DH and I are close to deciding on a name for the baby. My mom and sister have been asking if we have a name yet or any ideas and I just keep saying we aren't sure yet. But I've been talking to a couple of friends about names for weeks. For some reason I just do not want to share with my family.
My mom mentioned the other day she would love to hear the baby's heartbeat. She asked if we could record it at our next appt. I think I'm just being really sensitive towards my family, especially my mom but a part of me wants to just not do it and tell her I forgot. I feel like an awful person..but then..not. Why am I feeling this way?
@Hannah0726 could be just the hormones lol yesterday as i am walking out my doc's appt a parent of twins join me in the elevator they were so cute i am glad i escaped having twins maybe next time i won't be so lucky, they asked if i was pregnant with twins i said no i just have a big baby inside me, i asked if it was a handful and the mom stated well it is but we enjoy every moment and still just one baby is a handful as well and then my fears kicked in
@Hannah0726 I have the same feelings about certain things with my in laws and a few select people in my family. Especially the baby's name. I don't care what they think of it and don't want to hear their opinions. My MIL already said she hates the name we picked (it slipped one day while she was over) and that we should consider changing our minds. Now, besides the fact that I love the name we have chosen, I feel like I would still give it to the baby just to spite her. That is usually not me at all. I have a ragey pregnancy side to me and the bad conscience is really loud now lol.
@Hannah0726 Everyone knows our boy name b/c DH is the IV and so we'll continue the family name, but I am keeping a tight lid on our girl name possibilities. 1. If it's a girl, I'm not sure I'll know her name for sure til I see her face and 2. When my cousin named her daughter, she got so many negative and/or weird reactions to the name they picked (a perfectly normal name, if a little old-fashioned), and I just don't want to deal with it! We'll name the baby what we want, and I don't want your opinion.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
My DH hurt his back this week and has been sleeping on the firm mattress in the guest bedroom. I secretly enjoy him in there. I get a king size bed all to myself, no snoring to wake me up. It's been a great 5 nights.
@Hannah0726 I think on some levels I feel the same way. I love my mom and I'm excited for her to be a grandma, but I want to keep some things as special moments for my DH and I. We are not telling anyone the sex or name of our baby and my mom tried to guilt me about it. I also think she is having a hard time realizing that I am having the baby and not her, and that the decisions we make she has no say in. She's just going to have to understand she is the grandma this go around, not the mom.
My FFFCs are all due to my laziness. I have only dried my hair twice in the last two weeks, and that's only because I wanted to take a HDBD photo.
I have the same load of laundry in the dryer from Monday that I keep turning on the fluff cycle so I don't have to fold it.
And I finally broke down and bought a new bra a month ago and have yet to wash it, but wear it everyday. I know...so gross. I should probably just buy another one.
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@lgem4 wowwwww, so rude!!! Especially since they are just having it at their house, omg, I would be so freaking pissed off. How is your family supposed to choose?!
@lgem4 Whaaat!? That is really rude. I would be so upset. There isn't really a reason for them to have it that early and could they not move it to at least another weekend?
What does your MIL say? It's her family so maybe she could talk to them and explain you are not able to move yours and don't want the family to have to choose?
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. What an awful situation.
@lgem4 I would be super pissed on the shear fact that they knew the date of your shower and planned one for the same day anyway. I think we can chuck your Aunt and her daughter in the burn book.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I give up. Second time ordering clothes from ASOS. They never fit me right the way they look in pictures!!! Returning a set of maternity dresses but I've a wedding next wknd!!
ASOS, I'd like to say we gave it a try (in Ariana Grande's voice) but it's time to go our separate ways as you know, almost is never enough
I am irritated with my DH's cousin and aunt. It may just be the hormones but I think this whole thing is rude.
