May 2016 Moms

UO 5/12

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  • My UO (at least with my ILs) is that I love co-sleeping with my baby. I wasn't planning it, I got a bassinet for him and a crib but I get more rest and I love snuggling with him. He won't be this small forever and before I know it he'll be 15 and not wanting to hang with his mom at all! 
  • swflJD said:
    I'm fully prepared for the sh$%storm this is probably going to cause, but here goes: I find it infuriating when people tell me I should breastfeed because it's "free."  I mean, there are a lot of great reasons to breastfeed (nutritional, bonding, etc.) that have nothing to do with the monetary "savings," but it is so insulting when people imply - or even come out and directly say - that it's a way to feed your baby that "doesn't cost anything."  It is only free if your time is worth nothing!  As an attorney who (before going in-house - yayyy to no more time sheets!) was used to billing my time at $300+ per hour, I know what my time is worth, and it is certainly not free (in fact, formula would be much less expensive)!  That being said, I may try to breastfeed in the beginning (for nutritional and bonding, not monetary, reasons), but if it doesn't work out, I'm not going make myself miserable trying to make it happen because I have no intention of continuing to breastfeed and/or pump once I go back to work (maybe another UO), so I'm planning to switch to formula at that point anyway.  

    This isn't intended as an indictment on anyone who intends to breastfeed and/or pump exclusively.  I think it's great that so many of you are doing so or plan to, and if it works for you and your lifestyle, that's awesome!  It's just not going to work for me (at least not long-term), and I'd appreciate it if people (not directed at anyone in particular on here) would stop trying to "sell" me on the idea by telling me that it isn't going to "cost" me anything because 1) even if it goes smoothly, breastfeeding/pumping is very time-consuming, and my time has value (i.e., it costs me something); and 2) it's not like I'm some indigent person who can't afford to buy formula!  End rant!
    Yes!! I also hate it when people give me crap for not picking up $20 bills from the ground when I come across them, because my time is worth so much more than the time it would take to bend over and grab it! UGH I wish everyone would just understand and respect how rich I am and what a lucrative career I have!!

    PS. I totally understand where you're coming from, I just had to make fun of you a little bit for this one. People on this board come from all different backgrounds/situations, coming on here and complaining about people who don't get that your time is worth $300 an hour comes off as a little insensitive IMO.
  • JoMunson said:
    My UO (at least with my ILs) is that I love co-sleeping with my baby. I wasn't planning it, I got a bassinet for him and a crib but I get more rest and I love snuggling with him. He won't be this small forever and before I know it he'll be 15 and not wanting to hang with his mom at all! 
    Girl! I totally feel you! 
    I was the mom that said I didn't want to co sleep but he seriously loves being around me. I always want DH to bring me my monkey. I know the risks about the baby sleeping in my arms but I can't help it. He loves being in my arms :( and sleeps 3-5 hours at a time.

    I was told by a friend to constantly send my baby away to the nursery (after feedings) while at the hospital because it was the best sleep I'll have. And told not to feel guilty about it. I constantly had him with me at the hospital and I don't regret the sleeplessness at all!
  • swflJD said:
    Pascal86 said:
    swflJD said:
    I'm fully prepared for the sh$%storm this is probably going to cause, but here goes: I find it infuriating when people tell me I should breastfeed because it's "free."  I mean, there are a lot of great reasons to breastfeed (nutritional, bonding, etc.) that have nothing to do with the monetary "savings," but it is so insulting when people imply - or even come out and directly say - that it's a way to feed your baby that "doesn't cost anything."  It is only free if your time is worth nothing!  As an attorney who (before going in-house - yayyy to no more time sheets!) was used to billing my time at $300+ per hour, I know what my time is worth, and it is certainly not free (in fact, formula would be much less expensive)!  That being said, I may try to breastfeed in the beginning (for nutritional and bonding, not monetary, reasons), but if it doesn't work out, I'm not going make myself miserable trying to make it happen because I have no intention of continuing to breastfeed and/or pump once I go back to work (maybe another UO), so I'm planning to switch to formula at that point anyway.  

