May 2016 Moms

Due date/wedding day controversy~RANT

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edited April 2016 in May 2016 Moms
sorry this is so long, but...
My due date is May 26th and my step sister is getting married May 22nd. We live in Georgia but she is having her wedding in North Carolina which means that everyone will have to get a hotel room up there and it is going to be over a course of a few days due the reception, wedding, and "after party" she has planned. 
We already don't get along that great (she sent out invitations before anyone knew I was pregnant and I wasn't invited) but she did come to my baby shower this past weekend and got the baby a really thoughtful gift which I was super appreciative of. I tried making small talk with her and thought maybe everything was going to be cool until someone had to ask a verification of my due date. After telling everyone it was May 26th, my Aunt said, "Well, let's hope you go into labor on the EDD or maybe even after so that you don't ruin (step sisters name)'s wedding". 
I just kind of sat there and looked at my Aunt with a face of irritation and to everyone else nodding in aggrence. My step sistes face was a look of slight smugness and envy though. I replied with, "We didn't exactly plan this baby and I don't have control over when she decides to show up" and then my whole shower was an awkward moment of silence for what felt like forever. 
Honestly, I'm kind of upset. I don't really know how to approach the matter, not that there is anything I can really do about any of it, but I don't think my step sister realizes how petty it is to be upset with my over my due date. I guess she's afraid people will miss her wedding? But, honestly, I don't want anyone coming to see us while we're in the hospital anyways. 
Edited: diction 

Re: Due date/wedding day controversy~RANT

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  • I'm so sorry, your step sister sounds terrible. I can't imagine how you would be feeling. I thought I was angry when someone at my fellas work mentioned that I should "keep my legs squeezed tight until after this weeks training" umm no. Babes come when they want to, and nothing is more important. 
  • Awe sorry that comment was made!! How hurtful! They should be happy to be welcoming in a new family member :( rather be than complain about you ruining a wedding day... Oh please. I would do what a previous post mentioned, send a nice gift and don't worry about traveling that close to your due date! I wouldn't even consider it, for your comfort and safety I feel like your family should support you staying home that close to you EDD. 

    Ps. My due date is also May 26! :) good luck with everything! 
  • First, let me tell you how sorry I am that your family isn't more understanding and excited for your bundle of joy, no matter when your DD is! It's incredible how insensitive people can be. This is one of the biggest events of your life too, and is extremely important to celebrate. I hope you don't think of it as something that "ruins" someone else's day just based on your family's behavior, because you have the right to be excited!

    Second, I want to echo the idea that you stay home. I am 7 days from my EDD, and let me tell you, I am incredibly uncomfortable and also having random contractions with extreme cervix pains. As much as my friends want to hang out and see me, I just have no desire to be this uncomfortable and in pain in front of them. When you're that close to your due date, it might not be in your best interest to drive that far away from your planned hospital. Also, I feel like my distracted and pained attitude would probably "ruin" your step-sisters day more than my absence would. That is of course just my point of view though, and you may feel fine that week. But based on your family's attitude, I think you deserve a nice, relaxing, drama-free week leading up to labor. 
  • She didn't even invite you! What a B-word! Send a "nice gift" and you enjoy your baby!she sounds like no good drama!
  • Wow, I'm seriously ticked off for you chick. Honestly, your step sister sounds annoying, but it's your aunt that really takes the twat of the year award. I'm sorry, but babies are, like, a million times more special and meaningful than weddings. Especially these days. A baby is a living, breathing, beautiful out of body type experience. The most pure love. A wedding is just an overblown excuse to show off and spend too much money for a union that people only kind of want to witness because they want to make use of your open bar. I mean, geez. 

    Well, you may not know me, but I'm super stoked for you. And none of that will even matter when you meet L/O. It really is better to not have people bombarding you in the hospital anyway. 

    ~~** I Love My Boys <3**~~



  • Thank you for all of your comments. I'm definitely not going to the wedding, regardless of invite or not, I was just super irritated and wanted some reassurance. Lol. I think I will be the bigger woman and send her a super thoughtful "Thank You" card and a nice wedding gift. 
  • I agree! Don't sweat it. There's nothing you can do; she's probably just upset you could steal the show. Do whatever feels right to you...this coming from someone who missed my BIL'S wedding because our son came 6 days late, ON their wedding day. And my husband was supposed to be the best man. They got over it, your sister should too.
  • LemmyRN said:
    Sounds like this would be a perfect gift
    @1mae2016


    Lol. This! 
  • I love how the book is written by a man 
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