Sh!t just got real.

kristynmac

I saw this on a few other BMB's *creeper I know* but it looks fun

At some point, some of us have had or are going to have that, "damn! this is really happening and I am bringing another person into this world soon" moment. So lets share! What has that moment been like for you?

bearsandbeets7

With DD I didn't have this moment until I was laying naked from the boobs down on the operating table waiting for my c section to begin. I almost had a panic attack but the anesthesiologist talked me down lol. 

kristynmac

I got the update that I was 21 weeks on Saturday and then realized that this baby will only be cooking for 19 more weeks. When the weeks were high it felt like I would be pregnant forever and being in the teens makes it seem SO CLOSE!

Bookhousegirl

With DS, it was a few hours after I gave birth, and the nurse said to me that on my chest was the safest place in the world in DS's mind. It was amazing and terrifying all at once!

JournoGrl23

I had a bit of a panic attack when I turned 20 weeks. I was so relieved to have made it this far but then I realized I was halfway and it seems like the first half went by so fast. I suddenly was finally picturing having a child at the end of all this and it was terrifying and exciting all at the same time. I'm sure this will happen a couple more times though as I get closer and when she's finally here and in my arms!

Snaps816

I had a huge freakout at ten weeks. I know that seems early on. My husband had done something that upset me or seemed irresponsible to me (it's funny because now I can't even remember what it was. I think he went out with a buddy and had one too many drinks, or something like that). Anyway, I cried to the point of hyperventilating thinking about the immense responsibility we'll have, and that we can't just decide to take a break now and then to rest or blow off steam once the baby is here. In the moment I was convinced that he "doesn't get it," and I'd be stuck handling the responsibility all alone, but I know that's not really the case.

The weight of this all still scares me. I used to just sit in judgment when I heard stories of parents leaving their kids in the hot car by accident, not checking on them in their beds and then they turn up kidnapped, not noticing that symptom of a medical crisis, trusting them with a bad babysitter, etc. Now I just think, dear God please don't let that be me. Shit really is getting real, and even just writing these thoughts down is making me anxious again!   

Bookhousegirl

@Snaps816 for the first few months after DS was born I would triple check my car everytime I left it just to make sure he wasn't in there. I also would constantly check the rear view mirror to make sure I had him with me. The feeling goes away but it definitely takes a little time!

emmeline714

I feel like time is just ticking now and things just seem to be surreal and getting closer 

cm716

My moment goes something like this. I'm checking out at the grocery store and my almost two year old is melting down. My four year old is running circles around the buggy begging me for various treats. I'm attempting to soothe my toddler, keep my four year old in sight, load my groceries, and pay. 

And then i think holy crap. How am i going to do this with ANOTHER kid?!  (And if you want to go to another check out lane, i totally get that...in fact please take me with you.)

nanner26

I sneezed today and peed a little. 

SkiChic626

I never had a moment like that.  I've been ready to be a mom since I can remember  

danahorowitz

With my first, the night she was born and had her first poopy diaper. It was quite a bit of poop and got on her heel and on my arm. I remember looking at the door and thinking "when is her mother going to get here?" 

There are still times when DH and I have to make a decision for her and my first thought is "I don't know, go ask her mother"

AliKay20

Every time I look down at my growing belly, I think, "there's only ONE way out..." FUCK!!!!!!!! As much as I am ecstatic to meet our LO, as a FTM, I cringe at the thought of labor. 

Today I was so tempted to put a onesie on our fur baby but DH convinced me not to. It's surreal that we have samples of baby bottles, newborn clothing, and boxed up crib in our living room. Once we open up the box and set the crib in our guest room turned nursery, I think I'm going to shit in my pants.

texasmama2014

10 hours after my induction began and they told me it was time to push was that moment last time, so it hasn't hit me yet I don't think...

Curls919

When my water broke (at 36w 3d) and the doc told me to get to the hospital.  That was a real wake up call.

Every so often I have "how the heck are we going to do this with TWO kids?!" moments lately but no real freak outs.

Samm116

We put this together on Wednesday night. Thursday morning when I woke up and walked by the nursery. I had the "WTF is a crib doing in my house" reaction.  I can only imagine how it's going to be when I get to hold my little guy

nanner26

Yesterday we toured the maternity ward and they showed us the after delivery room and then the delivery room. I've never visited anyone in a hospital after a baby and only know what I've seen on tv. It made everything more real to think I will be the person laying in that bed. 

twiddlbug

I haven't had that moment yet with this pregnancy, but with DD we were in a pre/postnatal class with 11 other couples.  We had the first due date in the group, but a couple of weeks before our due date, one of the couples walked in with their brand new real, live baby.  That's when it hit me:  holy crap, we are ALL going to be having babies!!!  I remember it was amazing and terrifying.  