    This isn't intended as an indictment on anyone who intends to breastfeed and/or pump exclusively.  I think it's great that so many of you are doing so or plan to, and if it works for you and your lifestyle, that's awesome!  It's just not going to work for me (at least not long-term), and I'd appreciate it if people (not directed at anyone in particular on here) would stop trying to "sell" me on the idea by telling me that it isn't going to "cost" me anything because 1) even if it goes smoothly, breastfeeding/pumping is very time-consuming, and my time has value (i.e., it costs me something); and 2) it's not like I'm some indigent person who can't afford to buy formula!  End rant!
    Yes!! I also hate it when people give me crap for not picking up $20 bills from the ground when I come across them, because my time is worth so much more than the time it would take to bend over and grab it! UGH I wish everyone would just understand and respect how rich I am and what a lucrative career I have!!

    PS. I totally understand where you're coming from, I just had to make fun of you a little bit for this one. People on this board come from all different backgrounds/situations, coming on here and complaining about people who don't get that your time is worth $300 an hour comes off as a little insensitive IMO.
    My point was that my time - as well as anyone's time for that matter - has value and that it's complete bullshit for someone to say that something as time-consuming as breastfeeding/pumping is "free."  The whole point of the post was to say that whether you work in a career where you are making an hourly wage, a set or contingent salary, or you don't work outside the home, your time still has value, so breastfeeding/pumping is not "free" for anyone.  And FYI, just because I billed my time at a certain dollar amount does not mean that I actually made that amount per hour.  That's not how law firms work!  Frankly, I don't see anything insensitive about my post, but whatever.   
    Was just trying to deliver on the shitstorm you were preparing yourself for :smile: I know my comment was pretty dismissive to your actual point - yeah, obviously BFing isn't free in that sense, and will definitely be a struggle in the work place for those of us who choose to go that route. I'm determined to do it no matter what (assuming I can), so I guess in that case the whole "free" thing is an added bonus, but definitely not the reason I'm doing it. At this point I'm pretty much just done with unsolicited baby-raising advice in general, no matter how good or bad it is.
  • MercielMerciel member
    I can't abide lilies either. They're beautiful to look at, but even without the funeral associations, they just have such a cloying and unpleasant scent. I don't understand the appeal of lily-based perfumes at all, and this is coming from somebody who actually sort of likes Serge Lutens Iris Silver Mist (which, if you're not familiar with it, is basically the scent of dead frozen iris roots hacked up in winter mud).
  • mello13 said:
    A much less serious UO: I do not understand the appeal of Lilies as a flower. They smell like death. Or, more specifically, they smell like every wake and funeral and memorial service I've ever been to. Why they are included in Mother's Day bouquets, and Easter arrangements, and weddings is completely beyond me. They are wretched. My SIL gave me a stunning bouquet for Mother's Day. I immediately removed the lilies and chucked them in the trash outside. Because, death.

    This. My MIL's funeral service was right at the worst part of my morning sickness, and the smell of flowers was a trigger - lilies in particular. Roses were okay, but lilies...just, no.  The service itself was wonderful and so what MIL would have wanted, but I couldn't focus on it because I was trying so hard not to gag on the scent of the ten million flower arrangements with lilies in them. And afterward people kept sending them to us! I appreciated the gesture, but had to throw them away. :/ 
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  • Well I guess my uo could be that I adore lilies. Then again I don't mentally associate them with funerals but rather my grandpa's massive flower garden. It's a much happier memory. :smile: 

    My real uo is that I want to smack everyone upside the head who thinks I'm swimming in free time since I'm not working anymore. Okay this might not be a uo and more of a vent, but seriously I've had four days without work and I've been getting a variation of that sentence from everyone. I used to work 12+ hour days for almost two years, I'm trying to get the house in order before little one comes not laying around being bored. 
  • vinerievinerie member
    Going off the flower theme...I hate irises. There is a greenway I walk everyday and the entrance is lined with pastel purple irises. I hate pastel. (Maybe that is also an UO). But these irises bloom briefly and then die and then there are all these stalks with dead blooms hanging there for much, much longer than they were alive. I call this stretch of greenway "The valley of death." It depresses me to walk through. No more irises!
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  • vinerie said:
    Going off the flower theme...I hate irises. There is a greenway I walk everyday and the entrance is lined with pastel purple irises. I hate pastel. (Maybe that is also an UO). But these irises bloom briefly and then die and then there are all these stalks with dead blooms hanging there for much, much longer than they were alive. I call this stretch of greenway "The valley of death." It depresses me to walk through. No more irises!
    I'm so with you on this, I really don't like them at all. When we moved into our house we had some in the yard and they were the first to go. Lilies on the other hand, I love! Nothing beats a good stargazer or tiger lily for me but I do agree their scent can be a bit much. 
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  • If we're talking UO on flowers- I think peonies look like shriveled vaginas. I actually find them slightly offensive at weddings :neutral: 
  • thismakes4thismakes4 member
    edited May 2016
    Here's an UO: I think it's okay to re-home a puppy/dog/pet. Sometimes the dog isn't a good fit for the family. Sometimes the owner is ill and can't care for the dog anymore. A million reasons. DH has helped so many people re-home their pets because it was too much for them and the dogs ended up having new loving families and better situations.

