Venting/Advice

erin1215

This post might be all over the place but I haven't been on here in awhile. Anyways, 12+ months of TTC and still nothing. Went to the doc and she scheduled me for the CD 3 and 21 blood work to check my levels and see if I am in fact ovulating. So naturally, I am a week late for my period and BFN. Just figures. Just feeling discouraged and need to vent. All my sister in laws are pregnant (so happy for more nieces and nephews!) but I just find myself feeling sad about my situation. Ugh! So I guess my questions are: according to my calendar I would be 4 weeks pregnant if I was, which I took a test and it was negative. Could it still be too early? Has anyone done the 3 and 21 day bloodwork? What was your experience? Sorry this is so all over the place! 

ACAC25

Hello @erin1215 I am sorry you are feeling sad. I understand how you feel, a few of my cousins and a coworker recently had babies and all of their posts are on Facebook,  kinda happy to see but also makes me very sad too. 
Unfortunately with being a week late and BFN it's likely AF is just late. But fingers crossed for you for a BFP. I had a similar issue at Xmas,  I had recently dis covered my cycle runs naturally around 31-33 days but AF was over a week late on top of that. AF came at 42 days. I was devestated. But I really think that stress played a huge role for me. Have you been stressed recently?  
I'm not 100% about the blood work.  I just had my fertility apt last week and she wants a ton of testing done. .. I'm a little overwhelmed myself. Ultrasound and blood work on CD 3, 5, 11-15 and a week later. As well as transvaginal checks, sonohistogram sometime between 11-15 and a uterine wall biopsy. Kinda scares the crap out of me tbh! 
Keeping my fingers crossed that this is a short stay for you! 

erin1215

@ACAC25 Thank you for your response! Yeah it is really unlikely I am pregnant but I try to hold onto any tiny chance I can. I haven't really been stressed lately but I have been consistently going to the gym every night so working out probably plays a part in being late. I'm just super frustrated because I was actually looking forward to my AF coming for once so I could start the bloodwork process but now it's still not here which means the longer I have to wait for some answers. I'm sorry you are so overwhelmed but at least you will find out some answers soon. It's so hard to not worry and stress over something that is literally on your mind 24/7. Hopefully we will both get some answers from our testing and move on with what to do next! Ugh! 

jojomama25

I don't have much advice, as I'm in the same boat. I just had my first RE appointment on Friday. You're likely not pregnant and AF is just late. Did your doctor do a pregnancy test at your visit just in case? I had already started AF for this next cycle when i went to my appointment and she did a blood test just to be sure I was having a "true period" since I am scheduled for an HSG later this week and the radiation could be harmful if pregnant. I am not scheduled for CD3 blood work yet, as I would have to wait for next cyle for it (I was on CD5 when I went for my appointment). I am scheduled for CD21 blood work, and it sounds pretty simple - just a blood draw and they will measure progesterone levels in the blood work. Other than feeling nervous for the results, I'm not too nervous about the test - it sounds pretty simple. It is hard to have everyone around announce pregnancies - I feel like I'm more sensitive to noticing announcements right now, and I just try to stay off Facebook. I try to just put on a good face when I'm arou d people and deal with it privately. I don't want to hurt people's feelings, as I am really excited deep down for these people. I hope your stay is short!

starlitfae

HI.  I don't have any advice for you really, Just wanted to say I know how you feel.  *hugs*  I had a week where I was late, and I was so convinced I was going to have a BFP, and the morning I was going to test AF came  *sigh*  So  *hugs*  is really all I have.

wifeinraleigh28

Hey there, I'm sorry you're feeling like this  Have you been tracking your cycle to know when you ovulated?  AF is not usually "late."  If AF is "late" it is usually because you ovulated later than you expected to, or are still awaiting ovulation.  Seeing the RE should help provide some answers.  Your CD 3 blood work will probably include FSH, to see how much of the follicle stimulating hormone your body is producing early on in your cycle, as well as some other levels that affect fertility, and your CD 21 blood work will be for progesterone to make sure you ovulated before CD 21.  It will help your doctor figure out a treatment plan- whether to treat the first phase of your cycle (the follicular phase) with meds to stimulate your ovaries (such as clomid or letrozole) or to treat the second phase of your cycle (the luteal phase) with meds such as progesterone.

Hang in there, I know this can be so difficult/discouraging.  Your doctor will help!!

Ducks&Cats

Hello! I definitely would recommend temping to confirm ovulation. The day 21 blood draw is to check progesterone levels to confirm O. The problem with the day 21 draw is that it assumes you ovulated on day 14. If you ovulate on day 19 the 21 day blood draw won't do you any good. 

i have had an a$$ ton of blood work done. I honestly can't even remember half of what I got done!