I haven't posted here, I'm from Sept 15, but also have two children aged 5 & 7. Looking for some advice on how to speak with my children about death and heaven. In the past 5 years we have lost my father, step-father, grandfather and DHs grandfather. My great aunt passed last weekend too. My kids have been to all of the viewings and the funerals for immediate family members. They are not scared and we are very realistic with them. But when it comes to questions about the afterlife we have trouble.
DH and I are agnostic and have conflicting viewpoints. I believe in heaven and spirits, DH does not. We no longer tell the kids that the deceased person went to heaven because they started to glamorize it, asking if they could go. To the point where my oldest (when she was 5) said she wanted to touch the grey box in the basement (circuit breaker) so she could see her grandpa. We deadbolted the basement door immediately. Really scary stuff!
I'm unsure what to say anymore, and hope we don't lose anyone else soon. My kids are so accustomed to losing people now it's sad. I didn't experience death until I was 18. And my mom is freaking out that my DH is telling the kids that there's no heaven. Stressful all around.
So...any thoughts are appreciated!!