    We had a pit bull when DS1 was born and loved that dog. He was super sweet and we did everything for that dog. One day he jumped our 6 ft fence and never came back. We looked and looked for months. I know someone must've taken him because we had so many compliments on him. DH was heartbroken and we decided to get another dog...a pit bull puppy. He was so extremely aggressive at a young age and we couldn't keep him anywhere near our 2 babies. We ended up rehoming him to a couple who didn't have/want children. They were able to handle it.

    Now I have an English Bulldog and I would never get rid of her! She is way too amazing. I just think it's annoying when people get pissed at someone for rehoming an animal. If you can tell that the animal isn't going to work out why put yourself and that animal through misery possibly for years and years. I would much rather give that animal a better life with someone else.

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  • JoMunson said:
    If we're talking UO on flowers- I think peonies look like shriveled vaginas. I actually find them slightly offensive at weddings :neutral: 
    Peonies are my favorite. Love them
    Mine too. I was upset when I realized I wouldn't be able to have them at my August 31 wedding. 
  • So much yes to all the breastfeeding opinions. I'm breastfeeding, but DS is having a hard time latching every time. We get it sometimes and it's great, but if I have to pump and switch to a bottle for some feedings bc it's just not happening then I don't really feel bad.

    I'm pretty much doing this for the whole bonding experience and honestly don't mind that it's not 100 percent of the time. It kinda makes me appreciate each feeding I get a little more I think. Of course I want DS to get the nutrition of breast milk. Just so tired of some people saying I need to try harder bc both him and I are missing out.
  • babyfmama said:
    JoMunson said:
    If we're talking UO on flowers- I think peonies look like shriveled vaginas. I actually find them slightly offensive at weddings :neutral: 
    Peonies are my favorite. Love them
    Mine too. I was upset when I realized I wouldn't be able to have them at my August 31 wedding. 
    our anniversary is August 31 too :smile:
  • VS2016VS2016 member
    On the cookie topic, I do not like chocolate chip cookies... They are the worst kind of cookie.   Sugar cookies and oatmeal raisin are the best 
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    I don't mind certain prepackaged cookies, but there's a definite range of goodness... I am completely with @Merciel though about snack cakes.  Blech.
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  • businessmamabusinessmama member
    edited May 2016
    Merciel said:
    Here's an actual UO, courtesy of my recent trip to the supermarket: I can't stand snack cakes or prepackaged cookies. Little Debbie's, Chips Ahoy, Entenmann's, any of 'em. I am a soulless joyless person who finds nothing but sadness in all those industrially produced globs of corn syrup and bleached flour.

    I love actual bakery pastries and homemade cookies and even the occasional box-mix cake fresh out of the oven, but no thanks forever to factory-made versions.

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    i hear you 11 months a year, but come December when the sprinkled Christmas trees Little Debbie's are out, and I do a 180.
  • dsmith211 said:
    So much yes to all the breastfeeding opinions. I'm breastfeeding, but DS is having a hard time latching every time. We get it sometimes and it's great, but if I have to pump and switch to a bottle for some feedings bc it's just not happening then I don't really feel bad.

    I'm pretty much doing this for the whole bonding experience and honestly don't mind that it's not 100 percent of the time. It kinda makes me appreciate each feeding I get a little more I think. Of course I want DS to get the nutrition of breast milk. Just so tired of some people saying I need to try harder bc both him and I are missing out.
    This is what I've been doing, pumping then bottle feeding. I make enough for LO without having to feed from the tap. I do miss the bonding experience and want to attempt to work on latching again. Either way, I just want him to be healthy and fed. But DS is strong sucker and my nipples couldn't take it, even if we got a good latch :( so the occasional feeding from the tap is ok but it's too much for an every 3 hour feeding.
  • mello13 said:
    A much less serious UO: I do not understand the appeal of Lilies as a flower. They smell like death. Or, more specifically, they smell like every wake and funeral and memorial service I've ever been to. Why they are included in Mother's Day bouquets, and Easter arrangements, and weddings is completely beyond me. They are wretched. My SIL gave me a stunning bouquet for Mother's Day. I immediately removed the lilies and chucked them in the trash outside. Because, death.