Katienu

I don't think I really have had that moment yet.  For like 10 seconds I had it early on in my pregnancy. I was sleeping, I heard my daughter get up and thought, "omg, we have to do this for 2 kids." It was fast and fleeting and haven't had it since.

charmedlifex3

For me it was when we had to rush to the ER a little before 20 weeks because I was having severe abdominal pain. I realized how freaking in love with the kid I am, and I would do *anything* to keep him safe, let him grow to 40 weeks and take him home happy and healthy. (Everything is mostly fine, he tore out my abdominal muscle while I was sleeping. But all things considered... I'll take it.)

And yeah, I actually do love him more than my cat. (I had wondered if I would. I love my cat *a lot*)

cal031686

Went to my OB appointment today. Dr said everything is going well, come back in a month and then it will be every 2 weeks after that. Ummm, when did we get to home stretch to this pregnancy?? 

Aug2016BBNY

Hannah0726 said:

I sneezed today and peed a little. 

This is the best one- it still isn't "real" for me yet but everyday I find I lose more and more control over my own body!!  

Pepper6

Pretty much anytime I'm out with DD or she's being a handful, I have a mini freak out moment of "how the hell am I supposed to do this with 2?"

tmk0325

My yoga instructor read this really sappy poem to us last night about a baby choosing it's mother and I started crying... On top of that I FINALLY am feeling them move a little at 21 weeks. I had a shits getting real moment that they could be here in a couple months!

WinnieLou82

Honestly, I haven't had that moment yet!

Katienu

@allisun85 I remember feeling the same way about my cats.  I love them so much and have had them for 13 years.  My mother thought I was nuts and now I know why...the love for that baby is a million times more...but I still love those cats!

Bubblegum5586

Katienu said:

@allisun85 I remember feeling the same way about my cats.  I love them so much and have had them for 13 years.  My mother thought I was nuts and now I know why...the love for that baby is a million times more...but I still love those cats!

I am also obsessed with my cats and refer to them as my babies. I feel like they are already starting to drive me crazy which makes me sad! 

Last night H and I were spooning and he had his hands on my belly and was kind of moving it around. I asked what he was doing and he replied that the US tech did that to make the baby move and he wanted to feel the baby. It was the first time he showed initiative with interacting with the baby. Seeing it get real for him is making it so much realer to me!

kiwico14

Bubblegum5586 said:

Katienu said:

@allisun85 I remember feeling the same way about my cats.  I love them so much and have had them for 13 years.  My mother thought I was nuts and now I know why...the love for that baby is a million times more...but I still love those cats!

I am also obsessed with my cats and refer to them as my babies. I feel like they are already starting to drive me crazy which makes me sad! 

Last night H and I were spooning and he had his hands on my belly and was kind of moving it around. I asked what he was doing and he replied that the US tech did that to make the baby move and he wanted to feel the baby. It was the first time he showed initiative with interacting with the baby. Seeing it get real for him is making it so much realer to me!

When I was pregnant with DS, a coworker told me that before you have kids, your pets are like your kids. Afterward, they go back to being just dogs or cats or whatever. It's so true. 

bearsandbeets7

My registry has a countdown on it for how many days left and it's only 125 days. Also my doctors office asked me what kind of birth control I was considering for after the baby. I sat there like no I'm gonna be pregnant forever, oh wait no I'm gonna have another baby and bring him home into our chaos. Bless his heart.

ballofmeat

Lynnlove28 said:

My registry has a countdown on it for how many days left and it's only 125 days. Also my doctors office asked me what kind of birth control I was considering for after the baby. I sat there like no I'm gonna be pregnant forever, oh wait no I'm gonna have another baby and bring him home into our chaos. Bless his heart.

Yes this! I was just asked this at my 20 week appointment and DH and I kinda sat there dumbfounded. I'm just trying to get through this pregnancy which seems like it's taking forever, I have barely thought about the labor and delivery let alone birth control. 

bearsandbeets7

midwestbaby said:

Lynnlove28 said:

My registry has a countdown on it for how many days left and it's only 125 days. Also my doctors office asked me what kind of birth control I was considering for after the baby. I sat there like no I'm gonna be pregnant forever, oh wait no I'm gonna have another baby and bring him home into our chaos. Bless his heart.

Yes this! I was just asked this at my 20 week appointment and DH and I kinda sat there dumbfounded. I'm just trying to get through this pregnancy which seems like it's taking forever, I have barely thought about the labor and delivery let alone birth control. 

