FFFC 4.22.16

texasmama2014

Throw them out there ladies!  Don't fear the flames!

1faceinacrowd

I cried this morning because my step-son's grandma is taking him for the day (no school today for him) but didn't want to take my daughter too. I get the feeling that she doesn't consider my daughter like an "actual" grandchild, and my daughter's little heart was broken that her brother got to go to Grandma's all day and she had to go to preschool/daycare.
I have a meeting with my boss in seven minutes and my face and chest are still all blotchy from crying all the way to work. Yay pregnancy hormones...

Katienu

@1faceinthecrowd that is tough stuff.  I don't even know if there is anything you can do but feel your emotions.  It is so hard to see your kids hurting. 

pelorunningmama

@1faceinacrowd That hurts my heart too. Hugs to you. Seeing your baby sad is just awful.

ballofmeat

I took my husbands car to work the other day because mine needed to be filled up with gas. Sorry Hun, but not really.  

kristynmac

@1faceinacrowd I am so sorry for this! My DH is not my sons father and I was worried about how his mom would be and she has acted like he has always been her grandson and goes out of her way to spoil and make him happy. BUT I do work with an older lady and her son had a baby with a girl that already had a child, and its been over a year since her sons baby was born and this lady has never even mentioned the older child. I drop hints all the time about how much I appreciate my MIL not ignoring my son, but she never seems to catch on.

Mrsrundell

@1faceinacrowd ugh, how can anyone be so cruel to a little kid?! Id cry too - hugs to you and your sweet girl!! 

bearsandbeets7

DD may just keep her pacifier forever. This transition from crib to toddler bed has been rough. I can't imagine what it will be like when we try to take her paci away. She might just have to take it to kindergarten with her. 

bearsandbeets7

I have a ton of FFFC today but I hardcore judge any grown women on Facebook whose name is "Shannon Lovingonmyfamily Smith". There is no reason to put your entire life story in your name. 

1faceinacrowd

Thank you for the kind words, everyone. I appreciate that I'm not completely preggo-crazy for being upset about this. 

nanner26

@1faceinacrowd I'm really sorry that happened. I really feel for your daughter. I would've been upset as well. 

So, I know who Prince is. But I couldn't tell you a single song that he was famous for. I've heard a few since the news came out and I don't recognize them. I definitely hate hearing about people passing too soon, but wow it's been everywhere. 

Katienu

@hannah0726 You are making me feel old! Ha! He was everywhere when I was kid but I am a child of the 80's-90's  I was so sad to see him pass.

haboobjob

Lynnlove28 said:

DD may just keep her pacifier forever. This transition from crib to toddler bed has been rough. I can't imagine what it will be like when we try to take her paci away. She might just have to take it to kindergarten with her. 

Thats tough! We haven't moved to a toddler bed yet. I don't really know what to expect from that transition. DD loves her crib and I love that she's trapped in there so she may stay for a little longer. 

Our pediatrician was kind of on us last appointment because of our (mainly my) paci addiction. I've been terrified of trying to limit wubba time because it instantly soothes her. I don't immediately reach for it when she's upset but always give in. She carries it everywhere and "needs" it during naps and car rides. If she doesn't have it, it's a never ending tantrum. I started limiting it significantly 2 days ago (bedtime and naps) and I'm surprised she's doing alright. She knows she needs to leave them in the crib and says goodbye to them in the morning. It's pretty cute. 

nanner26

@katienu I was born in '87 and feel like I should definitely know a couple of his songs??! Maybe I just haven't heard the right ones yet...haha.

Bookhousegirl

@Lynnlove28 I feel your pain on the paci problem. We just started the same approach as @justaudrey (paci only at naps and bedtime) and he's done surprisingly well! I don't know when we'll give it up for sleeping though... He hasn't had one at daycare in over 2 months so I know he can take naps without it, but he loves it so much that I'm sad to take it away from him with all the changes that are already happening 

pelorunningmama

@justaudrey We haven't moved yet either. At the beginning of this pregnancy I told my husband we would do it when we were a couple months out... well we are four months out and I'm still not ready. I think we will do it when I'm 6 weeks out. Hopefully that will be enough time for her to get adjusted and not feel like baby brother is taking her things. I'm really nervous about that.

