How to handle cattiness and stay on the boards.

Oakleypoozles

I wanted to share a topic that is near and dear to my heart. With my last pregnancy I know I was turned off of the pregnancy boards due to all of the cattiness and I ended up walking my journey basically alone because I just didn't have the patience to deal with the women who were patrolling the boards and contributing negatively. I have seen very little of this here so far but I still feel this is good information. 

This time around I made a conscious decision that I would be staying and they would be going. Or at least from my world you know lol. 

What I mean is, most pregnancy boards this one included have excellent blocking/ignoring features. While some people feel that blocking is juvenile they are usually the same people that sit and argue on threads with everyone. So basically I just want to use this board to teach all of you that don't already know how to use this feature. If you find yourself reading things by someone and feeling less than joy this is an excellent option. Pregnancy is a wonderful, beautiful and also very taxing journey and it's nice to just be in your own little online world that you can filter as you please. You can do this without any fear of retribution because:
1.) It does not notify the person you have ignored. 
2.) You can't see what they are saying anymore anyway! 

So lets jump right to it! Please note the screenshots are ONLY used as examples. Not people whom I have actually blocked or that you should block. I've just randomly used posts from one of my recent boards. It's just used to illustrate how you can put someone on ignore if they bother you. 

1.) You determine that a persons post is something that you don't like and do not want to see anymore. In this case the post is obviously fine but lets say just for giggles Concept DHA is owned by a company you don't like and you've simply decided that this persons contributions are not something you want to see. 

2.) You click on the persons username to be taken to their profile. 




3.) On the top right of their profile there is a button that says Ignore. You press this button. 

4.) You're then confronted with a pop up that asks you if you are sure. If you are sure you select ok! 




If you decide at a later time you'd like to see what that person has to say again, you can repeat the above steps and select "Unignore" 

I hope this helps at least someone. As an IT Professional it's sort of obvious to me and maybe to others but I feel as though those that are less computer savvy may find this useful! Not to mention it is an excellent reminder. I feel like this is always the better option than to respond to anyone for any reason unkindly or to participate in any type of disagreement. It sets a good example for the board not to flame the fire of someone who has posted something you don't like. 

TheBorg7of9

Oakleypoozles said:

I wanted to share a topic that is near and dear to my heart. With my last pregnancy I know I was turned off of the pregnancy boards due to all of the cattiness and I ended up walking my journey basically alone because I just didn't have the patience to deal with the women who were patrolling the boards and contributing negatively. I have seen very little of this here so far but I still feel this is good information. 

This time around I made a conscious decision that I would be staying and they would be going. Or at least from my world you know lol. 

What I mean is, most pregnancy boards this one included have excellent blocking/ignoring features. While some people feel that blocking is juvenile they are usually the same people that sit and argue on threads with everyone. So basically I just want to use this board to teach all of you that don't already know how to use this feature. If you find yourself reading things by someone and feeling less than joy this is an excellent option. Pregnancy is a wonderful, beautiful and also very taxing journey and it's nice to just be in your own little online world that you can filter as you please. You can do this without any fear of retribution because:
1.) It does not notify the person you have ignored. 
2.) You can't see what they are saying anymore anyway! 

So lets jump right to it! Please note the screenshots are ONLY used as examples. Not people whom I have actually blocked or that you should block. I've just randomly used posts from one of my recent boards. It's just used to illustrate how you can put someone on ignore if they bother you. 

1.) You determine that a persons post is something that you don't like and do not want to see anymore. In this case the post is obviously fine but lets say just for giggles Concept DHA is owned by a company you don't like and you've simply decided that this persons contributions are not something you want to see. 

2.) You click on the persons username to be taken to their profile. 




3.) On the top right of their profile there is a button that says Ignore. You press this button. 

4.) You're then confronted with a pop up that asks you if you are sure. If you are sure you select ok! 




If you decide at a later time you'd like to see what that person has to say again, you can repeat the above steps and select "Unignore" 

I hope this helps at least someone. As an IT Professional it's sort of obvious to me and maybe to others but I feel as though those that are less computer savvy may find this useful! Not to mention it is an excellent reminder. I feel like this is always the better option than to respond to anyone for any reason unkindly or to participate in any type of disagreement. It sets a good example for the board not to flame the fire of someone who has posted something you don't like. 

So...who are you blocking? Perhaps another pregnancy board would be more up your alley if you don't like it here.  If you don't like to "participate in any type of disagreement" I'm not sure the Internet will work out for you. Lol. 

