This comment DH said bothered me.

runner76

I know I mentioned in a previous post about marital issues since ttc two years ago and miscarriage a year ago.. My h and I were talking about the stress level of both of us lately since we have been fighting so bad. Well my husband told me how sex became about trying.. We always were very active but we started to skip a day or two at a time since too much can be bad for trying.  Then I started the treatments and honestly my mood hasn't been my normal self.. Im just thinking more about taking care of my body to have a baby. I couldn't do it on shots cause I was worried about overstimulating . then I did retrieval and was careful and didn't do anything for a week. It isn't even that much less in frequency but I guess he can feel that I'm not as in the mood.  He said that he thinks he is more irritable lately because the change in sex,, then he said I need it.. you make me happy then I can make you happy. idk why but that comment just bothers me. he needs sex to make him happy and he can't make me happy unless he gets it regularly and me in the mood at all times?  idk but that is scary.. you never know what can happen in life.

Msjen11

I'm sorry you guys aren't communicating effectively. You should really try counseling or something, but don't leave it unaddressed. Best wishes 

BrightenMySky

I hear you about wanting to take care of yourself and your body.  Maybe part of what is going on is that you express affection in different ways?  I hope you can have open and honest discussions with your DH about it, because IF can take such a toll on a relationship.  If you think counseling would be helpful, I have to say that finding someone who specializes in IF & loss has been really good for me (versus just a random person I picked on zocdoc who just did not get it)--although I haven't tried couples counseling.  You can search on https://www.psychologytoday.com/ for IF therapists.