New Girl In Town

Dollface29

Hello everyone! 

My DH and I have been TTC for 2.5 years.  I will be 31 at the end of this month and my DH is 39. I have just completed a slew of tests and am waiting for my specialist appointment to go over the results.  

All of my friends seem to be getting pregnant. Some are already on their second.  Although I am SO happy for them I also struggle with feelings of bitterness. Thinking that "it's not fair.  When will it be my turn. " 

How do you ladies deal with these feelings?  How do you handle being so happy and so upset at the same time?  

Very glad to meet you all! ❤

wifeinraleigh28

Hey there and welcome!  What you're feeling is completely normal.  I feel the same way.  Honestly, having these message boards has helped me manage some of those feelings because I know I'm not alone in feeling this way.  It is possible to be happy for your friends, but also extremely saddened at the same time that we can't seem to achieve what they do.  I know that a good friend of mine has been trying for #2 for awhile now.  Every time I see her I dread that she's going to tell me she's pregnant.  Not because I don't want her to have baby #2, but because I worry about my ability to hold myself together when the news comes.  At this point I want her to rip it off like a bandaid, because I know I'll be okay once the shock of it wears off!

Anyway, I hope all your testing goes well and that you get some answers and a good treatment plan in place!  Good luck!

ReesaAnne16

I don't think I could say it any better than @wifeinraleigh28 so I'll just say, welcome, and I'm sorry you find yourself here. We've all had similar feelings along this journey. 

Ducks&Cats

Hi there!  I too am finding it difficult to deal with other people's pregnancies and babies.  It is bitter sweet to find out someone close to you is pregnant when you want it so badly.  My best friend sent me a video of her beautiful 2 wk old baby boy yawning this morning.  Honestly I couldn't bear to watch it. 

I have been dealing with my emotions in a few different ways.  I like to post here, it definitely helps getting empathy from women who know what I am going through and it also helps providing support to others.  I have a friend I confide in, she is in her 40s and has the same diagnosis as me.  She was unable to have kids of her own due to other medical issues but she is very empathetic.  My partner is very supportive emotionally and also very positive.  He's actually a little too involved...wanting to know details of my AF, symptoms etc., it can be too much sometimes!  I also have been keeping busy doing yard and house projects.  One of my big projects is to get better grass, our yard is about 5000sqft and grass barely grows.  I spent the weekend amending the soil and re-seeding.  I also am painting the room that will eventually be the baby room.  I figure I can't paint when I'm pregnant because of fumes so I might as well get it over with!  I chose a nice gender neutral pale green and I'm doing the room trim and doors in a creamy white.  Job searching is a huge focus of mine, I am ready to move on in my career so applying for positions has been a good distraction.  I am also focusing on being really healthy.  I am eating well, exercising and taking lots of supplements that are good for women with PCOS. 

Good luck and I am glad you found your way to our forum!

harleyquinn0621

Hello! I totally understand the frustration of everyone around you getting pregnant when we have to try so hard. I have a friend that has 5....and most all my other friends have at least 1.  it is really hard to see facebook posts over and over again of new pregnancy announcements

I am happy for all my friends of course- i love them and would never want them to go through what I am - but its still really really hard. 

i try to focus on my journey and keep faith that it will happen for me at the right time..thats all I can really do

Dollface29

Thank you all for your kind words.  It is nice to know that I am not the only one feeling this way.  I look forward to talking to you ladies,  although I hope everyone's stay here is short.