I already have birth control figured out but only because this pregnancy has been hard and I'm gonna have 2 under 2. I'm getting an IUD because I suck at taking the pill which is what brought me to where I am today. Lol

ballofmeat

Lynnlove28 said:

midwestbaby said:

Lynnlove28 said:

My registry has a countdown on it for how many days left and it's only 125 days. Also my doctors office asked me what kind of birth control I was considering for after the baby. I sat there like no I'm gonna be pregnant forever, oh wait no I'm gonna have another baby and bring him home into our chaos. Bless his heart.

Yes this! I was just asked this at my 20 week appointment and DH and I kinda sat there dumbfounded. I'm just trying to get through this pregnancy which seems like it's taking forever, I have barely thought about the labor and delivery let alone birth control. 

I already have birth control figured out but only because this pregnancy has been hard and I'm gonna have 2 under 2. I'm getting an IUD because I suck at taking the pill which is what brought me to where I am today. Lol

Ha! Understandable. I also suck at taking the pill. I was thinking about the IUD as well. My OB said a lot of women choose to have it inserted at their 6 week postpartum appointment and then she added it goes right in most easily for women then. Like that would be a concern of mine after giving birth. I must have looked like an idiot still sitting there with a blank face. DH was definitely no help. 

kristynmac

midwestbaby said:

Lynnlove28 said:

midwestbaby said:

Lynnlove28 said:

My registry has a countdown on it for how many days left and it's only 125 days. Also my doctors office asked me what kind of birth control I was considering for after the baby. I sat there like no I'm gonna be pregnant forever, oh wait no I'm gonna have another baby and bring him home into our chaos. Bless his heart.

Yes this! I was just asked this at my 20 week appointment and DH and I kinda sat there dumbfounded. I'm just trying to get through this pregnancy which seems like it's taking forever, I have barely thought about the labor and delivery let alone birth control. 

I already have birth control figured out but only because this pregnancy has been hard and I'm gonna have 2 under 2. I'm getting an IUD because I suck at taking the pill which is what brought me to where I am today. Lol

Ha! Understandable. I also suck at taking the pill. I was thinking about the IUD as well. My OB said a lot of women choose to have it inserted at their 6 week postpartum appointment and then she added it goes right in most easily for women then. Like that would be a concern of mine after giving birth. I must have looked like an idiot still sitting there with a blank face. DH was definitely no help. 

I had the Mirena IUD placed after my son was born and had it removed and replaced after 5 years (they say it is good for 5-7 years, but my doctor likes to go 5 years at the most). I went in to my doctor the end of September to have the second one removed and a few weeks later I had a period for about a day and a half and got pregnant right after that. Basically 10 years of absolutely no period and then getting pregnant on the first cycle--I will definitely be getting the Mirena again, because I don't have to worry about taking a pill and I kind of loved not having a period. I was also talked to about Styla--its lifetime use is 2-3 years and it costs less than the Mirena so a cheaper option if you are looking for something short-term.

AliKay20

@Lynnlove28 I get it, the other day I told DH I wouldn't mind just carrying our baby in my belly. Safe and sound. My anxiety is getting worse and worse! Ooooo-ssaaahhhhh

charmedlifex3

@alikay20 Definitely had a breakdown the other night about the fact this baby will get hurt - someday. We were talking about how DH periodically mangled himself as a kid... lol.  

bearsandbeets7

@Allisun85 I am a huge worry wart so I am so nervous to have a boy. DD hasn't worried me too much but if this baby is anything like his daddy then I'm in trouble!

charmedlifex3

I'm chalking it up to my in laws ineptitude. It makes me feel better... Also, they were teenagers, and it was the 1970's. Neither of them saw anything wrong with him playing with the lawn mower... as a toddler.

Bookhousegirl

@lgem4 I picked a pediatrician literally a week before giving birth and ended up going into labor 2 days before I was going to meet with them. I don't feel like it's essential to have that lined up already, especially because they are almost always taking new patients. 

ramoseecology

@lgem4  My OB mentioned she'd touch based with me about this at 24 or 28 weeks so I think it's probably a common time to ask.

Katm89

@Lynnlove28 I just asked my midwife about birth control while breasfeeding and what our options were at my last appointment lol. It hit me that morning that we need to think about that. She brough up IUD since I don't like the pill... I'd be curious if anyone likes it.

ballofmeat

Katm89 said:

@Lynnlove28 I just asked my midwife about birth control while breasfeeding and what our options were at my last appointment lol. It hit me that morning that we need to think about that. She brough up IUD since I don't like the pill... I'd be curious if anyone likes it.

Ditto. I'd love more opinions on the IUD.