@MRSCORKER *waves* I saw you said you are near Baltimore. We just moved over by Frederick.
Hey neighbor! It's beautiful out there! I was just driving by Frederick on my way to the Hageratown Outlets on Sunday. One of DH and my favorite non-pregnant activities is wine/beer tasting at Linganore followed by shopping and dinner in old Frederick .
We both grew up in MD and somehow my husband had never been out this way until I suggested looking at houses here.
@rozANDbenSINCE2001 I just ignore them until they cross a line I can no longer ignore, then I have to be the "bad guy" and they get butthurt, but whatever. If they want to act like children they can be treated like children
@coffee89 I would love to look for houses out there but the commute is just a little much, especially 70 during rush hour.
In other news, I had an OB appt this morning and she found the heart beat it less than a minute! I was worried with the anterior placenta but all good. Woo hoo! AS in 5 weeks. Seems so far away!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@rozANDbenSINCE2001 , I'm so sorry about MIL. She sounds a little nutso. Don't stress about it. Maybe from now on, kinda keep her in the dark. Just give her little bits of info. That's what I'd do if it were me.
Between 2nd trimester energy and my toddler behaving today, I've gotten so much done. I meal prepped for the week, did laundry, and mowed the front yard before noon.
@ashleyp625 GO O's!!!! I cannot wait to take this LO to Camden yards! Motherhood Maternity has "Future O's Fan" shirts too. I'm gonna buy one this week!
Everyone hates the name we picked for our baby girl and I'm throwing myself a pity party! DH and I have really struggled coming up with a name for her that we both liked, but we finally agreed on Reagan Marie. I know the name isn't well liked on TB, so I posted on the names board asking why and everyone said it's masculine and ugly. Now I want to reconsider, but DH thinks that's ridiculous. I don't know what to do! I don't want everyone we know to secretly hate the name, but I also really and truly like the name and obviously, so does DH. What would you do if your name wasn't "popular" on TB?
@CopperBoom86 I love the name Reagan! I'm not really all that familiar with "modern" American names, but to me Reagan is a girl's name. Paired with the timeless Marie I think it's beautiful and unique.
Another unabashed pro- Reagan Marie vote! I think it's a lovely name.
ETA: Re - The name board -- things can get crazy over there. I agree with many of their points regarding unique spellings, silly names, etc. etc. But sometimes they're really unnecessarily harsh. Somebody suggested Ridgely as a name over there a couple of months ago and got ABSOLUTELY hammered. Tons of negative comments, slamming over how it wasn't a "real" name, etc. etc. I remember thinking it was hysterical because I had literally just met a (very adult) Ridgely at work that week and had had precisely zero second thoughts about her name. They can definitely be brutal.
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
@CopperBoom86 Love the name Reagan! Marie, not so much. But that's just because it is mine and 3/4 of the rest of my generation's middle name. LOL! Reagan Marie is beautiful, haters gonna hate.
@CopperBoom86 , I know a Reagan. She's now 10 and super adorable. I don't think it sounds masculine at all!
I was lurking on the 2nd tri board this morning and saw the post on Baby Showers and how the OP said she doesn't like opening gifts in front of everybody and if she could skip that part. Lots of strong opinions on that thread.
So funny because my friends who are organizing my baby shower just asked me what my preferences are...and I told them the same thing. BUT, I did say that as soon as I was handed the present when a guest arrives, I'd open it right there and then and take the picture and thank them, display the gift on the gift table, then bring them over to the drink/food station.... I just don't like the idea of: "Announcement everybody! Let's sit down, Anna is about to open gifts!" I just don't wanna do that at all.
If I could love tit all those responses more than once I would lol.
@mrszoess - Yeah, I don't get some of the names they love. They claim they hate trendy names, but it seems like they're following the throwback name trend pretty hardcore. Hazel? Beatrice? Eileen? I mean, come on.
ETA: @smmatt08 - I understand about Marie, but it was my grandmother's name. Both of my parents own their own businesses and work full time, so when I was younger she kept me everyday until I went to school, and even then she picked me up and kept me until my parents got off work. She was basically my second mother, so we want to honor her
@CopperBoom86 That name is not my style, but nothing I would side eye. Everyone except a few people from my last BMB has pooped on our name choice this time around, I've not bothered with the name boards after not liking my experience last time. Our name choices for kids are our business and someone is always going to hate it. I'm not judging until someone spells something crazy or tries to use a random word as a name.
