Any STM's planning a shower/sprinkle? Whats your thoughts?

Oakleypoozles

I feel like showers are something that usually come with a lot of rules. I know people have a lot of opinions about the who, why, what, where and when's about it all. I'm curious to hear everyones opinions and if a shower is something that they hope to plan this time around. 
------------------
My opinion: 
My bestie and I planned pregnancy together and we were blessed that it worked out. So she and I are throwing a dual no gift "Sprinkle". I think the Sprinkle's are adorable just because of the name haha. We won't really following any sort of traditional guidelines. We have played around with the idea of also doing a gender reveal at the same time for me. She has chosen to not find out until birth (and she's holding strong lol I dunno how she does it) but at the same time we're excitedly awaiting for me to find out haha. 
We've chosen a Woodland Theme and have gotten really clever with our wording for our invitations lol. So far we have: 
Double the Friends, Double the Fun you’re invited to a Sprinkle and it’s TWO for ONE!

We're still trying to find a clever way to tell people it is absolutely no gifts without sounding demanding lol. We're also arguing about the invitation design. We're really fond of this one by RusticElegance18 on Etsy but I'm confused about why I can't get it in a photoshop file so I can edit to suit. We'll figure that out soon! 

campbaby76

I imagine that DH's sisters will want to do something.  Especially if this is a girl.  Also friends.  We were not near friends or family when ds was born and while They did do a shower it was awkward because we didn't really know each other.  We've since moved closer to each other and have become close and celebrate is what we do.  Like anything.  Any reason to get together and hang out and eat is good enough.  

lilwonder

@Oakleypoozles - a bunch of STM's have posted about this in a few different threads. You must have a good portion of them blocked?? 

ETA: maybe you have me blocked, too?

Oakleypoozles

@campbaby76  I'm totally with yah Any reason to celebrate get together hang out and make food definitely is AOK with me  

So will your DH's sisters plan the party? Or is it something you'll all get together and plan together? 

campbaby76

They will likely plan and just ask me who to invite.  

Oakleypoozles

There is something I find appealing about that lol. You get to have all the celebration and none of the stress that goes into making it happen. That's pretty cool! Is that a tradition of your family that someone else plans the showers or is it just your personal preference and way of doing things? 

LikeICantEven

OP is all:

LikeICantEven

Also, the amount of smug, self satisfaction at her and her BFF's wit makes me gag. 



But it's probably because I am fed up with this chick. 

But since she can't see this, because she likely blocked me:

whaat

Lol @ everyone. The annoying part, though, is that she's going to keep double posting because she has all of the people who discussed this on old threads blocked. I don't know if she can see this, but if so: WE HAD THIS CONVERSATION already, OP. If you're unwilling to look at most of the things already posted here, why don't you just DM your 3 friends or start a Facebook group?

FiancB

Do you actually want opinions? I'm pretty sure that you'll just block and report anyone that disagrees with you. You're also making it extremely obvious whom you've got on ignore. Maybe you should start a blog that doesn't allow for comments since you're mostly just interested in your own monologues, not conversations in which someone might disagree with you. 

Other unitiated posters: use caution when invited to this poster's sandbox to play. I'm sure she can't see this post but for literally everyone else that can, I'd encourage looking through her post history before engaging. 

muybueno

It's hard to read the post through the excessive "haha's" and "lol's." It reads like a note you are passing in 7th grade.

LikeICantEven

@FiancB
You hit the nail on the head. THAT'S what bothers me about this whole thing. She wants an audience, not a group.

I'm really not an internet bully, I like having a laugh mostly but what she pulled in that woman's thread the other day severely pissed me off.  She comes off as this sanctimonious, trying to help, concerned, simple minded and nice person but she gutted a woman in pain when she was down and I can't forgive that.

FiancB

muybueno said:

It's hard to read the post through the excessive "haha's" and "lol's." It reads like a note you are passing in 7th grade.



SITB

Yeah seriously, my eyes crossed and again, this is monologue, not any sort of invitation for others to participate with their thoughts. For the OP since she can't see it anyway:

AdmiralKitty

Pretty sure I'm not blocked, so @Oakleypoozles just a heads up: this topic has been pretty thoroughly covered in other threads... Unless you just wanted to AW and show off how "clever" you are? 


ETA: "" on clever... Because really, it's not. 

hellopartyof5

OP I don't think I'd call this a sprinkle.... because you're supposed to "sprinkle" the mom to be with presents.  Also super tacky throwing it yourselves.  If you just want to have a party for the babies then have a party, but dont call it a sprinkle.

AdmiralKitty

How fast do ya'll think I'm going to get blocked? 

