sorry this is so long, but...
My due date is May 26th and my step sister is getting married May 22nd. We live in Georgia but she is having her wedding in North Carolina which means that everyone will have to get a hotel room up there and it is going to be over a course of a few days due the reception, wedding, and "after party" she has planned.
We already don't get along that great (she sent out invitations before anyone knew I was pregnant and I wasn't invited) but she did come to my baby shower this past weekend and got the baby a really thoughtful gift which I was super appreciative of. I tried making small talk with her and thought maybe everything was going to be cool until someone had to ask a verification of my due date. After telling everyone it was May 26th, my Aunt said, "Well, let's hope you go into labor on the EDD or maybe even after so that you don't ruin (step sisters name)'s wedding".
I just kind of sat there and looked at my Aunt with a face of irritation and to everyone else nodding in aggrence. My step sistes face was a look of slight smugness and envy though. I replied with, "We didn't exactly plan this baby and I don't have control over when she decides to show up" and then my whole shower was an awkward moment of silence for what felt like forever.
Honestly, I'm kind of upset. I don't really know how to approach the matter, not that there is anything I can really do about any of it, but I don't think my step sister realizes how petty it is to be upset with my over my due date. I guess she's afraid people will miss her wedding? But, honestly, I don't want anyone coming to see us while we're in the hospital anyways.
Edited: diction
Re: Due date/wedding day controversy~RANT
Also if one or two people did happen to miss her wedding and that "ruined" her day she has some serious issues that extend waaay beyond you. Are last minute cancelations annoying? Yup. Did they detract from my wedding day in any way? Hell no.
I'd be upset too. Maybe you can tell her that in light of her concerns, you've elected to move your EDD to the 1st week of June and be the first person in history to willfully extend the human gestational period beyond the 40 weeks that nature and science have assigned it. If she doesn't realize the ridiculousness of being upset after that then F her.
I've been through a lot of family drama myself and have learned to just do what's best for me and MY immediate family. If people aren't cool with that, oh well. They will either get over it OR I will rest assured knowing my life is better off without the drama they bring.
Ps. My due date is also May 26!
Second, I want to echo the idea that you stay home. I am 7 days from my EDD, and let me tell you, I am incredibly uncomfortable and also having random contractions with extreme cervix pains. As much as my friends want to hang out and see me, I just have no desire to be this uncomfortable and in pain in front of them. When you're that close to your due date, it might not be in your best interest to drive that far away from your planned hospital. Also, I feel like my distracted and pained attitude would probably "ruin" your step-sisters day more than my absence would. That is of course just my point of view though, and you may feel fine that week. But based on your family's attitude, I think you deserve a nice, relaxing, drama-free week leading up to labor.
Wow!!! That is sooooo incredibly rude to say, especially at your shower. I would have accidentally tripped and spilled punch on her ; )
My best friend, who has known my due date (June 6) since October scheduled a trip to Hawaii last week of May to beginning of June and has told me repeatedly that I better not have my baby until she gets back. Seriously WTF is wrong with people?!
Reminds me of when I told a friend I was pregnant (told her at thanksgiving) and the first thing she said was, "looks like you can't come to my 30th birthday weekend." (Which is in June). Some people are only able to address other people's situations in terms of how it effects them, and it's really annoying.
Well, you may not know me, but I'm super stoked for you. And none of that will even matter when you meet L/O. It really is better to not have people bombarding you in the hospital anyway.
@1mae2016