And the paci, ya I'm never getting rid of it. We use it only for sleep and car rides, but she wails if she drops it in the car and I can't reach it. HOnestly I have no clue how we will ever get beyond it. 

ramoseecology

@1faceinacrowd  That's terrible. Sorry to hear this too. Maybe it could be framed as a grandma/grandson day to your daughter and that she will get special grandma/granddaughter time soon too (to visit the park or have tea)?  Would she be willing to do something like that with your daughter one on one?

bananers

Allergy season is kicking my ass and I'm terrified I'm going to sneeze-fart at work. 

Thanks, DS1, for destroying my pelvic floor. And thanks, pregnancy, for making it worse again. 

cm716

I spent all of our extra money last paycheck on decor for my living room. We probably should have save some of it for the baby bills, but my pregnancy hormones picked a cute living room instead. Sorry not sorry! 

Nesting extends to the living room right?!

Snaps816

cm716 said:

I spent all of our extra money last paycheck on decor for my living room. We probably should have save some of it for the baby bills, but my pregnancy hormones picked a cute living room instead. Sorry not sorry! 

Nesting extends to the living room right?!

I've been feeling the same way. I feel like our place needs to be "done" before baby gets here. Partly so it looks and feels like my idea of a proper family home, and partly because I don't think we'll have the time/energy/money for improvements once the baby is here. It started with cleaning, purging, and organizing, but quickly evolved into purchasing things when I decided "a nice sideboard here would really solve our storage issue," and so on. 

cm716

@Snaps816 this! It is so totally true!!! I know I won't have the energy to do this stuff before baby comes and let's face it I'm home all day. I look at these walls all day so they have to be cute. Lol. my husband is so (not) excited.

charmedlifex3

I'm totally frustrated with my husband not finding a job. I know it's not his fault (job market is tough, and he IS getting interviews) He was laid off, so it's not like he quit or got fired, but EMOTIONALLY I'm totally irrationally holding it against him that I am stressing over how we'll pay all these baby bills, and that I will have to cut my maternity leave short since we're using our savings up now to compensate for him not working. Once unemployment starts I am sure I'll feel *somewhat* better... sigh.

bananers

I saw a colleague today I haven't seen in a couple months. He looked at me and said, "I didn't know you were pregnant!" I always want to pretend my feelings are hurt and say "I'm not!" but I chicken out every time. 

texasmama2014

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

bananers

texasmama2014 said:

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

On this board??

texasmama2014

bananers said:

texasmama2014 said:

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

On this board??

Yeah... 

Mfuller76

At my appointment today, my OB said my weight gain was perfect. I celebrated with a Sonic cherry limeade and mozzarella sticks. 

Bookhousegirl

texasmama2014 said:

bananers said:

texasmama2014 said:

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

On this board??

Yeah... 

What?! Why and how? I mean I've heard of this happening on other boards in the past (which is why I've avoided Facebook so far) but I feel like our board is way too tame to have that level of drama. 

Edited to fix grammar. 

Snaps816

My confession is that I've been putzing around online for like half the day. At work. 

ballofmeat

I often wonder the same thing about catfishers on this board. The few I suspect I don't usually read and skip over. 

bananers

Bookhousegirl said:

texasmama2014 said:

bananers said:

texasmama2014 said:

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

On this board??

Yeah... 

What?! Why and how? I mean I've heard of this happening on other boards in the past (which is why I've avoided Facebook so far) but I feel like our board is way too tame to have that level of drama. 

Edited to fix grammar. 

My thoughts exactly!

This actually happened on my BMB with DS1. We had a catfish whom everyone "knew and loved" who faked her twins' premature birth and death when we were all in the third tri. It was devastating to think her babies had died - and then really disturbing when we found out it was all a lie.

The internets are scary, yo.  

charmedlifex3

confession... now i am dying to know who is suspected of catfishing!

bananers

Allisun85 said:

confession... now i am dying to know who is suspected of catfishing!

Me too!

the_other_mother

How would you even find out if people were lying/catfishing?! I hadn't even thought of people potentially doing that on here. Who does that????!

kmlovato

bananers said:

Bookhousegirl said:

texasmama2014 said:

bananers said:

texasmama2014 said:

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

On this board??

Yeah... 

