of beer and guy stuff. I think it's great. Everyone brings diapers and it gives him a chance to be congratulated as a dad. He's excited to be a dad and celebrate so why not! I'll still be pregnant but if I wasn't you know I'd be joining in on the drinking. No shame! You had a baby, go celebrate and enjoy yourself!!!!!