Im currently 32 wks pregnant with fraternal twins. My husband and i are trying to plan out our fmla leaves and how mich help to ask for from our moms. My husbsnd gets 8 weeks paid (amazing) and i get 16 wks unpaid but protected. Hes going to spread his weeks out over my leave since he just started his job snd doesnt want to be out for 8 straight weeks. So my question to the group is how much help do you really need those first 4 months?
We dont have any family near us so its an all or nothing type thing, where one of the moms is either here staying at our house for a week or longer or not. My mom is helpful and i get along with her fine so i will take all the help i can get. However she still works so she couldnt take more than maybe 4 weeks. My mother in law and i do not get along. Shes really rude and only helps when my husband is around. Hes assured me that she would help this time even when hes not at the house, dishes, laundry, and cleaning . But honestly i am really stressed about her being here and possibly just being another person here to feed/ pay for (and snooping through our stuff - yeah she does that). While i know my situation is very specific, i was just curious how others handled the first few weeks of having twins and how badly you needed help.
I also want to make sure i get alone time to bond with my babies, not for the moms to bond with them. Did you feel you had enough if you did have full time help during your leave?
Thanks in advance for any responses!