Oakleypoozles

@nauticallife
So is that why a shower is called a shower? For a first baby you are suppose to shower a mom with gifts? I've never really heard of that before. Is there some kind of traditional word for like a party for the babies? And also whats the problem with throwing the party yourself? I've never heard except for one other thread someone having someone else throw the party for them. Is that like a traditional shower thing that someone else throws the party for you? 

whaat

Oakleypoozles said:

@nauticallife
So is that why a shower is called a shower? For a first baby you are suppose to shower a mom with gifts? I've never really heard of that before. Is there some kind of traditional word for like a party for the babies? And also whats the problem with throwing the party yourself? I've never heard except for one other thread someone having someone else throw the party for them. Is that like a traditional shower thing that someone else throws the party for you? 

Use the search box HUN.

FiancB

Oakleypoozles said:

@nauticallife
So is that why a shower is called a shower? For a first baby you are suppose to shower a mom with gifts? I've never really heard of that before. Is there some kind of traditional word for like a party for the babies? And also whats the problem with throwing the party yourself? I've never heard except for one other thread someone having someone else throw the party for them. Is that like a traditional shower thing that someone else throws the party for you? 

I'd say it's called a sip & see which is traditionally done after baby is born, but oh wait, you can't see this. That's too darn bad for you. 

lilwonder

Oakleypoozles said:

@nauticallife
So is that why a shower is called a shower? For a first baby you are suppose to shower a mom with gifts? I've never really heard of that before. Is there some kind of traditional word for like a party for the babies? And also whats the problem with throwing the party yourself? I've never heard except for one other thread someone having someone else throw the party for them. Is that like a traditional shower thing that someone else throws the party for you? 

I can't with this chick. Just STAHP!

AdmiralKitty

https://emilypost.com/advice/baby-showers-welcoming-the-new-baby/ 

If you're interested in the "traditional" way of celebrating baby, check out above. 

FiancB

ShallowSeas

It's tacky to throw yourself a party.  Wedding showers, bachelorette party, baby shower/sprinkles...that should all be thrown by someone who has offered to do it.  It's a gift, not a right.

AdmiralKitty

ShallowSeas said:

It's tacky to throw yourself a party.  Wedding showers, bachelorette party, baby shower/sprinkles...that should all be thrown by someone who has offered to do it.  It's a gift, not a right.

^this^

whaat

AdmiralKitty said:

ShallowSeas said:

It's tacky to throw yourself a party.  Wedding showers, bachelorette party, baby shower/sprinkles...that should all be thrown by someone who has offered to do it.  It's a gift, not a right.

^this^

But we all know OP is tacky. It would be *so her omg*

DunkinDecaf

ShallowSeas said:

It's tacky to throw yourself a party.  Wedding showers, bachelorette party, baby shower/sprinkles...that should all be thrown by someone who has offered to do it.  It's a gift, not a right.

Definitely. I think sip n sees are the exception though, since no one is expected to bring gifts.

edited because spelling is hard.

Oakleypoozles

DunkinDecaf  - Never heard of a sip n see. That seems like a fun idea too. I bet people would appreciate being able to drop by as the please and getting to actually see the baby is probably a plus too. 


For anyone who doesn't know what a sip n see is (I didn't) Here's a link with some info: https://www.thebump.com/a/sip-and-see-party

whaat

Oakleypoozles said:

DunkinDecaf  - Never heard of a sip n see. That seems like a fun idea too. I bet people would appreciate being able to drop by as the please and getting to actually see the baby is probably a plus too. 


For anyone who doesn't know what a sip n see is (I didn't) Here's a link with some info: https://www.thebump.com/a/sip-and-see-party

You would know if we weren't all blocked! We discussed this in detail previously. You are not adding anything. You just want to shout into the void. 

campbaby76

Oakleypoozles said:

There is something I find appealing about that lol. You get to have all the celebration and none of the stress that goes into making it happen. That's pretty cool! Is that a tradition of your family that someone else plans the showers or is it just your personal preference and way of doing things? 

I've never actually been to a shower that someone planned themselves (except my evil ex sil but that's a different story) and I say this not to offend but I've always been taught it's poor etiquette to throw your own shower.  

Amyboxer

Exactly what PP said, don't throw yourself a shower/sprinkle. Also what's the point in having a Sprinkle if there's no gifts. A sprinkle is
supposed to be a small version of a shower. Get it? 

LikeICantEven

For anyone who doesn't know how to Google:

https://www.google.com



I'm done. I'm going to go look at the baby name board because this is just like ... it's indescribable.
Effing trainwreck.

