This may be a stupid question. I realized that maybe seeking some sort of counseling after all this might be helpful. It's been about a ml th since my 2nd miscarriage and I'm still all over the place. Right now I don't even know if I want to try again.
For women that did seek a counselor how did you go about it? I don't have any appointments coming up, I was thinking of calling the nurses line. I just feel like A referral would be better than just a random search. I also wonder if part of my problem is my hormones still haven't regulated yet.
This whole situation and process just sucks! I'm so sorry that all you women are also going through this!
Re: Emotional support after?
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
I haven't had counseling (yet) for this specific situation, but I have been in therapy previously. I just started with my health insurance provider, and looked for doctors that were covered. From there, I researched their specialties to find someone who had experience with my particular issues. Just because you don't get a referral doesn't mean you have to go in blind. I think a lot of professionals these days have information on their websites that could help you decide if they're right for you. After that, it's just about going for a visit and seeing if you like talking to that person.
For what it's worth I highly recommend following through and getting a counselor. It's not easy at first to put yourself out there, but it can be so helpful to talk with someone. I'm so sorry that you're going through this and I hope you find someone to help you through it.
You will never forget this, it doesn't matter if you were 5 weeks or 20 weeks, at any stage you loss a child, no one ever forgets that but a time will come when you'll feel better and you'll be able to look back on this as a bad thing that happened to you but it didn't destroy you and it won't. You'll learn to live through the pain. But for now, it's ok to cry inconsolably, and it's ok to feel anger, and sadness and every other emotion out there, take your time to mourn but also be kind to yourself, what happened wasn't your fault, you didn't deserve it, no one does, it's just one of those things that happen, it's part of being alive. Hugs to you.
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15