@annabenanna I'm not much for the gift section but my sister wrote up cute bingo cards and everyone played a game and talked the whole time. They were also passing around a basket to write advice to me down so that was an added distraction. People payed attention enough to know what I got and got their moment of me with their gift and I wasn't being bombarded with a ton of people (especially since I came in last, I had a long drive that morning).
@coffee89 , ooooh I like that idea of playing bingo while opening gifts! I just really didn't want people to sit around doing nothing and say "awwwww how cute!!!!" I mean, there's only so many times they can say "awwww how cute" before they all get bored.
@annabenanna I read this last night 6 reasons pregnancy sucks for introverts. It doesn't have much by way of advice, but it's nice to know there are other people who feel the same (or at least similar) about baby showers and everyone staring while you open presents. It's so uncomfortable.
I'm trying to figure out a way to convince my good dude friends to come to mine. Hopefully they'll take one for the team and we can make it more like a party that happens to have a baby theme instead of a traditional shower. I just rarely feel comfortable around huge groups of women. At least not in traditional women-only situations. At my sister-in-law's, she had the close male relatives there - her dad, her husband, my husband, etc. And that was great, except all I wanted to do was hang out on the patio with them and have a beer, but instead I had to sit inside playing horrible shower games.
@annabenanna Yes... That's what I'm thinking. I was really trying to be nice and keep her included but she's proven how much she sucks so I guess I'm just not gonna volunteer any info unless she asks...
@mrscorker I just learned I also have an anterior placenta, but, like you, was able to hear heartbeat strong and fast as well! The ultrasound tech said it wasn't a huge deal but it might take a little longer to feel movement. I actually think I've already started feeling little taps though but it could just be gas...
@copperboom86 I LOVE the name you picked! I think it sounds great and the names go so well together. If it were me, I wouldn't let internet strangers change my mind. I think it's beautiful! Again, my DD is Dylan Rose so I might be a bit biased.
@rebeccuh I have the same problem as you--I hate being the center of attention and groups of women make me so uncomfortable. I always feel judged because I'm kind of socially awkward and sometimes when I don't feel like I have anything to contribute socially, I kind of clam up. It's awkward because DH has five sisters and they always want to include me, but I have major anxiety about hanging out with them. We had a coed baby shower and it was fun. We didn't do any games (on my insistence), but we did open gifts and while it was super awkward to have to ooh and aah over the presents, everyone was really great and it's kinda fun seeing all the itty bitty clothes and things you get for LO. Our shower was mostly about the food and letting guests socialize with each other which took a lot of pressure off of us! Hopefully you'll be able to have a similar party!
@CopperBoom86 late to the party, but another pro- Reagan here I feel like posting a really ridiculous name over on that board just for shit and giggles now, I haven't visited it yet, but I'm officially out to lurk. If I don't come back... send help.
@rozANDbenSINCE2001 You give me hope! I think it's the forced fun part that makes it awful. And possibly hearing the words "diaper cake." And all the polite but uncomfortable small talk with relatives I barely know.
If people are having a good time and milling around while gifts are being opened, that's cool, so hopefully we can pull that off. And realistically, I know it's not like everyone is actually staring intensely while you're opening gifts, but that's what it feels like.
Oh I totally have to jump on the "introvert here, please don't stare at me while I awkwardly open presents" train. Though I was extremely grateful for the gifts and how generous everyone was, I haaaated opening everything while people looked on at our shower. Also, may or may not be a UO, but I sort of loathe ladies only showers. I don't like attending them and I certainly did not want one when I was pregnant with DD. If that's your jam, that's cool, but I don't really get not showering dad-to-be with as much attention and gifts as mom-to-be. Fortunately I was involved enough in our shower to sort of insist on a co-ed dealio/pig roast. My FIL and H roasted a whole pig and there was lots of other food and beer and such. My friend who threw the shower set up little stations around the house where people could decorate headbands for baby girl and write down advice and sign a cute poster that's in her room now, so those who wanted a more traditional baby shower experience could gravitate to those activities. Overall it went over really well and with the exception of the present opening part, I was successfully able to avoid being the center of attention for the bulk of the event. People just hung out and had a good time.