GreenEyedUnicorn

Ohhhhhhh boy. It's not even 9am, man. This thread is going to get interesting for sure.

 You didn't need to make this little public service announcement. It's just not necessary. 

GreenEyedUnicorn

And let me just add, your other post about prenatal vitamins was a perfectly mellow exchange. So, sorry, it feels like you are just trying to start shit by posting this. 

DunkinDecaf

This board has had almost no cattiness. Why would you post this when it really hasn't been a problem (yet)?

Oakleypoozles

So that people who don't know how to use this feature now know. So they can use it whenever they feel it would be helpful to them. 

GreenEyedUnicorn

Oakleypoozles said:

So that people who don't know how to use this feature now know. So they can use it whenever they feel it would be helpful to them. 

Gimme a break. Like I said, totally unnecessary. 

LikeICantEven

I'm pretty sure by 2016 people are aware that there is usually a Block/Ignore feature on a website. 

But OK, thanks. LOL.

g8rmama_16

Yeah, this is just weird considering most people complain this board is too nice. 
I lurked December yesterday and it seems like they might have gotten all of our crazies. They have so much drama already over there! 

GreenEyedUnicorn

HeyBooHey said:

Yeah, this is just weird considering most people complain this board is too nice. 
I lurked December yesterday and it seems like they might have gotten all of our crazies. They have so much drama already over there! 

Well, now I have to take a peek lol 

ShallowSeas

I think if they can't handle the almost ZERO cattiness of this board, they don't need to be on this board. Maybe try Glow.

comealongponds

HeyBooHey said:

Yeah, this is just weird considering most people complain this board is too nice. 
I lurked December yesterday and it seems like they might have gotten all of our crazies. They have so much drama already over there! 

I lurked them yesterday too! They've had way more cattiness than us so far. 

GreenEyedUnicorn

@HeyBooHey there is some good shit already over there. You're right. And one girl in D16 said something that I loved, and I think needs to be said here, because some people aren't clear on it:

"I'm not required to be sweet and supportive just because someone is a female and happens to be knocked up at the same time as me" 

ICUnurse09

Oooookkay... Thank you for the info?

hellopartyof5

December brings out all the crazies for some reason. D14 was insane. 

shamrocandroll

HeyBooHey said:

Yeah, this is just weird considering most people complain this board is too nice. 
I lurked December yesterday and it seems like they might have gotten all of our crazies. They have so much drama already over there! 

Woohoo!  We're not the new kids in town anymore!

shamrocandroll

Also, the irony of this thread is amusing.

penelope4612

*Lurking from December 2016*

You guys!  We've only had 2 crazy threads.  And the second one was only created so someone could call everyone out over the first one.  We don't have drama.  Come visit us.  We're nice!

whaat

penelope4612 said:

*Lurking from December 2016*

You guys!  We've only had 2 crazy threads.  And the second one was only created so someone could call everyone out over the first one.  We don't have drama.  Come visit us.  We're nice!

Ok.. Sounds just like us. 

muybueno

Ah, a good way to start our week.

TinyAlligator

Umm.... okay?! I'm gonna echo people and say maybe the bump isn't for you. Fwiw I'm a huge fan of how most people here call out idiots. 

BmcD2016

HeyBooHey said:

Yeah, this is just weird considering most people complain this board is too nice. 
I lurked December yesterday and it seems like they might have gotten all of our crazies. They have so much drama already over there! 

I was almost a December, phew! Missed that one by one day. Now I gotta go check it out. 

doraleigh35

What cattiness on this board would prompt you to post this? I'm pretty sure we're all grown women who can figure out how to deal with situations that we don't like on our own. But thank you??

mrsmoose5

LOL this is going to be great. OP, I'm not sure what type of response you were expecting to get from this ...

TwandaFTG

FWIW...the catty ones normally make really smart and fine points and you actually can appreciate their knowledge and logic if you don't block the smart.  j/s

They are actually trying to help others catch a clue.  But block all the mean girls you like.  You may be doing yourself a disservice in the long run.

shamrocandroll

mrsmoose5 said:

LOL this is going to be great. OP, I'm not sure what type of response you were expecting to get from this ...

It's like running into a grizzly bear enclosure wearing a suit made out of fish and not expecting to be chased by hungry bears.  