What?! Why and how? I mean I've heard of this happening on other boards in the past (which is why I've avoided Facebook so far) but I feel like our board is way too tame to have that level of drama. 

Edited to fix grammar. 

My thoughts exactly!

This actually happened on my BMB with DS1. We had a catfish whom everyone "knew and loved" who faked her twins' premature birth and death when we were all in the third tri. It was devastating to think her babies had died - and then really disturbing when we found out it was all a lie.

The internets are scary, yo.  

Omg that's horrible!   What is wrong with people?!?

ballofmeat

bananers said:

Bookhousegirl said:

texasmama2014 said:

bananers said:

texasmama2014 said:

My confession is that I am 100% sure that some of my regular posters are catfish.

On this board??

Yeah... 

What?! Why and how? I mean I've heard of this happening on other boards in the past (which is why I've avoided Facebook so far) but I feel like our board is way too tame to have that level of drama. 

Edited to fix grammar. 

My thoughts exactly!

This actually happened on my BMB with DS1. We had a catfish whom everyone "knew and loved" who faked her twins' premature birth and death when we were all in the third tri. It was devastating to think her babies had died - and then really disturbing when we found out it was all a lie.

The internets are scary, yo.  

I read about something similar when I was on theknot a few years back. Some chick faked being pregnant and stole ultrasound and baby bump photos from some Swedish chicks blog! It was the craziest thread I have ever witnessed! I was AMAZED at some of the bumpies sleuthing abilities and how it all went down. 

I kind of suspect a few random drive by posters of catfishing  who only post when they have a sob story, or certain people on not just this board but other boards that post only on HDBD with no face on the photo or for their profile pic. 

It took me a while to start posting here because I was sort of in denial I was pregnant for the first few months and lived in fear of a loss. 

On a side note, I guess a second FFFC is that I really enjoy reading June and July's boards. I mean holy crap, did you see the UO on the June board this week?! 

I will say I like the August Facebook group more than the August board because it gets more activity. 

bearsandbeets7

I don't understand what kind of pleasure someone gets from doing that!

@bananers that is terrible! I can't imagine what kind of person would make up a lie like that. How did everyone find out she was lying?

lalalorelai

I've heard stories about catfishers on other BMBs. It's part of the reason I don't post on HDBD here and haven't joined the FB group. It can be scary stuff!!! 

AliKay20

Well this just turned creepy...I didn't think twice about posting my ultrasound pic. Why the hell would pple lie about losing their babies?! That's terrible. Real attention whores gone way beyond wrong? 

My FFFC is...yes, we did drive to NYC for an impromptu weekend trip just to eat our hearts out. So much good food NYC offers that DC doesn't. Food snob much? I'm trying to justify this wknd trip by saying it's our getaway or babymoon before baby arrives (since all that zika risk and my inability to sit still on the plane for more than 2 hrs). But what the hell, we're just in town to eat. 

ballofmeat

AliKay20 said:

Well this just turned creepy...I didn't think twice about posting my ultrasound pic. Why the hell would pple lie about losing their babies?! That's terrible. Real attention whores gone way beyond wrong? 

My FFFC is...yes, we did drive to NYC for an impromptu weekend trip just to eat our hearts out. So much good food NYC offers that DC doesn't. Food snob much? I'm trying to justify this wknd trip by saying it's our getaway or babymoon before baby arrives (since all that zika risk and my inability to sit still on the plane for more than 2 hrs). But what the hell, we're just in town to eat. 

This is exactly why I didn't post my ultrasound photo.

I think it is somewhat easy to pick out the ones who only post new threads or comments when it's an attention grabbing story.

I also skip over the ones who post large run on stories/sentences. My grammar is not perfect by any means, but I can't stand to read something that could easily be broken up into 10 paragraphs instead of one mashed hot mess. 

Using the Internet with caution is the way to go these days.

And I am all about being a food snob while pregnant. I feel like I can only eat a little bit at a time, so it better be something worthwhile! I must say I am jealous of your NYC food trip! I hope you come back and post what the best thing you ate was. I've never eaten in NYC, but I'm sure the options are endless. 

Bookhousegirl

@bananers that's awful! I can't believe someone would make up a story like that. 

It actually makes me sad that people do this... To devote that much time and energy to create a fake life, you must be really unhappy.