This cousin is getting married in September, her mom is planning the bridal shower. They know that I am pregnant and even though I am due in August, my cerclage comes out in July and I could go then. Normally a shower is done 1-2 months before the due date, at least around here. So my shower is June so I have enough time to get ready if I do delivery in July. Anyhow, you would think her shower would be in July or August. No they're doing it in June more than 3 months before the wedding. Of course what happens? Our showers are on the same day! You would think they would call me or my MIL and find out when my shower is since they're booking so early. Nope, they just did whatever they want and won't move it. The shower is at the mom's house so its not like they would lose a deposit like us. So now DH's entire family has to pick between our showers. This is just bullshit and my shower was booked first. Also this said aunt has been avoiding DH and I since this all came out, like its our fault and we should move our shower.
No, just no. Some people just need to get slapped in the face without any explanation.
I am irritated with my DH's cousin and aunt. It may just be the hormones but I think this whole thing is rude.
This cousin is getting married in September, her mom is planning the bridal shower. They know that I am pregnant and even though I am due in August, my cerclage comes out in July and I could go then. Normally a shower is done 1-2 months before the due date, at least around here. So my shower is June so I have enough time to get ready if I do delivery in July. Anyhow, you would think her shower would be in July or August. No they're doing it in June more than 3 months before the wedding. Of course what happens? Our showers are on the same day! You would think they would call me or my MIL and find out when my shower is since they're booking so early. Nope, they just did whatever they want and won't move it. The shower is at the mom's house so its not like they would lose a deposit like us. So now DH's entire family has to pick between our showers. This is just bullshit and my shower was booked first. Also this said aunt has been avoiding DH and I since this all came out, like its our fault and we should move our shower.
wow thats just rude, I;m so sorry you have to deal with that. And I thought it was bad when my sister wanted me to change my baby shower date so that she can do a figure competition (that she hasn't even signed up for btw) on that day instead
I am irritated with my DH's cousin and aunt. It may just be the hormones but I think this whole thing is rude.
This cousin is getting married in September, her mom is planning the bridal shower. They know that I am pregnant and even though I am due in August, my cerclage comes out in July and I could go then. Normally a shower is done 1-2 months before the due date, at least around here. So my shower is June so I have enough time to get ready if I do delivery in July. Anyhow, you would think her shower would be in July or August. No they're doing it in June more than 3 months before the wedding. Of course what happens? Our showers are on the same day! You would think they would call me or my MIL and find out when my shower is since they're booking so early. Nope, they just did whatever they want and won't move it. The shower is at the mom's house so its not like they would lose a deposit like us. So now DH's entire family has to pick between our showers. This is just bullshit and my shower was booked first. Also this said aunt has been avoiding DH and I since this all came out, like its our fault and we should move our shower.
No, just no. Some people just need to get slapped in the face without any explanation.
My friends and I refer to that as a 'bitch slap button' kind of like the staples 'easy' button. You press it and a magical hand appears from no where to slap the person in the face. If I could invent this to really happen i think I'd be a billionaire! But in all seriousness, I would be pissed too. So rude!
My MIL mentioned wanting to throw a shower for us back when we first announced that we were pregnant but hasn't said anything since. I'm a big time planner and want to know whether we'll have one or not, and when it will be if we are in fact having one. I'm considering asking DH to drop some hints or bring it up with her, just to find out if she's still wanting to throw one (no hard feelings if not - I just want to know!) but I can't decide. My MIL is a maaaajor procrastinator so I could totally see her planning one at the last minute in July and by then, we'll already have everything we need. Garage sale season is right around the corner too and if we aren't having a shower, I'll probably opt to get a lot of things at garage sales. Hmmmm...
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
I woke up at 3am and ate 2 bowls of cereal.... is was so good! I have gained 3 times the weight these past 2 weeks then I had the first 21 weeks combined!!! My body is feeling it for sure!!!
Me - 33; DH - 33 Dating 1/18/06 Married 9/21/13 BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16 BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
I went home at lunch to change into a skirt. I was wearing maternity pants, but they still cut into my stomach. I feel like I still have a long way to go to already be growing out of maternity pants. I'm hoping no one notices the very obvious wardrobe change.
I went home at lunch to change into a skirt. I was wearing maternity pants, but they still cut into my stomach. I feel like I still have a long way to go to already be growing out of maternity pants. I'm hoping no one notices the very obvious wardrobe change.
I'm wearing a maxi skirt and a cotton top today. Totally not really "professional" but I wore 2 pair of maternity pants and 2 dresses this week so I was out of clothes.