(The term suit made out of fish just made me gag a little.  Note to self: poor analogy to make on a pregnancy board.)

mrsmoose5

shamrocandroll said:

It's like running into a grizzly bear enclosure wearing a suit made out of fish and not expecting to be chased by hungry bears.  

LikeICantEven

OP is all: 

juliehollz13

penelope4612 said:

*Lurking from December 2016*

You guys!  We've only had 2 crazy threads.  And the second one was only created so someone could call everyone out over the first one.  We don't have drama.  Come visit us.  We're nice!

^^^Ditto!! Just a couple of random "Am I pregnant" posts but that's about it. You wanna see Catty, go on the 1st trimester board lol. 

EmmieAnn22

Yes that 1st trimester board is something else.  

LindsayLuLu27

mrsmoose5 that is the best meme ever!!! Lmao

g8rmama_16

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

OP is all: 

I literally snorted when I saw this. 

therealvday

I have been pleasantly surprised about the non-cattiness of this board. I hope this thread doesn't start unnecessary drama

XmomX

Oh ok thanks 

g8rmama_16

@penelope4612 and @juliehollz13 I didn't mean to offend! I am sure you guys are awesome. But compared to our board, you guys have a lot more action so far. Most of our cattiness comes after someone mentions how lame and polite our board is. We haven't even gotten any "I totes know I am KTFU even though I only have BFNs all week because I KNOW my body and everyone on Baby Center agrees that I am just totes KTFU" type crazies. 
And I just can't even with 1st Tri. That place is just pure chaos. Like genpop in prison. You better go in and make someone your bitch or they will eat you alive.

And @shamrocandroll that mental image was amazing. 

FiancB

GreenEyedUnicorn said:

@HeyBooHey there is some good shit already over there. You're right. And one girl in D16 said something that I loved, and I think needs to be said here, because some people aren't clear on it:

"I'm not required to be sweet and supportive just because someone is a female and happens to be knocked up at the same time as me" 

*lurking from December*



 I think December has been dreadfully boring so far, but then I'm probably blocked by OP. If not, she probably should because I may join you girls depending on what my dating u/s says, and I am "catty" or something. I guess that means that I correct people (nicely at first, then we'll go from there) when they don't like science. 

honeybeewebb2424

I could understand this post maybe if we have had a crazy board going on.. but so far its been pretty mellow and very supportive. I think OP genuinely had good intentions for this post, but I don't think it was needed in this BMB. I think a lot of that can be due to the fact that we seem to have educated and mature ladies that are here to both give and get support. We also haven't had anyone come in with downright stupid questions or posts that sometimes deserve the blunt truth. I don't agree with attacking someone for no reason, but even on the snarkiest posts I rarely see anyone downright attack or disrespecting someone without some sort of provoking. Usually thoughtful or educational information is given and when someone doesn't like the answer given they turn into a spoiled brat and freak out calling names. I think we are all secretly waiting for a crazy to come along for some entertainment!

Maybe she was bored and secretly posting to give us something to go crazy over? Orrr maybe shes using this as a hunting trap to block whoever she thinks is mean?

UTAmbs11

Seriously...? You all just attacked her post for no reason.  If you don't like it, then leave it be is what she was saying. 

@Oakleypoozles thank you for sharing as I never would have thought there were block features.  The app and Web page already have so many issues, why would they have a good feature like blocking. They also "hall monitor" the boards to make sure people are playing nicely in the sand box.  (Makes me think they don't have the feature if they need monitors.)

DunkinDecaf

UTAmbs11 said:

Seriously...? You all just attacked her post for no reason.  If you don't like it, then leave it be is what she was saying. 

@Oakleypoozles thank you for sharing as I never would have thought there were block features.  The app and Web page already have so many issues, why would they have a good feature like blocking. They also "hall monitor" the boards to make sure people are playing nicely in the sand box.  (Makes me think they don't have the feature if they need monitors.)

Her post implied that we'd all been unfriendly and catty, and that's not the case so I think people were just pointing out the silliness of that.

TheBorg7of9

UTAmbs11 said:

Seriously...? You all just attacked her post for no reason.  If you don't like it, then leave it be is what she was saying. 

@Oakleypoozles thank you for sharing as I never would have thought there were block features.  The app and Web page already have so many issues, why would they have a good feature like blocking. They also "hall monitor" the boards to make sure people are playing nicely in the sand box.  (Makes me think they don't have the feature if they need monitors.)

"attack"?  I don't think that word means what you think it means.

g8rmama_16