@CopperBoom86 We're having the same problem with boy names. It's really difficult for DH and I to agree on one and then when we tell people there's always someone who doesn't like it. Also, my parents are USELESS bc they couldn't agree on a boy name either and ended up just naming my brother after my grandfather. So they don't like anything and have no suggestions. POINT BEING, forget it! The important people in your life will like the name when baby is born because they will love your baby. It's impossible to get everyone to agree, so don't sweat it! As long as you and DH love it.
@rebeccuh I feel the same way about opening presents but had to power through when we had my bridal showers (2! One in my hometown and one in DH's oy). For the baby showers I already warned my mother and MIL that we want it to be for both sexes and have it be more of a party than a traditional baby shower. MIL was not pleased, too bad!
My first appt, the NP couldn't find the heart beat, so we did an u/s just to make sure the baby was OK. Today, saw my actual DR and he couldn't find the heartbeat! He tried for about 5 minutes, and 2 different dopplers, before saying, "OK, let's just take a look."
Baby was fine. Just moving around a lot. And DR said the gas in my intestines (which causes static on the doppler) could make finding the heart beat a bit harder. I have one more appt before my 20w. Let's see if they can find it then.....
I wonder though....will I have to pay for these extra ultrasounds.....mmmmm
@agogo1 , @rebeccuh and @rozANDbenSINCE2001 , it's so great knowing that I'm not the only one that doesn't want to open presents in front of an audience. I mean, I am grateful, and I want to be super thankful---but I just don't like being put under the spotlight like that. I also in the past when attending other's showers, have felt bad for the gifter giving the smallest/least expensive present and people just say something like "oh how nice", but then when bigger presents are opened people are like cheering. It just sends the wrong message IMO.
Also, I've requested my shower to be co-ed. I have so many dude friends and I want SO to be part of this experience. I was telling my friends "no stupid baby shower games please, like the poopy diaper And if there are to be games, it will be something like: if someone says the word baby during the baby shower event, they'll take a shot!" (kidding, sorta). I just don't want the baby shower to be too traditional. I really just wanna hang out with my friends, be excited about the baby together, and eat pizza. Is that too much to ask?
We purposely didn't tell anyone the name we chose for my son (including our parents) because it's sort of odd and we didn't want anyone complaining until it was too late. We'll probably do the same for the second. It made things so much easier.
@rozANDbenSINCE2001 I asked my OB about feeling movement with the anterior placenta and she said I might not feel kicks as early but might feel flutters and rolls although, as a FTM, I might not know what they are at first.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
I think Reagan is clearly a girl's name. It's not frilly like "Alysetta" or something (just made that up) but it's a good name. Remember in Where the Heart Is when someone tells her to give the baby a strong name, so she names it Americus instead of Wendi?
My brother has a dog named Remi, but it just reminds me of the Belgian character from the Young Indiana Jones Chronicles. We name all our pets people-names. I see it as a crossover. It's not like you want to name your kid Fluffy or Spot or something.
I'm a super-introvert, yet I love showers. I really love getting presents. I don't like games, but I do like everyone gushing over me. I do very well turning it on for a couple of hours. Then going home and crash
Re: Weekly Randoms (4/18)
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
In other news, I had an OB appt this morning and she found the heart beat it less than a minute! I was worried with the anterior placenta but all good. Woo hoo! AS in 5 weeks. Seems so far away!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
@MRSCORKER yay for hearing baby's heartbeat!!!
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
It's so beautiful out that way! I went to college in Frostburg, and I always loved driving through Frederick on my way back.
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
I don't think Reagan sounds masculine. And I agree paired with Marie it really sounds adorable.
ETA: You should tell everyone who doesn't like it to Fuck Off.
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
ETA: Re - The name board -- things can get crazy over there. I agree with many of their points regarding unique spellings, silly names, etc. etc. But sometimes they're really unnecessarily harsh. Somebody suggested Ridgely as a name over there a couple of months ago and got ABSOLUTELY hammered. Tons of negative comments, slamming over how it wasn't a "real" name, etc. etc. I remember thinking it was hysterical because I had literally just met a (very adult) Ridgely at work that week and had had precisely zero second thoughts about her name. They can definitely be brutal.
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
I was lurking on the 2nd tri board this morning and saw the post on Baby Showers and how the OP said she doesn't like opening gifts in front of everybody and if she could skip that part. Lots of strong opinions on that thread.