    @mello13 Lilies are my favorite flower... or were. You might have just ruined that for me. I guess I don't frequent funerals enough to notice that there are always Lilies at them.

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  • @kami09 I am in no rush for my son to come either. He can be late if he wants, as long as he is born one day before I have to be induced we are good. lol

    Me: 31

    DH: 29, SA - Great

    Married: June 12,2011

    TTC #1: 1/2014

    Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea

    Treatment: Clomid:  50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored

                      Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI  IUI #1 8/31/2015

    9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!
    Heartbeat 10/2/2015: 118bpm
    DS: 5/27/2016

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  • mello13mello13 member
    edited May 2016
    @AdorkablePixie Sorry to ruin the lilies for you! Maybe since you already love them it won't be an issue. 

    Also, yes to the man bun snub. I don't find it appealing at all!

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  • swflJDswflJD member
    I know this is a little late but my UO is I hate man buns. They look SO STUPID! They are not cool, they do not make you look cool at all. And when guys tan. Ugh. If you look good, you look good... you don't need to be tan and you certainly shouldn't be doing it in fake lighting.
    Ugh!  This guy at work just walked by my office with one.  It's one thing when they try to pull off the grunge look with it (still not attractive), but it's even worse when they try to do it with a suit!  It looks absolutely ridiculous!  
  • mello13mello13 member
    @swflJD  There does seem to be a man bun epidemic here in Florida. It's awful.

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  • clbnessclbness member
    mello13 said:
    @swflJD  There does seem to be a man bun epidemic here in Florida. It's awful.
    It's pretty strong here in Colorado too.  *eye roll*
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    mello13 said:
    @swflJD  There does seem to be a man bun epidemic here in Florida. It's awful.
    I know!  I keep seeing more and more of them!  MAKE IT STOP!!!
  • @swflJD @mello13 and @clbness It's all over here too!! I don't get it.

    And how is a man bun in a suit even considered to be professional? I feel like that kind of hairstyle should not be accepted in the workplace. I just hate it. There was a guy at the gym with one the other day.. just, no.

    Me: 31

    DH: 29, SA - Great

    Married: June 12,2011

    TTC #1: 1/2014

    Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea

    Treatment: Clomid:  50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored

                      Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI  IUI #1 8/31/2015

    9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!
    Heartbeat 10/2/2015: 118bpm
    DS: 5/27/2016

    TTC# 2: 12/2017
    BFP: 4/20/2018
    EDD: 12/29/2018
  • swflJDswflJD member

    @swflJD @mello13 and @clbness It's all over here too!! I don't get it.

    And how is a man bun in a suit even considered to be professional? I feel like that kind of hairstyle should not be accepted in the workplace. I just hate it. There was a guy at the gym with one the other day.. just, no.

    I know, right!?  Fortunately, this guy wasn't in my department (I don't think he's even an employee of my company - just a temporary consultant) because there's no way I could have taken him seriously!
  • swflJD said:

    @swflJD @mello13 and @clbness It's all over here too!! I don't get it.

    And how is a man bun in a suit even considered to be professional? I feel like that kind of hairstyle should not be accepted in the workplace. I just hate it. There was a guy at the gym with one the other day.. just, no.

    I know, right!?  Fortunately, this guy wasn't in my department (I don't think he's even an employee of my company - just a temporary consultant) because there's no way I could have taken him seriously!

    Agreed. It's hard to take someone seriously when they look like that!!

    Me: 31

    DH: 29, SA - Great

    Married: June 12,2011

    TTC #1: 1/2014

    Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea

    Treatment: Clomid:  50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored

                      Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI  IUI #1 8/31/2015

    9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!
    Heartbeat 10/2/2015: 118bpm
    DS: 5/27/2016

    TTC# 2: 12/2017
    BFP: 4/20/2018
    EDD: 12/29/2018
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