My favorite side effect of this pregnancy - I only wash every 10 days. At first it disturbed me a bit, but now I'm loving it. (I promise it doesn't smell between washes!)
@lgem4 WTF?!? It would be one thing if they didn't know, but it sounds like they were well aware. We had a similar thing happen, only it was with our WEDDING. We planned for 5/18, and DH's best friend who had been engaged way longer than us but didn't plan anything booked their wedding for 6 days after. And we made sure to ask them if they had anything planned or booked before we chose our date and put down a deposit out of courtesy to them. The boys were in each others wedding parties sooooo....... And we had planned a 2 week honeymoon scheduled to leave the day after the wedding. I was so livid when they told us their date literally a week after we had scheduled out date. We actually ended up moving up our wedding several weeks because I wasn't willing to wait a week after my own wedding to go on my honeymoon. Luckily, we booked really far in advance and all of the other vendors that we had also booked were free. F them!
@AliKay20 I was so excited when I first ordered from ASOS but only 2 of the 6 dresses ended up working. I was so excited when I found the website but bummed when I actually got the clothes
I went home at lunch to change into a skirt. I was wearing maternity pants, but they still cut into my stomach. I feel like I still have a long way to go to already be growing out of maternity pants. I'm hoping no one notices the very obvious wardrobe change.
I am going through the same thing with some of my maternity pants. It feels worse to me because I sit a lot at a desk. I have found that the full panel jeans/pants are the best at preventing the cutting in feeling for me. I need more dresses!
@lgem4 I would definitely be sending those invites out well before hers go out. The sooner the better. Seriously, if they are going to do that it would be nice if they did it at least a few hours apart from one another!
And I'm with you @Lynnlove28 I wish I could go that long without washing my hair. It's pretty fine and straight so I just look greasy if it's not washed every day or every other day max!
@bananers Right there with you. Did some dry shampoo yesterday and since I was able to work from home today because of my glucose test and air duct cleaning, I actually washed it. Only because I could let it air dry.
I went home at lunch to change into a skirt. I was wearing maternity pants, but they still cut into my stomach. I feel like I still have a long way to go to already be growing out of maternity pants. I'm hoping no one notices the very obvious wardrobe change.
I am going through the same thing with some of my maternity pants. It feels worse to me because I sit a lot at a desk. I have found that the full panel jeans/pants are the best at preventing the cutting in feeling for me. I need more dresses!
Yep - these were pants with just a band, not a full panel. I also sit at a desk all day, and I swear the baby started kicking at the panel on my pants halfway through this morning. I only have 2 pairs of pants with the full panel, so I have a feeling I'll be going shopping soon. I have to say that the maxi skirt I changed into is incredibly comfortable right now. I think more dresses and skirts are in order.
Some of my full panel pants are starting to cut in too. Some manufacturers just don't make the panels long enough, and at some point they don't cover the full bump, which creates a B shape when they dig in mid-bump. Not so cute.
@jmw386 I'm finding that if I wear certain types of pants / skirts which cut in even a little the baby spends all day poking at the waistband, trying to push it back out. By the end of the day I am sore on one side or the other from the fussing. Apparently my son is going to be opinionated...
My confession? The date my girls picked for my baby shower doesn't work for a lot of my extended family. So it looks like it is just going to be my neighbors I am friendly with (who RSVP'd with "I may drop by!") and my best girl friends, and my mom.
All my extended family are big into drrrraaaaammmmaaa, (My mother is the youngest of 6) and they have pretty much all RSVP'ed no at this point - and most of them sent a gift anyways.
Confession time : I am TOTALLY OKAY with this. In fact - thrilled. Shhhh... I mean, of course I am so sad they couldn't come.... I'd feel bad if we'd done that on purpose, but they didn't, so I don't even feel guilty.
@lynnlove28 I can relate. I pretty much have to wash mine every day, although I am trying a new dry shampoo that makes going 2 days a bit more feasible.
Umm @lgem4 I would be pretty angry. Sorry you are having to deal with that!