So funny because my friends who are organizing my baby shower just asked me what my preferences are...and I told them the same thing. BUT, I did say that as soon as I was handed the present when a guest arrives, I'd open it right there and then and take the picture and thank them, display the gift on the gift table, then bring them over to the drink/food station.... I just don't like the idea of: "Announcement everybody! Let's sit down, Anna is about to open gifts!" I just don't wanna do that at all.
@mrszoess - Yeah, I don't get some of the names they love. They claim they hate trendy names, but it seems like they're following the throwback name trend pretty hardcore. Hazel? Beatrice? Eileen? I mean, come on.
ETA: @smmatt08 - I understand about Marie, but it was my grandmother's name. Both of my parents own their own businesses and work full time, so when I was younger she kept me everyday until I went to school, and even then she picked me up and kept me until my parents got off work. She was basically my second mother, so we want to honor her
@annabenanna I'm not much for the gift section but my sister wrote up cute bingo cards and everyone played a game and talked the whole time. They were also passing around a basket to write advice to me down so that was an added distraction. People payed attention enough to know what I got and got their moment of me with their gift and I wasn't being bombarded with a ton of people (especially since I came in last, I had a long drive that morning).
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
I'm trying to figure out a way to convince my good dude friends to come to mine. Hopefully they'll take one for the team and we can make it more like a party that happens to have a baby theme instead of a traditional shower. I just rarely feel comfortable around huge groups of women. At least not in traditional women-only situations. At my sister-in-law's, she had the close male relatives there - her dad, her husband, my husband, etc. And that was great, except all I wanted to do was hang out on the patio with them and have a beer, but instead I had to sit inside playing horrible shower games.
@mrscorker I just learned I also have an anterior placenta, but, like you, was able to hear heartbeat strong and fast as well! The ultrasound tech said it wasn't a huge deal but it might take a little longer to feel movement. I actually think I've already started feeling little taps though but it could just be gas...
@copperboom86 I LOVE the name you picked! I think it sounds great and the names go so well together. If it were me, I wouldn't let internet strangers change my mind. I think it's beautiful! Again, my DD is Dylan Rose so I might be a bit biased.
@rebeccuh I have the same problem as you--I hate being the center of attention and groups of women make me so uncomfortable. I always feel judged because I'm kind of socially awkward and sometimes when I don't feel like I have anything to contribute socially, I kind of clam up. It's awkward because DH has five sisters and they always want to include me, but I have major anxiety about hanging out with them. We had a coed baby shower and it was fun. We didn't do any games (on my insistence), but we did open gifts and while it was super awkward to have to ooh and aah over the presents, everyone was really great and it's kinda fun seeing all the itty bitty clothes and things you get for LO. Our shower was mostly about the food and letting guests socialize with each other which took a lot of pressure off of us! Hopefully you'll be able to have a similar party!
If people are having a good time and milling around while gifts are being opened, that's cool, so hopefully we can pull that off. And realistically, I know it's not like everyone is actually staring intensely while you're opening gifts, but that's what it feels like.
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
@rebeccuh I feel the same way about opening presents but had to power through when we had my bridal showers (2! One in my hometown and one in DH's oy). For the baby showers I already warned my mother and MIL that we want it to be for both sexes and have it be more of a party than a traditional baby shower. MIL was not pleased, too bad!
Baby was fine. Just moving around a lot. And DR said the gas in my intestines (which causes static on the doppler) could make finding the heart beat a bit harder. I have one more appt before my 20w. Let's see if they can find it then.....
I wonder though....will I have to pay for these extra ultrasounds.....mmmmm
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
Also, I've requested my shower to be co-ed. I have so many dude friends and I want SO to be part of this experience. I was telling my friends "no stupid baby shower games please, like the poopy diaper And if there are to be games, it will be something like: if someone says the word baby during the baby shower event, they'll take a shot!" (kidding, sorta). I just don't want the baby shower to be too traditional. I really just wanna hang out with my friends, be excited about the baby together, and eat pizza. Is that too much to ask?
or bingo. I love a good present bingo
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
We are fine here. My car flooded but I live on the 3rd floor of an apartment so the rest is ok.
My brother has a dog named Remi, but it just reminds me of the Belgian character from the Young Indiana Jones Chronicles. We name all our pets people-names. I see it as a crossover. It's not like you want to name your kid Fluffy or Spot or something.
I'm a super-introvert, yet I love showers. I really love getting presents. I don't like games, but I do like everyone gushing over me. I do very well turning it on for a couple of hours. Then going home and crash