FiancB

Oakleypoozles said:

DunkinDecaf  - Never heard of a sip n see. That seems like a fun idea too. I bet people would appreciate being able to drop by as the please and getting to actually see the baby is probably a plus too. 


For anyone who doesn't know what a sip n see is (I didn't) Here's a link with some info: https://www.thebump.com/a/sip-and-see-party

Lol. Yep, DunkinDecaf was definitely the first person to mention that. 

FiancB

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

For anyone who doesn't know how to Google:

https://www.google.com



I'm done. I'm going to go look at the baby name board because this is just like ... it's indescribable.
Effing trainwreck.

Better yet:

www.livejournal.com

DunkinDecaf

Oakleypoozles said:

DunkinDecaf  - Never heard of a sip n see. That seems like a fun idea too. I bet people would appreciate being able to drop by as the please and getting to actually see the baby is probably a plus too. 


For anyone who doesn't know what a sip n see is (I didn't) Here's a link with some info: https://www.thebump.com/a/sip-and-see-party

I don't suppose you can see it, but many people are a bit frustrated with you on this thread in particular because we have discussed this subject at length on other threads. Unfortunately you seem to have blocked about 80% of the regular posters on the board so you've missed a lot of our conversations. It's really a bit selfish, if I'm being honest. This is a community where we both give and receive support and ideas. All you're able to do is receive it, because you can hardly see half of what we talk about.

ShallowSeas

It's really hard for someone to start threads and contribute to them when it appears that they've blocked 90% of the board. It becomes a convoluted, hot mess of information that has already been repeated over and over.  

Oakleypoozles

@campbaby76

It's so strange to me lol. I actually have a really huge family (my dad has 12 brothers and sisters so I've never counted my cousins and friends but as you can imagine we have pretty big celebrations) and we are really close and have celebrations for everything but I swear I have never noticed all the etiquette rules about parties. I'm not entirely sure if it's because we just simply don't follow them or because I'm just kinda spacey and don't notice. I always think it's really interesting though how traditions differ and feelings about things like this. 

@Amyboxer

LOL, yeah I get it now but I didn't. It never occurred to me to wonder why it's called a shower or sprinkle. Now that I know it's to be sprinkled with gifts that totally doesn't fit what I'm going for here. I never throw any parties with gifts because I don't like to put people out I just like to enjoy there company and enjoy celebrating happy things together. The sip n see looks more along the lines of what we want. We'll have to keep looking. Maybe some other people will have some cool ideas too. 

LoveIsOwlYouNeed

Oakleypoozles said:

@nauticallife
So is that why a shower is called a shower? For a first baby you are suppose to shower a mom with gifts? I've never really heard of that before. Is there some kind of traditional word for like a party for the babies? And also whats the problem with throwing the party yourself? I've never heard except for one other thread someone having someone else throw the party for them. Is that like a traditional shower thing that someone else throws the party for you? 

Lurker...but, YES!  That's EXACTLY why it's called a shower...seriously.  And the idea of a "sprinkle" is that it's a smaller, "lighter" affair just like a rain sprinkle is less than a rain shower.  And because it's about gifts, it's tacky to throw yourself one because you're basically saying "give me gifts."

My head hurts now...

NatashaSprout

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

For anyone who doesn't know how to Google:

https://www.google.com



I'm done. I'm going to go look at the baby name board because this is just like ... it's indescribable.
Effing trainwreck.

I'll meet you there because we are struggling with a girl name. 

lilwonder

Oakleypoozles said:

@campbaby76

It's so strange to me lol. I actually have a really huge family (my dad has 12 brothers and sisters) and we are really close and have celebrations for everything but I swear I have never noticed all the etiquette rules about parties. I'm not entirely sure if it's because we just simply don't follow them or because I'm just kinda spacey and don't notice. I always think it's really interesting though how traditions differ and feelings about things like this. 

@Amyboxer

LOL, yeah I get it now but I didn't. It never occurred to me to wonder why it's called a shower or sprinkle. Now that I know it's to be sprinkled with gifts that totally doesn't fit what I'm going for here. I never throw any parties with gifts because I don't like to put people out I just like to enjoy there company and enjoy celebrating happy things together. The sip n see looks more along the lines of what we want. We'll have to keep looking. Maybe some other people will have some cool ideas too. 

WE have ideas. We've shared them. You can't see them. Go crawl under a damn rock. 

DunkinDecaf

@OakleypoozlesAnd now you've ignored and probably blocked me. It makes giving you advice seem like an entirely useless effort. I will not bother in future.

Oakleypoozles

Haven't blocked you. Don't mind your opinions. I just don't have a relevant response that adds anything to the conversation I try to stay on topic to the OP. Sometimes I just listen 0.o