I really don't have a true FFFC. I'm still reeling about my experience with the admin yesterday so am thinking of putting ketchup on the door handle to her car. I guess that could be mine if I actually go through with it.
@LWC1112 I agree, I have to wash mine everyday. Dry shampoo is my friend. I plan on packing it in my hospital bag for sure.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Due to Passover my menu plan and pantry stockpile is thrown off and although I can eat a ton of healthy stuff I find myself just eating carbs all day every day. It's getting bad. I can't wait for tomorrow night when I can go back to my regular meals/snacks!
i just got invited to my aunts b-day party and it is going to rain and if i don't show up at this damn park they will be talking so much doodoo (it is tomorrow and i got invited today) but i don't have any excuse
Due to Passover my menu plan and pantry stockpile is thrown off and although I can eat a ton of healthy stuff I find myself just eating carbs all day every day. It's getting bad. I can't wait for tomorrow night when I can go back to my regular meals/snacks!
I'm right there with ya. I swear I could eat bagels everyday.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Re: FFFC 4.29
For some reason I just do not want to share with my family.
My mom mentioned the other day she would love to hear the baby's heartbeat. She asked if we could record it at our next appt. I think I'm just being really sensitive towards my family, especially my mom but a part of me wants to just not do it and tell her I forgot. I feel like an awful person..but then..not. Why am I feeling this way?
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
My FFFCs are all due to my laziness. I have only dried my hair twice in the last two weeks, and that's only because I wanted to take a HDBD photo.
I have the same load of laundry in the dryer from Monday that I keep turning on the fluff cycle so I don't have to fold it.
And I finally broke down and bought a new bra a month ago and have yet to wash it, but wear it everyday. I know...so gross. I should probably just buy another one.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@midwestbaby I think that's what it is. I feel like we have shared everything so far really quickly and want to hold on to certain things now.
What does your MIL say? It's her family so maybe she could talk to them and explain you are not able to move yours and don't want the family to have to choose?
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. What an awful situation.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
ASOS, I'd like to say we gave it a try (in Ariana Grande's voice) but it's time to go our separate ways as you know, almost is never enough
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
My MIL is a maaaajor procrastinator so I could totally see her planning one at the last minute in July and by then, we'll already have everything we need. Garage sale season is right around the corner too and if we aren't having a shower, I'll probably opt to get a lot of things at garage sales. Hmmmm...
Me - 33; DH - 33Dating 1/18/06
Married 9/21/13
BFP #1 12/15/15 - C Born 8/27/16
BFP #2 1/10/20 - EDD 9/8/20
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
I went home at lunch to change into a skirt. I was wearing maternity pants, but they still cut into my stomach. I feel like I still have a long way to go to already be growing out of maternity pants. I'm hoping no one notices the very obvious wardrobe change.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
And I'm with you @Lynnlove28 I wish I could go that long without washing my hair. It's pretty fine and straight so I just look greasy if it's not washed every day or every other day max!
Yep - these were pants with just a band, not a full panel. I also sit at a desk all day, and I swear the baby started kicking at the panel on my pants halfway through this morning. I only have 2 pairs of pants with the full panel, so I have a feeling I'll be going shopping soon. I have to say that the maxi skirt I changed into is incredibly comfortable right now. I think more dresses and skirts are in order.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
My confession? The date my girls picked for my baby shower doesn't work for a lot of my extended family. So it looks like it is just going to be my neighbors I am friendly with (who RSVP'd with "I may drop by!") and my best girl friends, and my mom.
All my extended family are big into drrrraaaaammmmaaa, (My mother is the youngest of 6) and they have pretty much all RSVP'ed no at this point - and most of them sent a gift anyways.
Confession time : I am TOTALLY OKAY with this. In fact - thrilled. Shhhh... I mean, of course I am so sad they couldn't come....
I'd feel bad if we'd done that on purpose, but they didn't, so I don't even feel guilty.
Umm @lgem4 I would be pretty angry. Sorry you are having to deal with that!
I really don't have a true FFFC. I'm still reeling about my experience with the admin yesterday so am thinking of putting ketchup on the door handle to her car. I guess that could be mine if I actually go through with it.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18